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You hope to support your husband in learning as an assistant teacher?
I think you should switch the last 2 statements. It should say something like: My parents will support my husband in learning, and my job as an assistant teacher will help out a little (with a heavy emphasis on the little)

@Health
First off I don’t really care if you believe me or not.
Secondly, I never said or implied that the yeshivas are dispensing meds on there own. If a yeshiva tells parents that their child must be evaluated or else he/she can’t come to school anymore I’ll bet you 99% of those kids end up on meds. I personally believe that alternative approaches should be attempted (if not exhausted) before pumping stimulants into a child/adolescent. Do you disagree?

Whats risky about rafting on the Delaware River and zip lining? In fact, im willing to bet more kids get injured a lot worse playing regular camp activities than both of these activities combined.

There are many different learning styles and methods. Some kids are better visual learners, some are better auditory learners, etc… If minimal effort was put in to figure out which method works best for each child the number of kids on ADD meds would drop dramatically. There are definitely those who need and benefit tremendously from medication, but if a kid is struggling, the first approach should be to see if he/she needs a different learning style, not pump them with stimulants.

I believe there is a concept that in every generation there is 1 person who is potentially moshiach, if the generation is deserving. Is there a problem with believing that the Lubavitch Rebbe was that designated man in his generation?

There is a happy medium between lavish weddings costing tens of thousnads of dollars and one in a shul. @catchyourself, why are you insinuating that having a nice wedding leads to unhappy marriages. You make a wild claim yet don’t offer a shred of evidence to support it, not even a plausible theory.
There was an article in Bina magazine a few weeks ago. The author wrote how she now sees lavish weddings in a new light. She now sees all the frum people who make parnussa from these weddings. The responses The article recieved made it very obvious that people are simply jealous of those who have more than them, and IMO that is sad. Klal Yisroel always had gvirim, they give generously to the klal, supporting literally every institution and organization our community has. If they want to make a lavish wedding that is their buisness. If other people are immature and feel the need to keep up with the Schwartz’s, despite not being financially able to do so, that is not the wealthy persons problem. Everyone should make the type of wedding they can afford no more and no less.

I do believe that caved to pressure and in my opinion that is cowerdly.

@Ubiquitin
Why is the next best thing allowing a woman to snuff out a life? What about carrying to term and giving the baby up for adoption?

@ubiquitib
Competent medical professionals. In the frum world a Rav should be involved as well.

Friends don’t give wedding gifts (when they are younger) Collecting for a limo has become a way for friends who are generally in yeshiva and not working to give their friend a gift. To the best of my knowledge it is not a universal practice. I’ve been to many weddings where someone was collecting, and many (including my own) where no one was collecting. No one forces you to give. Whats makes it not Jewish? The fact that it’s a luxury isn’t relevant. Many aspects of todays weddings can be considered luxuries.

If one of the parties is absolutely sure that this shidduch isn’t for them then forcing a second date is a giant waste of time for everyone involved. However, very often one side isn’t sure, or isn’t “feeling it” without being able to pinpoint a specific reason, I believe that a second date should be pushed.

Maybe Mmarchette used to be modern orthodox and was chozer b’tsheuva because of your posts, isn’t that why you post in the coffee room, like you claimed in the Watching sports thread? You should be kinder to those who you helped bring back to “true Torah yiddeshkeit”.

Money is discussed when the shidduch shows some potential of going somewhere. Most newly married couples in the mainstream frum circles are not in the financial situation to pay rent and cover all of there living expenses. These things need to be discussed and finalized. Its a discussion that can be had thru the shadchan or between the 2 sets of parents.

Boo hoo, who cares? Their inheritance and wealth should have been taxed at a rate that forced them to work. The fact that the system allows people to live off old money and never contribute anything proves that there’s a problem. Let them work at a fast food chain if they have to. Force them to see how real humans live.

So basically you’re a communist. What right do you have to take their money. As mentioned by other posters, someone in the family worked hard, took risk, probably struggled to amass their fortune. Now you want to steal it from them basically because of jealously. The money is still involved in the economy via investments and the stock market. No one is living off a vault filled cash.
You can make the same statement that you made about people who live of government benefits and various charities. You can argue that they contribute even less to the economy that these “old money” billionaires do.

Run away from home, cut off all contact with everyone you know, especially your parents. Reach out to the organization Libbi for support. This is your only option to build a true bayis neeman biyisroel.

People are definitely less likely to seek medical care if they have to meet a deductible or pay a co-pay. I have seen it time and time again in many different scenarios. There are both pros and cons to this. The pros are that people are less likely to come in and waste ems or doctors time with “silly” complaints. The cons are that people will decide their serious complaint is silly (chest pain is heart burn) and not seek attention.
In my experience the latter rarely happens, but still can’t be discounted.

“To the best of my knowledge there are no private ambulance services ( there are ambulances for mobility but not for emergencies .”

That is not true, at least not in NYC. There are many private ambulance companies that handle emergencies.

“I heard from Hatzolah guys that if they take insurance then they have to provide care to everyone who calls them. And no matter what day of the week. And 911 may dispatch calls to their buses if they are closest to take the call.”

Even now they must respond and treat anyone who calls them. They would get in tremendous trouble if they did not. They will never be dispatched by a 911 dispatcher because they are not part of the FDNY system. That has nothing to do with being a volunteer company.

“A $65,000 job for a married couple isn’t self supporting. ”

That’s simply not true. Its totally possible for 2 people to live in frum NYC on $65000 and that’s without receiving benefits. I’m doing it right now and we are living well too.

As for well fare. I think the biggest argument against it is that it reduces incentive to work and become self sufficient.

@MMYHS It wasn’t supposed to.

“According to a story on the YWN homepage published 11/5/18 after 12pm, approximately FIFTY PERCENT of charedim in Yerushalayim are not vaccinated”
I highly doubt that this is because 50% of charedim are part of the anti-vax movement.

Just to clarify one point in my previous post. I don’t think that the majority of FDNY ambulances would be going as fast as Hatzola does if they had smaller vehicles, however, I do think they would be quicker. The notion that all city ems workers don’t care at all isn’t true. They picked a high stress, low paying job for a reason. Most, if not all, genuinely want to help people in their time of need.

My point wasn’t to knock or minimize the selflessness of the members. Rather it was that someone who works in EMS full time will have a lot more exposure to patients and that’s why they are more knowledgeable. For example, on a 12 hr tour in NYC a crew can easily do 8-12 jobs. Multiply that by 4 days a week, 32-48 jobs, which can easily total 2000 (if not more) jobs a year. Contrast this to Hatzalah members, I really doubt there are many members who see even 1/4 of that in a given year.
Again I’m not bashing Hatzalah for this fact. I feel the same way about rural volunteer ems agencies as well.

If presented with unassailable proof I would say that these people are following their daas torah. However, given that their daas torah isn’t my daas torah, and my daas torah doesn’t agree with what these people are doing I would still be critical of them.

How did I miss characterize the protests? There are videos showing protesters spitting on/at law enforcement and engaging in violence. They are also, very obviously, obstructing the lives of millions of people.

“She was clearly attacking a number of peaceful protesters and he was acting in self-defense on his own behalf and on the behalf of other protesters.”
She was not “attacking” anyone and they were not “peaceful.” She was trying to make the animals move out of the street and on to the sidewalk were I’m sure they would be allowed to protest as much as they wanted.

@Joseph, just curious, do you have a problem with the way the police here in the U.S. force groups like BLM out of streets and highways?