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before a boy decides to do s/t fun and diff on a date he shd make sure that the girl will like and app it. i think it is best to check with the shadchan. i know from myself that when i go out with a bochur, i want to hear and learn things about him, not play a game or do s/t fun….i just want to b able to talk and hear and understand what he is saying, be it in a hotel lobby or walking in a park. i find that many times the boy would like to show he is “fun” “cool” or “with it” and decide to do s/t fun, i do not appreciate doing s/t “fun” or “diff” with a random boy i may not marry.
Well if that is what your parents advise, you might listen to them; mihgt? there is an inyan of kibud av vaiem involved,…..and also i am who i am based a lot on my upbringing and i feel how i feel based alot on who my parents are and how they feel…its not even a discussion i would need to have with my parents to know how they feel b/c they live thier lives in a certain way and hence, i live mine in a similiar fashion, and NO, my father did NOT open the car door for my mohter…my brothers will NOT for their future kallah’s IY”H and my future chossen will NOT for me.
aries2756, no i never did post before, i have been watching this thread for a while and now i have the courage to reply. and i have brothers in yeshiva who would NEVER open the car door for a girl on a date, and yes they have spoken to their rebbeim about this….it is s/t that defines who u r and shows what hashkafos u have…
would i ask s/o? of course i would,,,,,,and my parents would advise me not to continue with such a bochur. in the yeshivasha velt it is not an accepted practice.
how bout a girl from a divorced home?
chos v’shalom!
as a girl in shiddichum i could say that if a boy would open a door for me it would b good bye charlie to him………i would find it extremely not app and not tznius on his part to do so………