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adorable – can you move somewhere else to kind of start over and get a new name for yourself?
wow! Dr. Pepper, i’ve never officially met you, but almost every week there’s someone saying that they miss Dr. Pepper. didn’t know if you were real or just a collective figment of the people’s imagination here. 😉
(kind of like snufflupagus, for those who are old enough to remember him). ?
lol!
(and blinky, i understood what you meant with the omega 3) 🙂
..and chayav
broad generalizations make ignorant people sound stupid.
great line!
you’re right, adorable – but why is that bad? it means that you too will forget this horrible pain! one day it will be over!!!!!
chocandpatience
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>And of course the classic: “ani lo tachas omed”
That took me a LONG time to work out
took me even longer. 😉
not until i tried translating it out loud did i “understand”
yid – :)cute.
person 3 – how about just an hour before the date? they don’t need to know a whole day before the date.
it’s none of their business, anyways. 😉
mod. 80 – very funny.
you could cut and paste that remark and put it in almost any thread (except probably this one ;).
just found the book and looked up what it says about I and E.
extrovert: ………………… introvert:
sociability ………………. territoriality
interaction ………………. concentration
external ………………. internal
breadth …………….. depth
extensive …………….. intensive
multiplicity of relationships .. limited relationships
expenditure of energies …… conservation of energies
interest in external events .. interest in internal reaction
this book was written by Keirsey and Bates based on Jung and Myers typology. on the back cover, it says: “please understand me” provides a useful vocabulary and phraseology for applying th jung-myers concepts of type.”
by the way, it’s a great book. 😉 (if you’re into stuff like this)
i’ve read the book – “please understand me”, and it gives a whole list of what is introvert and what isn’t. my basic understanding of the difference is that introverts prefer 1 on 1 conversations and extroverts get a high when in a crowd with lots of people – basically, where does one feel energized from and which way depletes one’s energy.
of course, there’s a continuum and most people will have some aspects of both.
anyways, in the colloquial definition, i am still an introvert, but don’t appear to be one. i am extremely shy, but don’t appear to be so cuz when i know someone well i’m not shy with them and i still smile at people even though i am EXTREMELY shy. in this sense, my husband is not an introvert, as he is not shy – though he would also not be defined as an extrovert (very loud, outgoing).
adorable – (im actually responding to what you wrote on the “we miss you” thread.
there are many girls who have also seen or done things, unfortunately, that they wish they hadn’t and now are married. what about all those baalei teshuvas who get married – think they’ve been innocent their whole life?
it’s good to regret how it’s changed you. now feel remorse, and then move on. staying in guilt is staying with the aveira. the yetzer hara wants to tell you that now that you’ve lost your innocence, it doesn’t matter. But wrong! every decision you make matters. a tzaddik falls 7 times; but the difference between a tzaddik and a rasha is that the tzaddik keeps picking himself up.
i think a book about the cr will be great. but whoever does it will have to use some imagination and make stuff up. 😉
s2021: there’s a story about 2 tzaddikim who were walking together and some american yeshiva boy took their picture. one of the two tzaddikim was upset. the other one said, “you know what the first thing an American will say to mashiach?
“can i take your picture”
now, i need chayav’s laugh track – HAHAHAHAHA!
(i don’t do it as well as him)
well, at least I’ll see it
lol!
the wolf: you can’t be born OTD. thus, what you are saying is that you are a ba’al teshuvah. and of this it says, ????? ????? ????? ?????? ??? ?????? ?????? ?????? ?????
…. which brings us back to the OP – we do have a concept of teshuvah; and, i think, over time, some things are even forgotten and/or not as clear.
in this case that’s obvious; but, the truth is we often do this in real life and don’t even realize it. 😉
this was in response to mod. 80 – i didn’t yet see adorable and pac man’s post.
veteran: except that some of us were defining ourselves as introverts based on the myers-brigg definitions, such as at least: me, mischiefmaker, and possibly shrek. maybe others, i don’t know.
lomed mikol edom: yup. and pretty much the same way. though not the way veteran defines it.
veteran – don’t people generally say that women need to talk through their thoughts (i know i do) and men don’t?
in this case that’s obvious; but, the truth is we often do this in real life and don’t even realize it. 😉
adorable – it could be that you’ve been on the cr and exposed yourself to the fact that there are divorced people and OTD kids; it could be you’ve seen a Disney movie, or it could be other stuff – and we have absolutely no clue.
and we’re not even sure if you regret doing it.
not interested in what you did or didn’t do, but there is a concept of teshuvah.
always: ?
the goq – you must come now! take a vacation! there is NOTHING like eretz yisrael!
🙂
thanks kapusta.
mod. #? – i hope i’ve been distracting enough. but now my baby is sleeping, and i gotto go. ? hope you survive on your no sleep – at least you’re in the coffee room 😉
Rabbi Pliskin in 2 of his books has good questions that you should ask yourself on marriage. i think, begin again now, and maybe, the one about knowing yourself.
but, here’s some to start with:
1) do you have similar hashkafos?
2) are you UNattractive to him?
3) is there anything inside of you telling you to stay away or something like that? does the thought of spending time with him make you feel sick?
4) while you are with him, do you enjoy yourself? do you like what he brings out in you?
5) are you comfortable with him?
if you answered yes to 1, 4, and 5; and no to 2 and 3, then i’d say it sounds good to me.
butterflies in stomach and stars in the sky do not necessarily make good marriages and are not necessary for finding one’s bashert.
just, one more thing, if do decide to marry him, don’t keep thinking that you’ve missed the boat. once decide to marry someone, it’s your obligation to assume that he is your bashert and not to spend time thinking of possibilities that probably would or could never happen.
oh yeah, i would also add, do you respect him?
who said the inyan of wearing a shaitel is so that people know the person is married? maybe the inyan actually is for the woman to cover her hair?
(obviously, something very long and attraction-getting is not tznius, but not because it looks real, but rather because it is attracting attention to that person, just like bright make-up, certain clothing,etc.).
i’m not a rav, obviously, but i think people have to realize that there are halachos and we do not have to add to them. if someone, for themself, with husband’s agreement, feels that it’s not tznius for them to cover their hair with a shaitel, then fine. but, there are so many other things that we MUST work on (like not doing aveiros and our middos), that it seems silly to add a chumrah when the essentials are not being done.
disclaimer: if they are living somewhere where people do not wear shaitels, then it IS untznius for someone to wear a shaitel in that particular community.
oh yeah, and clairvoyant.
ICOT – they do have potatoes in israel. (and onions and eggs and pepper and salt, and even food processors) – though it might be a good idea to bring a food processor; they are cheaper in america.
actually, i think you should buy real estate in israel now. it’s only gonna get more expensive when mashiach comes.
🙂 i would answer, but i don’t want to be the last one on this post – it’s kind of like the game where you pass the present around, and then when the music stops, whoever has it is out. (actually, i think in the game, that person gets to unwrap the present, so actually wins. so maybe it’s actually good to have the last word. i don’t know. what do you think?
😉
Isn’t that implied?!?
lol!
but, actually no – cuz statistics of myers-brigg show that 75% of population are extroverts (i’ll let you guys do the math to figure out how many are introverts ;)), so there would be a real shidduch crisis if we were to follow this advice. ?
mischief-maker – i go by your definition. i could be lively and talkative and appear extroverted at a party, but i don’t feel true to myself when i do so. i really enjoy and feel good about one-on-one, more meaningful conversations. i hate playground talk.
another definition is: do you go to the library for the peace and quiet or do you go to the library to seek out other people to talk to?
i enjoy being an introvert – have a lot of good, long-time, close friends. i wouldn’t mind being an extrovert at a simcha, where there are tons of people and have to make small talk. (i enjoy simchas most if i can find one person i know well and can get into good conversation with her.)
but, kapusta, i’m not creative, and the only things i know about computers are those things that i’ve been taught. ?
i’m a quick learner, though. 😉
eclipse, always here, my take, real-brisker – noticed they were gone, but never commented, cuz might be others i missed and would have insulted them and maybe, some of them felt cr wasn’t the right thing for them – i don’t want to be their yetzer hara.
am yisrael chai – i’m addressing you and others who have felt this way. if the cr is important for you and you generally like it, i think it’s silly to stay away from it because 1 or 2 people offended you. (and it’s not really fair to the rest of us who do enjoy yours and some of the others who have been insulted postings).
i really think that no one hurts another person on purpose here. the problem with not seeing faces is that the other person can’t see that they’re hurting you. also, different people have different personalities. so, a manner of speaking that is fun for one person may be insulting for the other person. i think that the best, most healthiest approach (if something really bothers you) is to tell the person, so they and us will be careful of not speaking like that to you in the future.
please don’t leave us. we really do enjoy your posts. and if there are other people who are reading (like “always here”) who are fearful of coming back, just come back. you don’t have to like all of us. just talk to those whom you do like. 🙂
give us your latitude and longitude, then we’ll really figure where you are. or better yet, do you also see a bird, and if so – which way is it flying?
of course – no, but they look very yummy.
thanks dunno.
why adorable?
(i’m definitely one and don’t mind it)
me2 – do you know how many threads even [closed] after i spoke – not sure if it’s just bad luck, a compliment that i was able to get through before it got really nasty, or just the timing of it all?
but how did you make those music notes?
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pba: 🙂
feif on: now you know that people really read and pay attention to what you write. ?
i’d looove a chalav yisrael peanut butter cup – it’s the one thing i miss since i got married and took upon myself chalav yisrael. i’ve tried making it, but nothing comes close to the real thing.
it’s a beautiful story – but i’ve read it before – i seem to remember someone posting it here in the cr and someone else saying that they knew the real story – was a little different, but still nice. sorry, don’t mean to take away from the story.
it is beautiful, with a beautiful lesson. thanks! ?