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I think its a good idea to be involved with shidduchim. It’s a bad idea to deliberately waste someones time. If you think it’s a good idea, suggest it, and the parties involved disagree, they will say no thanks.
“the 2 biggest ones are Kitnyot and Selichot”
These are not hashkafos. they are minhagim in halacha.
let them take a nap and fulfill the obligation according to the opinions that sleeping suffices. besides, women have become the designated drivers for their husbands/sons on purim.
do ashkenazim and sefardim have different hashkafos?
OK
“Also a boy who is considered a long time learner these days is no longer a gauge.”
“long term learner”.
Its a meaningless phrase, like “tops in the yeshiva” or outgoing, but not too outgoing”.
“What are the most popular dinner & dancing music currently being played?”
The really loud ones that hurt your ears, and the vibrations go through your kishkes. The songs are so loud, noone has been able to identify what is actually being played, if anything. Its lots of boom, boom boom with a little clarinet and trumpet thrown in for good measure. I’m not sure anyone has (or can) copyrighted that noise yet.
I would start with requiring that all rebbeim/moros send their own children to the schools they teach in. Either way, they are going to get a reduction, at least, let the school that employs the parent subsidize that childs tuition, as a “perk” not a different one.
Just think of all those non jewish who work so hard to ensure our yeshiva bachurim, certainly a very tiny slice of the general population, have white shirts to wear. Charles Tyrwhit, Paul Fredrick, Calvin Klein, Tommy Hilfiger and many, many, many others.
“But having teachers as slaves is?”
Anyone can walk away at any time. In fact, they likely knew going in that they would end up in the predicament being discussed.“If a parent has 5+ kids and is expected to pay 10K+ in tuition for them, thatās a crisis.”
Please name one Yeshiva that demands this from every family.“When a yeshiva asks for 10K+ in tuition per student, pays its staff minimally, and canāt be bothered to pay them on time, itās not a crisis; itās just mismanagement.”
I will agree with this statement if the word “asks” is replaced with “gets”. You show me a Yeshiva that gets that tuition from every student, and I will show you a school with a highly qualified, professional staff that is well paid, on time. Every other Yeshiva does not get anywhere near that kind of tuition per student and as a result their highly qualified staff is underpaid, and is often behind on payroll and other bills.
” And yes, I would say teachers should take one out of the power companiesā books and be less forgiving. They shouldnāt be taken advantage of.”
If halacha allows it, I’m all for it. I’ll stand with them in the picket line if they felt it would be beneficial.
“When you talk about yeshivas, suddenly nobody cares about the teachers. ”
Thats absurd.
“Rebbes and Morahās are more forgiving than the Banks or Power Companies.”
You wouldnt know it from threads such as this. Right from the opening message in this thread, yeshiva administrators are labeled as flaunting a sugya in shas and a whole siman in shulchan aruch. Since we are ok with using such broad brushes, lets label all parents who do not pay tuition deadbeats.
When it comes to the tuition paying parent and their inability (unwillingness?) to pay we call it “a crisis”. Yet, when it comes to the yeshiva administrators who fall behind in salaries, we label them low lifes who flaunt the shulchan aruch.
How convenient.
The store asks for your number to track your purchases. You can politely decline. I assure you they will sell you your milk.
“Is āshushingā the āshusherā nekama?”
Nekama or not, it is infantile.
“Great Value Milk is OU-certified (when bearing the OU symbol). ”
The Great Value milk sold in the Walmart Supercenter in Harrison, NJ, which qualifies as the greater NY area, does NOT have an OU.
And, how do you know I’m not Joseph?
Rav Moshes psak is not a heter. It is a psak that says the government oversight and regulation satisfies the concerns of chazal that required chalav yisroel to begin with. Despite that, he DOES say that a baal nefesh should consume what we call chalav yisroel, even at a greater cost.
“So those relying on Rav Mosheās heter for Cholov Stam should drink such non-hechsher milk in the U.S. just as they would drink OU-D milk in the U.S.”
Only if it is straight milk. Look at the ingredient panel, sometimes vitamins and other things are added which may require a hechsher. again, dont believe me, call your Rav, or one of the kashrus agencies.
“Joseph, I challenge you to find milk in a supermarket in the NY Metro area without a hechsher.”
The “Great Value” (walmart private label) milk does not have a hechsher on it.
If it DOES have a hechsher, what would it imply?
“Itās an inyan of derech eretz, ”
It could be a doraisa of “mipnei seiva takum” (my rav mentions this several times a year in context of weddings. people stand for the chassan and kallah – for whatever reason – and aside from some family, how many people stand for the grandparents who walk down to the chuppa, where it is a doraisa to stand for them).
“Most, if not all, cholov haācompaniesā have top notch reliable hashgachas.”
While this statement is true, in of itself, it should NOT be misconstrued, twisted and then extrapolated that the hechsher is certifying that the milk in the product is in fact milk from a cow (or other kosher source). In fact, it is NOT. They rely on the psak of R’ Moshe that if the company says it is cows milk, it is cows milk. They do NOT have someone at the farm verifying the source of the milk. This is true even if the certification is on nothing more than a container of milk. (why the hechsher is on the milk may be as simple as the contract with the certifying agency and the company, or, there may be things added to the milk that require hechsher).
As always, do not rely on something you read on the internet. Call the OU, OK, ChafK or any other hechsher that certifies products made with “chalav hacompanies” for yourself and ask them directly, what their symbol on a container of milk implies, if anything.
@Gadolahadora. So, since all baalei simcha are as sensible as you assert, this discussion about sitting in others seats is moot, since there is always plenty of space for everyone. siddurim and chumashim too. and place at the kiddush, and food.
Yep. Its Adar.
“Are colored shirts okay for Shabbos?” Is there an inyan to specifically wear white on shabbos? If there is, then that would answer why not.
“Are shorts okay instead of full length pants?” I wouldnt swim in full length pants.
“Are white sneakers okay instead of black shoes?” If I was playing basketball I would wear white sneakers over any color shoes, every time.
Everything has its proper time, and place.
“Itās like in Mitzrayim when Klal Yisroel didnāt change their levush.”
What color robes did they wear in mitrayim, I must update my wardrobe asap.
Hachnosos Orchim doesnt mean, they are plonis guests for his simcha, so lets make it plonis problem. At least not in my shul.
Nothing like someone with an agenda.
This could all be avoided if people in a shul welcomed guests and helped them find a seat, siddur or anything else they might need.
This could be avoided if a shul with 40 seats and 38 regular mispallelim was expecting an additional 25 mispallelim for a simcha, planned accordingly by bringing in extra chairs and/or siddurim. If there is no physical space to do so, that is poor planning on the part of the baal simcha.
why not call the yeshiva and ask them? why not visit?
“In which communities do tax evaders, child molestors or people stealing government benefits like Medicaid or section 8 parade their crimes in public?”
Ain lidayan elah mah sha-anayim ro-os. Put another way, ever hear the saying, hear no evil, see no evil…
Dont be so disingenuous.“Person: But those people are going to die anyway according to Hashemās Will.”
You: It is also Hashems will that we do everything we can to live safe and healthy lives. Tamin Tihyeh Im Hashem Elokecha.
“Person: But those people are going to die anyway according to Hashemās Will.”
You: It is also Hashems will that we do everything we can to live safe and healthy lives. If it Hashems will a person dies in a traffic fatality, no matter how safe it is Hashems will, ill prevail. If it is Hashems will that a person not die, then it doesnt matter if they are at the opening of the gas chamber, they will not die, unless they deliberately place themselves there. We are responsible to deal with the things in our control, which includes reasonable precautions to lead safe lives, after that, Daven.
ākollel guys leaving bais medrash to create havoc on israeli streets on hiways and biways ā
Imagine they werent dressed appropriately to boot!
As it relates to this topic, everyone should be concerned about the dress of their own wife and daughter. As it relates to someone elses wife or daughter, try to be mechazek your friend so that HE can address whatever is necessary with his wife and daughters if need be. If you dont know how, speak to your Rav or Rebbetzin, or your friends Rav, or or Rebbetzin.
Several years ago, an op-ed in mishapacha magazine by Rav Leib Kelman, titled “where are the men” hit on an important point often overlooked in these discussion. Where are the husbands and fathers of these women.
It’s easy to point fingers at the women, but, like Rabbi Kelman asked in the article, the male gender has gone awol on this topic.
What is he smoking?
While we’re at it, lets expand the list to all those “italian” shoes and clothing stores, theie grandparents were responsible for churban beis hamikdash, found throughout, BP, WilliB, Monsey and other communities. Let’s also add all xtian owned products since their grandparents have been hounding us for 2 plus millennia.
Uber eats.
I know a shadchan who wears techeiles.
curves in an example of a female only gym, and cuts fitness for men is male only.
I thought it was called , dai dai dai, aye aye aye
Is this the mens or womens section of the coffee room?
I thought in a leap year, the freezer opens on rosh chodesh adar…
what is contradictory?
“they could designate their homes as an annex of the yeshiva and therefore legally park overnight??”
How wide are the homes of these bus drivers that a school bus would fit in front?
school buses (owned, used or hired by a public or private school) are legally allowed to park on residential streets on nights and weekends only if the spots are āin front of and within the building lines of the premises of the public or nonpublic school.ā, according to the New York City Department of Transportation Traffic Rules, 2017 34 RCNY 4-08(k)(6).
It’s a sad day for an organization that they have to emoy such a gimmick to raise funds.
“they didnāt inspect it altogether because it was known the other hashgacha would inspect those batches.”
This is a nice sevara. It isn’t true. In fact, I know family of the sticker that wo t eat the salad without the, star k.
Does the “rabbinical board” of this Mesivta approve of the event?
A tzadik like you should be fasting every day.