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2) I heard it quoted from the sefer Leket Yosher, authored by a talmid of the terumas hadeshen. I never actually looked it up. However, when I heard it quoted it was in the presence of R’ Chaim Kanievsky zt”l and he responded to the questioner about it so it seems like he thought it might be a real thing.

One is allowed to have parve ice cream with fleishigs and there isn’t any maris ayin. This is because it is so common place that everyone knows it is parve ice cream. Maybe the same would be true for scheduling emails?

As for the timer, although Reb Moshe held it was assur, the minhag amongst most of klal yisrael seems to be with the poskim that are matir. so it would seem that this would also be mutar.
(I heard that even Reb Moshe was aware of this fact, though I’d love to hear if anyone has verified information about this)

While ideally one can debate the shailah, there are a number of practical issues to seriously consider before uprooting oneself and family and moving to a different country. Often that means leaving family, friends, business connections, shul, Rav, circle of influence, and more behind. The chinuch system is very different. The Culture is different. The language is different. All of these elements create challenges that we don’t currently have. There can often result in a major disconnect between children and parents as a result of these things too. That’s if the children actually succeed in finding themselves and their identity. Many children struggle with that in very serious ways. How many of us would get up and move our family to a foreign country where they speak a foreign language and we don’t know the schools well just because there are a number of benefits being offered?
Maybe we need to think about where we can be the best that we can be using our full capabilities to fulfill the ratzon hashem and raise our children to be the best they can be too.