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what do the single folks do,
to perk up themselves and get through,
how do they spend their day until the wedding comes,
oh, what do the single folks do?
sorry, i’m not as talented as many of you guys are; but 2 points to anyone who knows what song i’m trying to sing. (and from what movie)
i found 7 habits by Covey helped me a lot – kept me focused on providing for my emotional, physical, spiritual self and setting goals for myself. and doing fun things once in a while.
and chayav: i think the girl deserved that, though i don’t believe it happened, nor if it did, do i think the guy was right in doing that. 🙂
s2021 and cshapiro: texting and solitaire?!? i wonder now if people go on dates and just sit next to each other and text each other?
health – i agree with you. I think it’s cheap not to buy a drink at all – but definitely do not have to spend a lot on a drink, and parking can add up (maybe they should think of a place where there are more parking spaces) – if a guy goes out tons, he could end up spending tons and tons of money on dating – and not everyone has that money.
cshapiro – could be you need to marry a guy with money, but you should understand that not everyone can afford what you like on a date – maybe they’re not for you; but that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them at all!
Hudy, you don’t have to say anything about the language – they’ll, sooner, rather than later, realize that you’re different. Are there other frum girls in your class – if so, that usually makes things easier. Also, as the program progresses, and if always take classes with same people, they’ll get used to you and your ways – just be careful not to get so used to them. 😉
shrek – what preparations are you doing for shavuos? practicing the brocha of sefiras haomer? 😉
out of town: tov pizza and mama leah’s (cheeseless, with vegetables) – both are delicious!
shrek – that’s the only minhag i know that’s kept by everyone: sephardim, ashkenazim, chassidim, yerushalmi, chareidim, modern-orthodox, yeshivish, etc.
someone wrote don’t say that you can still have 15 children – what’s wrong with that?
the goq – yeah, i hate when people make both of those problems just women issues; people don’t realize that there are tons of older boys/men single and suffering, and that men suffer just as much with infertility issues and the pain of not having children.
it’s very difficult for shalom bayis these issues.
on other hand, i think, everyone gave great answers – treat person as normal and don’t probe. and if they give you some info. – take it, and don’t probe for more.
also, if do have one child – don’t ask if now they don’t have any more issues, or what was the problem, etc.
if you do have money, can definitely offer financial help in nice way – or through an organization or something to give them the help, can be quite costly – not just IVF.
sounds like your ex was one sweet guy. Soroh whatever Radcliffe once wrote an article about crazymakers – they do tons of little things to drive you crazy and then look at you innocently, “why are you nuts?”
don’t have time to type it up – but the grape juice chicken recipe from mishpacha magagzine last year or 2 years ago, is really delicious and easy.
for out of the box thinking – need to know your specific talents.
mewho – for breakfast, we have chocolate puddings (treat for my kids) and eggs. for lunch, either buns and eat outside or some form of potato, and for supper, sometimes i make and sometimes go out for pizza or felafel.
you’re not old – you’re human.
most people i know have to various extents low self-esteem. i once heard that it is THE sickness of today’s generation.
also, from my understanding, there are certain suicides which take time before the person dies – in those cases, the assumption is that the person regretted their deed and did full teshuvah.
i’d much rather getting ready for pesach, but my baby has other ideas.
if they’re into reading, Rabbi Pliskin has a good book on the subject, and Rabbi Twersky has tons!
though if you’re smart, you can help the popular girls and they’ll want you over at their house all the time to help study, and then can be friends with popular, if you want.:)
you welcome.
i’m glad you don’t have to do anything, and even more glad that you got perks thrown in.
also, do something fun on chol hamoed pesach, if you can.
listen to rabbi orlovsky’s platonic relationship audio.
truth is your feelings may not be diminished so fast because your imagination is probably keeping it going. best thing is to keep yourself busy with friends, work, chessed, and dating.
oh yeah, and cleaning for pesach. 😉
🙁 so sorry s2021 – that must be soooo disappointing. Do you have to make pesach now instead?
turned over last night and today! yay!!!! made lokshin so far – took 2 hours with feeding baby in middle and taking care of other little ones, begging for food and begging to try the lokshin.
hope to get more done while everyone is sleeping tonight.
hope everyone will go to sleep nicely tonight and stay in bed. 😉
ouch. that must hurt. 🙁
mytake – you took the words right out of my mouth.
i’d like to be wise most of all (though i believe if i was wise, i’d also be smart and know how to have/be friends with those i wish to be friends with.
i actually found chametz – good thing i’m cleaning! 😉
actually, i recommend listening to the whole rabbi orlovsky tape – it reinforces the importance of not getting too friendly between “genders” and just reminds you to be careful.
chocolate 😉
and all the newspapers and magazines for pesach – mishpacha, binah, etc.
and don’t limit cr use this week!!!
eclipse – we’ll officially give you the patent for this idea so no one can steal it; but if you don’t call it eclipse, how will we know that it’s really you? 🙂
picture different people you know – i’m sure that there are some highly energetic people who are super-friendly and have their energy levels far out of their body – you do not want that.
then maybe you know or can imagine someone, like a rebbetzin who is nice, or even a nurse, whi is kind, but they are more closed – their energy is closer to their bodies.
that is fantastic that you’ve set up for yourself gedarim! just remember to always be somewhat on guard.
rabbi orlovsky on his platonic tape addresses this issue briefly at around the 65min. mark on sinple to remember.
that’s great that you care – keep it up! 🙂
i also never understood the davening – it can feel as if you’re literally talking to a wall. but then i realized that when it said that Hashem answered Chana’s and Sara’s tefillos, it didn’t mean that that was the first time they davened. but rather after davening, and davening, finally, for some reason, that tefillah was answered. maybe all those tefillos add up and get us to do that one davening, and then Hashem answers us immediately or it’s the culmination of all the davening. or our davening changes us and/or our bashert to make us more ready for marriage.
one rebbetzin once told me that she and her husband changed/grew during marriage, while she sees that many people have to grow tremendously/change before marriage. why some 1 way and some another, no clue.
so good luck and keep davening. and remember that the best davening is not from the mind, but from the heart.
it is very hard to maintain that balance – i agree that you have to act normal and nice (this is going to be a continuous problem in getting a job, at work place) – if act rude, will be very difficult for you in jobs. Fortunately, in nursing, i would imagine that it’s mostly women, so stick around the women, especially those who also like to stick around the women. do NOT be overly friendly to the men at all – be nice, formal, and professional.
after a while, they’ll see that you’re different and will respect the difference.
do NOT hang out with them at other times – do go to the library, places that are separate, during free times.
it’s a tricky balance, but must maintain that balance if working in secular environment.
it can be done – just must always be careful – and not act as free and extroverted as normally would do among your frum friends.
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no wonder you were sad that adar was over – it wasn’t the lack of drinks, but rather the lack of food!
mazal tov! may you be zocheh to build a bayis ne’eman b’yisroel!
bu us, the kids (and my husband) say all (ok, not all – but a lot) of the divrei torah – my 7, 9, and 10 year old (last year they were obviously a year younger) really enjoy discussing it and saying their midrshim. at some point, if i’ll serve them soup, before shulchan aruch, so they’re not starving. and we also give out nuts and candies for any good questions they have.
good answer, chocandpatience. 🙂
but realbrisker, the mods have in the past falsely accused others of being Joseph – so i’ll stick to my original response: no way (but a little less definitive than i was before)
realbrisker – i don’t know; at first i thought no way! but now, you’ve gotten me thinking… (after seeing how he completely knows the ins and outs of this place). but why not? because i found some of the things he said quite offensively said. you’re right that it adds to the interest of things, but i don’t know… (too tired to think clearly)
as everyone said, nap!!!!! though as leah 222 said, even with a nap, they usually can’t make it too much past mah nishtana. 6 and up – my kids are so involved and so excited. they talk so much about what they learned – they and my husband are the stars of the show. i also give them cola at the seder (rest of year, they’re not usually allowed) to help them stay up.
wolf – and how many people who have tried that segula, eventually got married? 😉
oh! so i guess i’m not too bad – mine all just turn gold, before i finally polish them. 🙂
no way, realbrisker!
can the young adult e-mail them and establish a relationship through that?
one explanation of: ??? ???? ??? ??? ???? ????? ????? ????? – is that don’t say anything to anyone that you don’t want to be revealed, for if you do, in the end it will be revealed.