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Where in the posuk do you see she was executed?
@eddiee
It is exceedingly concerning when someone’s main worry about this whole scandal is “what happens when I’m accused of abusing someone?!”If this is what is bothering you most, you may want to examine your own behaviour. Most people who have done nothing wrong wouldn’t even have a fleeting thought of being wrongly accused on sexual assault.
@ujm
Trained/licensed therapists have intensive supervision during training (and often throughout their career), have a professional certification to uphold, and there is a clear process to register concerns or complaints if they behave inappropriately.
It doesn’t make abuse impossible, but it lowers the risk.
Apart from that, if you ensure the therapist you are seeing is licensed, it means that they have never been expelled or excluded due to historic abuse. If you go unlicensed, you have no idea if he was chased out of a community ten years ago due to being an abuser.Also, the therapy might actually work if they have been trained in it.
@crazy horse
Issur yichud doesn’t apply male-to-male, which is often these abuse cases, particularly when the abuser is a therapist or teacher.
Hilchos yichud is a baseline, not a full solution.Moderator, with respect, this is exactly the issue being discussed.
Enough with the anonymisation and ‘protecting the accused’…the name of an abuser being publicised is warranted and should not ‘risk deletion’.@AviraDeArah “Gedolei hador cannot be influenced by the tides of outside, alien philosophy.”
This is a new development in yiddishkeit in the past 300-400 years. Whilst there were certainly individual gedolim through Jewish history that were more isolationist, the vast majority (from Tanach through to the Rishonim) were deeply engaged and even influenced by the world around them.
Having a godol hermetically sealed in a box to avoid any outside ‘contamination’ is not in line with our mesorah.You’d prefer that the noone holds powerful people to account for corruption, abuse and sleaze? Perhaps you’d prefer that the abusers and malingerers carry on living their happy lives without anyone bothering them as they have done for the past few decades?
There has never been Jewish unity at any point in Jewish history, look through Tanach.
Why do you expect it to start now?@Shimon Nodel
Best stay away if the State of Israel is a on a mission to ‘metamei’ you with their ‘krum mentality’!Safer to stay in the USA.
Entering Israel is a zechus, not a right.
Feel such a strong pull to being there? Make aliya, as many thousands have during the Covid pandemic.@AvirahDeArah
I can help you out with that first pasuk you’re struggling with there. Rambam also quotes it in Hilchos Avodim 9:8..
“Cruelty and arrogance are only found with idol worshippers, but the descendants of Avraham Avinu who Hashem granted upon them the goodness of the Torah and commanded them with the laws and statutes, they are righteous and merciful on all. Similarly, with regards to the attributes of Hashem that we are commanded to emulate, it is written “His mercies be upon all his works.”Pretty clear that Rambam views this ‘being merciful to everyone’ business as a pretty big deal…wouldn’t you say?
I can’t see any indication in the Rambam that the first pasuk is referring to the first part of the halacha, and the second to the last (Rambam could easily have structured it like that). The simple reading seems to be that both pesukim are pertinent to the whole halacha.
Have you ever “learned up” a rambam before?
Rambam quotes two pesukim by the mitzva of providing tzedaka to non-Jews:
הֲרֵי נֶאֱמַר (תהילים קמה, ט) “טוֹב יי לַכּל וְרַחֲמָיו עַל כָּל מַעֲשָׂיו”. וְנֶאֱמַר (משלי ג, יז) “דְּרָכֶיהָ דַרְכֵי נֹעַם וְכָל נְתִיבוֹתֶיהָ שָׁלוֹם
Pretty clear that there is a much deeper and fundamental aspect to “darkhei shalom” than just ‘keeping the non-Jew’s happy…more like emulating God and extending mercy to all his creations, as per the pesukim.
As for the Meiri, various poskim pasken like him or present a similar position such as Rav Yaakov Emden, Tzitz Eliezer, Rav Henkin, Rav Kook, Rav Ahron Soloveitchik and Rav Dovid Zvi Hoffman.If you don’t respect a godol hador because they are a “Zionist”, you have bigger problems than whether to give tzedaka to non-Jews.
Rambam, Mishneh Torah, Kings and Wars 10:12
“And even for non-Jews – our sages commanded us to visit the sick and to bury their dead with the dead of the Jews and to give sustenance to their needy among the needy of the Jews – because of promoting peaceful ways. Behold there is the verse – “Hashem is good with all and he is merciful upon all of his works” (Tehilim / Psalms 145, 9) and it is said “And its ways are ways of pleasantness and all its paths are peace.” (Mishle – Proverbs 3, 17)”Shulchan Arukh, Yoreh De’ah 151:12
“It is permitted to support their [non-Jewish] poor, and visit their sick, and bury their dead, and eulogise and comfort their mourners, because of the ways of peace.”Shevet MiYehuda 3:70
“Lately it has become customary, to our great detriment, amongst our teachers to state that there is no real obligation towards bettering the life of non-Jews…and there is no need to encourage the community to support non-Jews with tzedakah and kindness, for any such acts are only done for the sake of darchei shalom [ways of peace] and thus have no real source in the Torah law. Therefore we must define the true concept of darchei shalom. It is not just a means to keep Judaism safe from non-Jewish hatred, but flows from the core ethical teachings of the Torah.”@AviraDeArah
You are confusing the concept of ‘mipnei aviva’ – ‘to prevent hatred’ and ‘mishum darkhei shalom’ – ‘to promote peace’. Two separate concepts in Rambam, the latter applies to providing charity to non-Jews and is NOT bedieved.
You are also clearly unaware of the Meiri who paskens that you have a 100% chiyuv to return a lost object to a non-Jew nowadays.