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How about the Shaddchan in the N.Y. area that charges $18.00 for each date he gets you. I thought that was reasonable, because this solves the issue in some sort of way of having singles or previously married go out for no other reason than their being bored.
I personally think that at this age girls or boys should have a Rav/Mentor to whom they would be comfortable speaking with. Sometimes a girl/boy needs to talk things over, and an outsider could hear them out over a parent. Not every single is comfortable speaking with a parent, yet speaking with their friends can also be harmful. Whatever they choose it has to be someone who has a clear and open mind. This is why I would reccomend that they choose the Rav/Mentor as mentioned before.
Shidduchworld does have hired Shaddchanim that only get paid if they are paired up with a regitered member, by that member.
The Shidduchworld website does not accept anyones information if it was not put in with that individuals permission.
That is why I believe ShidduchWorld was created. It was created so that all girls and boys out there who are really frum, could search for themselves. They see profiles, and then get a Shidduch World Shaddchan or their own Shaddchan to redd it for them. There is no charge. You gain that you are the one who decides if the boy/girl is for you. There is nobody to push you being that you chose it.
Shidduch World is different than SYAS because they check into every person before allowing a profile to become visible. Everyone working in Shidduch World or on it is on volunteer basis. There is no charge to post your name or register. There are no Shaddchan fees. Their only charge is if you get engaged through one of their Shaddchonim. You will be asked to pay the going Shaddchunus rate. You have nothing to lose. By the way you can’t be on their site if you are not Shomer Nigiah or Shabbos.
Shidduchworld is a great site. I would reccomend you look at it. You never know what you’ll find there. They are constantly updating. Good luck!!
To BB1
I am all with you that anyone redding Shidduchim whether a proffesional or amateur Shaddchan receives lots of abuse. Their Sechar is great.
From what I see, Shidduch World is trying to get more people involved in Shidduchim, without an ulterior motive. Anyone is capable of redding a Shidduch or able to come up with an idea. I believe that you must also be trying to minimize the singles out there, although I don’t know who you are.
To oomis1105,
I have found that in the past even if you hired someone for just a month, they didn’t just forget about you. They set up after that time as well. What was gained was that now my name was on their mind, although maybe not the first one on the table. In my eyes it’s a long term gain.
To all the singles out there, I would like to give you a glimpse as to what goes on in a Shaddchans home between our dates. Most Shaddchanim are not interested in wasting time just to please one of us out there. A lot of thought goes into every aspect before they give us a name to check into. As a human, they are allowed to make wrong suggestions. They are only here to help bring “Shleimus” to yours and our world. The time and phone calls they place on our behalfs cost money as well. It takes time from their families wives/husbands and anyone else involved. If you ever redd a Shidduch, or were involved with one, you surely understand why someone would charge a fee. You have the choice to advocate for yourselves. Most Shaddchonim are either Yeshiva men or people working in order to enhance our society. $360.00 is just a small amount to pay a Shaddchan to help us. You never know how many potential Shaddchonim will be turned on to adopt a single because of this small bonus from a single, thereby causing them to help others alon the way, and eventually do this all LiSheim Shomayim. Chances are you are giving Tzeddakah and in that Z’chus you’ll find your Bashert. Do a Chessed for one, and you might be doing a Chessed for yourself. Just as a side point, most Shaddchonim from the Lakewood, NJ area are people who are learning in Kollel and doing this on their side time. They are Yirei Shomayim who at the same time deserve a token of appreciation for their time and efforts spent on all our behalfs. May Hashem help each one of us to find our Bashert and help us help others to find theirs.