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I never said your world is of rainbows and sunshine ( though what a world that would be). Apology accepted and hope you did not take my post to much to heart. I am not comparing lives, and honestly hope that you are where you want to be. I am not because of my Tznuis struggle. That is why I originaly posted this thread. Hope you understand.

P.s. a life of perfection (rainbows, flowers, sunshine whatever would be boring. Hashem gives each of us challenges wether its shidduchim, Tznius, davening troubles, poverty etc. we all must e,brace these challenges to our best abilities and strive for what Hashem wants. I am trying to find a manner to do so and have seeked assistance from the coffee room. Hatzlacha with your own struggles and hope that you see sunshine if that is what you seek.

Wow Machshiv Torah I read your post and wow is all I can express. I want to thank you all (Especially always striving for your post). Today I woke up with a more positive attitude. I am Currently in graduate school actually, so I have already went through 3 years of undergraduate college. (Shoshy5- I amm 22 years old).

I am going to find a friend who can work on this Halacha of Tznius firstly, and secondly I am going to see how many days (hopefully weeks) I can stay away from wearing my skirts above my knees.

Today is day one and the skirt is not tight, not very short, and it’s black ( a less ostentatious color). Thank you all! If anyone has any other suggestions I would greatly appreciate it.

I still though need to figure out how to explain my strive for Tznius to my parents.

P.s. to Shopping 613, if college is such a “bad place” I wonder what you think of the outside world. I don’t live in a box nor do I live in a land filled with rainbows and flowers ( though I wish I did). Everyday is a struggle to keep Tznius wether I have a college class or not. Coming from high school to college was a huge change. I don’t want to blame my education. It’s the real world.

Ms. critique,

With all due respect, I daven shachris daily as well as Mincha (hope u are having a wonderful Rosh Chodesh;) ) I give tzedaka etc. I do not feel the need to expose other wonderful Mitzvos I do. However, I feel like you are judging me (and others who may be in the same boat as myself). My clothes do not define me. I am trying hard to work on my knee length because I know I should and want to be on the Tznius madrigah. Believe it or not I went to a frum school, I have frum friends,I go to shuirim just like Tznius girls. Just because a girl covers her knees DOES NOT mean she is frum. You could go to not mixed colleges, come from a frum home, live in a frum area and yet still wear skirts that are not the most modest….I hope you understand where I am coming from. Also, if my co-Ed college would give me a credit for being Tznius I probably would not take that class. This is something personal, I don’t need a reinforcement.