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What was your take away from this event?
You dont have to go to Paris to hear that. Within a couple of miles of OU headquarters you can find lots of people who will tell you the same thing!
forget come apart. unless you place your pot directly on the burner, it will fall right through. I dont think there is an aluminum foil on the market strong enough to support an empty pot, let alone one full of food.
“I dont follow”
The only thing you should worry about following is the psak of your Rav.
I will try to be clearer. In short, if “rabbi” shirley temple certifies something as kosher, I can be sued for slander by stating it is not kosher (tip: try calling the OU, OK, star-K or any well known kashrus agency and ask them if “supervision X is reliable”). The law does not recognize or accept as kosher, (for example) the CRC standard of kashrus any more then it does hers. If she claims it is kosher all she must do it show that she supervises to her standard of “kashrus” and you cant claim it is not “kosher” under the law. The law will not decide whose standard of kashrus is correct (nor do we want them getting involved either).
“but the mashgiach never shows up. Would you still consider it an “eid echad”?”
On the one hand, is there a din bagel shenisalem min ha’ayin, on the other hand, how reliable is the proprietor to begin with? often there is zero ne’emanus as far as the proprietor is concerned and just because an ou certified bagel was delivered at 5am, it doesnt mean that all bagels sold in the store at 8am are from this source. If you wish to believe the proprietor, we may as well do away with all store supervisions and rely on the non jewish owner that all product are from the certified source. Are you really making such an argument?
Joseph, you can (and people HAVE been) successfully sue if an agency declares your supervision “not kosher”. It is why NY States old kosher laws had to be rewritten. If Rabbi Shirley Temple claims it is kosher and certifies it as such, you can not claim “anything certified by rabbi temple is not kosher”, since the law will not recognize one standard over another. You may say it doesnt meet standard X or something similar, but to say “not kosher”, you will lose every time. In NJ all certifying agencies must state what standards their kosher claim adheres to.
Joseph, a lawsuit for slander coukd go forwRd.
who said it does
why does it matter if r’ moshe z’l parents were chassidishe or litvish?
My question was rhetorical. It doesnt matter to me who was smarter or greater. It is irrelevent. All of them were way smarter and way greater than me.
Re: Nusach Sefard. How did it get its name, in that “sefardim” dont daven nusach sefard.
Are trolls litvishe or chassidish?
If it was private, do you think it would be open to you, an outsider?
Just finished learning todays Daf. Can someone tell me if Rav Meir, Rav Yehuda, Rav Sheshes and Rav Pappa were chassidish or litvish? What about Rashi? Rabbeinu Tam?
maybe you did. perhaps you shoveled dung in his stables in a previous gilgul?
There is a shulchan aruch for trolls?
The makers of Johhnie Walker had the best response.
Is it Black, is it Blue, is it Gold, who cares, just pour me another!
The original “haskamos” were really letters against publishing the sefer in question for X amount of time.
Perhaps im guilty of “assuming” but i assume this thread was named by the op.
“I’ve listened however there isn’t any logic to what there saying”
As great as the Satmar Rebbe Z’l was and continues to be through his sefarim and talmidim, many, many, many gedolim simply disagree with him as it relates to his shitta regarding “the medina”. You are obligated to follow the shitta of your Rebbe, as others are obligated to follow theirs. I’m sure you are aware that Rav Elyashiv and Rav Ovadia Yosef Zichronam Livracha were on the payroll of “the medina”.
Does lip balm = chapstick? perhaps it is very loose and greasy and mimachek doesnt apply at all, and perhaps the issue is one of refua and not mimachek? Did he shmear the lip balm or did he dab it onto his lips and then smack his lips together? Lets not be so quick to call someone a michallel shabbos, especially if the facts are not known, much less the relevant halachos.
so, if i apply toothpaste or chapstick using my finger, all is good?
“Ask your Rav if that’s true.”
I did. He said it is.
Trust. Yes, say that. The OP is talking about telling someone they are a mechallel shabbos. If you “think” they are, dont call them one. Suggest they look into what they are doing, or sugget they ask the Rav.
“Giving tochacha is halachicly required of every Jew, not just of rabbis.”
Only when you are certain the person will listen. Accusing someone of chillul shabbos, when not 100% conversant in hilchos shabbos is not tochacha, at best it is just being stupid.
Midvar sheker tirchak is also one of the taryag mitzvos.
In my day we called the girl and arranged the first date and part of the conversation included what we would like to do, where we would like to go etc. is that taboo now? does the shadchan arrange the first date now?
what kind of world do we live in, where someone can essentially ask, is it ok for me to fool people so i can get a shidduch. are people in shidduchim so desperate?
“the holy land”
holy to whom. last i checked “the zionists” didnt control mecca or medina.
why?
“I’ve always wondered what’s wrong with it, but nobody seems to know.”
Ask your Rav. If you trust him not to simply pull information out of thin air, if he is not an expert in kashrus, he will consult someone who is. If not, get a new Rav.
and if it WAS lip balm and you think this fellow was mechallel shabbos, speak to your Rav. He is better suited to discussing hilchos shabbos with this fellow, than you.
where is the try state?
what a scary thought
So, what comes down to is a disgruntled balabusta who has leftovers every shabbos because her husband eats in shul, or worse, is insulted weekly by her husband not eating her food. That’s an issue she needs to address with her husband not those making a kuddush.
Why are chabad bachurim buying expensive borsalinos, only to twist them out of shape? Any cheap hat will do.
Again, a large group of people no longer buying something they can not afford, is that a boycott or communal fiscal prudence?
I hate it when the guy behind the deli counter (or any counter really) starts missionizing to me. Dont do it, just slice the pastrami and wrap it up. Leave the speeches for another time.
Thats quite a coordinated dog you have there. How did you train it to perform the services?
I was disappointed with the mishpacha article. They didnt interview those behind this “boycott”, or those in the 13-24 year age group that they so eloquently maligned and bashed for their take on the matter. Most of all, I was really surprised they didnt try to answer a basic question. Is not buying something you cant afford, a boycott, or a prudent financial decision.
Just because you think “assorted cakes, kugel, cholent and now even salads” is lavish, doesn’t mean I do. Of course, if you are insulted or otherwise put off by “lavish” dont attend.
Weve gone s long way from the original commenter. Regarding the original comment and to answer the question if it us a reality the answer is simple. The couple look at themselves and ask. Is the husband suited to learning in a kollel all day. Does he have the desire and ability to do so. Yes, no? What about half a day? Is she ready, willing and able to shoulder much of the financial responsibility? What expectations do they have if their spouse in terms of “help” and are they ready willing and able to commit? Have they spoken individually and as a couple to their rebbe or madricha regarding their goals and do they agree that those goals ate suited to them? Stop looking at e everone else, get hadracha fpe yourself ad an individual and as a couple.
Rema. so you are saying perception isnt everything? I know many shidduchim turned down because of perception and not reality, earlier this wee a shidduch that I was involved with was turned down by a girls father because “if he was such a good bachur he wouldnt be learning in X, he would be learning in Y” (I purposely left out the names of the yeshivos since they are irrelevent – my point is it is perception, not that the bachur is learning, but WHERE is “learning”).
Yofi is in the eyes of the beholder.
“Either it is legal or not.”
Is it really so black and white? May I suggest any number of works written by Rav Ahron Levine Z’l.
Econimics and Jewish Law, or perhaps Business Ethics in Jewish Law or perhaps Economic Morality and Jewish Law (among many other books he wrote).
I am not here to pasken, but you will see that it is not so simple. Where does “hin tzedek” (your “yes” should be sacred) come in to play. What about Vihyisem Nikeyim? Geneivas Daas? These are not abstract concepts.
Asay licha Rav (or rebbetzin).
If the couple is committed it is possible.
“because a picture doesn’t show chein”
which is a good thing, since sheker hachein.
@ FFBBT613 The only question you answered is “are you serious about getting married”. You still did not answer if you considered what life would be like with all those demands on you and what type of reciprocal commitment you expect from your spouse. In truth, you do not owe anyone here, least of all me, answers to those questions. Those are questions you should answer for yourself together with the one you believe is destined to be your spouse and you have come to a mutual understanding and agreement.
Unfortunately, in the world of shidduchim it is irrelevent if someplace is a makom torah or not. All that matters is how the makom is perceived. Even in Lakewood, one can be in the wrong makom (BMG isnt the only yeshiva) or the wrong chabura in the “right” yeshiva. Illusion and perception is what too many people are caught up in.
Perhaps I missed the response to this somewhere along the line. In the opening post it is written “The boy I have in mind currently wants to learn in Kollel the first few years of marriage.” Is this a two way feeling or is this a little fantasy word of yours where you confuse boyfriend with serious prospective husband. Does he see you as a legitimate spouse, or are you his “girlfriend”.
You state that you see yourself as possibly being married, in college and working to support a husband and g-d willing eventually a growing family.
Are you able to physically handle being a wife, student and employee all at the same time?
Can you handle all of the above emotionally?
What expectations do you have from your spouse (whoever it might be) in this relationship, do you for example, expect help with housekeeping? Shopping? Cleaning? Laundry?
Your current boyfriend, what are his expectations from his spouse? Is he expecting to be married to supergirl who has 36 hours a day to earn a living, attend college classes and do the appropriate course work, keep a clean and neat home, and have three meals on the table ready when he is hungry? If yes, are you prepared to be that person? Forget luxuries, I am talking about basics.
Have you ever thought about these things for yourself? Have you discussed it with your long time boyfriend, now handpicked spouse to be?
Surely after all this time you know his opinion.
If interested in “kolel life and how they do it” logic dictates you get to know a number of kolel couples and learn what you can from them. As for your male friend, where foes he stand? What yeshiva does he learn in and where would he learn post marriage? I’m also curious what his Rav has to say about his relationship with you, for that matter, what your Rav has yo say about your relationship with him. I assume you both have a Rav, mentor or some form of Torah guide you both turn to when faced with qquestions. Asay licha Rav, comes before kneh licha chaver.
I’m not hear to “bash” segulos. I’m merely echoing the sentiment of others, mah nishtana this day over any other regarding the recitation of parshas haman. If anyone knows what it is, please share it.