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If you’re 90% sure it work, you might want to quesion if dating is for you altogether. Or really want to question the vibes you’re sending, if you’re set up with someone you think, in your opinion, is that off the mark in terms of what you want (or say you want).
Last possiblibly, he is for you, you just don’t know it.
Goodness, is this what the dating scene looks like today? 1 day with a person, and you can already come to a 90% conclusion?
Boy, am I glad I’m not in the pool.
I’m not surprised.
Nothing screams YESHIVISH as loud as a 80’s station wagon (extra points, if you can get one with the wood paneling!)
Are you and your Rov Orthodox? Then yes. I might ask that you serve either meat, pareve or cholov yisroel, but your dishes are a go.
Pesach is a different story, but year round, absolutely.
Huh? What do you mean “going against the opinion of both parents”.. I thought your father is OK with the eruv?
Regardless, what is SO important that you need to carry, if you run the risk of upsetting your mother? (Unless you’re married, and in that case, its your husbands call.)
Ok, I wont.
That’s a reason to leave? On the contrary, that;s a reason to roll up your sleeves (not past the elbow, mind you) and come up with another plan of attack to get your point across.
If I jumped ship every time the Mods gave me the dreaded EDIT, I’d have been gone long ago.
C’mon, kapusta.. slipping past the mods is half the fun!
Try smearing yourself with honey, stuff a salmon in your pocket, and head out to bear country.
Then, get set for the maul experience you’ll be telling your friends about for years to come!
You might not see instant results, but if nothing else, at least you had a meaningful conversation with Hashem.
Still, no harm in asking. You just might be plesantly surprised!
Nu, so do you? (if so, please specify if its the BP or Flatbush eruv)
What’s the shailah, brother?
Shma beni, mussar avicha,
V’al titosh toras emecha.
Is poppa saying its a MUST to carry? Or is he just giving you the green light to do so if you want to?
Is momma saying you CANT? Or just that she feels uncomfortable doing so?
Once you know the answer to this, the solution should be clear as day
If possible, I try to guide guests to seats that are readily (and willingly) amde availabvle to newcomers, and that the only person in the room that has a mokom kavua (which is non-negotiable) is the Rabbi.
The other idiots that will ask you to move from their seat (and we have a few), are not members of our shul…. they are members of Anshei Middas Sidom, and just pop in here once in a while.
But you’re best off not sitting in their seat anyways. What they have might be contageous, so play it safe and sit elsewhere)
happiest –
Keep it simple:
Need it?
Get it.
Want it?
If you can afford it, get it!
You NEED presentable clothing; you should get it.
You may WANT Prada shoes, but surely don’t need them, so if you have the $, knock yourself out. If its putting you in debt, move on.
I don’t know how I missed all this, as I was outside (in both BP and Flatbush) from noon till past mindight, and did not see any of this. Boys were rowdy, but very respectful of girls / women. I know of one house party that had a mixed crowd, but that’s the norm for that house, so its unfair to blame Purim for that.
One the whole, I saw very few true drunken boys (did not see ONE drunk girl)
I think they have a filter set to alert them when something really outta line gets posted, (say, a comment about nail polish?)squash that, and everything esle go thru.
But until they get that one firecracker, they’re just chillin’
Philly, Kansas, whatever.
Once you cross to 11219, the rules are different.
(Honk, honk!)
You’re kidding, right? Honking is the National Anthem of BP.
Can’t stand the noise? Move back to Kansas, Dorothy (or Flatbush, which is pretty much the same thing as Kansas)
” Who wants in on my brackets? “
Oh, sure. Bring in a ringer, and blindside the competition.
Oh well, all’s fair in Love and War.
Let the games begin!
Micro, the NCAA used to be the March Madness.
Its since been replaced with the newly returning Sem / EY crop, hitting the town and entering the greatest contest of all.
The thrills, the chills, the skills….
That’t the REAL March Madness!
Auto mechanic is a really good field. You can train for that in under a year, and jobs are everywhere
Very simple difference:
CR is where I go to for fun and games (and sometimes, things that require thought)
The waste basket is where I toss threads that are critical of the CR.
Guess where this one is headed?
Reservations. Or take-out.
(sorry, someone had to say it!)
Award for Best Answer (so far) goes to S2021
I was ready to post a comment, but erased it.
This is too tought a question, and I don’t even think halacha would allow for it.
Good question, don’t have a good answer.
m in Israel –
Yes, I did see the “working part time” note.
So? What does he want.. a medal? That’s what he SHOULD be doing, and he should be doing it full time. But, if this is his attitude towards avodas ha’boreh, chances are his “work in the afternoon” is somewhat lack-luster as well.
Learning after the wedding is not a right; its a privilege you need to earn. Daily. And by loafing on the couch, while Mrs. goes to work, all you show it your contempt for her, and lack of appreciation for the hard work she does.
“Do you want to tell me that your wife has done that?”
Bli neder, this is the last post I’m making on this thread.
Has she nursed on a plane? No, we travelled with bottles.
Has she nursed in a public bathroom? Yes, the Plaza Hotel, across from Central Park.
Has she ever nursed in public view? Never.
Ok, on to the next topic, shall we?
Reaching out for advice, but in the end, will most likely continue to hold up her end of the smoke screen, letting the public think her husband is shteiging away, instead of facing the fact that some boys are simply happier working (gasp!)
And since she may have single sisters / brothers who are still on the full time learner track, there can be no dissent from the her. Her parents will see to that.
Family pressure is no joke. Take it from someone who dared buck the trend; you make lots of waves, and all everyone wants you to do is “just stop making trouble for the rest of us”
That is, unless you’ve got the moxie to stand up to the crowd. Which is a tought battle. Will she take a stand? I sure hope so.
” I hope you’re talking about the older model”
Not sure of the year, as I bought it from Craigslist 2 years ago.
I’ve put on 100s of miles, with only 1 brake pad change (its got the disc brakes).
What sort of problems did you have / think I’d have in the city?
As much as I like to convince myself otherwise, no one gives a hoot as to who I really am.
” can you please give an example of what alternatives there are on the plane? “
As much as I really don’t want to pursue this, as it really just boils down to an opinion, I’m still standing by the restroom venue.
Airplane restrooms are cleaner than some kitchens. And as far as the wait, waiting on line for the restroom is a given. You’re just as entitled to your time slot as the next person.
Now, in anticipation of the next question, “what should I do with / who should watch the other 2-3-4 kids I’m travelling with, while I’m in the restroom feeding infant” with multiple kids, bottles are a pretty sure thing, as childcare is most likely a given.
Is it easier to just feed in your seat? Of course. But consider your neighbor. Look at it this way; what if a 21 y/o bochur, flying off for his year in EY is your seatmate. Imagine the many shades of purple he will turn while the feeding is going on (covered and all). Now imagine this is YOUR SON, sitting next to some tourist, who does not make the effort to cover up the same way a yiddishe mamma does. Still feel its “the mother’s right” to feed her infant in public? I didn’t think so. That’s why we need to set an example of tznius, even when “we can do so without a technical problem”
Like I said, there are options. If you want to take them.
“when we ran short, we got from my brother-in-law, who had overbought”
Because, every family (my own included) has one such individual, that is always (over)prepared.
The trick is not to be the one.. just know who is.
$18.50 is a steal (I’ve heard of $22/lb)
As far as how much, what we buy is 2 lbs per person. The usage plummets after day 1 and 2, and if you are lucky enough to run out, you can always buy more on Chol Hamoed (or get from your brother-in-law, who overbought by 12 lbs.. just in case)
Sorry, Avram. I’m outta this one.
Moms, (and those who wish to defend them)… take it away.
” From what? Yeshiva??? “
No, a day with the chevrah is fun and games.
Let me say it this way; from time to time, I get a “legal holiday” off from work, but Mrs, does not.
THAT, is what I call a day off!
I don’t remember the penny part, but do remember my mother assuring me she would wait by the bus stop until I got back at 2:00 (and I fully believed her).
Still do!
Did not read the article, but can only draw one conclusion: She should give him an ultimatum:
Get on a carear path, or go back to mommy.
What will really happen? She will probably just continue to allow him to keep the facade, because she no doubt has siblings to consider.
Sorry to sound heartless, but its the life she / her parents chose.
I’m torn between 2 bikes:
Fuji Thrill – I swapped the knobby tires for slicks. The front shocks / geometry of the frame cost me a little speed, but handles the city pavement much better
Really old 21 speed – At this point, I’ve changed / upgraded so many parts (new rims, tires, cranks, brakes, cassette, seat handlebar) its hard to say what brand this is. Its really quick, but not kind on bumps.
Still, if I had to choose a new one, but only one, it would be the Specialized Sirrus.
Not my own , ICOT. I spotted it on a t-shirt, and the graphics made the Spoke part really obvious.
Glad you picked up on it from text alone
Give him a day off.
Shovels, rope / duct tape.
Y’know.. things I need to get the job done.
(no, not THAT kind of job.. I’m a landscaper!)
Like I said, this is clearly a mother thing, so I’ll just take a step back and let you have it your way.
But consider this: were a male to act in the manner you describe, fully covered by a partition / blanket / ect, he would be removed from the plane in handcuffs. And rightfully so.
Some things, regardless of how “right and within your rights” are still very much not ok to do. And yes, I / my wife travelled a great deal with infants. And yes, she nursed (but used a bottle as well. And never once did the nursing in public become an issue. There are always altenatives, if you feel like seeking them out.
(Note, I changed my call out from “this is a woman thing” to this is a mother thing, as from the feedback, it seems that most single women see this as out of bounds too)
OK, SJS, I guess this must be a woman thing that men cannot understand.
But I will say this. There have been times that I am on the train and someone sits down next to me in attire that is, um, shal we say, not becoming of a lady, and since it is a free counrty, and she has the right to do and wear what she pleases, I simply get up and move elsewhere.
Don’t see how I could do that on a plane. (short of a parachute)