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” home delivery of milk in bottles? “
Not glass bottles. Plastic ones, that get delivered by KRM /Moshe’s (or Pomegranite, or Supersol, if you live the high life)
Adore –
For real? Ok, now the fun begins.
So, details?
Him: Shtramel? If so, how tall? Local or from OOT? Is he a CR dweller?
You: Covered shaitel? Or a fall, with the maximum allowable exposure? Does he know that youre a CR addict? Are you changing your screen name?
Ah, cologne. Back in the days (the 80s) anyone who was on the ball wore cologne. Who here remembers Drakar Noir, Polo (in the green bottle), Grey Flannel (Geofrey Beene, I think)?
No comment on women. Sorry, outta my leauge.
Why would anyone choose corned beef? If you’re ingesting red meat, go for the pastrami
Record them, and then play it back when they are calm, so they hear what you hear.
Play it back to them separately, so they don’t start the fight again
Always, did you lift this from the “magic touch” speech by Rabbi Wallerstein?
Thank the cow? No, that’s what they do.
Thank Hashem for making cows do what they do, and thank the farmer for doing the work that you’d otherwise be doing (at 4:00 am, no less)
“My own shul….where there is a lot of hugging going on.”
Do you mean Rabbi Twersky’s place on Ave L? I’ve been there, and its really a great place.
Carlebach minyan, when I can find one. Otherwise its a shteeble or chassidus. The bais places drive me nuts with their obsession to zmanim.
Membeship / Board places are only under duress
Sorry for the delay in responding. The weekend got in the way. Here goes, point by point:
“if someone has a degree or a job they are “better” than someone who doesnt?”
No, that’s not what I meant and you know it. If she is 19 and working as a secratary in a 47th street firm, or a salesclerk in a clothing store that’s wonderful. That’s an entry level job, and earning enough money to pay for rent and food and tuition is not on her shoulders. Its on HIS.
“There are plenty of boys who went to school and got some kind of degree.”
Far and few, at least in the black-hat, BMG world.
“Whats wrong with deciding to go to school after learning a few years? “
Nothing. Unless it at the expense of his kids being rasied by a babysitter. Good rule of thumb? Learn for as long as you like; until she expecting. Then its time to be the tatty you claim to be.
Tro11 – Boy, your post looks awfully familar. Not sure what your aim was, but it caught my eye.
And for the record, SHE is never wrong. You just misunderstood her
There is no question, learning is hard work. And if you are a bochur (or a newly married man, with no family to feed) you have a full day’s work ahead of you.
But if you are the parent of children, your job is to provide for them, and allow your wife to stay at home (at least most of the day) until they are grown so they can benefit from her nurturing.
Still, you are not off the hook with learning. None of us are. But providing for your family is your tafkid (read the document you signed… its pretty straightforward)
“the profile can be found under the original screenname”
Meaning, what BPT stands for?
Or the data in my profile like shoe size, favorite ice cream flavor, pet’s name, ect.
(Gosh, I’m not even sure what is listed, let alone how to look it up.)
Thank you. I can assure you, it does not come naturally, but I worked on it, and continue to do so, each day. Some topics are harder than others, but I try.
Sad story, but considering how Kensington was caught off guard this summer, people may be extra cautious.
But I doubt the comment about the eruv was as relayed, becuase if the new arrival was wearing a kippa serugah, no one would say anything as the YI crowd uses the eruv.
So if it was said, that could have been the resident’s way of opening a dialouge, and the newcomer took it as a confrontaion.
Good point. Perhaps, because I’m on the inside, I’m not noticing the change that others are seeing.
“How many weeks is left to work per year, again?”
I see your point, but I my case, even when I’m miles aways from a geographic standpoint, the spectre of Mrs. BP is always looming in the background, so I’m really still facing 52 weeks of service
” so that I’ll know to greet you when we meet up. “
Simple. I’m the one who greets you, whether we know each other or not.
But only if you’re a guy, or an 80+ year old woman with a outladish hat and /or doiley (outrageous feathers are a bonus).
Otherwise, female CR members get the greetings from Mrs. (CR or not, rules are rules)
“Does the separate vacation take the place of the joint vacation? “
No, it follows the joint one (so you can recover from the time spent under the microscope)
And the leftovers?
Remember, its not the effort that counts, its the “protektzia” you have backing you.
(Or the size of the “Channukah gift” you slip the key staffers)
They must have mistaken you for a 5th cousin or sibling’s brother-in-law. Happens when you have 30+ of each.
I, on the other hand, WOULD have greeted you, as one CR memeber to another.
But outsiders? No, there has been no change in policy.
And its spelled Boro. Only the outsiders spell it Borough.
< eyeroll >… what an OOT’er!)
For the same reason, kids tell their parents, “you just don’t understand”.
They mean well, think they have it all figured out. Until they come face-to-face with the real thing.
THEN, they see why there is no substitute for experience.
Still, you gotta admire them for trying!
See? And look how well she managed.
Road trip? Ooh, do I want to do one of those. Rent an RV, and head off!
“Why the negativity?”
Because all around, I see quality, accomplished girls in the shidduch parsha, whereas the boys in the shidduch arena have zero ambition or vision of how they plan on supporting their family.
That’s why. And the saddest part is, we as a society, tolerate this imbalance.
No, Adore. Talking, opinionated MIL’s are a girl’s best friend. All you need to do is listen and then a day later, ask her to come shopping with you so she can give you her “opinion” (meaning: pay for the purchase).
No one shells out more money than MILs that are coddled. Play your cards right, and you’ll be the winner.
“If you figure out how to do it … let me know…”
Marketing. That’s how.
You say things like, “if you go away for the summer, think about how rested you’ll be for the coming winter”.
Or, “I’ll go to the Rebbe and ask for your life to be a pleasant and blessed one”.
See? Talk her, think you. Works like a charm!
She is right. Here’s why:
By the time she is dating, she has more than likely begun working, and is most likely well on her way to a promising carrear, which will provide a decent income. He has most likely not done any of the above.
She / her parents need to beg and plead with a shadchan to get noticed. He just needs to have a pulse and not drool when eating.
She will juggle the responsiblilty of working AND running the house / kids. He will expect a thank you if he puts his clothes in the hamper.
Shall I keep going?
You just described the bungalow experience (or the chossid going to EY to the Rebbe for Yom Tov)
My experience (as is the case for most of my friends) has been a good one all around. Nothing builds a marraige like time apart
” I thought she’s BPM “
M? As in Ma? Mommy? Mother?
Why preclude BPI (as in Ima?) or BPO (as in Oma).
Just kidding. She Ma to our kids. Her screen name is not BP related.
And, no, she is not a CR addict. She spends he on-line time on a ladies site. (evident from the 1500+ recipes I see floating around the kitchen)
“It’s even more amazing what you can do in a suite”
Too funny!
” but idk how to cook or bake…”
This being the case, you’ll no doubt need some help in the household repairs dept.
Simply stated, all you need is 2 things;
* duct tape
* a can of WD-40
If it moves, and its shouldnt = duct tape
If its doesnt move, and it should = WD-40
” If there are food left over its because you didn’t like it. ”
No, Deiyezooger. That’s not the case at all. MIL will overprepare (as all balebustas do) and all the participants will take less than they would do under normal circumstances (because they have been coached to do, so as not to look boorish).
Hence, enough food for 3 days of lunch. Pass the ketchup!
“(and im reg BY litvish/with it family) I was a bum bec i wore a denim skirt…”
Litvish? Maybe you meant to say BP heimish? Because Litvish implies yeshivish, which is a bit of a steera with denim skirts (unless you were 8 years old at the time)
This you already asked and recived a no, this particular sport is out of bounds for you. (unless you get married, and in that case, you can try re-submitting the question to your new posek)
Next sport, try seeing if you can fit it into the “health reasons” category. You’d be shocked at what gets the green light, once its out of the “fun” arena
“should I have a matching shirt for all difrent flavours?…”
Won’t be necessary. Once you go color, you’ll be so chilled, these sloppy accidents won’t happen
” but idk how to cook or bake… “
And you’re getting married when?
Be sure Chap-a-Nosh and Schnitzi are in your speed dial
Bring a shopping bag.. so you can take home the leftovers
Forget talking to your brother. At this point, he is not thinking rationally. Once bitten by the girl bug, guys (from age 14 and up) will make every excuse to justify what they are doing, regardless of the damage they may cause.
The posters that said to contact Rabbi Wallerstien are your best bet. If your friend will not / cannot meet with him in person, have her listen to the shuir about being shomer negiah (avail on Torahanywhere.com)
Noone with a teaspoon of brains will hear that shiur and remain unchanged. Its one of the best shiurim I’ve ever heard on the topic, and applies to men and women alike
Uh, sorry to rain on all the BP basher’s parade, but I think the staring that Red Nails was talking about had little to do with the intolerance of BP kids when it comes to outsiders or people that do not dress like the masses of 13th ave.
V’Hamaivin, Yovin
I am just finding out how many really cool places there are to hang out, when dragged to a mall, or shipping in the city.
My latest favorite? Hollister on 5th ave. 50ft screen showing Long Beach, CA. And those arm chairs? A real vacation!
Shop till you drop, Mrs. BP! Wake me when you’re ready to go.
” And i only wear white shirts!any eitzos?! “
All the more reason to switch to colored shirts.
You could also go to a Sefardic minyan (or yemenite) where they say birchas kohanim every day at shachris.
Thats a big segulah for having dreams turn out well.
Litova –
What makes her say that a working boy is not a serious learner? You can learn 60 minutes a day after work, and be more “serious” than the loafer who fakes his way thru a 6 hour day.
There are plenty of quality boys out there. Its her job / her parents job to find them. The biggest problem they face is overcoming the “what will the neighbors say” syndrome.
Take it from someone who was a “working boy”; we are fine bnei torah, and make terrific husbands / parents.
For sure, but when it comes to art, its in the eye of the beholder.
The Mona Lisa means little to me, Dali’s work, even less.
On the other hand, I really liked two paintings I saw in the Bklyn Museum from lesser known artists. One was a skillful painting of the Grand Canyon, and the other was a parody of the famous Napolean painting (the one on his horse, rearing up on the hind legs).
Lots of chochma involved in making those paintings, no question.
“Anyways, I like your comments….keep em coming….if a mod doesn’t approve something, ignore it….move along…”
So what I take from this is, its not the Mods we need to cozy up to, its the Editor!
Ok, so now I know to to appeal to when I think I have a post that may not make it past the Mods. = 🙂
Depends. Was it room temperature water or scalding hot water?
“I have had posts deleted AND been given mussar a couple of times”
Mussar? OK, that I believe.
Deleted posts? No, this I cannot imagine. Even when you say something out in left field, its with such refinement, I’d be hard pressed to think of a time that a comment of yours would flunk the mods’s edit button
Can I hijack this thread, and start posting mother-in-law jokes?
For a boy to say a girl is “too girly” is a 5-alarm code red in my book. What does he want… someone who is more masculine?
She was lucky to get out while she could.
Nothing terrible happens. You get to meet Tin Man, the Lion, Scarecrow,the Wizard of OZ.
Oh, and dont let the lady in the pointed hat intimidate you.
Really. Its just a huge rainstorm. Its a bigger problem when its Succos, and the schach starts flying.