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they sell a whole bunch of shmates and its a mess of a store but if you go inside you can actually find good buy there… they have valets, curios, vanity sets etc…
another thing… i dont know how big of a vanity ur lookign for but we got our vanities by L’Ideale Gift 4311 13th Avenue Brooklyn, NY 11219. they dont have a big selection but i got for 4 bathrooms a granite countertop with matching mirrors/cabinets… at about 400 $$ a piece.
i dont know where u live but
North-Eastern Tile located at
1194 Metropolitan Ave
Brooklyn, NY 11237-1007
(718) 366-6151
a jewish shop with exceptional service and unbeatable prices… they go out of their way to please their cliens… we had them deliver our granite countertops at 1:00 in the morning the night of bedikas chometz because we wanted it in our kitchen for pesach and the kitchen guys were a bit backed up with their work… they sent a team of about 5 guys 1:00 AM to accomadate us.
Some even say that you can lower the flame (not sure if you can make it higher).
i think you should double check… your allowed to make a flame higher… making it lower is a prob…
You find? Just what findings do you have to justify that statement?
true I am “naive” and live in a “box” but i do see what goes on out there… I have lots of family that go through the “dating process”.
How many times do they drive on quiet roads late at night? how mant times do they pose for inappropiate pictures (even after the engagement) how many times do they go to quiet parks for a walk… all these (as i have been taught) are assur.
Aidle Maidle I agree with you 100%. i am from those yes “bizzare” ppl that met my husband 3 times before getting engaged. i didnt speak to him during the 9 months of my engagement. I remember discussung with him 2 days after my wedding that i dont believe people that know each other for a year before they get married are less on a “high” than we were or yet more “in love” and now b”h a couple of years past my wedding i can still say the same. with time you get to see each others differences and likenesses in a more commited environment. when you are engaged you are not as commited and when something irks you, you get upset and you want to call off the shidduch. i started my married life thinking the WORLD of my husband. none of us hurt each other before, or had any arguments…
besides for this i find that couples that date or “oiver” on so many aveiros in regards to yichud, negiah… etc.
“First of all, the truth is one shouldn’t ask this question. If we have proper Emunah in Hashem we won’t have ANY questions and will realize that as mere mortals we cants understand what Hashem does.”
Your right with the fact that we cannot understand Hashems ways… but NEVER discourage anyone from asking questions… there are beautiful answers and explanations as to how we can understand hashem ways on our personal level.
if you dont have a good answer to a question being asked you can always look it up… theres nothing wrong with saying…” thats an excellent question… im gonna get you a good answer”
it makes me sick when kids ask teachers emunah questions and are told “we dont ask such things” there is so much out there we just have to want to find it!!
why is it that the first place people try to bargain down is on tuition? does anyone bargain with their landlord every month to give a break in the rent? does anyone bargain with gas or electric co?
I understand its expensive, but y should our childrens education suffer? y shouldnt their teachers who put so much time and effort into our kids not get their paycheck on time? they are also entitled to feed their families…
what message are we giving our children when we buy them the nicest clothes and toys, take them on nice vacations, have expensive cars and when it comes to their chinuch we are looking to get away cheap????
the book has hashkafa as well as halacha…
“Otherwise, single women would not be allowed to wear hats ever as its a sign of being married”
there is no issur for a girl to look like as is shes married. i once hears an interesting p’shat on the idea why a divorced woman should cover her hair…
before someone gets married they feel like they have to look pretty so they should get attracted to a man. so the rabbonim were matur for a girl to have her hair. (I heard there are sefardim who make the girls cover their hair)but when a woman is divorced she realizes that it isnt her beauty that will bring her a successful marriage. (I know there are rabbonim that let divorced women uncover their hair-it was just a thought on the topic i once heard)
“I thought erva was a halachic status, not necessarily a visual thing. You can’t see “erva” itself, you see body parts or hair that IS erva.”
but whats the reason for the Halacha? so that a man should be able to tell the difference between a girl and a woman. if we wear shaitels that look like our hair we are defeating the purpose.
about daughters of dignity it is written by someone friedman. but the names of the gedolim who she quoted i’ll post bl”n some other time. i do rememeber though, they were chassidish and litvish gedolim.
I read up on the shaitel issue last night since it was bothering me… i forgot to write down the names of the gedolim that were quoted in the sefer but it was written in “daughters of Dignity” that the gedolim today say that the point of a shaitel is so that a MAN (not a woman) should be able to tell that the woman is married. as far as Ervah is concerned… if you cant tell the woman is married you are defeating the whole purpose of ervah and therefor its not muttar.
its mind boggling to see how defensive ppl always get when it comes to tznius… tznius is unfortunately one of our weak points due to pair pressure. the way a person dresses is the way they want to show the world who they are. any change in the way you dress is changing the impression ppl will have about u. its mind boggling how much time and money ppl would spend for pair pressure. how many of us have the extra 3,500 $$ for that GORGEOUS shaitel?
i once read a good example. imagine your husband will come home one day with a yarmulke thats made of real hair so that he has the covering but it should not be recogniseable. wouldnt it be hilarious? well we are doing the same thing with our wigs…
the reason y we wear shaitels is because the rabbonim know that we are unfortunately not on the level not to. when the Sanzer rav assured shaitels he told the men that if their wives refuse to take them off its grounds for divorce. the problem was though that the women refused either way and told their husbands they can go. so they gave a heter… doesnt mean its right!! its just that this is our weak point. most ehrlich poskim will not tell you its mutar… they will tell you that the most mehudar would be to wear a kerchief.
generally by a bishow you speak nonesense… it doest really matter what you talk about. the point is the conversation should flow and you see you can enjoy each others company. we always joke that we have to do it all over again because we never finished one topic… we jumped from one to the next.
basically we discussed trips we’ve taken around the world, family, yeshiva etc. make sure you meet more than once because both parties are more relaxed after sleeping things over and you get to enjoy the conversation even more.
” why is a ‘harry’ who wakes up at 5:30 to daven and attend a shiur before going to work worse than a non-harry”
were not saying who is better or who is worse. but isnt the reason y the jews were taken from mitzrayim because they didnt change their language, names and dress??
and no offense to the people that daven at young israel shuls but what does “young israel” mean? is it not the zionist idea? when they tried to take frum kids and take away their yiddishkeit values and introduced them to the “young israel” a new secular world???
in my elementary school i was the youngest and the shortest kid in the class. BH i had a bunch of friends and never felt one bit of complex for my appearnce/age. in high school i was again the shortest but i had a girl that was 3 months younger… she was the smartest girl in the class and also didnt have any social/acedemic problems. i feel parents are soooo busy with nonesense. make sure your kid is happy, well adjusted, well brought up, they look neat and theyll be fine. you cant control who ur kids will grow up to be. they have to face their own challenges to grow. let them BREATHE!!! u are not gauranteed that theyll be on top of the class because they are from the oldest!!!
how did our grandparents or even parents all get married and have kids without Dor Yeshorim? how come theyre fine?