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I come from a long line of “cart” haulers, Goq, so everything I said was in jest. Kind of like the way Galitzianers make fun of being frugal.
Doing something on your own power?
Nothing to be embarrassed about. Aderabbah, something to be proud about.
I was going to make this comment on your other thread, but since you asked for a comment:
R’ Ovadia Yosef may be many things to many people, but I hardly think the term “rocks” is a proper derech eretz.
Ask anyone in Ateret.
That’s why I think the SN was hijacked (or there are 2 users, on the same acct)
Maybe so, but what of the coolness factor? I mean, Goq, for heaven’s sake… you’re a CR member.
If anything, get a utility cart (with inflatable wheels) in John Deere green.
A Bubby cart?! What is the CR coming to?
With your spelling (or lack thereof) HIE, I’d reconsider your choice of yeshivas. If the shoe fits…
Y’know ZK, for some time now, I’ve been suspecting that your screen name was hijacked by someone who is not in the “under 25” slot.
I think I may be right in my hunch
” new users into a freezer for 3 months “
I’ll gladly come back as a “new user” if promised full support once the 90 days are up.
” Bump of the day. “
Always a pleasure to see old threads revived, GOQ. But its still not July / August, so for the moment, my answer is no, not usually.
(but it is almost time to revive the bike riding threads!)
“<– huhwhat?”
Sorry, I meant to say, “like headphones” (meaning, if you eat from the crust end, and just keep eating towards the point, by the time you are half way thru, the left and right corners will keep advancing towards the back of your head, and before you know it, the edges are pracitally in your ears).
All of a sudden, a fork and knife sound like a good idea.
bp27 and yitayningwut –
OK, noted (and I apologize, for shooting 1st, asking questions later).
But you cannot deny the general tone that many bochurim have (I could have gone further, had I not been “distracted” by my family responsibilities” ect)
Fact is, your job (at the age of 20-something) is to be a family man. So please don’t bemoan your lost opportunity. You did not “lose” anything.. you are doing what you are meant to do!
There is a vort said on Pirke Avos, 2:5 <sorry, don’t remember who said it> ” When I have time, I will learn”.
A yungerman was upset that he does not have the time to focus on learning like he used to in his single days. The reply he got was, “perhaps your avodah is to be a “loh tiponeh” person (someone who is always on the go), and despite your tough scedule, you still squeeze in as much learning as you can.
But again, sorry. I should not have jumped.
“men are willing to tolerate more pain and suffering than women are”
Hardly. I think its because they truly think they are doing a terrific job, and are shocked (shocked!) when the wife has finally had her fill.
” Do you eat it backward afterward? 😛 “
No, once the crust is gone, I just plow thru the remainder. But I do try to keep it triangular; otherwise, I wind up with a pizza that wraps around my head line headphones)
(crust first).
I do that. Ok, not really, but sort of. The 1st bite is the tip (minhag avosainu) but then I rip off the crust and eat that, while the rest of the slice cools off, so the cheese does not come off in one long pull.
Plus, the crust is my least favorite part, so best to get that done with early on and then wash it down with the good part
Ditto to what M in Israel and Zahavasdad said. There are better ways to make money (but few easier ways to lose money!)
“Case closed.”
Oh really? And the past 4.75 years have been what? A total write-off? A waste of a good mind?
Good thing your wife / father-in-law are too busy working to read the CR. Otherwise, they’d feel like the fool you make them out to be.
Shame on you for saying such a thing
“BMG and a hospital”
very funny!
“walking around with a barf bag”
Oh, SG, do you say it like it is. A friend of mine had the banding, and vomiting is a (sad) new fact of life.
Please, people. Anyone considering a band, don’t ask them what their experince has been. Ask their FRIENDS, and you will see that it is really not the soloution it seems like it is.
Portion control (I won’t use the “D” word) and exercise can solve almost every weight problem.
Most definitely. The proper way to eat things like that, is to gnaw it right off the plate. That way, you can lick the plate clean, as you go.
Next question?
As a rule, I try not to look at mirrors. Seeing what I really look like (as opposed to what I THINK I look like) has a tendency to depress me.
In my mind’s eye, I’m this super-agressive, highly accomplished, cool-dude Flatbush Dad.
In reality, I’m an easily manipulated, unremarkable, middle-aged BP totty.
Lower case t, to boot :/
“the witch can be a little scary”
A LITTLE scary? To this day, I can picture the WWW leaning into Dorothy’s face and saying “I’ll get you, my pretty!”
Very scary!
” talk about me and then it gets back to me “
” get my kids into school..they want u to be in kollel ”
Let me guess, CS. You went to the supermarket with a baseball cap over your shaitel, and the ‘nabes had a fit.
Welcome to Lakewood!
So, at this point, you have 2 choices:
* Learn to blend in (think snoods that cover your ears, and flaired skirts)
* Move back to Brooklyn
Choice is yours, but I know where I’d pick
” the cr really isnt the same as it use to be.”
I’ll do it for free…if your husband is willing to roll up his sleeves and work shoulder to shoulder with me.
It’ll be a learning experience for both of us 🙂
Among the shteeble’s all time favorite pastimes:
No one remembers if we say / dont say tachnun on a questionable day, but EVERYone remembers that we argue about it.
(providing tikkun and lech goes a long way to obtain a “no” outcome)
“we are gonna have a nanny”
Again, oh. Now, consider the impact of what this entails:
You are going to have a strange woman (most likely, a non-tribe member) make herself at home, 24/7, who will read the kiddies a bedtime story, hold their hand when the have a fever, wave goodbye to them as the bus pull away.
And from time to time, you’ll attend a school play, go to PTA, and kvel when the kids do something to make you proud.
But will the kids feel that way towards you? Or to Marisa?
Not to mention the impact Marisa will have on the general aura of the house.
Like I said, CS. There’s a lot at stake. Choose wisely.
There is much more to this decision than meets the eye. You need to consider several things (your level of frumkeit, level of affluence, ect)
I am very happy in my place, where others would be most unconfortable. OTOH, I know sevral people in another place, who are very happy there, but my family would be very out of place.
Most important factor: where are your wife’s friends going. She will likely be on ground much more than you will, so her needs should outweigh all others. Few things are worse than an unhappy wife in the mountains. With her week shot, your weekend holds little promise in store.
If she is happy, you will enjoy your summer, and the folloing winter months as an added bonus.
“When were you on the rich side of the spectrum”
It varies by day. Sometimes I feel like Warren Buffet (more $$ than I can spend)
Other days, (like when the summer camp bill arrives) not so optimistic.
Today, BH, is a good day!
“i dont do bathrooms”
Oh. Here’s a 411 for ‘ya: Diapers are no picnic either. So I’d say you’re are in for a rather rude awakening, once the honeymoon is over.
But that’s ok. Young people should live in la-la land, thinking that all the unpleasant things about married life are just us old times exaggerating.
Enjoy the bliss, CS!
Marry rich.
Ok, serious. Take it from someone that has spent time on both ends of the wealth spectrum. Being truly rich is not as much fun as people think. Lots of stress, lots of angst.
Being poor is no fun either, but at least you really know where you stand with your life
“i wasnt looking to socialize im looking for cleaning help ASAP!!! “
Uh, correct me if I’m wrong, but did’nt you just get married about a year ago? And you’re in crisis mode already?
If you are this strung out now, just wait till you have a brood of young’uns tugging at your housecoat, pots on the stove boiling over, child 1 and 3 with noses that need attention, and PTA in 30 minutes.
But I am glad to see that you found a nail salon that you’re happy with 😀
” translation please? “
Gladly (but its gonna irritate Ms. Shapiro)
The Steipler was once approached by a husband who said, ” I come home, the house is a wreck, the place is in turmoil, my wife is not in control of the situation! What should I do?”
The Steipler’s answer: ” Get a broom!” (Don’t just stand there.. get involved and do something constructive. Its your house too, and you share the responsibility to make sure it runs smooth)
Leah had her 7th but chose to go with Dina instead of Batshevah. Why not follow her lead?
Consider taking the Steipler’s advice:
Nempt ah bezim!
” The boys …being brought up beautifully. “
Bnei Torah, with a love for learning? For sure.
Ready to face the rigors of running a family? And earning a living? And are on par with the girls of the same age range?
Not so sure.
Still, if I am mistaken, please, by all means, point me in the right direction. I have several friends who are desparately seeking just such boys for their highly accomplished daughters.
So far, all I see are empty suits. And come Pesach, we wil be getting back several plane-loads more of under-qualified boys. Each seeking the best “deal” that momma / poppa were able to secure for them.
And the girls? Each one, more prepared than the next. Goal oriented, and a clear vision of how to get there. Oh, and on top of that, they ALSO have a deep love for Torah.
So, Gabi, unless you are taking about a community other than the BMG (and its feeders) that I’m talking about, I truly to not see how you can say what you do with a straight face.
When do tickets go on sale? Or is it free? Or will my Siyum Shas ticket reciept be needed to gain entry?
And If I attend this event, do I still need to go to the syium?
Come to BP. We have dozens of shuls that are without a “rebbe” at the helm. All (most?) have a leaning of sorts in one direction or another (EX: Emunas Yisroel, Menashe Klein)
No one rebbe in particular, but “chassdish” in every other sense of the word.
Let me guess, Postal.. you’re not from BP, are you?
“begin the dating process “
“evidenced by the very large percentage of them who get married”
“Your generalization that they are unable to make a commitment”
Semantics and hair splitting. You know full well what I meant. Our boys are a shameful bunch, when compared to their girl peers. And we as parents are as guilty as is the BMG managment of this travesty.
And as far as me going on the offensive and taking BMG boys to task, I speak from within the glass house, and am ready to throw the 1st stone.
The system (one which I am a guilty party to) is a rotten one, and I would change it in a minute if I could
“draw false conclusions from made-up facts.”
The only fact I was provided is the fact that a 21 y/o woman cannot get a commitment from her male counterpart in the dating process.
Obviously, I do not know the opening poster in the real world nor do I know the person she is dating.
But, if she is like the 100s of other 21 year old women in today’s shidduch scene, and he is like the truckloads of boys on the shidduch scene, she is head and shoulders above him, in both maturity and accomplishment.
So if she wants to get engaged, (and the commitment is not forthcoming from the boy) she has 2 choices:
A) Wait for someone to ask
B) Have her ask
Sounds weird, but the shidduch scene today is somewhat weird to begin with
” Are you on the right thread? “
I think so, Daas. I see the problem as boys (can’t call them men, can you) being too intimidated to commit (hence the resistance to give a yes).
So considering the sorry state we currently find ourselves in, its up to the woman to ask. She earns, so she leads.
When best BMG boy grows up a bit, he can take the lead
Oh, I though this was a thread about a carrot. Sorry.
I’ll weigh in with a joke:
Shmerel: “Hey, Chaim Yankel, word in the shteeble is, you were seen talking to your wife in the grocery store. Have you lost your mind?”
Chaim Yankel: “What! That’s not true! It was not my wife! Waddya think, I lost my mind?”
Essentially, there is no difference.
In BP, people will pass you by without saying hello.
In Flatbush, there is no one on the street, so no one will be saying hello.
Welcome to the ‘nabe!
I’m ashamed to say this, becuase its a real sad note, as to where we have fallen to, but under the circumstances, maybe this would work:
Instead of waiting for him to ask you, ask HIM. Think about it: he is deathly afraid of the responsibility getting married entails, and while he will most likely be ok once he grows up (say, 2-3 years after the wedding), right now, he’s just a child.
If he has the potential to be someone, take the initiative, and ask him to marry you.
Whats the worst that can happen…He’ll say no? You’re heading for a no in any case.
And he might just say yes!
so will the real Lois Lane please step forward?
With just a few details changed, your story is a mirror image of what is going on in our house right now.
Are kids are growing up, we need to start giving them some independence, but at the same time, we, as parents are terrified of letting go. Its a real challenge, and unfortunatly, the kids are caught in the middle of this tug-o-war.
If nothing else, consider this: your mother is not holding on to you because she wants to hold you hostage. She is holding on to you becuase she values you and wants to protect you. And despite what your mother says, deep down, she wants to see you grow up to be independant.
That said, you do need to move on. Don’t burn the bridge, but don’t stay anchored in past.
I read a nice quote that sums it up: parents need to give thier kids roots and wings. Once the roots are fully developed, its time to start flying.
At 21, you are cleared for take off. (Just remmeber where your airline’s hub is)
“muslims prey more”
Very funny!
“bec he wont be able to see thru the mechitza”
Not to worry. When the call comes thru on the EzNu radios (which will be followed by every BP / Willy hocker on their scanners) all expectant father will go running, fully convinced its their wife in labor.
“a question that was not a relationship question”
Whaat! This sure is a relationship question. How do you know I won’t be that panic stricken father, way out in the land of $18 seats, while a drama of epic proprotions is playing out behind the $250k mechitza?
Besides, a good therapist can take anything (no matter how off topic) and make it relevant (and billable).
Oh that’s right; the pre-Purim sessions are free.
Sorry, Fief. My bad.