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(5 brands in 5 seconds, give or take a few seconds)
Funny you should mention him, as I was just thinking about a puzzle he posted inthe GS 3, something about a wagon and a triangle in lower manhattan, and with the warmer weather coming up, I was going to ask if the puzzle is still nogeah.
So, Doc.. are you out there?
” I’m great at spending money! “
You’re also good at flying under the radar. Time was, you’d be posting 55 out of 60 minutes. These days, we barely hear from you.
Whatup? Any promising leads we need to be aware of? Or did I miss the announcment?
2 dates? Goodness, is that all you’re prepared to invest?
How’s this: After date 3, as soon as he pulls up to your house to drop you off, say the following:
“I see things heading in a positive direction, but I’m a bit concerned that I don’t see you as being <whatever trait you want>.
Where are you on this trait? Is it just that I’m missing the cues? Is it that you just never gave it any thought? These are the things that are important to me, so I’d really like to see where you stand on these things. You don’t have to answer on the spot, but I would like to discuss this the next time we see each other”
He may just have never been asked point blank. Guys don’t talk about their “feelings” unless asked, but if you ask, they normally have an answer. Plus, you give him a clear indication that you are serious, and have every intention of seeing him again.
If he’s an adult, he can formulate an answer. Maybe not on the spot, but by date 4, he will either have the answers or know who to get them from.
Bike riding!
Ain oid –
In 1967, I was in diapers.
But I do remember the Gulf War, and how touch-and-go it was.
No, I’m not worried about the long-term, just the fallout and “collateral damage” of the short term.
Y’know what occured to me the other day? The situation in Egypt reminds me of Migdal Bavel.
Lots of people, different agendas, but all speaking the same language. Never a good sign for us when the opposing team is working on the same page. Once they hammer out their differences, they may very well turn their attention to us. Attention we do not need.
Yeah, we need some heavenly intervention real soon.
” and only if a man greets me ill greet back. “
Hmm.. so that would put us at a stalemate, as I have the same policy when it comes to the other gender.
Sorry, that’s the way it goes in Bklyn.
On the other hand, where you to be going for a shabbos walk with your chosson….
The fact that the YWN facebook page has a link to each of the people who “like” the YWN page is troubling.
True, I could go on to Facebook anytime I like, and no one is stopping me, but the idea of contacting the other people, (whose photos are on the page)is not something YWN should be partnering with.
I get into enough trouble on our own, without YWN “helping” me.
600KB –
Gone so long, and still at your 600kg glory? Whoa, the food musta been top rate!
Welcome back, you missed tons of fun.
Always remember, They put up with your shtick too!
That, and even the worst dish can go down with enough ketchup!
just the couple and hashem :)!!
Of course, the Boreh Olam was there, but was He happy?
Thanks Ma, but the word I’m trying to abbreivate is eck-set-tra (that’s the word we use in Bklyn..kinda like woulda,gonna,gotchya, ect)
Sorry, I could’nt resist!
Not a tznius issue; a sechel issue.
How presumptuious of you to ask someone to park your car. What is he.. valet?
well, not usually caustic anyway
“The next time a man says good shabbos in BP to me ur cover will be blown”
In your case, it won’t work, because you have that “out-of-town” aura/personality, that makes everyone say GS to you!
Also consider Tannersville. Its a bit more heimish than Hunter, but only a 20 minutes away, so you can have access to the food / accomodations of Tannersville and the trails of Hunter.
Really a nice gesture, Robert.
Personaly, I think the 2nd offer is the nicer of the 2. Quick suggestion? Offer to watch the nephew in their house. That might be an easier offer for them to take you up on, logisticaly speaking, and peace of mind for mom.
I’d say good shabbos to either gender, if they’re CR members. Otherwise, its same gender only in NY, out of town, I follow my host’s lead.
And yes, we have had this discussion before. But worth having again. seeing as this is a weekly senario
Are they much different than tilapia fillets? Or maybe fish sticks?
Would you like to do something in the week, or just hang out?
” 50’s and 60’s? “
50s maybe, but 60s? those are the ones that eat out the least, as every type of food gives them gas, heartburn, too much salt, too much ect.
And they (when I say they, I mean the men) hate staying out so late, so why can’t we stay home?
50s, Ok I’ll conceed to that. 60 y/o couples are ususaly so busy with simchas, they don’t have a day in the week to go out, even if they wanted to.
I finally made it to Olgas, and for those of you who have not gone yet, I think its worth the trip.
Panninis are their specialty, and the sweet potato fries were top notch.
Place is very nice, floor to ceiling window, ideal for a daytime date. When you’re done eating, you can walk down one block to Court Street and check the shops there (nothing real interesting for me, but Mrs. loves to window shop, and Court St had loads of quirky, trendy stores)
” I probably go out to eat less frequently than you. “
I’d also like to add this; The “people who eat out weekly” many times turns out to be 10 people that ate out 1 each = 10 times, but you “hear” about it within your circle / network so many times, it seems like 100 meals.
Its the “everone is doing / getting / going” phenomenon. Us 40 year olds try to see thru the smoke and mirrors.
Oh, that reminds me… I gotta revive the “Olga’s” thread. See you later!
“how old do you think I am?”
Wild guess? 31.
You sound / speak old enough to be a young adult, but if you know people that eat out weekly, you’re probably in your mid to late 20s
Golden flow is first choice
A nice pen / pencil set. I got a matte black cross set, and use it all the time.
And on the topic of watches, strongly consider getting a nice steel or leather model, as the gold ones rarely get worn.
Not sure what your budget is, but a nice Movado would be a good place to start
” sterilize the bottle “
I would even lift the things out of the boiling water with a (sterilized) knife so I would not get germs on it.
No recollection about what we did with the subsequent kids, but it must have been very similar to what you listed.
FYI – on the “jokes” thread about 2 weeks ago, there was a long list of parenting truisms, many of which I had not seen before.
” That’s (relatively) not that often “
Oh, you youngsters are such a joy!
Here’s how the numbers stack up:
50% of the “eating out” was probably done in the first 5 years
25% over the next 10
the remainder of dates out are still accumulating, but suffice to say, if the total resturant meals from anneversary # 25-50 total the number of trips in the first 5, I’ll be very pleased with my track record.
FYI – Its the same with photos taken of your 1st child vs the total taken of all subsequent children, new linen sets, and all the other “score keeper” things and events.
Doesn’t get less meaningful; it just gets less milage. Ask a senior if you think I’m kidding.
As far as gifts, you can never go wrong with dinner reservations. Where doesnt matter, as long as they have linen tablecloths. Extra points scored if you need to drive more than 30 minutes to get to the place. Don’t ask why, its just the way it is.
After 20+ years, and dozens of meals out, Mrs. BP never tires of the chance to eat out. And she talks about it to her friends many more times than she does about jewelery.
” no cell phone no computer no comunication whatsoever “
Lucky for him, he was able to find minyan in a place that remote!
Uh, Itche and Poppa, are you by chance parents of teen girls? Or are you closer to the age where you’re likley to date a teen girl?
Trust me, there is no such thing as being too careful over July / Aug when it comes to teens. Take it from a former teen, whose been there and done that, and the parent of several teens.
You can never be too careful, especially when it comes to bungalow life.
the only circumstance in which I would safely send a girl to a bungalow colony is one where she will be living with a family member (older sister, aunt, ect)
No one else will watch her the way she needs to be watched. And even in the care of a family member, you’re rolling the dice. allit takes is one “ladies night out” (and there are numerous ones over the course of a summer) or one “quick trip to the city” (and there are several of those too) and the “watchers” are not watching.
Forget all assurances from the head staff, colony owner. Been to the mtns enough years to know that no one really watches the junior staffers. So unless you’re taking about a 20-25 year old, keep the girl in camp, at any and all costs.
Think of it this way; so far, this teen has cost you close to $100,000 in clothing and tuition. You’re gonna risk that over a few hundred dollars in earnings? Or a few thousand in camp savings?
Not worth the risk in my book. I pay dearly to protect my kids over the summer, and would only advise the same to another parent.
Dear worried parent –
There is no need to “worry about what is happening to our school” as the new board will make a fresh start and turn things.
Will there be painful fallout? Sure. Will EVERYONE need to leave? No. But if people insist on doing things “the way we used to” the place is doomed.
Its just like a business; if you refuse to adapt to the new way of doing things, your competetion will eat you for lunch.
That’s why Lakewood is the new Brooklyn and BPis the new Willamsberg.
As far as “the names on the bldg” the $ they gave was to benefit “the klal” not just to service their own brand.
In a much, much smaller scale I give $ support to the BP infrastucture, even though “its not my brand” I’m supporting. But I do live here, so I need to be a good neighbor. With time, I may need to adjust the direction of the $ flow, but for the moment, I’m here, I’ve benefited greatly from being here, so I’m carrying my share of the burden.
The “names on the bldg” most likely feel the same way. At a point, BYOBP was dear to their hearts. Now things are different, and their involvement has changed as well.
They’re not asking for a refund, and are most likley quite happy to see someone else (or several someones) step up to the front line.
” every day I wonder what Im doing in BP. “
OfCourse –
I don’t know your particular circumstances, but in my case, I am still here because despite all the drawbacks and compromises and changes I and my family needed to make, it was done because there were enough reasons to stay.
Still, there’s a greater than 98% chance that we’ll be in Lakwood before the decade is over (unless Yerusholayim is 1st) and the big bldg on 14th ave? May still have the BY name on it, but managament, staff and students will be a whole ‘nother story.
Funny thing is, the bldg on 15th ave is already occupied by one of the chassidishe powerhouses as a weekend rental, so they are closer to takeover than many realize.
And for those who forgot history, Williamsburg (yes, that williamsburg) was at one point non-chassidish.
The demographics changed and the shift in power was not far behind.
And as far as “consulting the gedolim” most likely the new board did. They just consulted different gedolim than you and I consult.
Either way, its their wallet, so they get to speak loudest.
” how long will Boro Park need a Bais Yaakov thats that big? “
Excellent point. What will likley happen is the strong arm of chassidus will step up to the plate, shower the place with fresh $ and fresh ideas, and the school wil go forward.
The “existing” BYOB girls (and staff) will either conform to the “new” rules of the game, or move on.
I should know. I was faced with the same choice, and chose to play be the new rules of the BP game. Those of us who would not, moved on.
Don’t have to like it.. you just have to accept it.
$ and clout talks, and all else walks.
” I am TOTALLY into the respect thing.Always was.”
Thanks.. but yours was not the attention I was trying to grab.
From the list of posters, it looks like none of the youngsters are reading this thread anyways. Except for maybe Poppa, who I seem to recall as being in his 20s or 30s.
Maybe if the thread were named “Generation gap” or something like that, we’d get the kiddies to stop by.
Oh well, if they miss out, its their loss.
I’m in the “rant” mood, so please forgive me for not playing the game as it was intended:
Are you from my dor?
If you are appalled by the chutzpa with which some of the younger members speak / post, you are from my dor!
If you happen to be 20+ years younger than me, you might not be “from my dor” but you did learn a thing or three from my dor about the proper way to speak about parents.
Last week, someone really tipped the scale, and the most ironic part is, that even when the error was pointed out (in my oh-so subtle sarcastic way that I’m most proud of) it went clear over the person’s head (or, in one ear and right out the other, which is almost as sad.)
There, I’m done.
hashem def taught me a lesson…
Wonderful. NOW GO APOLOGIZE TO YOUR PARENTS FOR THE WAY YOU SPOKE ABOUT THEM!
‘rents” indeed.
“My situation is, I believe, more typical. Take a poll, ask guys who are working at real jobs (not 9-5). I just don’t buy it. “
Maybe so. But it sets a lousy example for the kids. Think I don’t miss sleeping in till 10:00 on Sundays? But if my kids got to wake up at 7:00 to get to school, I’m up too.
Now minyan is part of their day. Know why? Because they saw it as part of my day.
Of course, this may not be the majority. But then again, Jews are not the majority. But we are unique, and have unique attributes.
Minyan is one of them. Its not a chore; its a privilege
“there are halachos as per when and how far one must go to daven with a minyan.”
While I live in BP (where minyan in never a problem), when I choose a vacation destination, minyan is part of the plans. Even if halacha would allow otherwise.
Even when I travel for business, minyan is part of the plan. Of course, things happen, but when it does, its an accident, not willfull. Kinda like skipping a meal. Not something I set out to do from the get-go.
If its a priority, you can make it work.
Bocher 24 –
From the OP, it sounded like this was early in the game.
Some of your posts from yesterday have been removed, so I won’t requote them. BUT…
For anyone else reading this, I STAND BY WHAT I SAID EARLIER.
Texting between genders,( unless really well along in the dating process) is off the charts in my book (and from the bulk of the other comments, I seem to have company )
*hides*
huh?
No girl would willingly hand out her cell phone number. He either got it from the shadchan (which is wrong of the shadchan) or she was so freaked out by the request, that she just slipped.
Either way, a bad move on his part. His rov / rosh yeshiva would have his head, if this were found out.
A bochur texting a girl? Not in my world.
“outdoor malls”
Like Woodbury commons? Puh-leeze.
If I’m going to exit 16, its to the back end of Harriman State Park, or the brothers in Monroe.
If I’m able to get away for 8 hours, I’m doing Shunnemunk Mtn, just northeast of KJ.
Outdoor malls. Yeah, right.
Are you an able to work, but choose not to? Then you should be ashamed of yourself. You are taking $ from my pocket without asking
Are you without a job because your industry fell out from under you, and the replacment job you have is not enough to cover your expensese? Or did an illness / family situation sneak up without warning? A humane society takes care of its less fortunate, and I’m glad my taxes are helping you. When you get back on your feet, you’ll be putting $ back into the pool to help the next in line
Texting? Way outta line. He should be calling your house, and no where else. Unless the two of you are in your very late 20s – early 30s, this is a huge no-no.
Otherwise, drop him, and tell the shadchan why. And don’t feel obligated to “give him a chance”. His parents did a rotten job of prepping him for the dating scene.
On the topic of vibes, someone (either you, your parent, a married sibling) should ask to see this person before doing any checking whatsoever. On paper, everyone looks amazing.
Get a visual, then do your homework.
But texting? This guy needs to be read the riot act.
You making that up? I was only guessing. If you’re serious, what does THAT say about my ear for music?!
Ask to see them in person, like at a chasseneh, or vort. That will tell you if its your idea of amazing.
Dozens.
But what is your 14 y/o like?
Gender?
Yeshivish?
Modern yeshivish?
Chassidish?
Carlebachian?
Sandals / big kippa / backpack settler type?
The single biggest factor should be, where are the friends going. Launching into a new place without knowing someone is a real plunge. Teens can be realy click-y, and don’t underestimate this.
I’m not in the market for a spouse, so this is strictly preference, not a prospectus:
Aside from all the standard stuff (erlichkiet, looking presentable, no criminal record, ect) the only thing I would insist on is a love of the outdoors.
She can go to the mall with her sister, her friends, her mother, her daughter / DIL, but with me, its gotta be outdoors.
Lucky for me, Mrs. is a fan