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Winkers! I CAN’T STAND WINKERS!!!
Once in a while something warrants a wink. There are some people however that wink all the time!
It’s a little creepy to be on the receiving end even for a guy.
Especially nebach, for a girl. Please winkers of the world, try a big smile instead, or snap your finger and point saying “back at ya”
Please stop this excessive winkage! You’re creeping us out!!!
?us up q?
it’s actually all upside down
Cool!
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bein_hasdorim
BTGuy; I would check, but i’m not a fan o’ ticks.
bpt; I chuckled, but didn’t want to ruin it 4 anyone 1st seeing it.
I think the brand started branching out into umbrella production as well.
Oh! your looking for the The Elders of Zion.
You can easily find “The Elders” on Mount of Olives. Many of the elders are located on Mount of Olives, also know in Hebrew as Har Hazeitim. You can visit the Mountain In Jerusalem simply by booking a flight and hiring a tour guide. Maybe you can find some answers there. Be sure to bring some candles.
As for the book, I wasn’t aware that they published a book
about the Elders.
scissors runner; LOL!!! I can’t believe it!
a few years ago I had a Tuna sandwich and it tasted off, and the same thing was going through my mind. That’s insane! I guess I’m not the only one wired that way. Did you lose your appetite too? If so you must be a long lost twin. Good luck eating hotdogs.
CRUNCH! (Is that a chickens nails or beak?) BLECH!
Hey buddy! Take a number and GET in line like the rest of us.
I have a very long list, but from the WORST is body odor, people who think showers are like shabbos, once a week or people who aren’t clean. I won’t eat by such a person let alone sit next to them.
If I had my way, Showers would be taken by ALL twice a day,
in the A.M. & P.M. OR AT LEAST DAILY, and the heavy people THRICE daily.
No offense, but overweight people really can’t get away with taking a shower just in the a.m. They sweat more and it is noticed. (sorry)
Since I’m on topic although I hate to bring this up, I feel I must L’toe’eles H’rabim (or at least myself)
There are people who seem normal mentally, but somehow weren’t taught as a child to properly cleanse themselves after a vist to the restroom. As gross as it is to talk about it, it is exceedingly more disturbing to suffer the consequences of their actions, or shall I say lack thereof.
Aside for it being Assur for them to daven this way, It is Assur for the rest of us to daven next to them as well. Aside from that it causes them a really bad name as being Nebach A Bissel Tzudreit.
If you only knew how much embarrassment you caused yourselves
and how people are now grossed out by you, and now totally view you as being in a different area code, and avoid standing next to you at all costs. Not to mention the stench you leave in the area you left which lingers and legally could be quarantined.
Im not talking about older people, or ill people.
Just seemingly normal adults that might as well be in kindergarden.
Please try to focus on this issue. It is inexcusable and i’m sick and tired of having to deal with these type of people and planning my escape route.
They don’t HAVE Internet. Internet HAS them!!!
Anything but the I-phone. Bunch of ganavim.
The gum cigarettes. Do they still make em?
(as far as the regular Assur Mide’Oraysoh cigarettes, none)
and I asked my LOR, the gum cigarettes are not assur Mitam Maras Ayin. The fake smoke doesn’t fool anyone. 😉
Syag; I notice you beat me to the chase.
They’re good aren’t they? Almost crunchy.
Frum, married, female, part time fashion model.
The rest of the time a devoted kolel wife and mother.
my name means in between sedorim.
1st seder I model fashion, then it is Lunchtime.
2rd seder is housewife.
My favorite seder is lunch hence bein_hasdorim.
did I put your mind at ease now?
ATG;
Answers are
a) They leave more often than children to the RR.
b) There is an Inyan of Tirche D’tzibure
If we were to let them lead, the prayers service would never end.
No limit! until you’re answered. If the thing you ask for is good for you that is.
After you’re answered there is also no limit to thanking HB”H.
You should thank him everyday for giving you what you asked for.
How lucky are those people who live at a street that’s named after them! Must cost a nice few bucks.
and that you live at {Insert Your Name Here}.
Wow! How’d you know I live at the intersection of Bein_Hasdorim
in between Bein Street and Hasdorim Ave.
Now I have to move. Thanks a lot ZeesKite!
Tell him to eat the following ingredients I forget the measurements.
Chocolate especially dark, has flavonoids and antioxidants
Green tea – antioxidants, lowers total cholesterol levels,
Pizza, cheese = calcium, sauce = lycopene
Lasagna, same
milkshakes and ice cream, rich in calcium.
Let us hope they remain exclusively in the previous year, and not be repeated ever again!!!
More funny at the time, well, here goes.
You know when you’re dating and sometimes the girl has no grasp of what sarcasm is. Well, one time when I was dating, after about a half an hour I warmed up a little and started to share my sense of humor.
I quickly realized that this girl was just not getting any whiff
of sarcasm even with a strong emphasis on my tone. Realizing that there was no chance of a future with a girl that doesn’t get me, or it.
So I became curious as to what was the limit, and if I could push it. When would she finally say “I don’t believe you.”
I started being sarcastic making up stuff I did, places I went,
being chased by cops, arabs, miraculously escaping trouble.
I believe I told her I lightly hit some drunk guy with the car, and since nobody noticed including him, I just kept on going.
LOL! Her eyes got wider and wider but she kept on believing.
It was too funny, she started thinking I was insane, but totally believed everything. I started worrying about my reputation so I told her to keep my adventures private as I was confiding in her.
There was much silence from her the rest of the date as she couldn’t top my stories.
When I pulled up in front of her house, the car was still moving when she flung open the door, bolting out like the car was on fire. She probably just needed the restroom.
I didn’t even have to tell the Shadchan no or the reason B”H,
She was very clear in her refusal to try again.
I felt kind of bad…
cause I had some more awesome stories to tell her.
I guess she was embarrassed to tell others she dated an adventurer
because B”H I never had to explain to the Shadchan what went on.
MG; Also the twelfth person if two ppl need to go.
Gumballs are so colorful, well rounded, flavorful, and fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OoooOO
OOOOoOO
OOOOOoO
OoOooO
Especially this one particular Gumball.
miritchka; It is unavoidable. Though I do think they should leave these people alone and let them be. Unless you can help in any way.
Don’t stare at these yidden in public, and don’t make them feel uncomfortable trying to make yourself feel good.
If it’s free sure, Birchas Hediot… If it costs money, I have a bridge to sell you. Free maintenance included.
Shein;
Let me be very clear. Firstly, I was referring to single girls
“looking for a shidduch”, who do not dress up to date, (rather quite nebby) to dress up to date in order make themselves more appealing to the other side, or at least not to detract them by dressing shlumpy.
I am not talking about married women, who if their husband
preferred it IMHO should ALSO dress up to date.
If their husband does not care, (he is into higher things)
it is their choice to dress as nebby as they want if
it isn’t considered unattractive to their spouse.
If your cannot decipher answers to both your questions from these
statements… I’ll clarify myself.
A Rebbe or Rosh Yeshiva, older respectable ones that is,
(not talking about a young person) Should be on a higher spiritual level and not feel meshubad to any style or mode. Their wifes in turn being their spiritual partner shouldn’t either be tied down
to fashion or the need to wear the latest designer labels.
That still doesn’t mean they should dress nebby. They should look classy and regal in a way that makes them stand out as more respectable. If they followed the latest fashion and wore the latest labels, it would detract from their respectability and
in turn the Kavod of their husbands, and other women would view them as peers just as materialistic as themselves.
Although all of klal Yisroel are considered royalty,
our leaders are the cream of the crop, and just like Lehavdil, a king or president wouldn’t address the nation at the podium in Crocs, (aside from Obama) So too do we expect our leaders to not just be different in their behavior but their dress as well.
Just imagine a Choshuve Rosh Yeshiva that his wife was know to be obsessed by fashion and always wearing the latest. It certainly would detract from her and her husbands Kavod.
Not because it is halachacally wrong, it just doesn’t Pass for
her title to be so into materialism.
Again, the general nation has always been below the level of our leaders. The problem with this Chatzuf generation is that everyone feels themselves a Gadol Hador, or a Rosh Yeshiva, or at least a Talmud Chacham. When this attitude allows them to disrespect those who are worthy, that is a problem.
Oh, I almost forgot, if a so called R”Y or Rebbe needs his wife to wear the latest designers and be in the height of fashion,
I, would not consider him a Rosh Yeshiva or Rebbe, and I doubt most ehrliche yidden would, either.
Thanks Jothar! I heard the opposite, it was used as a haskama.
It’s good to know the truth. I’m Bl’n gonna look it up tonight.
Goq;
If anyone fitting the profile ends up on my doorstep,
I have miniature toothpaste and toothbrushes I hand out.
I tell them to spread the word….They do,
They never come again… 🙂
I still don’t understand you. Are you saying that like every bocher is gonna be a future Rosh yeshiva and every girl a future rebitzin?
The same way a tamid chochom shouldn’t be shleping a goat in the street doesn’t make it wrong for any person to do so.
It won’t even be considered a Middas Chassidus if yankel the farmer
stopped being seen with his cattle.
A Talmid Chochom has extra behavior requirements and as such must do things differenly than everyone else. Anything pertaining to him, his wife for instance must also consider this and make sure to coincide with his behavior lest it take away from his kovod which is Kavod Hatorah. So If everybody eats in a pizza shop they don’t sit down and eat there to be muvdal, and different from the rest.
If the rest all wore purple he would wear blue or black.
Not because the color purple is assur, just to be different, Muvdal.
Shein; Why do Roshei Yeshiva not wear suits, short jackets?
What’s wrong? Is it Assur? Why cant they wear a suit like everyone else? Why do they have to be different?
Why does a Rebbe wear a fancy Tish Beketsha covered in gold flowers or blue, whatever. Why not a simple black Beketsha? We know who he is, we wont lose him in the crowd.
He sits in a special chair. Isnt that enough?
Ms Crit; “who may always know, but not necessarily answer correctly”
I don’t believe it’s in that order.
But we hear ya.
It says he should wait a little, the time it takes for him to walk 8 feet, so he can have yishuv haddas so he can arrange his tefilos.
If that time has passed around 8-10 seconds, he can start with the Bal Tefilah, He doesn’t have to wait. Although he would miss Modim D’rabanan. He can say that in a different minyan. Its his choice, though I suggest the former as It might be considered a hefsek if he waits till after davening to make an hashlamah.
He does not have to be mechadesh anything(an additional request) in his tefillah, if he was an Oneis, as this is called a tefilas “Hashlama.”
Only if it is a tefillas Nedavah then one must add a new prayer.
Tefilas Hashlama can be done in the immediate following Shemoneh Esrei Of Shacharis Mincha and Maariv. If two prayers have passed he can only fix the latter one.
If he missed Shacharis and Mincha, he can daven at maariv two Shmoneh Esreis the first for maariv the second for Mincha, and he has lost the opportunity to redo Shacharis.
But He can do a Tefilas Nedava and in that he must be Mechadesh,
create a new personal prayer not included in the Shomneh Esrei.
I strongly remind one that when davening a Tefilas Nedavah,
one should make sure to concentrate the entire prayer as to what they are saying as this is a Nedava, and it will have an opposite
affect if one come to pray a nedavah and doesnt concentrate.
An Hashlama is something you can correct in the next prayer service if you were an Oneis (unable due unavoidable circustances not being your choice.) It’s not easy to define clearly.
A Nedavah is a prayer one wishes to give of his own accord just because. Not necessarily having to do with missing any prayer.
A Nedevah Requires that one should add a personal prayer, a chiddush, in addition ro what one normally says.
I believe a Meizid cannot daven a tefillas Hashlamah.
He can later pray a tefilas Neddava.
though I suggest one looks this up before they act.
Shein;
1) Im talking about guys single not married, yes they tend to be slimmer.
2)For the same reason Rebbes and Rosh Yeshivas don’t dress up to date.
I havent seen a respectable rosh yeshiva with a pink tie …yet.
or an Armani Frak. I havent seen a Chosuva rebbe wearing Prada eye wear.
They are supposed to be Muram Me’ha’am. That doesn’t make it wrong to dress with it.
Some Rosh Yeshivas don’t use cell phones, at least in public. That doesn’t make it wrong to use one. It just doesn’t “Pass” for them.
(I’d like to argue with you that some rebbes wives as well as some Roshei Yeshivas spouses do very much dress in style.)
You obviously haven’t been around. Does it “Pass”? Not Really!
but I assure you (sadly) it is done. Not a majority, but you assume its unheard of.
Yes, In my opinion a Rebbe should look like hes from another century, another time. Maybe that’s just me.
Cinder;
When I was dating, I wanted a slim, nice looking girl.
I was slim, (still am) dressed sharp, (still do) and I haven’t gotten any complaints about my appearance B”H.
Many guys I know are like that. They are handsome, dress well,
don’t smoke, and want a similar partner similar to themselves.
I don’t see the big avleh. It so happens, not to C”V knock anyone,
but girls tend to be more on the heavy side than boys.
Maybe it’s from helping their mother bake cakes after school,
or from not playing basketball everyday, or lacking a physical outlet or introduction to one, or having it accepted as Tzniusdik.
Be that as it may, many slim guys in their 20’s – 30’s struggle with an abundance of fuller girls on the market as opposed to slimmer ones.
Today with the younger generation things are different than say 20 years ago, and there seems to be more activities being done by girls as well as a bigger awareness about health and physique.
So I guess today’s young teenagers when they hit the market wont have to worry about “is she skinny?” although I shudder thinking of what the new problem will be. As today most younger teens are skinny, dress very much within the boundaries of style,some are very stylish indeed, even from more chasiddishe circles.
So maybe i should be positive and assume they won’t have to worry
about gashmius, only of how good a girl she is.
So the shidduch crises should stop with the younger generation BH!
Though I secretly pray they wont pull out a new measuring stick entirely just to scour the market like one looks for an esrog.
That may be another reason why so many guys are looking for younger girls, as they tend to not be so nebby, and not dress so shlumpy, no offense to the older girls, I just wonder why they wouldn’t get with the program for their own sake.
As an amateur shaddchan I noticed this difference between younger and older girls.
I suggest to these older girls who aren’t particularly makpid on dressing with it, to please ask a younger sibling to help you.
You don’t have to compromise on Tznius, but you have to try to dress like your from this current time and are not from Amish country.
Please don’t take offense, this is only for your benefit.
The guys are a little too much aware 🙁 of what is with it and what is nebby, maybe its their mothers, or sisters fault, maybe just technology and yeridas hadoros, but you have to acknowledge
this and take the necessary steps.
Again, no compromise on Tznius, but some of you mistakenly equate dressing up to date with being Un-tzanua. That is Not the case.
GumBall; I cant believe you misspelled it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
cinder; firstly, about HB”H, there are ways, it doesn’t take a few talks to convince someone, sometimes ppl are pushed away from believing in HB”H because they don’t see the G-dliness in ppl.
Although in nature it it as clear as day. By restoring the persons faith in people (i don’t mean actual faith) letting your Tzelem Elkm shine thru. Over time one can come around to acknowlege what their heart knows to be true.
Discussing stories of chassidim and tzaddikim, even if she doesn’t believe them, just to hear some strong concepts of Ahavas Hsm
and Emunas Tzaddikim in Hsm, can plant seed of awakening.
It might take time maybe years later, but if you let these
seeds of light enter her consciousness you may be directly
responsible for her being chozer bitshuvah many years later.
Even if she laughs at the stories…..
It WILL hit home!!!!!!!
2) you must support her strongly, (aside from it being wrong)
as you clearly state, He is trying to convince her to do a bunch of things “she does not want to do”
So tell her she should absolutely not do anything she does not want to do, or let herself be influenced to change her mind.
I don’t know how old you are but if you are old enough you can clearly convince her the pain and regret she will surely have not being able to undo things.
1)giving herself away to someone unworthy,
unworthy how? trying to persuade her to do things against her will. [Also pregnancy is an issue.] tell her to read stories
of how young girls unsuspecting had their lives turned upside down
and inside out ruining their youth etc…
I’m not sure what your asking as far as the step brother,
not knowing all the details, but if she is in real danger,
i.e he comes around threatening her, you should give her
the number of an abuse hotline.
cinder; Ur very welcome. I like to clarify things.
I also like to make ppl smile. Sometimes I can’t do both at the same time. 🙁
stuck how old is the boy?
Derech; I believe what derech is objecting too, is just that!
A Trophy Wife.
A Trophy wife does not mean a pretty or attractive wife,
or a super companion. A true trophy wife, means a wife who is chosen to show off with, more specifically in the physical appearance department, (what they call hot) is assur in every way.
1)Lo Tachmod Aishes Reiecho (Aseres Hadibros)
2)Hatzneh leches
3)Me’od Me’od hevei shefal ruach,
4)one is knowingly choosing a woman who will be machshil
people by choosing a attractive partner for that reason so people will look and say wow, or think it, causing other to be Muchshal in Hirhur of Aishes Ish (If not worse R”L)
It might also cause shalom bayis problems for other people.
Maybe he’ll come home saying “why cant you dress like Shmoiger Bal Gaavas Wife?!” The Aishes Fas Poar! I mean Yefas Toar”
Not to mention all the Ayin Horahs!
Note; it is not assur to look for an attractive wife if it it what you want, need, or require, or all the above, just as long your reason is solely personal. Any obsessions based on her positive physical attributes in order to impress others, based on what others will say, is a big problem in middos, character, self esteem, and probably sanity. We are not goyim!
It always bothered me when guys ask like, what do they say in the street about her, is she pretty? without having their own opinion
on the matter, its sick! If you like the way she looks, great.
If you have no clue, then take whatever you like.
Don’t look for a spouse in order to please strangers.
If it’s not for your own personal desire, it’s just all the heartache without any benefits.
Nobody will like you more because you have an attractive wife,
They might act that way, (but believe me it’s not you they’re interested in) So why get yourself into all this trouble.
If not for practicality, then at least for the four reasons i listed above. If your not makpid on a gorgeous girl, be sensible,
besides not many girls are gorgeous, and those who are usually lean on that, while the others actually work on being gorgeous on the inside, and it shows on the outside as well if you look with the right set of eyes, yiddishe eyes that is.
Jo; vehakol ratzin achareyha, kinda impressive, isn’t it?
thank goodness they generally look nice.
Imagine if they didn’t, gezeiras hamelech wud still prevail.
B”H Broiv Rachamov Oleinu.
Cud u imagine being obsessed with playing in the mud as an adult,
then to exit covered in mud wondering why did I just do that?
I know that the legitimate ones that do “Up Shperchin” are yerushalmi women who have been taught the proper way by
great-great- grandmother passed down mother to daughter, for many generations. There was a famous name whom was known and popular in yerushalayim, I know ehliche people who sent their children to this particular family (woman) but that was over almost 50 years ago, it was a known by practice by the yershalmi’s and if it was any issur of imitating the goyim it would’ve been Assured way back and wouldnt of made it this far.
Though most people who do it today, who cannot trace it back many generations in their family..you must know, like most mekubalim today….(ahem!)
Also most practices the goyim actually took from us, just as most
of christianity, muslims, took their monotheism, customs, (warped versions) and concepts from us.
I heard the tzemach tzedek has a teshuva that it can be done on shabbos for a choleh Mesukan (pikuach nefesh) for it is baduk Umenusa that it helps.
(I can’t verify the that this teshuvha legitimately exists.)
So the great big Gasheekee king who was admired by all the land except this “knew him by the name of” fella.
So the king had his head chopped off. Then they all lived happily ever after….or did they?…
The end…or maybe just the beginning!
R”G; Actually In the past, after a bad date i’d lay OFF the booze for a while…
Dr. Zois;
I happened to have met him many years ago and as far as i’m concerned, bein adam L’chaveiro he seemed a Mentch,
he wasn’t stuck up like most famous people I’ve met, and had time for everybody, I chapped a schmooze with him.
Bein Adom L’makom however… he obviously doesn’t seem religious.
toomuch00; Thanks! I almost forgot to mention aside from
1)vitamin D
2)white teeth (= beautiful smile)
3)strong bones
4)”ice cream sharpens your sense of humor.”
ask my friends…they try to stop me from eating too much.
After they laugh too hard they start crying(don’t ask me)
But don’t eat it too quickly… ouch! brain freeze!
slow down and enjoy!
mommamia22; No the succah roof stays flat as well as the schach.
there is just a frame of wood built to sit atop the schach.
like four pieces for the frame.
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then four pieces like the legs of a table going up on each corner.
first two shorter back two longer
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then a frame above them, leaving you with a frame work that allows
to place a tarp above it that can be rolled down above succah and schach! hard to draw here.
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now that looks like a 5yo drawing, sorry.
SG-613 How about…. sugar. Lots of it!
Quite frankly i’m surprised at the Mods.
It shouldn’t pass!!! This is HB”H,
she’s talking about!
HELLO MODS!!! WOULD YOU PLEASE CORRECT THIS!
Thank you!
Even so that shouldn’t make you exempt from due diligence. Hatzlacha!
observanteen asks;
Do you guys ever get frustrated with yourself?
With myself? No! With everyone else, YES!
j/k of course. Just take a deep breath,
breath in<
happiness and hopebreath out
>all the frustration and negativity.smile… 🙂
Then go treat yourself to an ice cream.
If you’re fleishig you still have wonderful pareve options B”H in most jewish neighborhoods across the world.
Why you ask? Cuz ice cream is important, like a big smile!
and together they are unstoppable!!!
Pareve doesn’t compare? No, but it’s just a pre ice cream treat.
When you get pareve you get to go again. More ice cream!
If you live in B.P. and frequent “Zisseh Leik”
“Sweet lick” in yiddish (j/k) you might run into me often.
I’m that frustrated! 🙂
I don’t do sprinkles, cuz i’m a besereh mentch!
which means I don’t care to wait in long lines with sugar addicted
teenage girls, or have toddlers leave me a table cleaned with chocolate ice cream instead of fantastic.
you have some talent. You summed it up very nicely.
Why?! Cuz you’d freak the living daylights out of the rest of us.
Please keep your shaved head under wraps.
From all of us,
Thank you!