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Neville ChaimBerlin:

My friend, to my knowledge “The Shidduch Crisis” is loosely defined as the traumatic situation the Orthodox community is experiencing with a huge number of singles who havent found their Zivugim, that they are desperately yearning for, and afaik, this term is not related to the age gap issue, even though its a contributing factor.
When Shadchanim experience burnout as a result of not being treated well and feeling totally deflated after going to a wedding with hundreds of options at a Shmorg fit for royalty, and yet coming home empty-handed, this clearly has an effect on the Shidduch crisis (the huge number of singles who are yearning to get married).

Less Shadchanim + making less attempts = less singles getting married.

“The shidduch crisis (if using the term properly) is a mathematical certainty. You could pay shadchans a million dollars a second and it wouldn’t change anything as long as they keep perpetuating a 4-5 year age gap between males and females.”

False! You can totally eliminate the 4-5 year age gap, and with no one interested in making the introductions, because of shabby treatment, the miserable painful Shidduch crisis will blossom.

“The evidence of a corrupt system is that people ask questions like this.”

Not many people can afford to work for free. Those who can afford to work for free are too busy shopping, redecorating and vacationing. They have no time or energy to be involved in Shidduchim.

All those believing that concessions to Arabs have a chance of leading to peace, need only to listen to Dennis Prager’s 5 minute history lesson easily found as a video clip, with a simple search.

They (those believing that concessions to Arabs have a chance of leading to peace) havent heard this 5 minute history lesson, they arent going to listen to it now, nor will they listen to it at any time in the future. If they would, it will show them up for not being “in touch”.

Dennis Prager mentions, among other very valid points, how can you make peace with enemies whose goal in life is to destroy every remembrance of Israel, as heard on their programs, in all Arab countries, every day?

Our options are clear- we cant give anything up, we’ll only shed more blood, not less.

Sadly, POTUS is Muktza here.

” I didn’t mean a politician who professes to listen to daas Torah, i mean an ehrliche yid who actually does”.

As stated here:

“To really be success in politics, you have to sell your soul to a large degree. You have to be very skilled to minimize that problem, yet it’s hard to get anywhere in politics if you don’t go along with the wishes of your party’s leadership.”

Once elected you have to tow the party line or you dont survive in politics.

Anyone elected in the big cities with a large frum population, is generally a Democrat, or a pareve Republican, with a debt to pay and a need to side with and support policies against the Torah, OR hes out 123. Its lose/lose. Either the Torah loses, or the candidate loses.

“It would even worse if frum politicians were honest. “Look, Jews are so un-American that their politicians are honest.”

At least Jews being caught at crime will debunk the myth that Jews are too smart to engage in anything they might get caught at, and have to pay the consequences! Nebach, way too many Jews are being caught doing all kinds of Shmutz!

“How do people even breathe in Boro Park?”

As opposed to breathing car fumes, I guess?

I had BP friends who tried living in Monsey for a year. They came running back to BP. They said they had a beautiful home but spent most of their waking hours in their car, the husband commuting, the wife carpooling and taking the kids places. In BP you can actually let older kids walk in the street, from one side of BP to another, by themselves, while the parents do other things.

Those whose children choose to live outside of Boro Park (Litvish) when they get married.

Sorry, Mr Hikind and Mr Felder!

“Who said he hasn’t explained why it is implausible? Your not hearing it doesn’t indicate he didn’t explain. Read my explanation above.”

Why dont you spoon feed me, Lior? Overcrowdedness and the fact that the Assembly doesnt control zoning, doesnt prove it cant happen. Difficult maybe, but not impossible.

Difficult and improbable tasks are accomplished by capable people every day!

“Children should be encouraged to live wherever they will be comfortable”

Please offer locations less than an hours drive from Boro Park, that are safe neighborhoods, where rents are affordable, that religious newlywed couples can move to.

Kensington is getting crowded too. Lakewood is much too far, it takes 1 1/2 hours each way, with the slightest bit of traffic, and is an expensive commute, with less jobs nearby, and is getting crowded too.

Theres also another issue for Chassidim who want to daven with their Rebbe and want to send their kids to the schools of their Chassidus.

“I have definitely seen chasidish people walking with non chasidish”

OK. Ill be on the lookout on Shabbosim, for the next 30+ years iyH, but unfortunately I havent seen it in the last 30+ years, except for seeing it rarely, during the week, when more likely than not, it’s employees/work associations.

“why does it have to be a project people can do it one by one”

One by one is nice, but encouragement to do this by a Rebbe or Rebbes, and Mr Shtottys undertaking to do it, would be even nicer.

I admit, Chassidim have their Mitzvahs that theyre very Osek in, but the fact is, Kiruv very much strengthens the one who is doing Kiruv, not only the one that we are trying to be Mekarev. So its Win-Win.

“There are plenty of chassidishe yidden that help mekarev non religious Jews and don’t need a huge program, as nice as it may be”

Please inspire me with how to inspire. How are chassidishe yidden helping to be mekarev non religious Jews?

“Yes, I can see thousands of irreligious Jews lining up at their local Amtrak station”

So we might as well not even try to gauge the interest. Whats the value of one other religious Jew? GUUUUUUUUUUUUUUURNISHT? Big deal, right?

Its been said that even if ONE person becomes frum as a result of a Shabbos project, its all worthwhile, because from ONE Jew, theres lots of potential Doros.

But some people would rather be negative and lazy…