bein_hasdorim

I meant enough! not enouph! I cut and pasted your typo mustang.

we are not the same person!

GumBall, seriously, I would change your cute to Sweet!

Although I know you don’t mean it, it may sound disrespectful.

Mods?

and my favorites…

When life gives you lemons ask for salt and tequila!

When life gives you lemons, collect them, one day life will stop and u would have the most lemons ever.

Wow! tab; I’m genuinely impressed!

but the what did they start out as…doesn’t have anything to do with it! I mean what is it now? Is it nice and looks like a dress

fine, is it shlumpy or “Robey” (new word) that is not kavod shabbos

to go outside like that.

I personally, view it as a glorified nightgown.

Take crocs for instance. Crocs started out as ugly, holey,

troll-like foot mushrooms, though they are soo comfortable,

but now there are really stylish ones that look like regular shoes.

Note: there are still many haggy (new word) ones that I see many

ppl wearing on shabbos. They must think it looks nice (it so doesn’t)

oh! GumBall, sorry I now see how unclear it sounds, don’t worry!

Hands down you’re the hyper one!! 🙂 (!!!!!!!!!!!)

I figured as much, then at least tone down on the attempts at having contact with her. Don’t try too hard! and show it, That might get you similar results.

Wow… I could of saved two long posts with this short comment.

That just goes to show you Siyag Lachomoh Shtika.

Or measured words at least.

GumBall; said “this tread was NOT started by me!!!!! lol!!!!!!!!!!”

How can we really be sure? Not enough exclamations?!!!!!!!

Lemme see….GumBalls and yummy cupcake are both food products,

both loaded with sugar, if its not you GumBall, Do you have a twin sister? Although I must admit she is less hyper than you.

I mean “hyper” in a good way! and I don’t mean less hyper in a bad way either.

The Goq;

I suggest a different approach. Though i doubt you’d try it. Especially since it may seem counterproductive and against your nature (which you portray in writing)

It may very well be that she likes you, maybe even more,

but the age difference is just too unacceptable to her.

Feelings of the heart are extremely complex, especially to a young

girl growing up, with an older male relative who shes seldom sees.

Don’t bank on a future, or even that she might like you.

Nevertheless, I suggest this time, you try avoiding her.

Instead of trying so hard to be civil to her and have conversation. This time, show her that you have accepted the fact that she can’t stand you, and that you’re fine with it.

Totally avoid her! Don’t exchange pleasantries, no Gut Yum Tov directed at her, just totally ignore her.

But the important thing is, don’t act mad at her or make it obvious that your avoiding her.

Just be happy and animated with everyone as if she isn’t even there. No glares, just smiles and show her that you accept as a mature adult that she doesn’t want a/t do you w/ you,(in body language and behavior that is) and act as if your fine with it.

I can almost guarantee results. At first she will be ultra fuming

at you when she notices it, i would make sure to leave the table

before the HOT soup is served.

But then it should slowly get her frustrated and try to get your attention. She might even try making fun of you.

here’s the thing… since she makes such an effort to show her feelings,(instead of just regular ignoring or avoiding, that means she wants you to feel her wrath and there is anger directed at you for something.

Maybe anger at herself for feeling sorry for you, or inner feelings, whatever it is, if you do this and wait out the storm,

you’ll get to the real reason why she is avoiding you.

If she takes it cool and in stride for a few days, then

she really doesn’t like you, (for whatever reason)

[unless she has an extreme tough personality]

[then she might even find it amusing and it will take much more

more time to for this to be effective.]

[But don’t worry, I highly doubt that’s the case.

it takes a real character to be amused by getting silent treatment in return]

However if she gets even more mad, you’ll know she likes you.

sometimes like a 6yo boy who pushes the girl he likes in the sandbox, cause he doesn’t know how to communicate,

a teen can have the same proactive logic, especially since

proper communication under the circumstances is almost impossible

and may feel wrong to her or embarrassing.

I wish you Hatzlacha, either way, though im 99% sure you won’t try this.

I have experience in these areas….. (silent treatment etc..)

Don’t ask!

yummy cupcake; (w/ or w/o sprinkles)

Maybe you should give some Tzedakah to Rabbi Meir Bal Hanes kupot,

or to the Tzedakah of your choice as a thank you.

soliek; I sorta agree, we don’t condone this behavior, however we must know for a fact the circumstances surrounding the arrests.

If someone was clearly aware of the situation, and agreed to go ahead and put himself in big possibility that he could create a huge Chilul Hshm, B’RABIM, I don’t know what to say, does the mitzvah of pidyon Shvu’im apply? maybe.

M-80 you took the words outta my mouth. You can use your extra

lulav rings for the s’chach.

Hermi-1 (inside joke)

After reading your post maybe you should find another doctor. j/k

You spray paint em green and sell em as limes.

“Hands you lemons” aint so bad,

when life start throwing them at you, too hard and fast to catch…

that’s a problem.

GB; how’s about orlando? there’s a new park in universal island of adventures dedicated to HP. Should be fun for ur age group.

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1)I think you should keep it! When they make a mistake all the time ripping off and stealing from millions of customers including tons of jews, making billions that is for sure that they don’t give it back.

2)They even give you a hard time when you point it out and ask for a refund. Many time refusing.

3)Also many times it’s no mistake, they blatantly steal from all their customers with hidden fees and charges (nickles and dimes and dollars that add up to serious millions)

So I think it’s a drop in the bucket, and the least you can do to offset these Companies HaGazlonim, is to keep it.

I’m not talking about personal stores or banks that you enter, which you must immediately return making a K”H, but specifically cell phone companies that are ALL known crooks.

Also you have to consider that they will realize on their own and retract their credit.

If you tell em you’re jewish, and return it it might make a K”H

though, even for a second, that is, if the Pakistani operator even knows what Jewish means.

sea shells; you’re kidding, right?

Lemme help you. What exactly do bananas do to your digestive system?

The exact opposite! (this is gross)

600K; This a complex question, I believe Harav Chaim Kanievsky discusses a similar dilemma.

I have heard that many shuls who have these type of kiruv gathering with the knowing of the possibility of some people driving there but not immediately addressing it, have a huge success rate within one year of most of their crowd becoming proud Shomerei Shabbos.

You have to understand that for a person who is living a

certain lifestyle and is

a) unaware of the issurim

b) clueless of the reason behind it

c) unaware of the joy and warmth of being religious

d) very hard to drop a certain practice they’re used to and have been doing for ages, in one shot

So I’m not paskening, but telling these clueless people

you “can’t come join us” and feel the warmth, or find out the truth unless you stop doing something you are very used to, don’t even know it’s wrong, or why it’s wrong on the promise of first

give it up everything, then well explain it…

I can see how it could be a struggle and not easy to reach them

this way. Though one has to always ask a Sheilah with a every case specifically as it tends to make a difference when it can be allowed and when it cannot.

You’re very welcome! When the time comes, pls let us know the great news. [correction “Yofeh Torah Im Derech Eretz.”]

Nothing wrong w/ u. everybody has their own pace. Just focus on other important things like getting yourself ready for it, for when you will be ready. Those who worry too much, just end up waiting longer. Just focus on character refinement, work, keeping up with friends. Helping others is a good preparation for when you will be married.

I would also suggest you focus on who you are. (for real)

Being honest with oneself is crucial.

Think about what makes you thrive, what type of home you’d like to have, and in turn what type of guy you need and want, to acheive your goals.

This is advice for you and any other girls your age who are

in the parsha or about to enter the parsha, of shidduchim that is, not parshas Vayetzei, but parshas Toldos.

People are too busy with the “dating scene” as if it’s

some sort of black friday shopping rush, or dash,

focusing on getting a major Metziya, but in the end when they

take it home it has to fit “them.”

There is a very bad return policy, so unless you were aware of this policy before you ran out shopping and did some soul searching to understand what it is you need, and what would fit you,(not your parents or friends) and what would look good on you, and bring out the color in your eyes and heart,

you can really get yourself messed up investing a lot of money, time, and emotion into something that was doomed from the very beginning.

I hope this message resonates with my fellow sisters and brothers

in klal yisroel.

So everyone should be wise as to what they need and hence what they should look for, instead of what they want even if it doesn’t fit.

Oh! in closing “taking a break;” your very normal! Hatzlacha!

I totally agree! I’m a New Yorker, and i’m one of the nicest people i know! Even my alter ego is pretty nice as well.

(but i’m not sure it’s a New Yorker) maybe Hawaiian.

miritchka; It pains me to hear this.

I have tried to remain active in shidduchim having people in mind,

but till now, i’ve never heard of girls not redt even ONE shiduch

for a few years?!!!

I wish i knew how to help them.

If you can post their names as plonis bas plonis.

leaving the girls actual names as “plonis” bas their mothers name

i’d like to have them in mind. Thanx!

pascha bchochma; drink plenty of water, and poweraid.

Eat complex carbohydrates right before the fast,

I personally suggest you eat some pastaand whole wheat bread.

Then right befor the fast take two tablespoons of honey.

That should help you fast well. Hatzlacha.

P.S. towards the end when you’re getting weak, you should lie down to rest. You don’t have to be in shul the whole day, if your a woman. After you have davened for mercy and regretted past deeds,

and done teshuvah, the ikar is to be M’uneh.

that is done by fasting, So you can go home in afternoon to rest.

I wish all of klal Yisroel a meaningful, healthy fast.

Bezalel; black eye peas is actually “Rubiya”

we have

apple_honey,

pomegranate,

Rosh Keves or Rosh Dag,

black eye peas,

beets,

leek,

spinach,

carrots,

all simanim

among other things.

BaalHabooze; you mean P’ru R’vu is Gematriya tapuach,

not P’ru U’rvu. Good one!