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Amen!
Veltz Meshugener I hope you are joking. Frumjewishgirl, I give you a bracha that you will find your zivug soon and see that everything is from Hashem!
Mazal Tov! Thanks for sharing the good news! You just made me very happy even though I don’t know you.
Lisa Elefant is a well known matchmaker in Brooklyn. She made many shidduchim and she has all types of boys, she has many yeshivish working boys.
It’s true that once married the girl usually goes with the boy’s Rav but if she has a problem with him then I am sure that even your Rav if he is not a controlling Rabbi and he is good and sincere he would even tell you that you should pick a Rav that you are both comfortable with. But this is absolutely not a reason to break off a relationship. If I was in this situation I would tell the guy that if he doesn’t agree to change his Rav once we get engaged/married then I will break it off with him myself because the fact that he doesn’t want to compromise on something like this is a big red flag.
I think that with all due respect the guy should have answered her phone calls and explained himself to her. She was probobly very hurt because after 10 dates most yeshivish people are engaged by then. I am not blaming the guy for ending it the way that he did because he probobly didn’t want to hurt her even more by talking to her directly about it but I think that his Rabbi should have been the bigger person and he should have told him to be sensitive to the girl’s feelings.
Lior I see that you commented on this topic 4 different times to say that the guy should ask his Rabbi about this. I agree with your point but if the guy tells the Rabbi how she feels about him then the Rabbi might have a different view about this girl and think badly if her and also the girl will be very embarrassed of him. I think that the guy should talk to a different Rabbi about this. I think that if the guy really thinks that she is a good girl then he should respect her and compromise with her on this topic. If she would say to cut the Rabbi out of his life completely then I would understand and maybe I would be a little concerned. But I think that if she felt offended by it and she still felt that she was ok with the guy being close to him and maintaining a close relationship with him then it shows a lot about her. If it bothers the guy so much that the girl doesn’t want his Rav to be their Rabbi and he wants to break up with her then that’s his choice and it should be respected but I see no reason that he should be saying that she is judgmental and doesn’t have Hakarat HaTov. I hope that everything goes well for them and that Hashem will give them both the clarity to make the right choice.