BaalHabooze

Agreed. An elite player, doesn’t slow with age, and can still scores those clutch goals. Too bad he’s a Quacker, not a Jet

And of course if a jew goes he would have to set up TWO shuls, just so he can use the first one, and NEVER go to THAT one!

meh! I’ll take Shishi or Maftir

You can politely tell the shadchan that you are looking for a slim healthy girl. Period. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong in letting the shadchan know that you are not attracted to girls on the heavier side. So just as long as you describe and emphasis YOUR preference in a prospective match, without actually directly saying anything negative about this girl in particular.

Lots of success and hatzlachah in finding your bashert soon!

mirkop6 – There is absolutely nothing wrong or immature about someone doing their homework and finding information about a shidduch. No, he DOESN’T have to ‘just go on a date to see for yourself’. Dates cost time, effort and money. It’s just as important to find out about a shidduch before as the actual date itself.

Can anyone explain what the gain/benefit of dew has, and what is the difference between ‘tal shel bracha’ and one that isn’t ‘shel bracha’?

Vogue,

You know when you think you’re the only one with a bright idea, and meanwhile everyone else is thinking exactly that?

I thought I was the only one that went shopping for cereal…

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So let’s make it clear? Did they, like, strap you in a metal chair and tape wires on to your head and pull the switch?

Brainwashing..Ha! Gotta love that word!

But seriously, though, what are you talking about? And please be specific?

We (my family) don’t ever follow like the minhagim of the Vilna Goan. (at least not any I can think of).

Why is it only on Leil HaSeder and Kol Nidrei Night the only 2 times we say, ” L’Shana Habah BiYerushalayim”?

One answer can be that on Pesach we find that although we have a night full of mitzvos, we nevertheless are missing THE MAIN mitzva of Yom Tov, namely the Korbon Pesach. Most of the mitzvas of Pesach revolve around the korbon pesach (i think the Gr”a made a cheshbon of 53 mitzvos, I think). Most of mesechta Pesachim deals with the Korbon Pesach.

By Yom Kippur, of course, the main part of Yom Tov is the Avodah of the Kohen Gadol going Lifnai V’lifnim, offering the Ketores in the Kodesh HaKedoshim. That was the highlight, and Main mitzvah of Yom Kippur.

By all other Yomim Tovim the main mitzah still is in effect.

Rosh hashana- we still have shofar (although the Korbon Mussaf is missing, we still have the main mitzva of Shofar)

Sukkos- we still have Suka and 4 minim.

Shavuos- we still have the torah.

So it’s really only these 2 times of the year, Pesach and Yom kippur, which the MAIN AVODAS HAYOM is missing because of the lack of the Bais Hamikdash. So it is specifically on these 2 occasions where we pray, “L’Shana Habah B’Yerushalayim” for the binyan Bais Hamikdash.

Today we used pi in daf yomi for the first time, Eiruvin (daf 14).

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Happy PI Day!

Tzav

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heard by Rabbi Frand

Double Entendre In the Word “Hoda’ah”

Among the sacrifices mentioned in this week’s parsha is the Thanksgiving Offering. The Medrash says that in the future, all the sacrifices will be nullified, except the Thanksgiving Offering — for there is always need to give thanks.

Rav Yitzchok Hutner z”tl, makes a very interesting point. “Todah” [thanks] comes from the word “Hoda’ah”, meaning giving thanks. However, the word “Hoda’ah” also means to admit (as in the expression Hoda’as ba’al din k’meah edim dami [An admission of a litigant is like one hundred witnesses]).

Rav Hutner says that it is no coincidence that the word for thanking and the word for admitting are one and the same. In order for a person to give thanks, he must be able to admit that he needed help. The first step in being grateful to someone for doing something for you is the admission that you needed help and that you are not all powerful. Therefore, the Hebrew word for thanks and for admission are the same.

How do we know whether the word “Hoda’ah” means admission or thanks? Rav Hutner says that we need to look at the preposition that comes after the word. The word “Hoda’ah” — meaning admission — is always followed by the Hebrew preposition ‘”sheh…” (that). The word “Hoda’ah” — meaning thanks — is always followed by the Hebrew word “al …” (for).

We daven [pray] a Blessing of Modim in Shmoneh Esrei, called the Blessing of “Hoda’ah”. How does it read? “Modim anachnu lach sheh…” This indicates, that the first thing we must do is not thank G-d, but admit to G-d that we are dependent on Him. Once we come to that understanding, then we can come to the end of the blessing where we say “Nodeh lecha… …al…” — We thank You for… Birkas HaHoda’ah is thus a two-stage blessing. It is a Hoda’ah of admission at the beginning which climaxes with a Hoda’ah of thanking at the end.

We Can’t Appoint an Agent to Say ‘Thank-You’

I recently saw a beautiful insight in the Avudraham. When the Chazan says Modim, the congregation recites a prayer known as “The Rabbis’ Modim”. Why is that? The Avudraham says that for all blessings in the Shmoneh Esrei, we can have an agent. For ‘Heal Us’, for ‘Bless Us with a Good Year’, and so forth we can have a messenger — the Shliach Tzibbur [the agent of the congregation (chazzan)] can say the blessing for us. However, there is one thing that no else one can say for us. We must say it for ourselves. That one thing is “Thank You”. Hoda’ah must come from ourselves. No one can be our agent to say ‘Thank You’.

Those were great springbok007, sam4321 and yekke2.

I once wanted to suggest why we have “stealing” of the Afikomon on this holy and awesome night. How does such a “low” act as stealing fit in with Pesach Night’s Seder? A night that is filled with kedusha and so many mitzvos, a night where tradition, emunah, and jewish values are being passed on to the children.

So I wanted to answer with a teaching from the Besh”t. The Baal Shem Tov once remarked a fascinating teaching to his talmidim, that every single thing in this world can be used for good. Every object, every concept, every phenomenon, and every idea can somehow be used for Avodas Hashem in some way or another. So one talmud asked, “Even Apikorsus?”

He answered that yes, even the concept of apikorsus can somehow be used for good. And he demonstated: When someone finds his friend in a difficult situation, whether he lost a job, a relative, or his health etc. And his friend can obviously use a friend at that moment of tzar. Says the Baal Shem Tov, now is NOT the time to speak of Emunah and Bitochon! Speak like an Apikoress! DON’T say, you have to beleive it’s all for the best, we don’t understand but Hashem does things in mysterious ways, have emunah, have bitochon, except it be’ahava…etc, etc. NONE OF THAT STUFF. ” Ashrei Maskil el Dol” says the Besh”t, “Fortunate is the one who acts like a Maskil to the unfortunate one! At such moments you have to talk like the apikoress, “Oy, it’s terrible, it’s must be so hard, I feel so bad for you, Oy, terrible etc, etc.

So I wanted to say that here by the Seder, we have a night filled with Mitzvos D’Oraysas (Matza), D’Rabonons (4 kosos, moror,etc), Minhagim (egg in saltwater etc), Halachos meshunos (washing for karpas), and so much torah, and avodah. We also wanted to implement another area and concept into our seder night, that at first blush might seem foreign, and perhaps forbidden, but we nevertheless want to include as part of our avodas hashem. And that is, that normally stealing is forbidden, but if we can “borrow” this concept, and use this idea and bedafka use it for good. We want to make every aspect of life to be part of avodas Hashem. And even “stealing” the afikomon, is implemented for the good of keeping the kids up till the end of the seder in order to soak up their brains with kedusha and values and emunahs Hashem.

Hey, mitzvagirl613!! Welcome back!

Hey, Ms. Gumball!! Shalom Aleichem, and welcome back,, hope you had a great winter. We can use some more exclamation marks around here…

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You bring up a GREAT point! Besides, if those who are addicted for many years (i.e. the only ones I can be somewhat be moire heter for) have gone without cigarettes every pesach till now….

here is one I posted on a different thread once.

http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/ywn-coffee-room-nightly-dvar-torah/page/34#post-346017

Beautiful thread! (cookie monster +1!!!!)

There is a beautiful dvar torah that Rabbi Shlomo Carlbach zt”l said over on the Hagaddah Shel Pesach.

Why do we respond to the Rasha son in the Hagaddah in such a harsh way (“Hakeh es shivov”….strike him in his teeth)? Isn’t it at least to his credit that he is here, sitting around the seder with his family, good enough? What does it mean, “Hakeh es Shinov”?

Reb Shlomo says, do what the Haggadah says to do to the Rasha, strike his Shin[av]

tzaddiq

Three points:

1) Hashem only puts a person in a trying situation if he can handle it. If he will not be able to overcome the nisayon, then Hashem wouldn’t present that nisayon for him.

2) In these difficult times, it is incumbant on every person to LEARN A MUSSAR SEFER during the week. To be mechazek, to build our character, and to steer us on to the correct path of life.

3) If he didn’t DO it, he’s not accounted for. Bad intentions don’t count if he didn’t DO it. So, no, he would not be in the catagory of a rasha.

Mazel tov!!!

Mazel tov realtalk!

Mazel tov yitayningwut!

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Why should a ‘potential rasha’ be called a rasha? What is your hava mina? A rasha is one who DOES avairos. period. Please explain yourself.

After a whole month of dating, you should be able to know more or less. That’s not to say EVERYONE falls head over heels knowing ‘this is the one’ when they date their bashert. Most DON’T know. We never WILL reeeeally know. But if you have checked off your list of everything you seek in a husband ( – you DO have a list, don’t you?? – ) and all looks great, then all you need is a good ‘ol fashion ‘kick in the pants’ and a push. But if there are valuable factors that you see lacking in this fellow, attributes you feel to be of utmost importance, then you must hurry and re-evaluate your datee and make a decision.

(Reality check: Don’t get carried away i.e. fooled, with the notion of what we read, watch, or hear about in romantic novels/movies etc. There are soooo many young men & women who think that you will automatically feel this romantic, light-headed warm feeling when you date your bashert, and you will be swept off your feet by your knight in shining armour…..blah blah blah! Sorry to spoil the party. Some do. But many don’t. Nobody is perfect, and nobody lives “happily ever after”, and nobody is exactly how you wish your husband to be. Close, perhaps, but not exactly)

Wishing you much hatzlachah, and may your decision be for the best, with lots of siyata dishmaya!