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He was fired from the design house Christian Dior. They do not wish to have anything to do with anti-semites. He was their Head Designer and they gave him the boot. They made no excuses for him and they moved quickly. Kudos!
I remember going to the big market on 13th avenue with my father. Not unlike the shuk in Machneh Yehuda.
You might benefit from some physical therapy or massage.
Hmmmmm, coach and a white kapalah! Yeah! go for it!
For anyone who has not suffered under these conditions it is not fair to make fun or comment. Please don’t judge until you truly understand what it is like. People who don’t care about their neighbors and make noise all hours of the day or night are not only hurtful because of the noise but are doubly hurtful because they are in your face not caring about you. That is the hardest pill to swallow, right up in your face “i don’t give a hoot about you or your comfort!!!!”.
Was Farm Food the one that everything was in the vending machines?
Yup, if you went to the village it meant you went to Cafe Feenjon or the Olive tree.
2 of my boys did very funny shtick. When my youngest was in 9th grade in YFR, he dressed up in TAG high uniform, borrowed his aunt’s sheitel which he wore in pigtails, put on rollerblades and took shelach manos to his RY. He handed him the package and then gave him a big smooch. The Rosh nearly fainted and he said “Rebbe take it easy, don’t you know its just me?”
My other son must have been 19 or 20 and was very, very skinny. He bought himself a costume and wouldn’t tell anyone what it was. Purim morning he comes down the steps in this huge blow up sumo wrestler costume that was hysterical. He could barely walk. Everyone was doing belly bumps with him.
You never truly get what’s on your list……here we go again.
What kinnah? If you can afford coach buy it? If you can’t buy it on sale!
You can always go with a dress that you can dress up or down depending on what he is wearing or wear he takes you. Before you put on your coat you can add a scarf or sweater/jacket to tone up or down depending.
Meshaneh makom meshaneh mazal!
Go with your mom and see if they behave the same way when she is with you.
Eat a fruit.
Keep your cell phone handy and put it up to your ear whenever they approach you. Nod and keep moving, do not stop. Eventually they will get the message that you have a life that doesn’t include them.
Drink a tall glass of water.
My little Margie, My Mother the Car, Car 54 Where are You?, Mister Ed, The Farmer’s Daughter, Father Knows Best, The Millionaire, Loretta Young, Denise the Menace, Queen for a Day………I’m really just exercising my memory.
yoyo, can you get her to see her physician?
Sometimes you can choose to give in to a bad mood or choose to push those feelings aside and do something productive. But other times it is not within our power of choice.
Take two deep breaths and tell yourself, I know I can do this “I can’t is NOT in my vocabulary”.
Happy, if you are not in the tri-state area you might not find it that difficult to get a job when you are done. Hatzlocha rabbah.
get a hug from someone that loves you.
Sometimes you wind up with people who are just very selfish and don’t care about anyone other than themselves. It is a shame that the landlord doesn’t care either about anything other than collecting his rents. He should have told the tenants that there are rules of common courtesy and there are legal rules that the community have to abide by. He should then have set the rules for ALL his tenants according to city guidelines which are no noise past 10:00 pm and not before 8:00 am or 9:00am depending on the city ordinances. Of course he could adjust it according to what is fair and appropriate to the needs of his tenants. IF he doesn’t wake up, he will either have to get rid of the upstairs tenant of deal with an empty downstairs apartment.
There are always going to be spoiled and selfish people who thing “haolam nivrah RAK bishvili”. The world was created just for me and not give a hoot about anyone else. That is a true shame, but Hashem usually opens their eyes sooner or later with a nisayon of their own which they don’t usually understand at first.
Stamford, I also think you should believe more in yourself but it sounds like you are stuck and in need of some counseling. Whether you choose a therapist or a coach, you can benefit from setting some short term measurable and attainable goals to get on the right track and to prove to yourself that you CAN accomplish what you set your mind to. With the right support system and the right encouragement you can learn how to get past the obstacles in your way. You might even learn what those obstacles are.
I think you would benefit more from therapy than from dating. You might not fair well right now if you get rejected because you might not understand why and might take it too personally. It would be more beneficial at this time to work on yourself and get past some of the issues that are holding you back so you can go out on the dating scene with more confidence in yourself and what you have to offer another person. And please remember getting to the Chupah is not a race. Everyone at the right time with the right person. Hatzlocha.
Happy, I agree with you that is why I am saying that the MHC counseling is something that should be put on hold until it is more acceptable and becomes more of a profitable profession. Just because it is an easier and cheaper route does not make it a profitable one in the end. If you need to make a parnasah put the effort in now and it will be worth it in the end. You will be able to truly help people because you will have the best training and you will also be able to help yourself and your family by paying the bills.
CharlieHall, your Rav is a smart man, may he be zoche to bring many, many more yidden back to yiddishkeit. And may many, many yidden be zoche to learn from his midos and maasim tovim!
Yes I know, so again, why can’t you give Shaloch Manos on Motzei Shabbos?
I have never met an OTD that went off by choice. They were usually pushed in one way or another whether consciously or subconsciously. It was never a thought out logical decision, it was something that evolved.
happy, I did not do my work for $$$ or to make a business, I actually only work for chessed so it was never an issue with me. But in this economy people do choose their therapists according to who is on their insurance plan and according to how much it will cost them. People seeking therapy are under a lot of stress already and are not looking to take on an additional stressful burden such as how they are going to pay for it.
People who can afford to pay for quality care are not going to a newbie in a new field of therapy especially one who is way younger than they are. Please consider that.
Mental Health Counseling might seem like a new and exciting concept. Just one word of warning. Before going into a new field make sure that the Insurance industry recognizes it otherwise you might have a difficult time getting patients. In my field, coaching, the insurance industry does not recognize it and you can only get private patients who are willing to pay out of pocket. That will make a huge difference to someone just starting out and counting on parnasah.
When making a choice on what field to go into you also have to look at the business aspect of it not just the work aspect. If I go into this industry how will it pay the bills. Psychology and social work is an accepted form of therapy and insurance covers it. Does insurance cover this new field and will you have to worry about getting patients who will pay the bill?
RB, you can’t give shaloch manos Motzei Shabbos?
Hashem tests everyone! Nisyonos don’t just befall poor families. These things happen to ALL types of families and OTD happens even in homes of Roshei Yeshivas and prominent Rabbonim.
As PBA said no one knows what happens behind closed doors. And know one knows what happened with this child in her school, or within her tight circle of friends. She might have been bullied, she might have been made fun of. She might not have kept up with the class and fell behind and made to feel inadequate and stupid. Kids who lose their self confidence and self-esteem and whose teachers cut them off at the knees instead of help them find their way do tremendous harm without giving it a thought.
Kids who either have a problem at home or a problem at school but do not feel they have someone to turn to carry a burden within, a pain so large that it bursts until they lose their way. In trying to run away from the pain they try to run away from who they are and religion is the first thing they run away from. Because basically that is who they are. In addition, if its was a religious person that hurt them they blame the religion because it is all a jumble in their souls. “How could a religious person do that to me? What does religion truly mean?” They start to question G-d and have a fight with him. So if I stop davening what will you do to me? What did you do to that person that hurt me? And so on and so forth. They expect an immediate response and when they don’t get it they keep testing, they keep going. They are hurting and so they lash out. Once it starts to come out the damn has been broken. The pain they have been holding in side just comes flooding out in many different ways.
You can’t blame the child because you have no clue what happened to her/him. Were they molested? Were they humiliated? Is it a dysfunctional home that they just can’t handle anymore? Did the school throw them out for a minor infraction instead of work with them and show them love? If you don’t know the child and don’t know the pain they carry how could you possibly comment?
Depression in teens can lead to suicide and should never go unchecked!
YoYo, have you spoken to your friend’s parents?
Mods what happened to my post?
35 bought from Keren Aniyim. I don’t have the koach to think of a theme at my age and I don’t really care to be filling bags with candy. So I prefer to give the tzedaka. But way back when my kids were small I baked everything from cream puffs to checkerboard cake. Everything in my shelachmanos was home made and my neighbors were waiting for it!
Yogi, did you check out the neighbors before taking the new apartment?
And now the whole world sees a bit of what our French brethren go through on a daily basis.
Being a Mandated Reporter MEANS you are saving someones LIFE. If you are a professional and someone tells you of a predator you are mandated by law to report it to the police. Do you know why? Because you will save others from going through the horrors of what your patient is going through. Don’t for one minute look for ways of getting around being a mandated reporter. If you are seriously looking into a profession that “helps” people then take that responsibility seriously! Speak to you own doctors and pediatricians who are also mandated reporters and hear what they say. They will tell you which Rabbonim to speak to on the subject.
Once you fulfill the mitzvah by giving to two people it doesn’t matter when you give to others. If you are sending to someone because you are extending a gesture go for it, it is a win win situation for all concerned.
Once the taanis is over and you have heard the Megilah it is no longer Taanis Esther, you are officially into Purim. So you are allowed to give Shalach Manos at night already.
Triple S J, JDL, Rallies in front of the UN…..
Nurses are sometimes the true lifesavers and I have experienced male nurses in the hospital who were a lot more compassionate than some of the female nurses. So I am grateful for any nurse who help and truly care for their patients and are not just collecting a pay check.
Keren Aniyim, they are on-line.
Who’s on first is a classic and always will be. Every true comedian will try to do a version of it. You just have to know how to deliver it.
“You should keep in mind that her parents are in no way a reflection of her.”
What exactly does that mean????????????
Everyone and their brother/sister is a social worker but are they a “working” social worker? The point being …go to the best possible school you can even if it cost more or it is harder to travel to. Because when it comes to hiring they are going to look at your resume first! DON’T take the easy route because in the end it will get you back. If you are serious and you want to make a serious parnasa put ALL the effort you need to into it.
As far as obstacles are concerned, in every field you will come up with obstacles. In nursing you have to touch men, in pt or ot the same. If you are a physician, psychiatrist or psychologist you will face the same ethics issues. There are going to be challenges in every field and throughout your lives that you are going to have to overcome. Now is the time that your choices are going to make a huge difference for your future do NOT look for the easy way out, the competition out there is fierce and the job market is getting smaller and smaller.
Hatzlocha to all.
yoyo, is she in school? If so let her teacher or guidance counselor know so they can talk to the parents. If she is out of school and of age 18 and older then take her to her doctor who will ask her if she wants him to call her parents and discuss it or if she wants him to recommend a therapist for her.
As far as bochurim collecting…..if they are drinking or drunk we give nothing and show them the door.
Yes, they are probably buying it from tzedaka lists or even Yeshiva lists who are selling it to make money. Not nice but you never know what they do to raise funds. It may be immoral but it is not illegal.
shlishi, the ONLY one with the obligation to tell such a Jew NOT to come to shul would be the RAV and if the RAV does not take upon himself to deliver such a message who are YOU to make such a comment?????????
Obviously it is NOT appropriate to do so!!!!! So maybe the RAV knows better than YOU.
Everything comes out of China. Global Source is the internet site for Chinese manufacturers. I had one contact that is really from Australia that was honest. msefashions.com I don’t know if they have what you are looking for, but they were definitely the most honest from the bunch.