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could anyone figure me out?
Its important to learn what others do and apply it to your life as applicable. – i dont think i will apply to my life, but thanks for the advice! u may bring me closer to finding my bashert :)!!
does a smoker mamish define s/o as a person?
where i come from, after three dates we almost start planning a l’chayim! 🙂 🙂 we for sure check dor yeshurim before meeting once!!!
SJSinNYC, no, sorry; u ttly did not change my way of thinking, just made me realize that not e/o has as “narrow” views as i do, but i am still proud of my strong and norrow views and dont plan on changing a/t!!!
i come out the same! i have strong ideals and hashkofos and i am not quiet about them!
it depends what u feel is comprimising…certain shittos u have u should never comprimise on, however if it is a narishkiet, u will prob realize and do away with it on ur own….
well then it is hard for me to comment b/c such a thing is VERY far removed from s/t i would have ever dreamed of doing
i dont know, a boy who has s/t to get angry about on a date knows he is on a date and will control himself, unless you say u spy on him for months i do not c how this would help….
so ur saying that if i explain things to my bros three times they may chap me? and if its the age gap, it would not apply cuz they r around my age!!!!
BUT, i want to delete one part of the bracha, I want to stay in AMERICA untill mashiach so I can continue to gain from the hashpa of my wonderful family.
and you really think that you will c that from going miniature golfing?
sorry about that. for sure!
May she continue to maintain her Bais Yaakov hashkofos – every single one of them – forever iy’h!
AMEN!!! what a beautiful bracha 🙂
does he smoke or is he a smoker? dont get all self righteous about something that is not ur nisayon…..
what does not going out as a group have any shaychus to getting engaged after 5 dates????
Took me three reads to figure it out. what could u not figure out?
of course he is trying to figure me out, how else shd i/he decide i/he am good for me/him.
sorry, i am not a student, but what do u consider recently graduating? and i got all my hashkafos from my wonderful family and not my school per say,,,,,allthough BJJ did a TON to fortify e/t….
doesnt sound like s/t that a yeshiva bochur/sem girl should b doing, but i could b wrong. and going mini golfing? doesnt sound like the best way to figure out if a person is for u,,,,,
its fine, i know ill do the same for them!!
i do have good brothers, and i love what they do for me!!! cant say that they r not a little bit too overprotective over their sister though!!!!
care to explain?
got it 🙂 nashim bimay zachyan?
Chemotherapy as Metaphor, whats that?
bored out of my mind? why is a date in a lounge boring? all i want to do is talk to the bochur and figure him out,,,,,not in this for fun. and i live in the tri state area and none of the lounges ive been to had such expensive parking,…..
i guess maybe we are exceptions, i dont really know because its not like any of my frnds or a/o i know for that matter has the same sitch, it was just always my fam and i cd honestly say i LOVE my step family and its one of Hashem’s biggest presents to me, but i thought that was regular, ive been wrong before 🙂
who said a/o was WRONG?
i dont know,,,,its much more normal to live with an abba/totty then to live with a zaidy, i would think that it shd/wd b much easier for e/o if life continues on as quickly as possible……and parents would/have killed themselves for their kids, how could u say that they only care for themselves??? i think e/o would b happier if the kids thought for a moment how much their parents do/did for them and want them to b as happy as possible,,,,,also, e/t wd b much easier if there were not preconceived notions about step parents,,,,,,,,NO, they r NOT witches,,,,,
i dont like what earlier posters wrote about making sure your children are happy, children will b comfortable, adjusted and happy if they grow up in a home that thats what the parents believe, my “blended” family was always soooo normal, and yes, i cried for days when my mother told me she got engaged,,,,,young children are not old enought to b taken into the cheshbon, parents know what is best for them.
yes, it is priceless to raise your children alone, but nothing compares to a house of torah……..and since i grew up in such a home i know the children are not neglected, and no the babysitter is not mommy even if she watches the kid the whole day…..mommy was/is always learning to b able to b mifarnes the family so totty was/is able to sit and learn shtarkly in yeshiva……
if a/o is applying to bjj, be careful with whatever u say and make sure u have a REASON for saying/doing it. do not say thank u if it would b a shayla of ribbus, do not kiss the mezuza if u r just doing it out of habit and dont even know what u r doing. it may b scary, but all my frnds who got in came home saying they had a horrible interview, just b honest and answer the reb’s questions with thought out clarity, if you need her to repeat or explain s/t just ask. do not b ashamed if ur mother is a stay at home mom – she will love that….just “chilax”, kol tuv and lihisrois 🙂
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whats the diff btwn good frnds and chossen and kallah? or am i missing s/t………you will become better frnds after you get engaged and BEST frnds after you get married,,,,,,,
a hotel lounge is free 🙂 okay, there may b an 8 dollar parking fee but its perfect for up until u become chossen and kallah 🙂
does she want to live a life of mesiras nefesh without the zechus of her husband learning? even if her husband earns a parnasa she will have to live with less if it is only one salary, and in such a case she would be living a kollel life style without the zechus of Torah, i dont envy her.
wow! ur brother is actually retding u a shidduch? i would jump at that!!!! all my bros are good for is nixing bochurim and when it turns out that i prob will go out with one of their BEST frnds they spend days and nights telling me reasons y it fasure wont work out!!!!
isn’t dating for the purpose of finding your bashert and getting married?? how would such a thing bring u closer to the ultimate goal?
Aishes Chayil, I said SOMETIMES i wish……and i know you could but if your name is not an indication of your yichus then not everyone knows……
Passaic, Passaic, Passaic, Passaic 🙂 🙂 🙂
yichus IS s/t to be proud of, at the same time you have a responsibility to live up to, so it is not always easy….s/t’s you wish you could b a plain person with a regular last name and know that not e/o is “looking at u” and “watching what you are doing”, at the same time, if you do manage to live up to your yichus then it IS s/t to b proud of. That does not mean you are a bal gayva, but there is s/t to knowing where you come from, and what you aspire to be, i know i am proud of it :), even when it is hard!
my father ALWAYS fahers the bochurim……