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Refuah Sheleimah
It’s a genetic chromosme deficiency. Check out the Mayo Clinic explanation: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/digeorge-syndrome/DS00998
Treatments and therapy for a person with DiGeorge syndrome may include interventions for the following conditions:
Hypoparathyroidism. Hypoparathyroidism can usually be managed with calcium supplements, vitamin D supplements and a low-phosphorus diet. If enough of the parathyroid tissue is intact, it’s possible your child’s parathyroid glands will eventually regulate calcium and phosphorus levels without a specialized diet.
Severe thymus dysfunction. If the impairment of the thymus is severe or there’s no thymus, your child is vulnerable to a number of severe infections. Treatment requires a transplant of thymus tissue, specialized cells from bone marrow, or specialized disease-fighting blood cells.
Cleft palate. A cleft palate or other abnormalities of the palate can usually be surgically repaired.
Heart defects. Most heart defects associated with DiGeorge syndrome require surgery to repair the heart and correct blood circulation.
Overall development. Your child will likely benefit from a range of therapies, including speech therapy to improve verbal skills and articulation; occupational therapy to learn everyday skills; and developmental therapy to learn age-appropriate behaviors, social skills and interpersonal skills. In the United States, early intervention programs providing these types of therapy are usually available through a state’s health department.
Mental health care. Psychotherapy and psychiatric medications may be recommended if your child is later diagnosed with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, depression, schizophrenia, or other mental health or behavioral disorders.
WIY:
Agreed.
Now think about it from the perspective of the aggrieved party. The person thinks:
________ ruined my (Insert: shidduch, job, reputation, security, etc.) my life is altered forever. Even if one day EVERYTHING works out, __________ still altered the course of my life. Had I (Insert: gotten married earlier, stayed with the first company, gotten that specific job, had the stellar reputation I deserve, not been taken advantage of in some form, etc.) everything would have been different in life.
Most people don’t brood 24/7/356 about their lives. Yet, when something goes wrong and they feel down, these are the thoughts they think about. When those thoughts are present, it is NOT good for _____________ who they are thinking about.
Don’t be the ___________ in someone’s thoughts. Make sure that you NEVER cause a person’s life to be altered through your words, actions, or inactions.
YOISH:
If you’re married and it bothers you, speak with your wife. Get marriage counseling if you wish, but don’t air your marital problems in public.
If you are single, grow up and stop looking around so much at married women.
This thread reminds me of an older frum single who takes up more than one seat in order to fit, and complained to the shadchan for setting him up with a size 6 girl who this zhlub thought was TOO FAT!!
A person who has his/her core beliefs and sticks with them, no matter what is at stake. A person whose principles are more valuable than money.
mosherose is a troll!
The best motivation is looking at what happens if one doesn’t lose the weight. Higher rates of hypertension and diabetes. Pretend your doctor told you that you have just entered the illustrious club of members diagnosed with those illnesses.
Reduce sodium intake
Follow a strict daily 200 carbohydrate diet by eating 3 meals and 2-3 snacks ALL containing carbohydrates
Don’t binge on vegetables because you are not a rabbit and you will be starved and eat twice as much at the end of the day. Carbohydrates fill your stomach.
Eat chicken instead of eggs and meat during mealtime to ensure a balanced meal.
If you need help speak with a NUTRITIONIST. Don’t listen to day spa quackers! They are there to sell products and the longer you stay fat, the more money they make. Only YOU can help yourself, but a NUTRITIONIST can help you develop a food plan that you can stick to and is healthy for you.
Nice idea.
But, what’s the connection between Rachel’s yahrtzeit and chessed/mesiras nefesh for each other?
Moq:
Agudath Israel of America joining the Archdiocese of New York to protect the rights of pedophiles to molest is a far greater Chillul Hashem than anything that Carl Paladino could have possibly uttered. This was Daas Baalei Batim who twisted the hands of the hands of the Moetzes with threats, until they caved in.
The Moetzes Gedolei Torah do NOT make psakim. Agudath Israel of America’s board members decide what to do, and torment the Moetzes into towing their line. Hence, Agudath Israel of America has no standing to scream about Daas Torah. Chaim Dovid and George might have nice smiles, but Daas Torah they are not!
Agudath Israel of America IS a political organization. The peripherals are all nice. BUT, does making a Siyum HaShas once every seven years, running a few camps, and a few other minor services, justify their existence??
If vouchers for yeshivas come as a result of REFORMING the Torah, Torah will cease to exist in America. HaKezona Yaaseh Es Achoseinu? Does Agudath Israel of America have to prostitute themselves to alternative lifestyle advocates in order to receive their money they seek in the name of Torah Judaism?
In a nutshell, Agudath Israel of America represents a MINORITY view of Orthodox Jewry and are actively REFORMING the Torah to fit the days events. The “Askanim” bully the Moetzes to tow their line, but the Moetzes members when asked privately explain the story in more depth, have an entirely different thing to say than the Daas Torah press release.
BP Totty:
Sorry!!
Agudath Israel of America claims to the POLITICAL ESTABLISHMENT that they represent Orthodox Judaism and Orthodox Jewish values and are led by and follow the words of the great rabbinic leaders.
Therefore…
For Agudath Israel of America’s President and other members of their Executive Board to fundraise for Christine Quinn (an open alternative lifestyle advocate and of practice) is to say that ORTHODOXY condones and supports such behaviors. Behaviors that the Torah says are abominable. ORTHODOX JUDAISM does NOT condone abominable behaviors, Agudath Israel of America might, but this is not what practicing, religious, Orthodox Jews practice.
Rabbi Levin’s statement highlighted to the world that Agudath Israel of America represents a fringe element of Orthodox Judaism, and not chas veshalom all of Orthodoxy.
Rabbi Levin’s words WERE TOO TRUE, they hit Agudath Israel in the face hard. This is the only reason Zweibel released a statement against Rabbi Levin.
BP Totty:
As I tried to explain above, the Agudah is nogeiah bedavar. They received funny money from Quinn and their askanim have endorsed Schneiderman. The Jewish Schneiderman who advertises on VosIzNeias is openly gay, and is one of Albany’s ‘loudest and proudest’ voices to change the definition of marriage. Yet, Agudah and the askanim support these two unchlikt’s. They are therefore not the voice of Orthodox values.
Whether one agrees with his approach or message, he is a person who stands up for what he believes in. Because he is not supported financially by big-name askanim, he is able to express his opinions without fear of a financial backlash.
He will not go against the Torah core beliefs about what actions are abonimable simply because $$$$ is dangled in front of his face. Other organizations claim to follow Daas Torah, but make fundraisers for openly gay candidates because $$$$ is at stake. Let those organizations rely on those abominable candidates for support. They have openly flaunted the Torah and can’t expect Siyata Dishmaya or support from the Torah observant community. Daas Torah is not consulted and they merely rubber stamp the wishes of the askanim. Any claims to the contrary by organizational leadership is patently false.
WIY:
Where is the halachah written, isn’t it only a minhag?
SJS:
Granted that a person’s SUBJECTIVE neccesities are cleaning help, late model Lexus, $120 restaurant tabs, etc.
This is where a tuition committee comes in with an OBJECTIVE viewpoint about the level of neccesary spending they will accept for a scholarship. Above that line would be considered excessive and scholarship will be affected. Baruch Hashem, I never accepted a tuition committee appointment. It’s a hard job.
Do you live anywhere near an old-age center or assisted living centers with frum residents?
That would be a good place to start. Old people don’t bite! Theres’s nothing to be afraid of, ask the social work department and they’ll offer good candidates.
Pascha Bchachma:
Speak with your doctor and ask for a referral for a sleep study.
It sounds like you MIGHT have Sleep Apnea. People with sleep apnea wake up every 2-3 hours.
Vitamins and anti-histamine are not ways to regulate sleep cycle long term.
trak443:
It would not require tevillah.
1] Come on now, simply translate what you are reading. You have quoted many ma’amarei chazal in the coffee room already. You seem smart enough to translate:
Hayom-Today
Yom Rishon- The first day
Bashabbos- of the week
Shebo- That on it
Hayu- They were
Halevi’im- The Levi’im
Omrim- Said
Shir- Song
B’bais Hamikdash- In the Mikdash
2] It’s a mishnah which reviews the weekly portions of shira.
3] Everyone has their own thoughts. Some think about whether the line at the Dunkin Donuts drive through window will be too long, some think can’t the chazzan speed up a little bit, some imagine the levi’im singing in the mikdash and begin to harmonize with them, some are busy wrapping up their tefillin and have a foot out the door. You get the point. Whatever floats your boat!
Making an effort to investigate never hurt anyone.
growing girl:
PLEASE do yourself a favor and call harav Dovid Cohen from Flatbush. His shul is Gvul Yaavetz. He has paskened MANY similar shailos pertaining to geirus, etc. Those involved were always very pleased with the results.
He is patient, understanding, caring, and tears the case apart to find the wiggle room needed. Ask him and you’ll feel much better.
new2thescene: Congratulations, smart move
yeshivaguy1:
Touro degrees are accepted. They took a ding for the grade scandal a few years ago, but now things are okay. Be VERY careful with reading any financial paperwork they shtup at you.
If a person caused damage to another person, he must compensate that person. Teshuva alone won’t help, no matter how me’ahava it might be. If the person is a public nuisance they have an even harder challenge. So, it’s not clear how the public won’t find out.
By the way, MIDDOS must be worked on. TESHUVA applies to an action. So, the premise of Teshuva Me’ahava for a middah doesn’t quite jibe.
A good HR person and professional manager would pick up on the bluff.
Having conducted thousands of interviews, bluff is easily identifiable and can be picked apart feather by feather. Depending on the industry, once you are exposed you might as well leave town. You will NEVER break into the field.
Don’t be stupid!
Experienced, professional managers are trained to spot a dreykup and tear them to shreds.
new2thescene:
Unless there is a PHD in your family, it’s not advisable to waste your time with a BTL!!!
Legitimate graduate schools look at BTL’s as a great money maker. They will simply make you take 30 credits of prerequisites before you can start the graduate program. Unless the BTL includes basic general studies college coursework, you will be forced to pay for real college anyways. Get a real degree instead.
SJS:
You are still VERY unclear.
But it sounds like you are saying that meat is the male part and milk is the female part and can’t be mixed, similarly chicken can’t be mixed with eggs which is the female part. This is what it sounds like you are saying, explain otherwise if this isn’t what you are saying.
This issue is not the issue of Bassar Bechalav at all. In fact, there are many pages in Shulchan Aruch dealing with how to use the meat of udder as kosher.
It’s a segulah, NOT a minhag. The segulah is to have a GIRL and has nothing to do with an easy childbirth. Bas techilah siman yafe lebanim, guarantees you three children minimum over the course of life. So, it’s worth the try!
There is NO Yehi Ratzon, you can add your own heartfelt tefillah that all should go well. It’s like the Yehi Ratzon to have a raise in salary on Rosh Hashanah night!!
From time to time, it’s important to remind people of the following:
Proposed dates from families with a history of abuse OR estrangement, must be thoroughly checked out. Do your research and make an informed decision. The wrong decision can ruin your life and those of future generations.
Don’t fall in for shidduchim crisis hype and settle for trouble. Take things slow and go with your eyes W-I-D-E open.
BE VERY CAREFUL!!!
A wholesome family is more important than whether the Bais Yaakov graduated mother went to Stevenson High. Life factors change and that’s what makes life interesting. As long as the Baal Teshuva family is honest with themselves and knows where they are heading, they are not much different than a FFB family. If they are sticking a wet finger in the air to figure out how the wind is blowing in order to change towards that direction, such a family needs more careful checking.
Superficial:
If a child feels S-O, SO, SO dominated by a father, that he/she has lost the ability to talk back, (We’re talking about teens here, where the child learns the fine art of chutzpah) to the parent, from my perspective there is little therapy will do for the person.
Teens are highly unlikely to call a therapist and say they have a problem with a domineering parent. This usually happens AFTER a kid goes off and the family enters counseling to win back the child. Such a child has been dealing with ISSUES, which are more intense that a shoulder-shrugging, “Oh well, that’s life”.
These parental issues will transfer onto the newlyweds, and can cause catastrophic results. If a spouse is interested GREAT, but kindly be honest about what they are in for.
Sukkos is zeman simchaseinu, where we show our relationship with Hashem through simcha, instead of fasting.
Sukkos represents protection against all behaviors that should be foreign to Jews.
To that end, on behalf of the entire mishpacha we wish an enjoyable and safe Sukkos/Simchas Torah period. For the Chicago readers, a special bracha, Avinu Shebashamayim Sim Shalom Bishchunoseinu!
I’ve got to log off now, but my assistant will monitor from up close!
Rav Moshe Feinstein, Rav Ruderman, and Rav Gifter.
superficial:
If a boy/girl wants to have an overbearing mother-in-law or domineering father-in-law whose behaviors caused their own child into threapy, KOL HAKAVOD!! Most people tend to think that such a boy/girl has ISSUES!!
You are a female who wants good pay with flexible hours. At the fact that you thought about dental school, seems to indicate good attention to detail and s-t-e-a-d-y hands.
Why don’t you look into Ultrasound Technician? It’s great pay and depending on your area of expertise, you will only work with female patients. Healthcare operations are always looking for good technicians.
mw13:
The Torah both B’Ksav and Baal Peh, as well as contemporary poskim say clearly that in situations where there are dangers to life and limb, it’s a chiyuv to protect the victim. This means even if the abuser is the Rosh Hakohol’s son, or the most popular rebbe, it’s a chiyuv to stop his behaviors. The therapist who hears such information has a chiyuv to report it. Apparently Rav Elyashiv is a small fry in your eyes…have a little respect!
Situations of domestic abuse and battery, molestation, etc., the proper authority to deal with the situation is the police. This is a specialized field that rabbanim are untrained for, no matter how many Nefesh lectures they attended.
WellInformedYid:
Granted there are more issues requiring therapy besides for abuse. But, sliding scale payment models already exist for qualified therapists in many non-profit organizations. Why re-invent the wheel?
These existing organizations follow to the “T” the laws on confidentiality and HIPPA. They understand that if they violate the laws, they will be fined or closed down. The Bonei Olam organization understands and follows these regulations too. They are able to tout success stories, BECAUSE the client now has a baby, so the yenta factor is over. Similarly, RCCS can tout their success stories, because their work speaks for itself. These organizations know full well that they can prove results and the funds will come.
The JEWISH PSYCH FUND won’t be able to raise funds. This is because, the yentas say show me results. Very few clients in the frum community would be willing to get up on stage and say, “Hi, I have mental illness and the JEWISH PSYCH FUND helped me”. As a result, the potential for a JPF board member or affiliated rabbi, is more likely to divulge confidential information. Too many people have learned the hard way, if you have something you don’t want people to find out about, DON’T tell a rabbi.
paschabechachma:
BAD IDEA!
The organization would be ripe for more abuse. The organization will eventually dictate which frum psychologists are eligible to be used. (AKA: Frum psychologists who won’t ruffle the community status quo on abuse and will ask sheilos instead of reporting threats to life and limb). You sound young and idealistic, and stand to benefit personally (if you indeed become a psychologist) if such an organization gets off the ground. But, IT’S A BAD IDEA!
Respect is a two-way street, you get back what you put in.
There is NOBODY who deserves more respect than another person. We were all born B’Tzelem Elokim. Brains and money are granted by Hashem. If you abuse the good that was given by Hashem, He will give your gifts to someone more worthy.
If parents and community elders don’t respect the voice of the younger crowd, and insist on my way or the highway, THEY WILL BE DISRESPECTED. It’s the metzius of the world. PLUS, CHUTZPAH WAS RAMPANT BACK IN THE DAYS I GREW UP, SO IT’S NOT A NEW PHENOMENON LIKE YOUR PARENTS CLAIM!”
Asking how to “Build the middah of respect” is in essence asking, “How do we get people to accept the abuse dished out to them and silence them?”
Baruch Hashem im my shul they don’t have auctions on Yom Tov.
Playing on the emotions of people that they feel like they have to WIN , or else their whole year is down the tubes is WRONG. I remember once davening in a shul with auctions and I LOST. The animosity that it caused was unbelievable. I made up my mind, NEVER AGAIN. It was this reason and another that helped me decide to invest elsewhere!
WIY:
There are many FRUM JEWS that would do more mitzvos if we offer them a chance. Like making Yiddishkeit more inviting, less judgemental, and seeking to make their safety and welfare a priority.
This year in particular, due to the economic downturn there will be more people (espeially singles) who won’t buy Arba Minim.
Rabbi Ginsburg from Minneapolis’s article about Bais Din in the Yom Kippur edition of the American Yated, is a MUST READ.
Aishes Chayil:
It is disingenuous to assume that you know the rationale of the one who is REFUSING to grant mechilah.
Are you SURE that the one who is refusing to grant mechilah wasn’t harmed financially because of the comments made by the person apologizing?
Are you SURE that the person didn’t suffer a breakup of other relationships as a result of the comments made by the offending party?
Are you SURE that the forgiveness is being asked in the proper way?
For the aggrieved party to hear ‘excuses’, ‘forgive and forget’, ‘it’s time to move on’, ‘it’s your problem for holding a grudge for such a long time’, etc. that infuriates them even more. Similarly, if the ‘apology’ only comes on Erev Yom Kippur, it’s a feel-good thing for the one asking the ‘apology’ and is frankly meaningless.
Another point…
Did the person say “NO, I’M NOT MOCHEL”, or did he hang up, slam the door, walk away, etc.? THESE AREN’T THE SAME. Saying that he’s not mochel means the onus is on the person to apologize in a meningful way. The other actions means the onus is on person to KEEP AWAY and leave the aggrieved person alone.
squeak:
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and that’s my final answer without phoning a friend!!
haros,
Grabbing someone in order to ‘splain something to them, is what the boys in the ‘hood do!!
There are NO EXCUSES to touch any person in a non-affectionate way. You are OUT OF CONTROL, if that’s the only thing you can come up with.
squeak;
I can look until i’m blue in the face, and still won’t find it.
Interest is called NESHECH because of the ‘bite’ it takes out of the one who must pay the interest. Therefore, since all of klal yisroel is one big family, we treat them as family and not business associates. This is why a Jew can lend a non-Jew with interest, but NOT a Jew. Certainly, a family member is called a relative.
The ONLY way around it is with a Heter Iska, that was written BEFORE YOU EXTENDED THE LOAN. If you forgot to write one, it’s too late. You don’t teach people a lesson by acting like a usurer.
Squeak:
That’s a real doozey!!
Regular credit card interest is not like the ordinary Ribis, because the interest involved is only conditional. Only if the funds are not returned by a certain date, is a surcharge imposed. This payment is more like a fine than Ribis. For you to arbitrarily “fine” your relative in order to teach a “lesson”, you are creating an established interest fee.So, unless you have a really detailed and codified Heter Iska, you’re a usurer.
Another factor to consider is this: In general anything ostentatious, even if the arrangement had existed prior to the loan, may not be performed by the borrower for the lender. Your relative can’t buy you a fancy Shalach Manos basket to you, because it can halachically be considered interest. You can’t borrow his car either, because it can be considered like he is forced to treat you this way due to the loan.
Ribbis is ribbis regardless whether or not you were joking around or teaching a lesson. There are other ways of teaching responsibility that don’t violate ribbis laws. Interest is not something to play around with.
SJS:
I’m with you on this one.
No matter how a person might be dressed, act, speak, etc, cannot excuse inappropriate behaviors. A person might not be able to control their thought process, but they can control their behaviors. There are NO valid excuses otherwise.
It’s a new day! The days of blaming the victim are over.
Dr. Pepper:
THAT is one G-R-E-A-T line!!
BP Totty:
Ashrecha that you haven’t heard stories, are completely not into local gossip, or don’t understand people’s cryptic hints!!!
I do agree with the comment, “the time together was most likely the culprit”, in the following sense:
A frequent complaint is: “When I finally make it up to the bungalow, all she does is give me an earful about what a good husband Mr. XYZ is because HE came up on Thursday night. He REALLY cares about his wife and family. Etc. etc.”
eclipse:
How can a person ‘forgive’ an abuser?
The abuser:
***> Comes up with multiple reasons why the abused had it coming to him/her. So, the abuser takes ZERO responsibility for his/her actions.
***> Gives a half-baked “apology” for one reason only. That reason is, TO CONTINUE THE CYCLE OF ABUSE. When he/she sees the abused becoming resistant to the abuse, they try and soften the abused person’s resolve with an ‘apology’.
***> Believes ‘echta ve’ashuv, I will sin and then, I’ll repent’. Such people the halacha says are not worthy of, nor is forgiveness mandated. This is because, all they want is another chance at abusing you or someone else.
To “Forgive” an abuser is NOT middas chassidus. A person who does this is a Chassid Shotah. Abusers only learn when their lesson when the clamps are put on, NOT before. If you truly care about an abuser, turn up the pressure on them.