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Anything the is done to facilitate shidducim (close in age expecailly) is helpful. Anyone who is active in doing so sicharchem harbei meod.
The shaddchanim out there are hounded and abused and anyone who can encourage more people to get involve is doing a tremencous service.
The person running shidduch shidduch world it totally lsheim shamayimi-no question about it.
I was taken aback by publicly marketing of a specific part of your project where unwitting people who could then become disatisfied. It would do your project no good. If my comments where taken in any other vein I apologize. Addtionally, I should have called the phone number instead of using this public forum- very fair.
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For the record: having been involved in the process for a while (you know who i am), the idea of hiring a private advocate IS the proper approach and makes sense. (I hope u only do it with close the age gap in mind-othewise you are practically wasting your time)
However $360 a MONTH is ridiculous. In speaking to numerous shadchanim 1,500-2,000 per year and the shadchan can within reason guarantee 3 dates a year. To think you can promise more than that for normal good girls between the ages of 21-24 is simply unrealistic.
How many shiddcuhim has shidduch world made to date???
How many dates have they set up??
They will redd or will get a yes? Redding is easy it could be just throwing out a name. How many yesses are they getting??? that is the critical question???
Azoi.is:
The single best thing parents of girls 21-25 can do is pay someone to look out for their daughter. No different than tutoring or any of the myriads of other services out there.
Whether the proper approach is to hire a shadchan who is already overwhelmed or perhaps to hire a individual who is not so harried such a a go getter who has access to the types of boys appropriate to that specific girl is debatable.
How many “paying customers” should one shadchan be allowed to take under their wing is also debatable as it is unrealistic for any one individual to focus on more than a couple of girls- It just doesn’t work.
However the basic concept is pashut. Take it or leave it, no one is forcing it on anybody.
I”m curious what does one get for $360. How is it monitored. How do I know that I’m getting special attention? Obviously no one can guarantee a marriage but is it blind trust through a website (bad idea) or am I guaranteed something???