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mod. 42 – lol
charlie – ask mod. 42 or squeak why they’re always carrying a towel around with them. maybe then, they’ll answer your question directly. 🙂
charliebrown – i guess you’ve stuck more to peanuts and weren’t that interested in hitchhiking around galaxies.
jothar – methinks that one proof that dolphins are smarter than humans is that they like “fish” and not “phishs”
how could mod 42 not know this if he knows the answer to life, the universe, and everything?
also, i read some old cr stuff – i really liked what feivel had to say and his stuff on the wonders of animals, etc.
a good moderator…. are the ones we have: i think all the moderators here are excellent. it’s a very difficult job balancing between allowing people to have their say and yet protecting other people at the same time, and keeping the atmosphere heimish and friendly.
they’re smart, knowledgeable, and are doing a tremendous chesed!
moi aussi: thanks; by the way, what does your name mean? (never learned french, if that’s what it is)
shticky: oh, so you’re….?
actually, i’m pretty sure Rav Chaim Kanievsky never read them either.
truthfully, there’s no need to read them – only if you like this kind of stuff. the brilliance of the author was that the first book is written on an 11 year old level, the age of the main characters at the time. then she keeps writing progressively to older level, as harry potter gets older and older.
it’s a combination fantasy/science fiction type of book in which she created a whole magic world, which you actually feel can be true.
oh, not my screen name – my subtitle: my screenname, they felt was me – the subtitle, not. 🙂
i’ve also noticed – maybe it’s because it’s not a full moon?
health – i think we can definitely understand now why info. that can more easily identify us, one would not want repeated. i would think that the anonymousity (don’t think that’s a word, but if squeak and lewis carroll can make up words, so can i) factor would be even more important for a mod.
icot – see, even for one who is so careful not to reveal info., ’tis very hard to not reveal such crucial aspects of oneself.
just goes to show, that maybe i’ll make it in this world as a private detective, after all.
(i think you mentioned in one thread that something reminded you of one of asimov’s books – i think it was pebble in the sky (it was one of the early ones that i haven’t read)
and to all the mods who work hard to make this place a safe place – thank you, cuz part of the fun of this place is being real and sometimes letting it slip that you’ve heard of isaac asimov 😉
and if icot, you would have mentioned that you’ve read harry potter, i would completely be able to identify you. 😉
actually, maybe i can identify you better if you’ve never read harry potter.
chocandpatience: thanks for the compliment.
several reasons i was thinking of changing it, but most compelling one is that if someone knows me, it’s very obvious who i am. i know that no one who posts here regularly in real life knows who i am, but no question, if a lurker knew me well – they would easily identify me. one such lurker already did. no question. the person said, “you are binahyeseira”. the only part that the person didn’t understand was my screenname – didn’t get that part of all, which is of course why i like it so much. but if i want to write more, i don’t want to feel self-conscious – i’d like to write completely anonymously.
shticky: +1!!!!!!!!!
mods: thank you for all your work and for all your efforts to keep this place safe and fun!!!!
i also want to change my user name. how do i do it? also, i want member under my user name – i think it’s time to try to earn a new subtitle. mods? anybody?
also, anybody have some good suggestions for a new name?
possibilities include:
hanib (backwards for binah)
banana (sounds little similar to binah)
serenity (cuz it’s a nice thing to be) or tranquility (for same reason)
all suggestions will be considered. thanks!
real brisker – if i knew how to do that really cool “here” stuff i would do it, but i’m too lazy to learn how and too lazy to find the right thread, but on one thread mod. 80 even said that icot would make a good moderator.
the truth is that he would. he’s pretty calm, even-handed, smart, and has read sf books (which i think is the main prerequisite for being a mod).
coffee and syag: i agree with you both.
Hah! Thanks to Kapusta, I knew Feivel was mod. 80. she once mentioned that she suspected it – i then read the old threads, and saw that it MUST be true! (though i think mod. 80 is a little more moderate than feivel. (pun intended)
i thought i would have to give in my detective badge, but maybe i can still keep it. i also suspected that mod. 80 was retiring, but i thought icot was taking his place – so i wasn’t quite right about that. i’ve been trying to spy out the mod school, but it’s a little tricky as the school is not plottable, and they keep changing the invisibility spell on it. (I’m not that good at magic, especially the housekeeping ones – maybe i’m a squib?
actually, i’d like to point out the fact that women are actually on a higher level than men. Every day of the first 6 days Hashem created creatures that were on a higher level than the days before. On the 6th day after creating everything else Hashem created man. everything before that was created for the purpose of serving man.
…drumroll….for the important part….
women were created AFTER men –
obviously, man was put there first to serve women.
as mod. 42 says, “simple logic”
Barack Obama and Bill Clinton are men.
Barack Obama and Bill Clinton are not Jewish.
Therefore, men are not Jewish.
Simple logic!
brotherofurs: the chosen is definitely the most innocent of all his books (that i’ve seen).
can’t ask Jothar for the answer to the question – i might get arrested for phishing, and then my cover would be totally blown.
it was very funny reading the old posts – i would skim them (maybe if i read them straight through i would understand, but i kept seeing people write, “Ames, …”.) At first, I thought one of the posters had changed his name like mbachur did to coffee addict, but then saw that that didn’t make sense. ’twas a puzzlement indeed.
glad to see you’re not invisible anymore, or at least not all of the time. maybe if one drinks prune juice they can see you, or maybe it’s because you drank the juice.
wow. so many mysteries are going on in the cr these days. ?
observanteen: thanks so much for the warm welcome.
Your common sense is a rare virtue;).
does that mean everyone else has uncommon sense or common nonsense? 😉
best threads:
feif-on’s relationship advice thread and pba’s motzai shabbos proof that women are better than men thread or something like that
ames – just wanted to let you know that i once started a thread about you – if you can’t find it, ask shticky guy for help. 🙂
it’s not fair to label everyone who disagrees with Jothar, “Joseph”.
i think many people would like to believe that the cr is safe; that’s what’s so fun and nice about it – the feeling that one can be themselves anonymously.
observanteen – i agree with your 2 posts. i also thought that writing one’s profile was required (as it said so) and assumed that no one could see what i wrote, until someone wrote my profession on one of the threads. i quickly changed my profile. also, i’m also totally confused by what everyone is writing here. my only assumption is that the known infamous multi-screen poster around here who has asked people phishing questions has tried to contact someone in real life.
the Jewish world is so small that probably we all know someone who knows someone who knows each of us; so anyone who is not all mentally there or who is not so nice can easily find out who we are in real life. and you’re right – that is scary. i’m scaring myself.
shticky – how much did you end up bribing the mods and which mod was most bribable?
brotherofurs – i don’t know your background and who you are, but chaim potok’s books are generally assumed to be problematic – some better, some worse. sequel to the chosen is definitely not kosher. to answer your question better and more honestly, one would have to know who you are and where you’re coming from. if you’re truly sincere, best to not read it.
okay, i’ll bite. Hi zeeskite. but truthfully, no one can post on this thread.
Since i’ve been out of the cr, i’ve had time for light-reading, and i’m in the middle of the book Fermat’s last theorem. The book mentions the famous Cretan Paradox where a Cretan declares: “I am a liar!” Of course, it’s a paradox, as the statement can neither be true nor false.
So, if I was truly not posting, I could not post on this thread, and if I am posting, I can also not post on this thread.
So what should I do? “Well, what would you do if your mother asked you?” (quote from Dr. Seuss, the original, not to be confused with the CR poster)
i happened to agree with him many times. I think his flaws were using fake screen names and identities (though some like clairvoyant were amusing), his too nosiness into other people (though I look at him as a wannabe psychiatrist, wanting to know and understand everyone, though at times it was too invasive), and his not polished way of stating his extreme views (though i often agreed more with his views than others, i just disagreed with the way he would state them). Generally, people with his views would not be on the cr (which is also why i shouldn’t be here)
just checking in, so bye again. hasta lavista.
ayc –
thanks for the brief welcome. ?
Lol!
can’t go to another thread – my Boss wants me to get back to work, like you wrote in your first paragraph. Thanks for the advice. I think i won’t switch to another department though as there are great benefits and perks where i am now. Though, i may at times have to sit back and enjoy the popcorn.
i was just passing through (reading the news) and saw this thread – it’s hysterical!!!! great answers, feif on! (i especially love your answer to bpt, cuz it’s so true. couldn’t help l(ing)ol.
adorable – mazal tov!!!!!! (didn’t know you were engaged till now. that’s wonderful!
good.jew – i think abba ben aristotle is pba’s father.
i’m not really here – so have a great yom tov everyone and a sweet and healthy new year.
feif on – my only relationship question right now is: how do i have a better relationship with my boss, who happens to be the King of this World? (i might not be looking up the answer, cuz i have a feeling He’d rather me not be here – the coffee here is extremely addictive for me, but you never know. 😉 )
just because people disagree with AZ doesn’t mean that they don’t care about the many singles unmarried. it just means that they don’t agree that this is where the emphasis should be placed. This is similar to a boat with several major holes and one small hole. One guy is getting people to spend tons of money and time fixing the one small hole. If anyone argues and says this may not be the most effective way of saving the boat, he argues, “Don’t you see there’s a hole – don’t you care about saving the boat?!”
It could be that by fixing the major holes, all one needs is a little tape to then fix the small hole.
Talk to the older singles – talk to the people who were older singles. Find out where the real holes are.
i know.
my fingers just couldn’t resist. 🙂
an old, divorced guy?
what’s old? if a 65 year old guy wants to marry a 40 year old woman, the 65 year old guy is old, but if he wants to marry a 60 year old, he’s not old. old, divorced guys can get remarried too if what they are looking for is reasonable and right for them.
or vice verso
the mod is a harry potter fan
da’as: that’s fine that you answered. I was addressing you and AZ and any one else (if there was) who were in agreement with you.
Maybe we don’t disagree at all. I have no problem with people marrying people close to their age or being set up with someone close to their age, if the shadchan is setting them up BECAUSE they seem compatible. My husband is about a year older than me and I always preferred going out with someone 1-2 years older than me. I have a sister who married someone a drop younger than her, and I have a brother who married someone a drop older. My grandmother was older than my grandfather (and still outlived him). And i have a number of siblings where the boy is a few years older than the girl. i could care less about the age difference – what i care about is that each of us married a person very compatible. none of us were set up because of our ages, but rather because of our personalities. If you are just trying to make people aware, for their sake, of the benefit for them to marry a 22 year old, then i support that. i support people who are trying to help others find what they are looking for, if they truly listen and understand the people involved.
zahavasdad: what you’re describing is NOT a big deal for a FFB????????????!?!?!?
help!!!
i think i’m too old to be reading the cr. 🙁
recommendation: kind of a yisro model for shadchanim.
first of all, shadchanim who really care to help both boys and girls find out what they’re really looking for. shadchanim or just plain people who’ve been trained to do so – meet with every boy and girl (it may take more than 1 meeting to get the boys and girls to open up) who are in the parsha, and ask (in order to help -not to judge, criticize, etc. – if they want to go out. (if they get hesistancy, find out why and give good eitza or help (another time i can be more specific – don’t have time now); if still not ready, tell them to not date at all for 6 months and come back to them in 6 months or if ready sooner – make sure they’re getting the help they need or the time and space, if that’s what they need. Then, ask very good questions to completely understand them and what they’re looking for.
Different shadchanim can be responsible for matching different groups of boys and girls. These shadchanim can be in touch with each other or can check the computer to find someone (without names) that might be what the guy (and girl) is looking for. if the guy says, based on that description, he may be interested – then give the name and let the guy check it out.
This way the guys would also want to be on the list – as the shadchanim are interested in helping them find what THEY are looking for and not just in setting up the “poor, nebach girls”.
problem that i have seen is what i’ve stated on many other threads is that people don’t know who they are, what they’re looking for, and/or how to explain to others what that might be.
other problems are people who don’t yet want to go out. (what often happens is that they are pushed to do so before they’re ready, and then a few years down the road, when they really are ready, they’re not coming with the same “oomph” and excitement because they already feel that they’ve been going out for a while.
Dr. Pepper: actually, your idea and all the people talking about what really is the problem what can the solution be, is the inspiration for my idea.
Truthfully, there is even more to my idea, and i only believe it could work if it would be done well – so i agree that it probably may never happen.
I think we both agree that we think that there are too many singles unmarried and that, if possible, something should be done.
I think it’s amazing that you’ve really actually are trying to do something, instead of just sitting back.
Our only difference of opinion, though I may be incorrect, is what exactly is the goal.
From what I’m hearing, the goal is to get as many people married, no matter what – let’s just match them up with people close to their age, and the guys should just go out with these girls not because they may find their bashert this way, but because this is what the Jewish world needs. the guys should sacrifice their wants and needs for the girls.
that’s just not going to happen. then it seems like you’re saying, “we’ll force it to happen, by having shadchanim only set up the guys with those girls.”
my view is that I would like to see as many people married happily as possible, so my stress would be on helping both sides find what they are looking for. if we would somehow succeed at doing this, your complaint seems to be that then there would still be a number of singles unmarried; my answer is I don’t know if that’s true or not – I hear your numbers, but since I don’t think there is something reasonable to do about it, except as Dr. Pepper suggests (and you surely don’t oppose), let’s get more guys married off more quickly, once they do start going out.
AZ: because at 30, even if there are many male 30 year olds, as you have repeatedly stated they can date the 20 – 29 year old girls, and so they are still having people hound them and knock down their doors. Though, some by the age of 30 will go to 1 or 2 shadchanim. A girl by that age will be on the list of still much, much more shadchanim, so the shadchanim will still, whether the numbers are the same or not, have many, many more girls on their lists than boys.
of course: i am truly impressed with you. i can see that you really care about all the girls and truly want to help them. You’re not just after making as many shidduchim as you can, but truly want to help. May there be many more people out there who are like you.