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“I have one already”
I know you mentioned your brother, but did not know in what way he was special.
Besides, my parking permits are only valid in Coffeetown 🙁
“And yet again we see why good grammar is important.”
While good grammar IS important, I knew what Funny1 meant, and when Adore made her post, I knew how she mis-read it.
Since I got burned a few weeks ago for jumping to conclusions, I did a public service and pointed out to all concerned what the intended post was to really read.
For 100 ppl, I would go with Yeshiva Chaim Berlin Elementary, on I and East 13 (?).
The food is good, the caterer is a pleasure to work with, and they have a school yard where you can set up a chuppa with seating.
Figure about $65-$75 per couple (depending on what you want to serve) so you’re looking at around $3000-4000.
All told, by the time your’re done with the add-ons (like a band) and it will run you about $7000-9000.
Not a bad deal for something that lasts a lifetime!
I’d post a 2×4, (with rusty nails)
Adore –
If I win, you get a parking permit. (but the lights and sirens are on your budget)
Logo on the talis? No problem.
The silky, satin ones that are worn like a scarf? Uh, Houston…
But on the topic of yarmulkas, I did see one that I liked. It was a big capital letter, but done in a Varsity font. Very cool.
Problem is, the kids will no doubt want an initial (like Y for NY Yankees) that does not match his own inital (like Z for Zelig)
Adore –
Re-read the post. What he said is No (comma), (I’M) planning on it either way.
Hotdogs, ect –
Mod-80, Just so you know, when I’m crashing a wedding, I head straight for the kiddie table, so I can stuff myself on chicken fingers and onion rings.
” I would rather have a small piece of the real thing “
Ah, MG, the elusive small piece. The one I am looking for, as I finish off half a 9″ cheesecake.
Speaking for myself, I’m safer having a fridge full of healthy stuff, so overeating is not a choice.
I like to think of it as Pas B’salo in reverse 🙂
Oh, you don’t need to acutally “sting”. You can just hover, making that hair-raising buzz that gets us running!
Hey? Are you from the mid-West / West coast?
How many people do you expect to have at the wedding? That will help you determine which hall is on your short list. Some have mininmums of 225 couples, others have it capped at 50 cpls.
From there, we can talk about the trimmings (band, booze, pics, ect)
MRA / Stamper –
You have a point, and technicaly you are right. But that is no reason to flaunt your possessions.
What galls us non-stampers is the attitude of entitlement we so often see and hear from the folks on the take.
“We could be looking at it from the wrong perspective”
Happiest – there is no question; in some cases, outside help is a fact of life, and as a society, we have an obligation to help the people who truly need the help.
But unfortunatly, there are those who take advantage of society’s kindness. How to tell which one is ahead you at the register? Here’s a simple test:
If the shopping cart is filled things like vegetables, fruit, bread, milk, eggs, chicken, ect then the person is doing what they need to do to feed their family. And that is just what food stamps are intended to do.
If the cart is filled with things like dips, smoked fish, nosh, pre-mixed chocolate milk (because its SOO much better than the one you make on your own), then you are looking at a person who is only thinking of themselves.
Sorry, the Mods don’t cut me much slack on that one, and I’m not in the mood of getting EDITED today.
So, Queen Bee… are you new to the club, or have you been following the mayhem from the sidelines?
Oh, and if coffee is not your thing, you might consider the cocoa room (but only if you leave your stinger at the door)
” has anyone ever seen the busha that I am talking about “
I live in what might be called the “Food Stamps Capitol” of the jewish world, and not once, did I ever see someone feel uncomfortable using the card. In fact, they sneer and folks like me for being “dumb” enought to pay for things with real money.
Maybe I’m shopping in the wrong stores, but when you whip out the EBT card and pass it to the cashier with a hand sparkling with a 1.5 carat stone, (set in platinum, of course), its really hard to see the busha.
I can see your point when it comes to tomche shabbos packages. That’s a real tough choice, and the kids on the block can be a real source of pain. But to buy nosh and convenience foods? No, that’s not busha. That’s contempt.
Are there poor people out there? Of course there are. I know several of them.
Are there people who are milking the system? You bet. Those are the ones that make the cashier at Walmart say the things they say about us.
If your date won’t go out in the rain, you might be getting a fair weather friend (bad pun, but I could’nt help it 🙂
Tell her to wear clothing that approriate for the rain, or to go to suggest an indoor mall. In Bklyn, Kings Plaza has an indoor parking lot, so its weather proof. (while they are there, they can sign up for all the bridal registries!)
One easy switch you can make is oil for margarine. It may not make the icing or cream, but in the batter, oil will be just fine.
“Orthodox English”
Why settle for just Orthodox? Can’t you make the commitment for Ultra Ortho? And once you’ve aced that, you can strive for Toldos / Meah Shearim English!
(sorry, that was a carry over from the oxymoron thread)
See, and I thought this was something else entirely.
Gender test:
* Are you planning to work after the wedding?
You are a male.
* Are you planning to have your wife raise your kids?
You are a male.
* Are you expecting her to be a working mom, instead of you?
You are a <fill in the blank>
Women need not take the test to determine their gender. They have alread taken (and passed) the test.
“Its for kool aid”
Ha! I get the joke.
Any one else?
No, you are not imagining things. When you overhear people talk in a foreign language, 9 out of 10 times, what they are saying is, things like, “hey lets talk our native tongue, so the host country people think we’re talking about them.
So, yes, they are talking about you, but they are not talking anything meaningful.
(Oi, hust du ge’hert a zoliche narishkeit? Der R’ Yossel is a zah nervaizeh mentch!)
In defense of HG, many posters take the time to use capital letters, punctuation marks and spellcheck so their posts are easy to read.
But many do not. So while HGs point of apostrophies might be a bit overkill, if its not called out, next thing you know, you’ve got posters writing things like “cuz” when they mean to say because(instead of the more correct ’cause).
Keep ’em comin’, HG!
So, shreck.. did you go upstate in the end?
“the girl is coming with her family for a local wedding,”
R’ Gershon –
Thank you for taking the time to make this clarification. Please understand, while my tone may sound like I’m beating on you and your generation, who I’m really taking to task is MY generation for not demanding a more balanced playing field.
Not to worry though. What my gen could not teach you as far as how to treat a woman, your wife surely will 🙂
Wow, KD. All that for just posting something I read? I guess you never can underestimate the impact a kind word or supportive thought can have on someone.
OK, here’s the latest installment:
(Based on Positive Word Power, day 50, Mesorah Publications)
But what about the inevitable dark, hurtful words that come your way? Words that seek to undermine the accomplishments that you have achieved? What to do with these, so it does not ruin your beautiful, cheerful garment?
My wife cannot tell the brand, but can surely tell quality and fit.
There have been times where I could not even tell if its a shaitel or real hair (and the mistake went both ways).
But I could tell you make and model of a car with probably 98% accuracy
“you obviously were asking a rhetoric question if he was a full time learner”
Not really. He could be a 28 year old, who is looking to bolster (justify?) his case for continued support, while wife is doing his job.
But more than likely, he is stuck in the system, either as a parent of a boy who needs placement, or the parent of a girl who is facing a long term payout (and seeing his daugher look forward to a long working carrear, while son-in-law laughs it up with his buddies).
Regardless, the system is in serious need of a tune up.
I have.
Its a little run down, but you can see that at one point (maybe 15 years ago)it was a really nice place.
Crowd can be a real mixed bag. Shabbos Nachmu will probably get a huge singles / moshav band / carelbach kind of mix. I think 8th day is in concert this motzio shabbos, so it should be a nice scene.
Did you consider Raleigh? Its a bit more fancy (think: BP shmaltzy) and gets a more chassidisheh crowd.
Food at either place is standard kosher catering food. (Micheal Schick, its not)
This attitude of “boy superiority” is insulting. It may seem that way, because of all the noise, but not all boys are worth the trip.
I would never let my sons do such a thing. And they go to the “right” yeshivas, will be BMG certified, but will know how to behave like the men they are.
Shame on us as a community for allowing this to happen.
I saw the flyer, and think its a great idea. I “disconnected” yesterday, and while tempted to check in, I was very proud of myself that I was able to withstand the draw.
I’m not a Crackberry addict, but know plenty of people who are. Its just as bad an addiction as is smoking.
A day off will prove that it can be done.
“but he won’t say yes, either”
But you yourself should say no. Being a single parent is no picnic
Haven’t yet, but plan to do so on Yehuda Solomon’s Havdoloh
If money was not a consideration, and I needed to start a new carrear, I would be an tour guide. To places with limited plumbing, limited cell coverage, and limited people.
Minyan would pose a problem though, so for now, its just a pipe dream.
And are you a full time learner? Or do you have one on your payroll? Or do you have one to place, and are trying to convince yourself that this warped system is just?
No matter. In the end, you may be right, that the “system” is in the boy’s favor. But is he respected?
That is debatable
I cannot believe that this has gone unchallenged.
Unless the girl is an out-of-towner that has relocated to the boy’s city (for a job,school or shidduchim) the mere suggestion that a young woman should travel to meet a man is appaling. And for this man (who, in my opinion has lost the right to use that title) to vacilate on wether or not the person is “worth a 2nd date” is even more disgusting. He should be filled with gratitude that someone is willing to go out with him in the 1st place, seeing as her scedule and (presumibly) her accomplishments far exceed his.
But then again, we as a society have come to the point where women work and men do not, so I guess the role reversal should not come as such a surprise.
True, there may be a rare case, like someone from out of the country who can arrange a 2-3 day stopover on a flight, but for a standard Chicago or LA to NYC trip?
Shame on the man who does not act like one. If he cannot find it in himself to take the initiative, how does he expect to run a family and household?
What’s your budget?
How many days are you looking to go away for?
What city are you in?
I’d like to add something based on the post the Ronsr made.
It should be noted (and complimented, where practical) when non-jews demonstrate a trait we value.
I was in a doctor’s office and overhear a woman call someone and relate a passage she had just read in here bible, that she thougt would be inspriational.
When she hung up, I told her how nice a call that was, and she was very grateful for the acknowlegment
I’ll repeat what has already been noted by others, but its worth a repeat:
I respect Chassidim who stick to their levush, even in 90 degree weather
I respect baale teshuva who leave behind a way of life (and often family / friends) in their quest for yiddishkeit.
And a special shout-out to Popa_bar_Abba for creating a thread that gets us to focus on what brings us together. It has made me rethink the tone of a thread I was posting on, and instead of taking the low road in future posts, I’ll opt for the high one.
Great line, Goq!
“a secure facility in the Swiss Alps”
I always wanted to climb Matterhorn. Now I have an excuse.
FYI – There’s a woman’s site (Im a mother) that hosts live meetings, but that is by invitation only, and they screen the members they invite.
Not sure if I’d pass the YWN screening process, so even if we do have a meeting, I’m not sure I’ll be there.
Unless I can manage the alpine ascent 🙂
I can’t take much more of this, Kapusta 🙁
Just out me already! (Just kidding, please don’t)
Can someone refresh (or post the link) to the thread that discussed the topic of who travels to who? I missed that, and would like to read what was said.
(P.S> Middleguy – I’m with you on this. Barring very unusual circumstances, the boy should travel to the girl’s city)
I was not. Its very impressive, but 3000 ppl is hardly a news item in the chassidishe velt. We can almost that many for a regular tish, and as many as 5,000 for big ticket events like chassenehs, hakoffos, hafganas (ok, that was a wisecrack, but you get the idea)
I’ll be working, but not posting.