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I had looked in to it for my son but it was not for him. The Secular Studies Principal, Rabbi Minchenburg is an excellent educator. I actually had him as a teacher 20 years ago and he was one of the best I’ve ever had.
I’m confused, was your baby in the stroller?
A civil divorce in NY state will stipulate that there is no impediment to either party remarrying. Obviously withholding a GET is an impediment to the woman remarrying.
Appreciation is nice, but it won’t pay your landlord.
Out of curiosity I just spoke to someone who is well versed and involved in these matters.
In general when a HMR is granted to the husband, he (the husband) deposits a get in escrow to beis din. When the woman is able (for example, she wakes up from a coma etc..) the beis din will give her the get.
As with every other complex issue a competent Rov should be consulted.
I believe R’ Moshe ZTL wrote several Teshuvos regarding giving women the ability to remarry after World War 2 when it could not be verified if the husbands survived the camps or not. I think there was a reference to a mechanism allowing remarriage when the husband could not give a GET.
A Heter Meah Rabbonim only dissolves the marriage for the husband but not the wife? If the marriage is dissolved shouldn’t it be for both?
I understand that a woman can not seek a divorce via a heter meah rabbonim, but if the husband was granted one shouldn’t it patur the wife as well?
If you don’t stay at one of the Disney hotels the accommodations shouldn’t be too expensive. Look online for hotels/motels in Kissamee, Florida which is much cheaper and is close to all the Orlando attractions. (If you don’t want to rent a car, most of these hotels / motels have free shuttle services to the parks)
The theme parks are very expensive, but there are ways to find cheaper tickets as well.
1) Look on Ebay- People buy multiple day passes and do not end up using all of the days, so they try to sell the remaining days on ebay.
2) Some of the area hotels / motels sell discount tickets
3) a lot of the gift shops (the really cheap 5 t-shirts for $10 type) also have tickets that people sold to them for resale (see #1 ebay)
If I’m not mistaken a Heter Meah Rabbonim is if the woman is UNABLE to accept a get due to a physical or mental incapacity.
Chavalman- I hope you would trust all of your important shailos to 100 kollel guys with smicha. Having smicha hardly makes one qualified to pasken on this or many other issues. Would you marry a woman who was divorced through a Heter Meah Rabbonim from 100 of your kollel guy friends with smicha, considering that your children from this marriage could be considered mamzerim?
All issues, be it financial or child custody can be negotiated or litigated in a beis din. The mediated agreement or psak of beis din then needs to be approved and accepted by the secular courts for the civil divorce.
I am in the midst of going through a divorce and all I can say is that a well respected marriage counselor told me {sic} “when rosh hashona and yom kippur come around he hopes that all of those who are withholding a get for extortion (financial) purposes are not granted what they are davening for”
I’m confused by the o/p. The title of the thread is “What to do if you can afford tuition?” If one can afford tuition, you obviously pay it.
speak to an expert, but as long as you are making the payments they have no reason to want to modify your loan.
Popcorn- I give a lot of credit to your niece and her classmates for realizing that going to seminary in Israel is not the end all / be all to life.
Agree to the Borsallino if he agrees to get a grey one!
If they didn’t want to treat women like second class citizens they should try something different. How about this: Let the women stay in shul until the conclusion of davening and then the men should wait in shul and learn for 10 minutes while the women have a chance to leave.
why not?
How about people who do not have basic writing skills or use spell check? (BTW- OP please check your post)
Define easy going
Bar Shattya-
I should have posted 2 separate comments:
1) The service was getting slow, the place was not clean. I noticed over the past few weeks that the health department notice in the window said “grade pending”.
2) Even if the closing is because the owners or employees were unable to keep up certain standards, I feel sorry for anyone who loses their source of income during these trying times.
I feel bad for the owners and employees. Unfortunately the service was slow and the place was not clean. I don’t know if it is coincidental but there health inspection sign has shown “grade pending” for quite some time now.
I think it’s refreshing to see jews in the media without being associated with Bernie Madoff, illegally segregated bus lines, welfare fraud…. list keeps going
wouldn’t yeshiva’s be classified as non profits which may have different rules than traditional small businesses (although most small businesses these days are non profits as well). For all of those concerned that the yeshivas did something wrong, just check with Amex if the promotion applied to non profits as well.
I would think it was o.k. as long as the dreidel spinning was done in different groups.
Mom of a few- If I eat to quickly, or do not chew properly then throwing up can be an issue. Each person is different. I can not tolerate certain starchy items like bread or gefilte fish.
I had the procedure done on a Wednesday morning and was back home on Thursday. The recovery time was about 10 days.
Whatever you decide, good luck.
BT-Guy, The soft mushy foods and puree etc…is generally only for the recovery time and after a band adjustment.
One thing I forgot to mention. I can not tolerate bread. If you are a bread lover this may not be for you.
Breaking up the family should be the last option, not the first. Nobody on this forum can diagnose this marriage on the internet. Qualified therapists need to get involved and help each side as well as the children. Divorce does not have to be a nasty process. The most important factor has to be the kids. Neither parent can just take the children without going through a process. Each individual case has to be evaluated on its individual merits. If the decision is made to divorce, then the most important factor must be how to go through the process while minimizing the trauma to the kids. I speak from first hand experience. my ex-wife and I did everything in our power to remove the children from the process and are confident that we made the right decisions.
I had it done just about 10 years ago when it was just approved for use in the US. I went from 290lbs to 175lbs. It definitely should not be viewed as a “quick fix” as you must really be willing to accept this as a lifelong commitment.
Pros: If you don’t cheat, you should have tremendous success.
Cons:
You really need to learn to do with less food. If you enjoy eating (for example going to a restaurant and having an appetizer, an entree, desert, and whatever else they put in front of you), those days are over.
It’s easy to cheat. If you like liquid calories like milk shakes or other items that will pass right through the band you may not lose (you could also gain) weight.
Ask any questions and I’ll be glad to answer.
Am I not following the story correctly? I count two cases. Where is the third?
I was once involved in a retail food establishment. People would come back and say “I bought ____(insert item here) for a party and it was terrible. Nobody was able to eat it”. If you asked them what they did with it “Oh, I served it anyway” usually meant they were just fishing for a credit or refund. If however they came back with half a ___ you knew it was a truly valid complaint.
With any retail establishment (especially food) the best practice is that “the customer is ALWAYS right” whether you think so or not, and just do whatever you can to placate them.
Unfortunately I think there is a prejudice against frum jews, but it is partially our fault. We represent a very small percentage of the American population, yet there are probably a much higher percentage of white collar / financial crimes that are attributed to us. There is also the perception that at the first sign of legal trouble we will flee to Israel where we will be protected.
Great idea. A group of people can charge the store owners a small “protection fee” to make sure no one smashes their windows. Oh wait…I guess we’re talking about the mafia
mods, why are you calling me a troll? can you send me an email explaining?
TROLL.
can you explain why I’m being flagged a Troll?
I think it depends if you wear a colored shirt or a white shirt and if there are teenage girls present.
Individualism is discouraged among frum jews. We are taught at a young age that we must conform to certain standards (and I’m not talking about halacha). The whole colored shirt thread is a perfect example of this.
miritchka- this is why i only change the linen after a few guests, to save people from being ashamed. If I provide them with fresh linen and then they really mess them up, I will know exactly which guest it was. If however I only change the sheets after every few guests. i’ll never know which guest it was that made the linen dirty or smell.
Real Brisker- It depends. If it is my own guest I will change the linen etc. If however it is someone I am putting up for someone else who is making a simcha my standards vary. If I am invited to the simcha or am given a nice hostess gift I’ll use clean linen. If the ba’al simcha can’t even invite me to a kiddush or give me a lousy candy dish I’ll do whatever is easiest for me.
B’H there are many simchos in our neighborhood and we are constantly being asked to put people up. What’s wrong with trying to save a little time and effort.
I did have my home checked for bedbugs so it is one less thing to worry about. Additionally, if my guests take a shower I do put the towels in the dryer before giving them to the next guests. I’ve never heard any complaints.
I kid you not.
Real Brisker- It really depends. In the summer time when people tend to sweat more I’ll change it more often, but in the winter at least 3 guests before I’ll change it.