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goldielox; buy some english seforim on middos & mussar.
Firstly, it’s beneficial for your soul, secondly it always
helps people fall asleep. Not to make fun cuz seriously
I think the reason is that “Toirah Matisho Koichos Shel Odom.”
It weakens a persons Physical strengths.
Hatzlacha!
Chosson; Even w/ filtered internet I believe children should be supervised, the internet is a beast by nature, & I wouldn’t take any chances w/ my kids. Some kids are good at finding loop holes etc…
Yes Sac; even Super De:)Duper filtered internet.
V’nishmartem MEOD, that’s what meod means in my dictionary.
where there is a potential danger you don’t just rely on one geder or precaution. But hey, that’s just my opinion.
Maybe we can say pshat in this weeks parsha,
when HB”H tells Avrom, “Lech, Lecha” Chazal say that although
malachim are in a madregah of Omeid, they stay on their
spritual level & cant really rise higher or (generaly) lower.
A person however, an Adam is a Holech, he goes from Madregah to Madregah. He can fall very low, but he can rise to the highest levels even higher then malachim.
Like it is mentioned in next weeks Parsha Vayera by Avrohom
when he saw the Malachim (Angels),first it says they were “Nitzavim Olov” but after the mitzvah he did with Mesiras Nefesh & Zrizus, when it says V’hu Omeid Aleihem, That Avraham Aveinu Was Above them, on a higher level then the Angels.
So we can Teitch “Lech, Lecha” HB”H tells us all “Lech, Lecha!”
Go! Become a Holeich, rise up to the heights I created you to be!
I know there are many difficulties. Trials, hardships, and obstacles my dear child but Lecha! it’s for your own good.
Just like avraham had to leave his birth & home land, and wander around like a homeless person, going through many Nisyoinos,
trouble with Pharoh etc… but it all ended up bein Letoiva!
So too, we have many trial in this world but HB”H says “rise
up to the challenge my Dear Child” it’s Lecha, For your own good and success. May we Merit to rise up to the highest heights
giving our Dearest Father in heaven Tons of Nachas! Omein!
sac; That’s it, no more stories. 😉
Chungarian with the Ches Sound it means Hungarian, in Hungarian.
(:-0 LOL! Sometimes I crack myself up!)
Sac;
Hooked on Phonoics really did wonders 4u, “dat pwetty cwose”
it wasn’t so much about the spelling than the hebrew meaning.
in chasidishe pronounciation it sounds like the place Gilo,
instead of uncovering, i.e. Giluy
1987; First of all, children should NOT be online w/o total adult supervision!
If you do not agree, then you have a lot worse to worry about then YWN/CR.
Att: mods; the thread spelled “Giloy” Arayos, is spelled wrong
it should be Gilui or Giluy, or whatever you think.
So I forgot my wallet! big deal!
I came out of the shower left it on the bed, as I was rushing,
(i’m usually on time……………………..occasionally)
I realized in the lounge in middle of the date, by me the girl had nothing on her. So I asked her if she would be fine w/ making
a run for it when we were done, she was cool with it, but I ended up calling a friend having him drive down with some cash.
If this gives me away too bad, I have too many stories,
it’s about time I shared.
hadaLXTP; I’m happy to hear i wasn’t the only one to forget his wallet.
to be continued on the funny shidduch stories.
not so funny to me, maybe to the girl.
Daas Yochid; what about Loy Tovi To’eivah El Beisecha?
its_me; whoa! In no way was i making fun C”V of reb Amnon Yitzchak
Shlita who is a super bal Mekarev, and has brought thousands of yidden back to yiddishkeit.
I was poking fun at stuff that Absolutely do not require a hechsher, but get one, making yidden pay extra, for these
items, the brainchild of some business minded folk who are close
to some beis din or chosuve rov, convincing him of the benefits
of their product L’toivas Ha’klal.
taking advantage of the fact that many yidden especially in E”Y
try to do the right thing on the highest level.
I feel bad for those ppl although they do it l’sheim shomayim & will be greatly rewarded for it, they are still being taken advantage of. Read my earlier post on pg. 1 to see my opinion.
apushatayid; mishugasin always match the times. 😉
You’ll catch up, but some things are just ridiculous & even though a certain shadchan may suggest or ask some things,
use common sense, and if it sounds or feels wrong,
go with your instincts & put your foot down.
You’d be amazed at what some t’mimusdige ppl would do just bec
the shadchan or the neighbor said.
Shloimies Shver; there’s reminding, politely suggesting, and then there’s commanding & demanding. we’re talking about the last two.
Sacrilege; I’m sorry, I usually remembered to bring my wallet.
pascha bchochma; I’m sorry, They came outta nowhere!
It is totally irresponsible for a girl to come on a date w/o
a purse, or some cash, cell phone (turned off) in case of emergency.
Guys are human too and can forget wallet or cell phone,
or battery dies etc.. use your imagination.
In case of emergency ones needs to be prepared.
Also on the rare occasion that the guy is a creep,
Especially for older singles, A woman should not leave herself
vulnerable, since she comes into his car she has to have some backup.
That doesn’t mean you ladies should bring half of your medicine
cabinet & closet on the date either. If the guy has to pop the trunk for your little purse, you might’ve overdone it.
Mod-80 Wow that drives the point home. Thanks!
Sacrilege; common, you have to round off! j/k
the rule is, whatever says on the license, Azoi Iz!
even if they seem much shorter. 🙂
New York is great cuz I live here.
But please there’s no place like home, Yerushalayim Iyr Hakodesh!
Yidden! Never forget that!
With all the mansions, lexus, decent tap water, pizza, & nyc shopping designer clothes, borsalinos w/o gold & gems
all over, ;-)(tacky much) white shirts that stay white.
I’m still not here for the long haul, just camping out.
I wanna go home!
theprof1; I just saw ur post, you get it!
Sacrilege; wow! they have greasy BYs? but at least they
got that point right.
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apushatayid;
You missed the point! Perhaps I wasn’t clear enough,
I’m referring to misleading someone. If she wants to put her height as 5’8 with six inch heels, let her write “wearing 6 inch heels!” or say “i’m 6’8 standing on step stool”
If however you believe being honest is being petty,
lemme tell ya, ppl who are kinda short, tend to round off to the next inch skipping two inches in between for good measure, so for a guy w/ average height, a girl 5’2 is not such an issue,
whereas 4’9 might be.
Sac; I know some ppl might come off as sounding extreme when they say stay away from movies w/ nudity & sensual content, however trust me if you know anything about a jewish soul, (not that im an expert) I just read some holy seforim on the topic,
you’d know that these movies and what one see with their eyes, affects them on a conscious as well as a subconscious level. they leave imprints on ones mind, & memory.
Even when you think you can hardly remember what you ate last week,images of a pure or impure nature are burnt into ones mind much like a dvd-rw but cannot be erased like a dvd-rw. It also desensitises ones natural unique pureness and with time makes hazy ones morals ideals, and beliefs.
Yidden R”L who watch All types movies on a regular basis, will try to defend it, say it doesn’ t affect them, “on the contrary, it inspires them educates them etc.”
I’m sorry to say.. it’s a bunch of baloney or bolonga.
It also distorts ones reality, warps one’s imagination & reality.
e.g. A thing you might’ve never though about, might cross your mind if only for a second. Then if an opportunity presented itself, one might find themselves following it.
NOT a good opportunity. Later that person might wonder how they ever fell for that, & can’t believehow they could’ve did that.
This is all thanks to movies, which sole purpose, aside for making many people in the industry insanely rich, is to give people what they want, but could never have in real life, Perfection.
Be it superpowers, Respect, Wealth, the prettiest smartest wife, the cutest kids, a super job, sportscars in the driveway, mansions and private jets, everybody likes you,
you always have to coolest lines, when you walk down the street everybody greets you with a smile, calling you sir, or boss, or madam, you always manage to save the world, diffuse the bomb in the last second 00:00:01. “whew that was close!” “If it wasn’t
for Ploni we’d all be dead” (ploni’s not a popular name in films)
I’m writing a lot here to bring out the point crystal clear.
Please, if want to watch a movie, make sure it not very often, and make sure it is clean like no nudity etc, no killings, etc.. It for the benfit of your life, & everlasting soul.
I’m not extremist, i’m a realist!
popa_bar_abba says;
Yes, a friend of mine was on a date and the girl tripped. He reflexively put out his arm to catch her. So the lunatic girl maced him.
b_h says Ha! Ha! Ha! LOL!!! Lucky guy, I got tazered!
apushatayid; Do you think it would be fair for a short boy to write on his resume’ his height (when he’s wearing his Borsalino?)
as regular height. 😉
I dont think that’d be fair for the girl.
After all she might trip over him later if he takes off his hat. Not fair!
On a drivers license, I hear, Nu.. al tifrosh min hatzibur.
It’s a sign of the times, moshiach is otw!
But it is not dead, just more rare to find.
well.. volunteering at the local soup kitchen, handing out toys for kids.
Then there’s dancing for the blind, & singing for the deaf,
marathons with the paralized. walking with the dead.
Today there really are many opportunities to help the others despite any lack of talent or creativity, yes, it’s a feel good world. Jump in at any time. You wont regret it, No one will complain. BECOME A VOLUNTEER.
(idk what this has 2do w/ op, whatever)
I”m just taking a vote here, how many of you guys back when you were dating forgot exactly where you parked your car?
In a place like NYC? ……..Anyone? ……..Never?!!
I thought so! Me neither! 😉
txgirl; ur story had me laughing my head off!!!
“Nu- eppis a niggun?!” LOL!
hudi; I’m surprised you forgot to include a current copy of fathers bank & savings accounts. J/K, however
including height w/o heels is now a new trend,
to avoid any confusion.
Answering the original question,
Stability, a plan, a degree, a pending degree, Money, Gelt, Kesef, Dinera,
and of course the potential to make more money.
Oh! I almost forgot, middos are also verrry important,
as well as looks. but if the first ingredient i mention is there
looks really doesn’t matter.
Their own looks & designer wear, is good enough for the both of them.
There are also those who are looking for the next Gadol Hador.
So It’s either the next Bill Gates, or the next Rav Elyashiv.
Sorry, no room for anything in between.
Disclaimer: This is only the case with 75% of the population,
the other 25% I guess live on the edge.
This information was acurate as of last year, maybe things have changed.:-)
They should all have a Refuah Shleima, a speedy recovery,
and a Kesivah V’chasimah Toivah to them and all of klal Yisroel!
Y’all have a Gut Shabbos!
For us men it’s not a problem, they get killed when we enter the Mikvah along with all the other germs that attempt to harm us.
Also those who sleep with Rabbeinu Tams & Na-Nach Yarmulkas
are pretty much covered.
1 scoop Vanilla, 1 scoop coffee, & 1 scoop Peanut butter,
actually banana was pretty way back when they used to make it good, not with the fake yellow color & taste.
If they want to jump in when guns are blazing, let them get bulletproof vests or let them stay home & not be oiver a d’Oiraisha. Thats why we have police, who are dressed appropriately & trained in taking down armed criminals,
as opposed to an education from the baigel shop, & bruce lee. Don’t get me wrong, I love em, but if youre dealing with armed individuals please take the necessary precautions.
p&p, that’s ridiculous! a yiddishe woman has to be tznius in front of anyone goy or yid. but when alone something else.
talking about dress & behavior.
I think I’m gonna start a business selling kosher air.
first in bottles, then i’ll start a neighborhood in Yershalayim
that has the Badatz hechsher for kosher acceptable breathing air.
I’ll sell apartments in this area and make a ton of money.
Kosher money with the Badatz hechsher, kept in a kosher wallet
Badatz hechsher, kept in my kosher pants, Badatz hechsher of course, held up with my kosher belt, made from leather of cattle that do not work on shabbos, Badatz hechsher.
Somethings are just nutty, aren’t they?
substitute lemon juice for vinegar.
Doesn’t say anything about lemon juice.
I find it shocking how people sometimes don’t hesitate to give bad info, or just their speculation as to their neighbors
or the person in question. When someone on the other line
hears these comments, they are not sure what to do next,
should they believe these comments of lashon hora which you’re not supposed to, on the other hand how can they go along with the shidduch when the neighbors, (sometimes provided by said shidduch girl or boy)say this negative information freely.
Please people, if you’re not sure about saying something or not,
just dont say anything, don’t say your own sevoros or shittos if it will make someone look bad. If Youre such a Tzaddeikes/or tzaddik, say nothing, call your local posek afterward & ask. If he (not she, your rebbitzin is not a posek) says you must disclose this info, then you call back & tell them.
Otherwise, siyag lachochmah shtikah.
I would tell them.. my plan?… Sprint!
why do you ask?
Dating without a Long Term plan???!! Are you serious?
It’s like going fishing with a toothpick!
You can try, but you’ll come home empty-handed.
J/K! HB”H has your plan, tell her she should call.
Be honest and upfront, but don’t dispense all your baggage on the first date. also for girls, dont wear too much makeup!
you’re all beautiful just the way you are.
You dont want him to go running and call the cops,
the first time he sees you w/o makeup, saying
“there’s someone else in the house!”
My friend was asked about me,
if he were an ANIMAL?….what kind of animal would he be?
He told me he was grilled for almost an hour with all these
weird type of questions. Needless to say I dropped it as soon
as he told me the above question.
People! get creative with your cooking, not with your shidduch questions, it will go back to other side, and cost you!
It is my experience that after a while you get to know your wife
and know her reaction to what you say. for example,
if you would tell your wife shprintze, “you know, yankels
garden looks nice”, she’d say “what’s so nice about it?”
“it’s too gepatchket, & I heard he owes the gardner a mint?”
or if you’d mention something about your great aunt she’d say, “that mach…” you know to avoid such comments and discussions. that’s my point.
charliehall; and all;
“If you asur all Jewish music that has had any influence from non-Jews”…
Influenced is one thing,
but a total copy of a goyishe song, just changing the words to hebrew or yiddish, (and not a slow song or march) but a wild bouncing club song!!! and we sing it by our simchos
when we are supposed to put Yerushalayim al Rosh Simchoseinu,
then we go ahead break it down to a wild prusteh club song?!!!
I’m as chilled out and open Minded as the next guy,
but there’s NO WAY that is ok! You can be in denial, but it will not change the reality of the situation.
And how pathetic is it that our own supposedly talented individuals in the music world steal totally goyish songs
and introduce them to our hamoyn Am? Do you think that’s a mitzvah? It’s a loserish thing to do. Make your own song!!!
you talentless copycat!! compose your OWN intro!!!
Do you think now, that your intro is a popular goyishe song,
it will help you bad compostion get popular?
perhaps, but that’s just sad!
WolfishMusings wrote; “I have a hard time believing that R. Moshe would say that you have to listen to your parents regarding shidduchim if the problem is in personal preferences”
You misunderstood me, I said “punkt farkert” than what you understood. Please reread my post and tell me if I have an hasborah problem. I will IY”H look up the teshuva to make sure it exists in reality as well as in my memory.
I might be mixing it up w/ if one has to listen to parent “mishigas” to wait for an older sibling although they are of age and time is ticking.
I believe Harav Moshe Feinstein ZT”L has a t’shuvah on this topic.
If I remember correctly he says that if it’s not for religious
reasons or a REAL problem w/ shidduch for the child,
(not any personal preferences) the child is not required to listen to the parents. It goes w/o saying that the child has to explain only respectfully that the shidduch is ultimately for
him and therefore his decision. This is no heter in any form to be disrespectful to ones parents.
Definitely with a chavrusah! Luckily my chavrusa showed up when he did, another half hour & my head would be sinking into the gemara literally. I didn’t take a nap earlier.
Reasons for chavrusa vs. solo
1)helps you stay up the whole night.
2) IMO I think especially Shavuos when klal yisroel was b’achdus
& we were m’ischayev in Arvus,(kol yisroel Areivim zeh Lozeh)*
it’s very befitting to learn with a chavrusoh.
Also learning w/ a child (being m’kayem V’shinantom L’bonecha & son being M’kayem kibbud Av Too)
* yeah Shwekey sings about it too 😉