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Randomex- the Brooklyn Strategist sounds very similar to the Uncommons in manhattan, which i’ve been to. Very small, crowded place.
Some simple card games, word games, nothing too competitive.
Sounds like a spacious starbucks is the best place.
A married friend told me to be cautious of PerfectMatches.
BigGolemParticipantlilmod ulelamaid- that’s too bad
BigGolemParticipantOf all the questions, criticisms, craziness, you can bring up when discussing the shidduch processes, your main concern is a possible lack of tznius?
BigGolemParticipantMeno- im actually serious here
BigGolemParticipantLets get back to the first question. I need a place open late in/around Queens, where we could play some boardgames.
BigGolemParticipantI’ve heard of Perfect Matches. Anyone use it? Know where I could get it?
BigGolemParticipantLittle Froggie- Then I apologize for being harsh.
BigGolemParticipantlilmod ulelamaid- or you could offer tidbits and go from there. Your musing will surely stimulate much discussion. I’m just curious.
BigGolemParticipantBeen a big golem my whole life and probably in the previous life too.
BigGolemParticipantbump
BigGolemParticipantIt seems that most on this thread believe the main culprit is bad stuff on the internet. While it’s no doubt a factor, to say it’s the main or only cause, is much too simplistic. It’s also another way of saying it’s all the guys’ fault, which is entirely unfair.
BigGolemParticipantIt’s probably best to play boardgames after a few dates, so it feels more like your playing with a friend than a stranger.
BigGolemParticipantlilmod ulelamaid- why don’t you take a step back, and describe for us what your dating experience has been like, what are the chief complaints you have with the current system, and what do you think is missing with the guys today (or at least the ones you met).
I’m sure you have much to say.
BigGolemParticipantOf course it an’t just with boardgames. If a guy is threatened by a girl besting him in bowling, archery, or whatever, big red flag there.
BigGolemParticipantSo you both think and don’t talk for a bit. Sky won’t fall in.
BigGolemParticipantLittle Froggie- “But of course any highly spiritual female knows that.”
That statement is very condescending. A large segment of klal israel, whose women are frum and eager to get married, cannot simply date 3 or 4 times and be done. To suggest that they are not ‘highly spiritual’ because they don’t conform to your perfected way of doing things, is arrogant and insulting.
BigGolemParticipantI’m surprised that so many here have a low opinion of playing boardgames. If you’ve gone out five times or so, how’s it different from dave and busters or bowling or archery? If you’re the guy and she beats you handily, it’s an opportunity to show you’re a good sport, and praise her for her skill.
BigGolemParticipantBigGolem is a guy.
To lilmod ulelamaid- if a guy can’t handle a girl beating him at a silly boardgame, he’s not mature enough to be there.
BigGolemParticipantTo the OP, how do you know what shidduchim was like in every generation for the past 3000 years? How can you be so absolutely certain that was goes on today is so new?
BigGolemParticipantExactly where in monsey is Vishnitz?
BigGolemParticipantYou ask how to avoid Bitul Torah. Exactly what is that? When does it apply? What are the halochos of Bitul Torah?
Was at a chasuna last night. These things last for hours, most of the time spent doing nothing. Is any of that Bitul Torah?
BigGolemParticipantlightbrite: women are superior to men due to body fat? Seriously? If we’re going that route then men are superior. Men are on average taller and have more muscle mass.
Why are most sporting competitions gender segregated? Why aren’t leading feminists calling calling for men and women to compete as equals? Because few women would win.
BigGolemParticipantIt is Time for Truth: can you elaborate?
BigGolemParticipantlightbrite, and on this earth they don’t?
BigGolemParticipantCome on chevra, let’s get back the main discussion.
BigGolemParticipantWe can ask a broader question. What do the men do in gan eden? Learn? Is there any source that says otherwise?
BigGolemParticipantHey gofish, you ask, imagine if you were a woman would you want such a life. No need to ask. Aren’t the girls told in bais yakov that their greatest aspiration should be to support the husband in kollel and be mother to many kids? The thousands of girls who go through bais yaakov and seminary wanting the learning boy and kollel wife lifestyle, see themselves exactly as you’ve described they don’t.
To add, the chafetz chaim in his intro to mishna brura, says goyim have no afterlife. When they die they simply cease to exist.
BigGolemParticipantGoyim go to gan eden?
BigGolemParticipantLet’s hear some words from the ladies on this forum. What do you think? Is romance a goyishe, treife thing?
BigGolemParticipantWhy just asking about women? Why was Adam created?
BigGolemParticipantThose of you who say the women learn as well, what if they don’t know how? It is only in the last century or so, that, thanks to bais yakov, frum girls can learn something. For many centuries prior, the vast majority of women were totally ignorant, many, despite being extremely pious couldn’t read a siddur. And we know that the bais yakov was met with great opposition.
So, for all those centuries, what did these women do in gan eden?
BigGolemParticipantTheprof1, I was told many times that the meaning of that is learning.
BigGolemParticipant1914? I thought shooting the big macher started that one.
BigGolemParticipantSo I just walk in and ask around for a chavrusa?
BigGolemParticipantWhen, last, did a sandwich start a war?
BigGolemParticipantYou mean like luach.com?
BigGolemParticipantYou’d the klal would be all over this.
BigGolemParticipantHey, coffee addict, let’s brainstorm some solutions.
BigGolemParticipantAny ways of connecting with people beyond my shul?
BigGolemParticipantOk, we’ll try. Perhaps someone here can hook me up.
BigGolemParticipantHas anyone been matched through chavrusamatch? I put up a profile, sent out invites, no takers yet.
Not everyone davens in a shul full of people available to commit to a steady seder.
I am interested in learning mishnayos from the start with the aim of finishing it.
BigGolemParticipantYou found someone with that site?
BigGolemParticipant.
BigGolemParticipantlooking to branch out
BigGolemParticipantHow can I PM you?
You can’t.
BigGolemParticipantGotta be one somewhere.
BigGolemParticipantIs there no database listing such contact information?
BigGolemParticipantThanks. How can I contact them?
BigGolemParticipantTry van heusen. My favorite.
BigGolemParticipantAny takers?
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