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  • in reply to: Chillul Hashem Or Not? #751850
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    Leon Normanson,

    I can’t assess exactly what the problem was based on your post.

    Are students with a valid student ID allowed to ride on this route without paying a fare? I’ve been places where that is the case. Were they students? If they were mistaken in their assumption of what the policy was, did they pay?

    in reply to: Black hats #751697
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    yid.period,

    And the point of bringing up Europe was to point out before, while you still were talking about Modern Orthodox, that your definition is skewed. It can’t be that anyone affected by modern culture would fall under the category of “Modern Orthodox.” According to your definition, everyone who was affected by European culture in that time period, and the subsequent gedolim, fell victim to “Modern” orthodoxy.

    Your comments would be quite correct if the surrounding environment’s moral fiber during the previous 200 years was steady state. Jews have indeed interacted with our surrounding environments throughout our history; however, the level of interaction tends to vary depending on the nature of that environment. In Mitzrayim, for example, where there was rampant debauchery, the Jewish community remained very distinct in language and dress. Up until around the 1950s, however, when the surrounding cultures dressed in a largely dignified, tznius fashion, Jews more readily adopted those styles of dress.

    I don’t think anyone here would argue that a black hat magically turns the wearer into a mentsch. It’s what’s inside the head and heart that matter. Symbols can be powerful, however, and to wear a hat which went out of style decades ago can be a powerful statement of both identification with a particular community and a rejection of negative cultural changes. This is not to say that those who don’t wear such hats are in the wrong. In fact, many communities rejected any American style hat at all, and continue to wear the hats that were worn in Europe.

    In other words, I hear you regarding the wrongness of passing judgement on others based on their headgear, but do you think that “Yeshivish” Jews should throw away their fedoras, and Chassidim should drop their streimels, just because other Jews don’t wear them?

    in reply to: awesome A1C level #753144
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    Health,

    fedup11210 – I posted this months ago under Diabetes Support Group -“it should be ideally <6. This will be very difficult to attain.”

    Keep trying!

    Conventionally that is true; however, how can you direct this personally towards fedup11210, without knowing his personal medical history?

    in reply to: Talking During Davening — and My Failure. #751021
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    Wolf,

    I know exactly how you feel. I have been bothered by talking, sometimes right in front of me while I’m in the middle of Shemoneh Esrei, and it makes my hair rise [wolf pun intended], because not only does it injure the davening of the talker, but of the listener(s), and of my own davening and others nearby through disturbance and distraction. In fact, it is harmful to the entire tzibbur, as the disruption ripples away from the source. And… I am also one of those who would find any kind of personal confrontation abhorrent and painful. I hate conflict to a fault.

    This may seem silly to you, but I noticed that you said:

    I stand in an out-of-the-way corner, so as to disturb as few people as possible.

    I think, unfortunately, that habitual talkers might use the same logic. Talk in the corner so we don’t disturb others… too much. When I was new to my shul, I preferred to stand in the back, and had a lot of problems with disruptive talking around me. Then I moved towards the front, closer to where the Rav sits, and I hear very little talking there. Like night and day.

    So my advice/question in your case is… which would be harder for you: to confront the talkers, or to sit more in the front, where perhaps you will be surrounded by people who, like you, came to daven seriously. For me, sitting up front was easier. And now it’s my “regular” place. I’d opt to do it even as a guest at a different shul. I’d just choose an “out of the way” place near the front.

    PS – Why do you insinuate that leining is somehow in the same category as disruptive talking during davening? Isn’t that potentially disingenuous?

    in reply to: Black hats #751605
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    anon1m0us,

    Perhaps that’s why Melech Hamoshiach would ideally wear a crown instead of a hat:-)

    in reply to: What Are The Gedolim Saying? #750701
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    anon1m0us,

    So Hashem kills thousands of innocent people to send US a message?

    We cannot understand why Hashem does anything He does. What we can understand is that Hashem has a relationship with us and controls everything in this world, including our lives and what we are exposed to or not. He has caused us to live and also hear of the terrible events that happened in Japan. Should we say, “that has nothing to do with us” and return to business as usual, or should we respond somehow?

    in reply to: fasting…….. #751034
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    AinOhdMilvado,

    I definitely believe that the hardship of fasting is 90% in your head.

    I can’t vouch for the number, but I definitely agree with what you are saying, at least until the early afternoon. When I consciously fast, I pay more attention to my body’s signals. I may feel equally hungry at 10am on a Shabbos morning as on a fasting morning, but since I “expect” in the back of my mind to eat soon on Shabbos, I tend to ignore or not notice the hunger. That’s why, if for some reason lunch is delayed on Shabbos, the hunger seems to “hit” suddenly.

    Anyone else ever feel “thirsty” at Kol Nidrei, even though you just drank a huge amount at the seuda shortly before?

    in reply to: Regional Quirks #881095
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    If you are from the Northeast:

    You don’t stay WITH your parents, you stay BY your parents.

    You don’t stand IN line, you stand ON line.

    You don’t visit “Floor”ida and drink orange juice, you visit “Flahrida” and drink “ahringe” juice.

    If you are from the deep South:

    You don’t get ready to have supper, you’re fixin’ to have supper.

    You might-could go to the park in an hour…

    in reply to: Pointless Safety Instructions #766168
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    Some were perhaps the result of lawsuits; I know for a fact that the “Caution: Beverage Hot” warning on paper coffee cups was. Others were clearly jokes, e.g., the airplane nuts directing the user to eat them. And others were probably the result of clumsy translations into English – for example, the Hong Kong “beware of people” sign was probably meant to demarcate a pedestrian crossing.

    in reply to: sitting next to opposite gender on plane #749781
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    poppa bar abba,

    I assume that you leave shul on Shabbos Rosh Chodesh while the haftorah is being read.

    in reply to: sitting next to opposite gender on plane #749780
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    bpt,

    But consider this: were a male to act in the manner you describe, fully covered by a partition / blanket / ect, he would be removed from the plane in handcuffs. And rightfully so.

    This is a flawed argument, as men do not nurse infants.

    Given the case described here of a woman on an airplane with a nursing infant who does not accept a bottle and where using the lavatory is unfeasible, should the woman deny her hungry child food and let him cry?

    in reply to: Birthday present for Husband #751525
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    WolfishMusings,

    Wow. How appropriate the username…

    Why then, do you persist?

    in reply to: Someone Screamed At Me.. #748487
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    ZeesKite,

    I am sorry to hear about what happened to you.

    One thing that I thought might be helpful to add: when a person is shocked, our reactions are almost instinctual. Almost everyone has an initial response to such an event, when the adrenaline and pain hormones rush out. How we feel right after that is our choice.

    This is something I am trying to grapple with, since I have a long commute in traffic, and I have been finding that the frequent displays of meanness on the roads has been getting to me and reducing my happiness during the week.

    Good reframes for meanness would be nice to hear.

    in reply to: How Do I Repay? #748412
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    Sacrilege,

    I’m willing to wager that should the “Employer” find out that this is how you feel (should these feelings be real) he would in turn feel terrible.

    I agree. If I were the “employer” in that situation and were approached and offered compensation for a 15 minute break, I would be upset and concerned that I had done something to mistakenly indicate that the photographer’s work was not up to par, or that he did not try hard enough, etc.

    Wolf, did your “employer” comment on the job you did?

    in reply to: How Do I Repay? #748409
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    Mod80:

    but when someone volunteers to do a job he has a certain responsibility to make sure he does it properly. after all the job is important to the one that asked for it to be done, and had he known the volunteer would do a subpar job he might have arranged for a different person to do the work.

    I was thinking the exact same thing. If a person volunteers to do a job for someone else when that person would likely have paid for the job had the volunteer offer not been made, very real damage could be done if the job is not done up to par.

    I certainly don’t think that a 15 minute break can be considered subpar, however. Most places of employment allow two 15-minute breaks in an 8 hour work day, and I’m sure that if Wolf’s organization contracted with a professional photographer, a break period would have been in the contract. I think it’s as understood as using the floor, restrooms, and drinking water at your place of employment. After all, neither the photographing company nor the hiring organization want photographers with knee and back trouble. This is not Mitzrayim, and B”H we are not employed by paroh.

    in reply to: How Do I Repay? #748406
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    Wolf,

    Why don’t you buy a box of ice cream from the store where you advised a fellow customer on ingredients that may have caused the customer to decide not to buy, and give it to the “employer” whose event you photographed.

    Voila! Two birds with one stone:-)

    On a serious note, what responses are you actually expecting to your query?

    in reply to: Facebook (again) #753310
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    I don’t think that the concerns many have about Facebook are unfounded.

    Here is a quotation from a 14 July 2010 CNN.com article about Facebook (article titled Facebook a ‘tool’ for cheating spouses, some say):

    A recent survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers found that 81 percent of divorce attorneys have seen an increase in the number of cases using social networking evidence during the past five years. More than 66 percent of those attorneys said the No. 1 site most often used as evidence is Facebook with its 400 million registered users.

    Of course the counter-argument to this is, “those who will stray will stray, with or without Facebook.” However, Facebook makes it much easier.

    in reply to: Being makpid on looks #1210020
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    chabad770,

    It’s much harder than defining differences. Images and immodesty are everywhere, in stores, advertisements, on the street, etc. As Jewish men, it is our job to not look, and to keep our thoughts away from those things. Then a healthier sense can be developed.

    in reply to: Being makpid on looks #1210016
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    chabad770,

    It is important to be attracted to your spouse. One must, however, make sure that he is not letting the destructive culture that surrounds us in the West define what “pretty” is… because the Western ideal does not even exist in the real world.

    in reply to: How the CR/MODS works #1140514
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    ZeesKite,

    I’ll take a try on at least one of your questions:)

    What’s my next answer to the new post_______

    Answer:

    “Had one before, it ran away.

    Did anybody see the anti-semetic Christian?

    Pope exonerates Jews. Why now? Wait Wait Wait!

    What on Earth? The Yiddishe chain plays!

    running out of steam.. “

    How did I do?

    in reply to: Pope exonerates Jews. Why now? #746289
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    The Wolf,

    Didn’t Paul VI declare (as part of Vatican II back in the 1960s)that present-day Jews aren’t responsible for the death of Jesus? What’s different about this proclamation?

    The previous pope made the public proclamation. This pope is trying to back it up with analysis. Obviously he is correct from a real-world standpoint, but I doubt the original authors of his texts would agree with him. They were, after all, conducting a huge smear campaign against the Jewish people as a whole.

    in reply to: How the CR/MODS works #1140508
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    stickynote,

    If you’re really interested in the inner workings of CR moderation, I recommend sitting in on a class at your local Moderator University. I’ve heard there are several scattered throughout the country. You might even think about applying, but I’ve heard the application fee is prohibitive, your transcripts have to be stellar, and the sophomore year weed-out class is a nightmare.

    in reply to: Loud and obnoxious neighbors #754476
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    Wow. How sad for everyone involved.

    yogibooboo, it is impossible for me or anyone else in this thread to know all the details of your situation. From your descriptions of the specific noise problems you experienced, however, it seems to me that a big contributer to the noise was flimsy construction. I’ve lived in downstairs apartments before and have never heard the upstairs neighbors’ washing machines. If I heard a washing machine like that, I would feel upset not at the neighbors, but at the cheap construction. I wonder if your upstairs neighbors felt that they were not making unreasonable amounts of noise, when in truth the flimsy floors were allowing all of the sound to flow down. Usually when I think of noise problems (which I have experienced), I think of loud music, parties, shouting, playing ball inside, etc. B”H you found a new apartment and hopefully don’t have to deal with the noise anymore.

    The Goq, I don’t think that Mod80 was blaming anyone. He was describing in a beautiful way what is commonly called “taking the high road.” Valuing peace between Jews over (even justified) victory. Not out of a holier-than-thou attitude, but out of fear of the consequences of Jews fighting with each other.

    in reply to: The Line: do you toe it or tow it? #746141
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    I think Bar Shattya’s point is right in line with what bpt was saying in his OP.

    My normal habit is to buy Starbucks “Pike Place” whole beans (they come in a 1lb sealed bag with an OU) and grind and brew my own coffee at home in the morning with my own equipment. It’s much cheaper that way, and tastes just as good. The thing is, when you buy a bag of beans, they offer you a free cup of coffee. In the past, I’ve always taken them up on it. After reading the cRc’s “Guide to Starbuck’s Beverages”, however, I had to think. What do I do when it’s time to buy more beans? Do I get the free coffee or say no thanks?

    Yes there’s debate back and forth about the actual status of the coffee, and I found myself mentally making justifications… it must be OK! But honestly, once I removed the simple fact that I like getting good tasting, free, convenient Starbucks coffee from the equation, I was left with one question: Am I OK with buying and drinking something that has a serious question on its kashrus status? No, I’m not.

    So the solution is simple. Get the beans and say “no thanks” to the free coffee, or buy the beans from a Starbucks “kiosk” if I really want the free coffee. Just a touch more effort to stay totally inside my limits. It’s amazing how such a small thing can be such a big battle.

    in reply to: driving to Shul on Shabbos? #745590
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    As a BT, I have personal experience with the issues discussed in this thread.

    I grew up as an “active” Conservative, meaning we went to synagogue on a fairly regular basis. After I got married, we began to explore Judaism more and became more religious. At first, our growth was largely within the Conservative framework, as that is what I was raised with. I always had an attraction to Orthodox Judaism, but felt intimidated by it. In the town that we lived in at the time, there was a Conservative synagogue and a Chabad shul. Both were a considerable distance from where we lived (like 10-15 miles). We visited both, but started going more regularly to the Conservative one. Then I started wearing a yarmulke full time. Once, when driving home from the Conservative synagogue, I started to squirm in my seat. My wife asked me what was the matter. I said, “I feel like I need to take off my yarmulke.” She asked, “because we’re driving?” I said yes. We discussed the feelings, and decided that if we felt uncomfortable doing something while “looking Jewish”, then we must be doing something wrong. Starting the next Shabbos, we no longer drove.

    I learned how to daven with an Orthodox siddur, and davened at home by myself on Shabbos. We lived like that for three years before B”H we were able to move into a frum community. Being able to go to shul is definitely better than davening alone, but once we began to understand what Shabbos was, to violate it by driving was not an option. I feel like I have a deep appreciation for shul now after those three years at home. I have no temptation whatsoever to talk during davening, and I tremble if given an aliyah.

    Looking back, if I were directly rebuked for driving in an Orthodox setting when I still did so, it might have increased my fear of Orthodoxy and delayed our introduction into it. At the same time, someone who drives on Shabbos does not truly understand Shabbos. So instead of a direct rebuke, perhaps something more subtle would work better. Be very friendly. Be welcoming. And have an option ready for the person driving to be able to stay Shabbos in the community. And push it (cheerfully). Push how meaningful it would be, how honored you would be to have the person as a guest, etc. And act disappointed if turned down. I think that method would get the importance across without an unwelcoming stiff-arm.

    in reply to: Chosson Card on Display – WDYT? #745767
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    The Wolf,

    I’m forced to conclude that either the stereotype is correct (which I don’t really believe) or else some people say one thing but secretly do another.

    Or, perhaps, you are debating with people who themselves are not married yet.

    in reply to: Kosher Subway #738682
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    Getting back to the Subway restaurant discussion, shortly after the kosher Subway in Baltimore first opened, we picked up some subs to bring home with us. Once we left the restaurant, drove home, and got out of the van, I began to feel very uncomfortable holding the wrapped subs, because the packaging was identical to every other (non-kosher) Subway’s packaging, and the kosher version was probably not yet well known in our community. So while I don’t think the concept of a kosher Subway is wrong, especially if eating inside the restaurant, I can definitely see the maris ayin point. I think the whole problem could be fixed by a prominent sticker on the wrapping paper or the bag identifying the kashrus of the sandwich.

    in reply to: Chabad Houses in South/Southeast #739122
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    Chabad has a great Web site, Chabad.org, which includes a “Find a Center” feature.

    in reply to: Is this tznius???? #738425
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    bpt,

    Not a tznius issue; a sechel issue.

    How presumptuious of you to ask someone to park your car. What is he.. valet?

    When I pictured the scene described by the OP, I thought of a car halfway in a tight spot and inches from other parked cars, not a car in the middle of the aisle with a woman saying, “park this for me, please!”

    The more I think about the situation, I think the best way to have handled it would have been to say, “is it possible you can tell me if I’m getting too close to the car over there? This is the only spot I can find and I don’t want to hit anyone’s car!!”

    I have done this for others when watching them attempt to park near me and obviously having trouble seeing how close they are to the other cars.

    in reply to: Is this tznius???? #738420
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    If the OP’s specific request was asked of me, I would feel a bit uncomfortable for two reasons:

    1.) If she couldn’t get the car parked, why would I have more success? And then I’d be responsible for damaging two vehicles that were not mine.

    2.) I view a car as a somewhat personal space, so I would feel uncomfortable getting into it from a tznius standpoint. I would have no problem if the help involved something like changing a flat tire, since that would not involve me actually getting into her car.

    Also, knowing my personality, if I were asked that question and put on the spot, I’d probably hang my head and stammer something similar to what the rebbi in this story said, and then regret it later. Having the benefit of sitting in a warm office with a minute to think about the best response, I’d probably make a self deprecating joke about not letting me do it for the safety of her car and the ones around it, apologize, and move on. Or possibly offer to help guide the parking from the outside through hand signals, if that were helpful.

    in reply to: embarassed to use food stamps #738821
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    cantoresq,

    Avram did your hypothetial yungerman start out in Kollel relying on obtaining the benefits, or anticipating going on them at some point in the future?

    I would assume that he started out in Kollel on the food stamps, intending to learn full time for a period of time and then try to garner additional income through teaching, safrus, shopkeeper, etc.

    in reply to: embarassed to use School Scholarships #737521
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    gavra_at_work,

    Do you mind if I ask why not?

    We would not be able to afford it otherwise. And that’s without going on big vacations, staying home for Pesach, and no camps.

    in reply to: embarassed to use School Scholarships #737518
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    gavra_at_work

    2: The question is “are you embarassed to use School Scholarships”? I would like a response to that, the second question is secondary.

    So you would like me to answer the personal question:-) Ok, sure.

    I would not be embarrassed.

    in reply to: embarassed to use School Scholarships #737516
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    gavra_at_work,

    The truth is the truth, it is not negative or positive. They are “low end” of the pay scale, and becuase they don’t pay well, the workers will find it harder to save for retirement.

    Obviously I cannot disagree with what you wrote above; however, would you categorize someone in such a job as irresponsible?

    Mailmen & sanitation workers make a large amount of money, BTW. Plus they get a pension, which most workers don’t get.

    Thank you for the correction. I guess I was incorrectly relying on stereotypes.

    What are your thoughts regarding the original question?

    [The question in question:]

    Should someone supporting a child or SIL in Kollel no longer be eligible for a scholarship?

    As with most questions asked in this forum, the answers really depend on the factors involved with each specific case. In principle, though, if a pledge were made to support a kollel student for a certain length of time (e.g., 2 years), then I would think it should be treated like a mortgage, since the pledge is like a contract. At the same time, I can see cantoresq’s point.

    Also, I find SJSinNYC’s idea of a 0% tuition loan very interesting. With funds coming from both present and past students (parents), perhaps the tuition rates could be lowered since the burden is shared and fewer scholarships would be needed.

    in reply to: YWN Twitter Account @YWN #810987
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    always here,

    p.s.- I don’t tweet.

    Hmmm, it’s a thought. If twitter branched out and allowed users to not only tweet, but squack, screech, and chirp, maybe they’d garner more members.

    in reply to: embarassed to use School Scholarships #737513
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    SJSinNYC,

    More than likely, they’ll be working until the day they die in a low end job.

    Why hold such a negative attitude towards “low end jobs”? Jobs requiring fewer specialized skills usually pay less, but does that make those jobs less important? If everyone were “financially responsible” according to your definition, we would have no mailmen, sanitation workers, janitors, etc.

    in reply to: embarassed to use food stamps #738802
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    cantoresq,

    But I would also expect the janitor in your hypothetical, to look for ways to get off of public assistance.

    Ok. So now consider a man learning in kollel. Would you be opposed to this man receiving government assistance to live, provided he was looking for ways to get off public assistance?

    in reply to: embarassed to use food stamps #738797
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    cantoresq,

    M in Israel, if one uses to stolen money to support his limmud Torah, it is a mitzvah habah b’aveirah; just like using stolen money to buy Arbeh Minim. If one uses public funds to support his limmud Torah in those instances which you acknowledge it may be hashcafially inappropriate to do so, what else is it, if not navel birshut haTorah? Halacha may technically allow it, but it is disgusting.

    I would like to get a better understanding of your position.

    Suppose a man with a family worked as a janitor and received minimum wage. Would you be opposed to this man receiving government assistance to live?

    in reply to: Kosher Subway #738520
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    apushatayid,

    His Subway Development Corporation headquartered in the DC area owns over 1000 Subways.

    We do have two kosher Subways here in MD…

    in reply to: Kosher Subway #738516
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    mikehall12382,

    A Woman outside bklyn…you’re making too much sense…stop it…we only accept illogical and foolish arguments here…

    I happen to agree with the “pro-kosher-Subway” side of the argument, but I don’t think that statements putting down the entire Coffee Room (and by extension, a perceived community of Jews) are called for. Why are you here if you feel that everyone else who disagrees with you is inferior to your intellect?

    FWIW – I think I understand the “anti-kosher-Subway” argument, but it is not being well articulated in this thread. The opposition comes from a conception that places like Kosher Subway open to provide Jews something they are “missing” because they keep kosher… as if kashrus renders us lacking something, G-d forbid. In reality the idea came from Subway itself, because they want to get a piece of the kosher market and its loyal customer base. I think they have already been doing it with the Halal (Muslim dietary codes) market. I have not seen anything in their marketing such as “come and see what you’ve been missing!”

    I think the Subways are equivalent to the fake seafood, etc. We can keep kosher and eat all sorts of foods, but we have the benefit of serving Hashem through our food.

    in reply to: respecting yeshiva bachurim #737210
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    No one adressed the fact that if my rebbe was rav ruderman or rav hutner thats what i would be told to do!!

    You have not addressed the fact that you have supplied no proof that either Rav held this way…

    in reply to: embarassed to use food stamps #738733
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    Pashuteh Yid,

    If someone needs them,, he should go ahead and use them. But as Wolf said, to plan one’s life course in advance knowing he will use them does not seem right.

    I do have a minor disagreement with this. If a person had decided to learn in kollel for a period of time, or was in grad school, should he delay starting a family until finishing, or drop out before finishing to look for a job if he knew that he would need to apply for foodstamps to feed his new family?

    in reply to: Kosher Subway #738450
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    The most despicable thing I ever heard of. Why do we have to act like goyim, eat like goyim???

    Do you know something that I don’t about yummy sandwiches on long rolls?

    in reply to: My New Subtitle #993174
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    YW Moderator-88

    I hope to close the contest and give the subtitles in about an hour.

    Any application fee?

    in reply to: respecting yeshiva bachurim #737198
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    The alter of slabodka held that people that torah is their job should be treated like prince’s{prince’s dont take out the garbage} so his students like rav ruderman rav kaminetsky and rav hutner held this way.

    Who’s inference was made in the brackets?

    Also, which Royalty are we supposed to emulate? Kings and princes of flesh and blood? Or our King?

    in reply to: respecting yeshiva bachurim #737194
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    kavod hatorah,

    btw there were torah giants who held a kollel guy should generaly not take out the garbage

    Who held this?

    I definitely agree with you in concept that Yeshiva students engaged in Torah learning should be given respect. I recently read a biography of the Chofetz Chaim which listed two ways he encouraged respect of his Yeshiva bochurim: having the boys take their meals at the Yeshiva instead of in private homes (so they were not made to feel like beggars), and telling men attending an early morning minyan at his Yeshiva’s beis medrash to be quieter so that the sleeping students were not disturbed.

    At the same time, the Chofetz Chaim himself was seen shoveling snow out of the walkway of his Yeshiva’s beis medrash so that his students could have a safe walk. If the Chofetz Chaim himself could do chores and the honor of the Torah was still upheld, then how could the Torah’s honor be affected by a Yeshiva student doing chores? On the contrary, it shows kavod to the Torah because the student shows kavod to his parents and/or his wife, both critical Torah values.

    in reply to: I admit, I made a mistake #735360
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    It seems that Joseph has been behaving himself…

    Or lying low…

    Or using a name we haven’t caught onto yet.

    in reply to: I admit, I made a mistake #735356
    Avram in MD
    Participant

    mbachur,

    why do moderators allow joseph to post?

    He has literally dozens of screennames, some of which are “sleepers”, and others with which he posts mild, Torah-true comments to “fly under the radar” until he finds a thread (or person) to ratchet up his game. It can be quite some time before the game becomes evident.

    I think speculating about his real-life persona, or what aveiros he is allegedly committing, is out of bounds. Discussing the negative impact on the Coffee Room of specific actions of his in the Coffee Room, or discussing ways to identify or prevent such activity, is fair game.

    in reply to: YWN Twitter Account @YWN #810983
    Avram in MD
    Participant

    SJS,

    I’m not on it.

    Are you not on it because you do not think it is good?

    I’m not on it either, but I thought that Twitter only allowed text, and only short messages at that!

    in reply to: Chicago's blizzard #734808
    Avram in MD
    Participant

    cleverjewishpun,

    Watch how a real world class city run by corrupt thugs handles a blizzard of this magnitude

    A blizzard can’t be knee-capped!

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