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Avi K,
using the word “Yid” (“Jew” in Jargon, a.k.a. pidgin German) is not only Sephardi-bashing
How?
but mimicking Archie Bunker, who also called us that.
Nah, he said “Yid” (rhymes with squid) rather than “Yid” (rhymes with deed). Joking aside, perhaps the most common anti-Semitic perjorative is “Jew.” Would you therefore argue that we should stop calling ourselves Jews?
Let the dead non-language rest in pieces (there is Polish Jargon, Hungarian Jargon, etc.)
If this is typical of the respect shown to Ashkenazic Jewish traditions, then it is no wonder that Chareidim cannot integrate well within Israeli society.
mentsch1,
To quote Ben Shapiro on the subject “Have you been to a DMV? do you really want the DMV making your healthcare decisions?”
Park bathrooms fall under municipal government. DMVs are state government. And DMVs can be made a LOT better if states invested more in their IT infrastructures and technology. Same with health care.
Have you ever met an older person who wishes he didn’t have access to Medicare?
Joseph,
I lean towards favoring universal health coverage, but not simply because I believe the government has a “moral obligation” to provide it. Rather, the government exists to provide for the general welfare of the citizenry, and I believe increased health care coverage benefits everyone, not just the poor. Take your example of “universal coverage” by ER visits. Yes, the ER will treat everyone, even those who cannot pay, but that “model” of care is very inefficent, cost-ineffective, stresses hospitals, and delays urgently needed treatments for others. Increasing access to preventative care and clinics for non-emergency injuries and illnesses ends up being cheaper than using the ER as your primary care facility.
As far as universal housing, HUD already provides quite a few programs for low income homebuyers and renters. We can probably do it and still have the world’s largest military. BTW, taking care of health care would have the additional benefit of reducing the need for housing assistance. Health problems among earners are frequently the impetus for housing insecurity, and perhaps the majority of the chronically homeless suffer from mental health or other health problems that should be treated.
Joseph,
It’s global in the same sense as the false narrative peddled by the so-called man-made global warming promoters.
What does this sentence mean?
Joseph,
It’s been a pretty mild summer so far. Seems like recent summers have been cooler than in the past.
I guess you don’t live in the West.
We in the Northeast have indeed avoided multiple-day triple-digit heat waves over the past few summers, but the summers are still ending up warmer than the 1981-2010 climatological normals. In other words, some summers are so hot, that the less hot ones now feel mild to you.
sefardi guy,
Sorry, nice try, but Ashkenazim still have the best trolls. By far.
back from sem,
Superd -isn’t it better for me to get married now? Cuz then I’ll have to be on the level I am on now
Unless you know what your values and goals are, that is a recipe for disaster, and would CV”S lead to deep resentment.
What if I know that he will help me with hashkafa
Like what if I know for a FACT
Impossible to know in real life.
Joseph,
Is it fair to say that in many government jobs, once you’re past your probationary period, as long as you physically show up to sign in and sign out on time you can otherwise slack off on the job barely doing adequate work and have little worry about being fired?
It is true that it is somewhat difficult to fire a government employee, and many managers are loath to undertake the documentation necessary, but it is possible.
Blanket hiring freezes and slowdowns likely make this situation worse. Managers may feel more inclined to deal with sub-performers if they knew the positions could be quickly refilled with qualified and high performing new hires.
DaasYochid is to ubiquitin as ArtScroll is to Gemara.
CTLAWYER,
Being run by a diocese yields economies of scale not enjoyed by yeshivos.
Exactly. And only a fraction of tithing Catholics send their children to private Catholic schools, so the ratio of contributors to users is much higher than in the frum community.
Joseph,
As a result, if nearby school busing is eliminated, 85% of public school students will lose busing but only 20% of private school students will lose the same.
Where do you get these statistics?
Geula613,
I read your OP a few times and am confused about what you are saying is going on. Is it possible to provide some more details or clarity?
Thanks!
Joseph,
Imagine being known as Katrina all your life when suddenly when you’re 50 years old, or 30 years old, you have to change to a nickname due to a hurricane.
This may be an issue for some women and girls named Katrina who live along the central Gulf Coast, but probably not elsewhere.
CTLAWYER,
Wragge’s system spread worldwide in the professional weather community.
Correct that he was the first; however, nobody else did it for decades after his retirement. The US government started naming tropical cyclones in 1953, largely to avoid confusion when there were multiple systems ongoing simultaneously. Currently, the US does not control the naming – it is done via 6 year rotating lists maintained by the World Meteorological Organization.
Health,
And btw, I used lingo so everyone here can understand, not just some medical professionals, which obviously you don’t understand the audience that reads YWN!
What do you mean? Every YWN poster is a medical professional. 🙂
iacisrmma,
The question is about a minyan in Orlando. I did not see how her response answered the OP’s question.
Since when has not knowing the answer ever been an impediment to posting on the CR? 🙂
Should I respond that “oranges are good” because Orlando is in Florida? Many threads in the CR go off topic because of responses like these.
Why is it a problem if a thread goes “off topic”? If you were to answer that off-topic replies might prevent the OP’s question from getting answered, I’d respond that having his thread drop way down the CR landing page due to a lack of responses is a much bigger threat to getting his question answered than unrelated (IYO) comments. I think lightbrite was doing the OP a favor by keeping his thread high on the CR landing page.
Joseph,
Should parents have a veto?
No, it’s not their life.
Should they be making the selection for their child to approve of?
That depends on what the child and parents want, and the norms of their community.
Should they have absolutely no input if their child is deadset on marrying a specific person?
What do you mean input? Of course parents should advise their children and raise concerns if needed. They should also be aware that their children may make different decisions than they would, and how the parents react to those decisions can impact the relationship with their child/prospective new in-law.
Is it different whether the child is a son or daughter?
Why would it be?
kollel_wife,
I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and very scary experience. We had a miscarriage recently as well. Please may Hashem bless His people with healthy pregnancies and healthy babies.
iacisrmma,
LB: please tell me what your post has to do with the question asked?
The question was in regards to Orlando, and lightbrite’s comment was about Orlando.
Why a harsh response?
daniel41,
As far as I know, West Haven/ChampionsGate is very far to the southwest of Orlando down I-4 (past Disney World and well on the way to Lakeland). So it’d be a 30 minute drive to get to the Orlando Torah Center. I would definitely call the number iacisrmma provided, as there may be other minyanim available that are closer.
2scents,
Your missing basic facts, EN does not transport, they call 9-1-1 when they believe the patient would require transport or more advanced care
Thank you for finally clearly answering that question! The fact that they do not provide transport should be clearly noted on their Web page and other materials; that is a significant piece of information and can cause a lot of confusion. I think they should also instruct patients to call emergency services (Hatzola or 911) themselves before they arrive if they believe there is a medical emergency… just like your physician would do.
Gadolhadorah,
Would you give a dollar to tzadakah for every pot, pan etc. that has ever had to be toiveled in mikvah because of some crooked mashgiach, whether chasddish, litivish or Eastern Shore leading to treifus being sold to a frum yid?
That would come out to a grand total of $0 to tzedaka 🙁
Libun or hagalah would be required after accidentally cooking treifus in your pot, pan, etc., but not tevilah.
catch yourself,
In all of this, I found the [first comment on page 2 of this thread] to be the most troubling post in the whole thread.
If it makes you feel any better, having observed his other posts, I think Gadolhadorah meant it in jest.
2scents,
with transport depending on them calling 911 as a 3rd party caller
This is inconsistent with your statement above about the Ezras Nashim stickered ambulance in front of your house attracting attention. Does Ezras Nashim provide medical transport, or do they not?
2scents,
They do not offer Advanced Life Support, so how can they offer NR?
ALS and neonatal resuscitation (e.g., certification from the NRP) are not the same thing. Ezras Nashim volunteers (according to their Website) are certified by NRP for neonatal resuscitation and also as EMTs, which, assuming entry level, they would be capable of providing BLS, whereas paramedics could provide ALS.
Are all Hatzola volunteers paramedics (that is, they have substantially more training than entry level EMTs)? If not, how do they handle emergencies where ALS might be required?
golfer,
Are you perhaps familiar with the term, “koshi ha’shibud”?
I’ve encountered the term, e.g., in Maoz Tzur on Chanuka, but I’m not sure what you mean in this context.
Joseph,
What is CJ and RJ?
2scents,
With regards to out of hospital births, there is the risk of complications to mother and baby that would require rapid lifesaving interventions. Its a statistical fact that some newborns will require aggressive resuscitation and some mothers will have life threatening complications.
Ezras Nashim volunteers are reportedly trained to deal with those types of emergencies (e.g., they are certified in neonatal resuscitation). Is it your argument that they are not? Or is it something else?
Kotlorism,
Your story makes no sense. And I’m pinning it on you as your story because you decided to post it on the CR with admittedly no idea of the facts. At first, you write (bracketed statements and bold are mine):
They [the Ezras Nashim volunteers] kept on reassuring her that their ambulance is on its way and will be here momentarily.
And further down:
A Neighbor told me 911 [i.e., not an Ezras Nashim ambulance] pulled up a few minutes after Hatzolah left.
1. What ambulance did they call? Does Ezras Nashim provide medical transport, or do they rely on NYC EMS for transport? In this story, did they call for their own transport which didn’t come in a timely manner, or did they call 911 (as in the first story), who didn’t come in a timely manner?
2. What’s your beef with Ezras Nashim? Is it that they have a policy to call 911 after arriving at an emergency situation (hence delaying the arrival of EMS when they should have instructed the patient to call for emergency services themselves before they arrived), or is it that they call 911 and not Hatzola?
Kotlorism,
Thank you for the extra chizuk for me to never sign up for Facebook or other similar social media platforms.
Joseph,
Men make halachic determinations for women, and there’s no reason their input is any less vital here.
Vital?? XD
2scents,
What Tznius issues? there is very little for EMS personal to do in the prehospital setting for gynecological emergencies other than …
My understanding is that the “bread and butter” situations that Ezras Nashim intends to handle are unplanned out-of-hospital births. The majority of these situations are not actual medical emergencies, and, if the birth occurs at home or en route to the hospital/birth center, there would certainly be quite a bit for the attendant “to do”. For rarer situations such as placenta previa, where an emergency C-section is required to save the mother and baby, you would be correct.
One would think that having a service that mainly responds to women related emergencies, with hard to miss stickering on their cars and vans parked in front of someones house, is a much greater Tznius issue.
This is a good point that I had not considered before. Any emergency vehicle pulling up in front of your house is going to cause a ruckus, however, and I’m guessing for those who use Ezras Nashim, the guarantee of being attended by a woman outweighs the embarrassment of the neighbors being able to discern more detail about what is going on.
I put the Satmar population as of 2017 somewhere between 1 and 7.5 billion.
Joseph,
Avram, in the frum neighborhoods of Brooklyn, Hatzalah often arrives in about a minute. This is very possible because there are Hatzalah members distributed within a block of most frum families.
Thank you. In that case, I’ll posit that “under a minute” was perhaps counted from the end of the call (i.e., the ambulance was dispatched while the dispatcher was still on the phone). In that case, it still does not make sense to ask why Ezras Noshim did not call Hatzola, because they would have seen that the man was on the phone with them already. I’m perceiving that this unfortunate event is being used as fodder in a “conflict” between Hatzola and Ezras Noshim?
RebYidd23,
For example, if a woman is having a heart attack, is she less likely to call Hatzolah because they are male?
She is less likely to call Hatzola because she is having a heart attack. Hopefully whoever is with her will call whoever can get there fastest.
Meno,
It’s possible that someone knows.
True, the Ezras Noshim responders would know.
Maybe Hatzola is a CR member.
Wouldn’t that affect his 1 minute response time?
Neville ChaimBerlin,
Also, newsflash, 10 minutes is NOT a long time.
It certainly is in a case of cardiac arrest. I think because of that dispatchers try to walk the caller through starting CPR while waiting for the first responders to arrive.
People outside the city wait over 30 minutes; get over your cuddled NYC ways.
Huh? I live outside of NYC, and have never experienced a wait time longer than 5 minutes.
And, you write about someone leaving their wedding for an emergency call like it’s a bad thing? Waste of forum space.
Hmm. Leaving a wedding, getting into ambulance, driving to a location who knows how far away, all in 10 minutes. That seems pretty impressive now that I think about it.
Kotlorism,
Question 1: Why did it take 10 minutes for ezras Nushim to arrive?
I don’t know. Neither do you. Nor does the letter writer. Nor anyone else. What’s the purpose of this question?
Question 2: Why did the ezras nushim first responders not start CPR immediately?
I don’t know. The timeline laid out in the letter makes no sense to me. Even if Hatzola had an ambulance just around the corner, less than a minute between call and arrival is quite impressive without teleportation technology.
Question 3: When the EN dispatchers got the call and knew this is a serious emergency, why did they call 911 as their backup and not call hatzala?
Is that their protocol? Or is their protocol to tell the caller to hang up and dial 911?
They knew pretty well that Hatzala has members awake sitting in a car 2 blocks away?
Are you implying that by joining Ezras Noshim, you are bestowed neviyus?
Question 4: When the EN members got to the scene and saw that the patient is
in cardiac arrest, why at that point did they not call Hatzala to help themBecause according to the timeline, Hatzola was beaming into the room.
Question 5: Why is hatzala not making a fuss???
I don’t know. Neither do you. Nor does the letter writer. Nor anyone else other than Hatzola. Why are you posing the question to the CR?
He felt so horrible at how ashamed she felt and how his family treated her that he saved up year after year to finally but her a new diamond ring.
He should have told her that she was more important to him than all of the diamond rings in the world. And then he should have told his family to back off, and that any scorn directed towards his wife was no different than scorn directed towards him.
akuperma,
What the DNA has shown, that is significant and was very disappointing to secular Jews (who don’t like being Jewish), is that Ashkenazim are not descended from diaspora converts but are from the same “stock” as all the other Jews (so much for various theories that we are really Turks from Central Asia, or some other such ancestry untainted by Jewish blood).
While there are ample things done and believed by secular Jews at which we can take umbrage, I have never heard of the Ashkenazim-are-all-descendants-of-Khazars ridiculousness being promulgated by secular Jews. It’s usually espoused by anti-Semites and anti-Israel extremists.
RebYidd23,
A ring is another piece of stress, a thing you have to be careful with.
I don’t think it has to be stressful. Making some precautions habitual can greatly reduce the potential for loss. And valuable jewelry doesn’t have a monopoly on things with sentimental value that can be lost. About the saddest I have ever seen my wife over losing a thing was when a pipe-cleaner flower that my daughter made for her got destroyed.
agutyar,
and not in your mouth!
Certainly! Because it’s hard to make a bracha with a ring in your mouth 🙂
RebYidd23,
There are stories of people fooled by fakes. But what is the point of real jewelry if you can be fooled by fakes? The entire purpose of jewelry is to look pretty.
I think the primary purpose of giving jewelry is to bring joy to the recipient. Cultural norms are not always “rational”, and “real” gold and “real” diamonds are usually treasured more than “fake” varieties, even if they visually appear the same. Additionally, part of the intended statement when giving expensive jewelry is that the recipient is valuable to the giver, and therefore the giver is willing to invest his resources for the recipient’s pleasure. That said, I agree 100% with Joseph and DaasYochid that one should not spend beyond his means on jewelry.
RebYidd23,
Humans in general are weird.
Indeed. Yet Hashem still loves us.
apushatayid,
Bigger question. Why dont boys have yeshiva on erev shavuos, at the very least a friday schedule when most girls schools do?
Not sure that is the case everywhere, but perhaps the reason is to help the students rest in order to prepare for the tikkun leil Shavuos.
TheGoq,
This is of course true but how do you deal with something that is inherently unfair and that you know will not change ? how do you make your peace with it ?
I wish I knew of a sure-bet answer, but it’s a challenge I face as well. I personally have a goal to increase my awareness that continuing to feel emotional pain regarding things that I cannot change does nothing to help – it only holds me back. And to therefore reframe my feelings that a situation is unfair to a sense that what others have done to me has no bearing on who I am or my value. And to assess what resources I do have while trying not to compare them with others, and then figure out how to make the best of them in service to Hashem. Easy for me to write, much harder for me to actually do!
Joseph,
A wife and mother should be stay-at-home. Women don’t belong out in the wide world.
If a man wanted to learn in kollel, but in order to feed his family, his wife would have to work outside of the home, would you advise him to not learn in kollel?
FuturePOTUS,
The reason I haven’t responded as to the reasoning of the psak, was because the Rav I asked the question to felt that it should not be posted here. I thought I made that position clear, and didn’t feel a need to further defend it.
No, that was not clear to me; perhaps I missed something. Up until this point, I felt you made it clear that the rav did not want his name out there, but it appeared to be you personally who had a problem with explaining the reasoning behind the psak. If the rav did not even want the reasoning of his psak discussed on the CR, then I think you erred by divulging his psak at all. It is natural and appropriate for someone who is told about ruling that differs from what they believe the halacha is to be curious and want to learn more.
As to why I didn’t respond to Avram in MD’s paragraph by paragraph analysis on my post in the original thread, I didn’t feel that I was able to write anything that could better defend my position than what I originally wrote, and felt that if I wrote anything further it would detract from the original message I wished to put out there. I wrote the post in a moment of focus, and I’m not able to write on that level at most other times to accurately defend my position.
1. Why do you refer to me in the 3rd person?
2. The CR is a forum for discussion, and it is intended for others to respond to posts. If you just want to state your position and not have a discussion with other posters, you may have more fun with a comments-disabled blog.That’s true, and although he has responded subsequently to my posts,
I meant subsequently to other’s posts.
Syag Lchochma,
im so sorry to make you feel that way! I just thought it was an emotional “outburst”, sounded like frustration talking. Didn’t mean to say you were lying, although presented your way it sounds like I was saying that, but I wasn’t.
Thank you for such a nice post, and for clarifying what you meant. Upon reflection, I have felt frustrated a bit by a perceived pattern of some posters acting like the CR is populated by undesirables. You are right that it probably would have been better for me to directly address the quotes that bothered me rather than interpreting them via my own words.
I didn’t hear him saying that. And he doesn’t post daily as you may have noticed from an earlier post so I wouldn’t call it ignoring as much as he just has not yet responded.
That’s true, and although he has responded subsequently to my posts, perhaps he has only a short time to be on. Thanks for the different perspective.