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Wolf:
As an LaBubby she is likely searching for a shidduch for her youngest daughter and wants to gain some WOW points. “WOW, what a yeshivish bochur, our family has finally hit the jackpot!!”
Know someone like that. Married his daughter to the “Top bochur” in Ponevezh. The ‘buyers remorse’ he is experiencing until this day is incredible.
Atlanta
The rabbis in the city are very kind, caring, and knowledgeable of the needs of baalei teshuva. Most of the city are baalei teshuva families and are warm and open-minded.
Plus, there are jobs out there!
1. Bais Hatalmud in Bensonhurst
2. Yeshiva Mekor Chaim (Rav Paler’s yeshiva)
3. Bais Medrash Elyon
zaidy78:
During the Rodney King riots. The chassuna was on the tennis court, without music, and finished before the mandated curfew. The backdrop was smoke rising from the rioters, but it was a beautiful wedding and minus 1200 people was just as kosher.
Try this job opportunity:
It might not be your desired salary but it’s a whole lot better than what you’re experiencing now.
Camps
Tuition assistance
jewish Holiday packages
Shadchan services for balei teshuva
Chavrusa in person and over the phone
Shabbatonim
Goofy PR and marketing campaign.
We are not renewing the contract for the next fiscal year…
Lakewood Dude:
Mailman: NO
Street & Sanitation: NO
neighbors: NO
Police Commander: YES
Employees: YES
Business Vendors: YES
I follow best business practices with targeted investments!
There is no quicker way to ruin the relationship with your employee than by NOT giving a tip/gift for THEIR holiday. It just solidifies the idea of “Cheap jews” in their minds. They know that jews give gifts/bonuses to jewish employees around Jewish holidays, it is bad business practice to NOT do this around THEIR holiday.
This is STRICTLY A BUSINESS DECISION.
Gefen:
NOBODY KNOWS WHAT CAUSES HASHEM TO DO THINGS. However, it’s very scary that you posted exactly ten years to the week that the ill-fated meeting referenced above took place.
Psach Libi:
It’s unfair to rehash the entire situation online in a forum for Yeshivishe people like yourself. As a Chicago resident, you know full well who is being referred to below. Ten years ago a very popular mechanech was publicly embarassed and removed from chinuch without due diligence on the part of the board of directors or the Vaad Hachinuch. There are numerous at-risk kids in Chicago who are livid at what happened.
This story shows that not much has changed since the rav in 1910 was embarassed. If things were calm in Chicago until 10 years ago, maybe there is some shaychus.
YOSSI:
Already involved in this.
Used to help in quiety paying down debts for some families at a local heimishe grocery store, but stopped for certain reasons.
All ears for an ORIGINAL suggestion.
Thanks
Illogical:
There is no responsibility to respect, honor, listen to, or have anything to do with ones SIL.
Veyidabeik Beishto requires a person to cling first and foremost to his WIFE.
If his parents are interfering between him and his wife. He is mechuyav to take the side of his WIFE.
Info please!
Have my regular charities but am open to new ideas on how to help familes.
Could it be that a current machlokes is causing this???
This was rav Shteinman’s oponion.
Make sure to stock up on lots of Roiteh Bendlach, you’ll need it.
It apparently shtuchs the eyes of the neighbors who are living a more pashut life. PLUS, as a result of your big, facy house, THEIR TAXES GO UP TOO. So they see your monstrosity, get no benefit from you coming into their area, and have to pay for your lifestyle too, That’s a LOT to ask for.
Fees are for trained and educated professionals for their profesional services. They have no malpractice insurance for misinformation they supply to further the sale. They are not members of a professional organization that makes sure they live up to ethical and professional standards. It’s a chutzpah to charge $150 or any fee to meet someone.
Unless shadchanim nowadays feel they are Jewish fortune tellers or Tarot readers. Please let us know!
Nursing
Nursing pays—- Psychology your at the mercy of insurance companies or medicaid which is usually close to six months behind.
Nursing you can fix the world of the patient and family by making them feel comfortable and cared for by giving first class service—- Psychology you might help a person work through their problems but often times the patient and family resents you.
Nursing unless you purposely and deliberately mess up, you will not be able to be sued—-Psychology make sure you have a good lawyer or NEVER have anything in your name.
Mind your own Business
Aishes Chayil:
Good you clarified the issue.
DEFINITELY KEEP QUIET
Religion and politics are bad topics to be discussed at work, they lead to loss of productivity. Who cares about his religious views. he didn’t comment about your Jewishness so it’s NO BIG DEAL.
Excellent idea
MYOB!
Business as usual. Keep quiet and head held high. Unless he told the offensive comment TO YOUR FACE, it was not intended for you to hear. Even then keep quiet because it’s a legal he said-she said issue to prove. If he is stupid enough to PUT IT IN WRITING (e-mail is writing) then you have something. People follow their prejudices and bad experiences and transfer these feelings onto other people.
Calm it down! Don’t do anything stupid and quick.
In real life??
Meaning: Not a troll on blogs.
Please elaborate and people will be able to offer advice.
If you are making a silly face and a Chicago style cold wind gust comes through, your face will be stuck like that forever!!
Trying My Best= MOSHEROSE
Same writing style and same thoughts.
Real-Brisker:
Besides for Dina D’Malchusa, there is also an inyan of Naval Birshus Hatorah.
The Torah never condoned ABUSE of any type.
It’s tzedreiter logic to say, “If this is the proper way to be machanch kids, I dont think the non-jewish law should stop us”. There is a reason why Rav wolbe and others wrote and gave speeches on the proper interaction with children in the realm of chinuch.
The Mishnayos in Avos dictate what personality types should NOT be involved in chinuch.
As we sit here downplaying the impact of these two idiots, the YouTube episode has over 100,000 hits.
The way Mendy responded to the reporter following the arbitration agreement showed to all the disregard he had about filing a false claim against a hard working couple who is only guilty of being a non-Jew. He likely forgot that only in a bais din can the arbitration panel say that the testimony of a lady is invalid. He should have realized that his lie would be exposed and the chillul hashem that will result.
Shame on him.
This reminds me of what Rav Aron Sloveichik zt”l once said about this issue.
What’s the difference between a Shaygetz and a Goy Gamur? A Shaygetz is a true non-Jew while a Goy Gamur is a frum Jew who the one calling this name disagrees with!
frumladygit:
You don’t have to change your ATTITUDE, it sounds like you have to change the LOGISTICS.
From another thread it sounds like you are Lubavitch. They are VERY stringent about making food from scratch. This sounds like what your issue is. Call Rabbi Friedman in St. Paul and ask what can he recommend to make things easier while remaining faithful to Lubavitch customs.
Hatzlachah!
BTW maybe drink only DECAF it makes people more relaxed!! Obviously NOT Starbucks 🙂
Motzei Yom Kippur every year you say Havdalah
frumladygit:
I am very close with and supporter of Lubavitch in Illinois. I respect your fierce adherence to Bishul Yisroel. However, the OU can certainly be relied upon. Coffee is one such example.
From OU website:
A. Five reasons why a food might be exempt from bishul akum (non-Jewish cooking) regardless of how it is cooked.
Edible raw: Foods which are edible raw are excluded from the prohibition of bishul akum. Foods which people would eat raw but are always pasteurized for safety, are considered edible raw.
[The OU certifies pat paltar (non-Jewish baker’s bread) as Kosher]. No arrangement required by the (but food may otherwise be subject to bishul akum)
If you need more clarity look at Chabad.org:
http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/947606/jewish/Laws-of-Bishul-Yisrael.htm
Brachos should flow from the heart and shouldn’t be pre-packaged. Any honest and meaningful comment would be appreciated.
Last time was January 3, 2001.
It is the only fast day where one makes Kiddush to break their fast.
Nice trivia question!!
Y.W. Editor:
Now that’s cool!
I’m more business/boss type and not into technology. I tried the link and got the Run ActiveX, or something like that. My I.T. guy said it was safe to use. Now I hear it and it’s a good service.
Thanks for the information!
It’s kind of funny to admit it, but…
Either MBD’s “Daagah Minayin”
Or, Billy Joel’s “We Didn’t Start the Fire”
WIY:
YOU SHOULD BE BLESSED!!
Chas V’shalom anyone should reach such desperation all because the community allowed things to reach such a point.
Rebbeim and teachers who went the extra mile for my kids were rewarded in kind. Tips and bonuses are meant to encourage outstanding effort from staff NOT to accept mediocrity. If any rebbe/teacher is insulted by this, let them speak to a regular employee at stam a company. Kids ‘es kumpt mir’ attitudes aren’t always taught at home.
How much do YOU get from your co-workers and boss around the holiday season?
You are paid by your company for doing the work you are hired to do. Perks and tips, etc. are nice but are NOT required. Same with teachers. The schools charge parents according to their ability for tuition. The school uses this money to fund the teacher SALARIES. Parental tips are nice but can’t be EXPECTED or DEMANDED by any rational teacher.
JC’s and waiters PRIMARY payment and income is NOT through their employer, rather it’s through tips. That’s why parents pay the tips.
tzippi:
Regarding the Chicago Seminary:
It’s called Anne Blitstein Teachers Institute. Simply shortened to T.I.
It’s under the auspices of Hebrew Theological College AKA Skokie Yeshiva!
so right:
I used to shudder when I drank coffee, that’s why I drink ONLY decaf now!
Starbuck’s here in Chicago offers milk straight from the container as well as other perks for Green Level members. All have OU certification and cRc says things are fine. In Chicago they have introduced high power percolation for individual batching as a result everything takes place within a self-cleaning machine and don’t have glass coffee pots.
I have seen them refill the metal milk containers by swishing the inside with the new hot water machines, it is NOT placed in a dishwasher. I feel perfectly comfortable drinking from Starbuck’s and most Yeshivish people who don’t use Dunkin Donuts drink at Starbuck’s.
Call my comments whatever you like.
The point is KINS, Skokie Valley, along with a few other halls do exist with enough space to meet whatever you require. Hire one of the local caterers in the Acheinu and wallah! You have a beautiful wedding for a fraction of the cost you were quoted.
If you want to keep up with the Jones’, do wahtever floats your boat. If you choose to spend 20K because you THINK people will be impressed, sweet secret: THEY’RE NOT.
The Concord started as a chessed project and till this day is a non-unionized environment. This itself saves a lot of money of waste. However, don’t go into despair there are other alternatives that don’t have the union rip-off fees.
Yogata Velo Matzasah Al Tamin!
Don’t be naive and make it sound like Chicago is some little hicktown. Look around the city, there are more options for kollel families, rebbeim, large families, and mashgichim to make weddings. You can make a huge wedding for a fraction of your quoted amount.
Do the requisite research in to ALL halls in Chicago and you will find these metzias. Put in the yegiah and you will find! Yagata umatzasah tamin!
nachas:
This is what Rabbi Finkel here in Chicago reccomends in these situations. If the parents are ready to listen and make the neccesary adjustments, the parents should invite him to a discussion. Ask the following question, “We are concerned that you are good friends with a crowd that makes poor decisions. This is not something we advocated and brought you up with. We are all ears, please explain to us where did we go wrong?”
If there was ever a relationship between the parents and teen, the teen’s verbal floodgates will open. Don’t get emotional, defensive, argue, tell him/her that they are stupid, etc., just listen and ask how the teen would reccomend to strengthen the parent-child relationship.
From testimony of quite a few parents, this is sage advice. Giving speeches how much you love him/her and your door is always open, etc. are meaningless parenting class lines. Doing the above really shows that you love and care about the teen.
Bracha Vehatzlachah to your friend and all those who go through this tzaar gidul bonim. Think about the abocve recommendation and let us hear how it went.
No, it’s not normal besides for the night before opening and closing
Ben Torah:
For reasons (unrelated to molestation) Rav Klein shlit’a is very against ANY secular court involvement. His psak is a Daas Yachid and is not accepted by the Gedolei Eretz Yisroel, or by the poskim in America.
The simple reason being that molestation and any form of PHYSICAL harm or threats that a reasonable person can assume will lead to PHYSICAL harm the person is a rodef. Bais Din nowadays lacks the enforcement power to curtail these behaviors and requires secular authorities intervention. PHYSICAL harm the poskim are lenient with the laws of mesirah. It’s better to be maikel in mesirah than to be machmir against a potential victim. NO ONE FORCES A PERSON TO GET PHYSICAL. IF HE CHOSE TO DO IT, HE MUST LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES.
mosherose: Glad to see the troll is back!!
Ludwigvanquixote:
Vote for Democrats. After all the United State’s Communist Party strongly endorse all the candidates on the Democratic slate.
As Orthodox Jews, we thank Hashem three times a day, Shelo Sam Chelkainu Kahem. You want to join them, that’s your choice!
aries2756 is 100% correct with his description of the professional investigation berformed by law enforcement experts. This is something rabbonim are not trained for and should therefore not be involved in at all.
aries2756:
Quick point: Abuse that takes place in the house is NOT A SECRET either. Whatever the child experienced at home becomes public once the child grows up and begins speaking out and letting people know that behind the facade of chashivus, his/her family are in fact rotten to the core. If a parent WILFULLY CHOOSES to abuse their child in any way, understand that what was done in private will eventually be public knowledge. Parents are advised to treat their children with the respect and human dignity they deserve.
vnishmartemmeod:
Because they are chassidei shotah. They are frummer than the Torah. The Torah says mefurash, “Lo saylech rachil be’amecha, velo saamod al dam reiecha”. In the exact sentence that it says don’t talk lashon hara, it cautions that in cases of pikuach nefesh; don’t scream, “It’s lashon harah” to alert the proper authorities.
There is no defense for those who harrass or threaten in any way any family member of an abuse victim. If any victim’s family is harrassed, threatened, or receives any form of retaliation as a result of coming forward, that information is important to be reported to the police.
Hang a bag of candy on the front door. Live the night like normal and the candy bag is usually 3/4 full.