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Your 17, in college and dont have the guts to quit, working in (based on the discussion here) a remote basement where it is just you and the doctor, or at times, you and a male patient (but no doctor?) and noone else? You are concerned about yichud, but not your personal safety. That about sums up your dilemma?
Where are your parents?
In my neighborhood, the Eruv Rav, is the Rav who permits the use of the Eruv on shabbos.
@ joseph. should one violate the lav of baal tishaktsu to keep a minhag aveilus?
pet peeve of mine. those who bring all sorts of pillows, cushions and lower to the floor leather chairs to shul on tisha bav. they forget the minhag is to sit on the floor as a sign of aveilus, not that there is a din bidavka not to sit on a chair. the sitting on the toilet question blurs these lines as well. as was pointed out above, reading a magazine even while otherwise occupied in the bathroom removes ones mind from the state of the taanis and mood of aveilus. now for my psak. once already reading, sitting a little longer makes no difference since one is already not involved with the aveilus.
mik5. I was wondering the same thing. surely patients would be coming in and out all day.
The question of the OP reminds me of a question I was asked many times when on a business trip in the bible belt. again and aghain the question asked was “what do jews think of “j”. Again and again I answered, we dont.
“they just need a reason to do it– the goofier, the better.”
Its a shame “the cause” isn’t reason enough to give.
Reading the AMA guidelines, I get the impression that they dont recommend this therapy, not because it doesnt work (they dont take a position in fact), but rather because studies by other groups, including the APA have shown it can cause other serious problems.
Either way, the Torah is quite clear where it stands about people engaging in this specific “lifestyle” (this is a family friendly forum). To hold a parade that celebrates, promotes and flaunts this lifestyle, in the shadow of the har habayis, is worthy of condemnation in the strongest possible terms. The parade organizers made it abundantly clear how they feel about the sensitivities of other people when they refused to remove rainbow flags hanging in front of shuls such as Heichal Shlomo, no reason to tiptoe around them and their feelings and sensitivities either.
More than anything, alot of this discussion is political in nature. Medicaid in NY State (my home state, which is why I looked up its guidelines – other states may or may not have the same policy)for example will not cover conversion therapy except in certain situations. The stated reason for non coverage is contradicted by the exceptions that are covered.
On a positive note. The Evita club in Tel Aviv closed down 2 days ago.
“statistically speaking they do in fact work the same as any other therapy.”
And how do those therapies work? Well, not well? Case by case basis?
The gemara clearly isnt bothered by this question.
Nashim, bmai zachyi……
They dont learn torah? What is learning Tanach with pirush Rashi, Ramban, Ibn Ezra, Seforno and Malbim called? You could debate the necessity of them learning that, but it is torah, even if it isnt learned in Yeshivos.
Whatever decisions she made in front of the mirror that morning is irrelevant. Telling her “you look terrible” is not tochacha.
Call her rebbetzin. Telling someone “you look terrible” is not tochacha. It might be onaas devarim. Call her Rebbetzin, let her deal with it.
Good thing you didn’t.
The mechaber rules like the Rashba that hair is considered part of the body regarding the issur of having hanaa from a corpse (the rambam rules it is not but the sa follows the strict opinion of rashba). Based on this psak in shulchan aruch I highly doubt frum sheitel machers would use hair from cadavers (hopefully someone has asked after all these years!!!). It is true though that cadavers are used to produce wigs in the non jewish world.
People need to be careful not to confuse compassion with chanifa, or worse, approval.
“my ob gyn will be a female.”
You are free to choose whoever you feel will offer you the best treatment for whatever situation you may find yourself in, whether it is the ob/gyn, the internist or the podiatrist. You should never need these professionals for anything other than routine care.
“Is that the heter for a male OB/GYN?”
If a female ob/gyn needs this heter to treat a male patient, I think she should call a shrink, not a rav.
Or as is recently happening, surgically change ones self into the other gender.
I recently heard of a conversation that supposedly took place between the Satmar Rebbe Z’l (the divrei yoel) and Rav Ahron Kotler Z’l. The Rebbe asked, chazal say shmone esrei lichupa, why do your bachurim delay getting married? Rav Ahron is reported to have responded, they are just davening a long shmone esrei, to which the Rebbe replied, when davening a long shemone esrei one misses out on kedusha. Obviously 2 different hashkafos.
“All of the principals apologize and said that sociologically, this couldn’t work”
I know one seminary head who opposed it for a different reason. What should the girls be doing until they were 20+ or older before they started dating? Many would be in college or working (and there are only so many teachers assistants, office girl jobs available in the community) and they would then be not desirable to yeshiva bachurim because of the secular influences of college or the secular work place. Damned if you do, damned if you dont.
heter of the week. charge them a nominal fee (lets say a nickel) and now you are doing it for parnassah, since you are involved with your parnassah we are not concerned (same heter a male ob/gyn or even a car service driver has).
be back next week with another heter.
The messianics are just as sincere and feel the same connection.
whatever it is about, it is cheering on, normalizing, and in many instances promoting something the torah says not to do. for no other reason it is worthy of condemnation
“If you don’t have seichel… then what???”
Perhaps you shouldnt be driving altogether, but if you do, ask your Rav what to do.
“but Judaism is still Judaism and even if they reject parts of it, that doesn’t negate the fact that they’re still practicing in some way.”
“The only people who call themselves practicing Jews who really, truly aren’t, are Hebrew Christians (so-called “Messianic Jews”).”
These 2 statements of yours are contradictory. The so called messianics also practice in “some way”. According to you, whats the difference what the person rejects, so long as they practice in some way you should consider them pacticing judaism”.
“Judaism isn’t all or nothing.”
It IS when someone says, I pick this, but wont do that, and this I will do every other week. when one does this they are not practicing judaism, they are practicing certain things that jews do because they like doing them for whatever reason. this is very different than someone who knows little to nothing and is sincerely trying to learn something.
“anyone born with a predilection to murder or ,say,shoplifting will be unable to control themselves ??”
Whether the answer is yes, or no, nobody sane or intelligent would cheer this person on as he paraded around taking pride in it!
Pokemon started as a childrens cartoon. The only socializing was by the adults as the kids sat in front of the TV glued to the screen.
I dont understand the entire discussion here. It is a parade that was organized to show ones “pride” in a certain lifestyle (that the name of the parade). Whatever the reason one lives this lifestyle, it is antithesis to the torah and one should not take pride in such behavior. As such the parade should be condemned in the strongest possible way.
YWNPoster. You are correct. Nintendo did not create the game. A company named Niantic created the game under license from Nintendo who owns the Pokemon brand. Nintendo is also a part owner of Niantic which thanks to PokemonGo is now worth in excess of 3 billion dollars.
My Rav told me once, this falls into the category of the 5th shulchan aruch. Seichel needs to be applied to the situation. If you dont have seichel……
Sparkly:
1: I did not write kicked off, I wrote pushed off, by circumstances and lifes experiences.
2: “most mo dont wear a kippah.”
How do you know this? Do you personally know a majority of “MO” people, or have you polled them? I think you are wrong because the overwhelming majority of people I know who claim to be MO do in fact where a kippah. Still, I can not, and will not make a blanket statement that “most MO do or dont do X since I dont know the majority of MO adherents to make such a statement”.
“they dont cover their hair or theyll barely cover their hair.”
Again, how do you know this? My personaly experience says you are wrong, but my personal experience is not enough to make blanket statements about a large group of people.
“i dont need to cover my hair when i get married”
I will assume you are a male then? If you are a female, you DO need to cover your hair, in public because the Halacha mandates that you do.
“but i choose to because im more religious than mo.”
This is a mistaken statement, you do it because you choose to? Thats nice and all, but where is Hashem in the equation? doing it because Hashem said to is why you should, not because you choose to. Doing something because you choose to (or not doing something for similar reason)removes Hashem completely from the equation and your religiousness hardly matters.
“literally nobody in the world does it perfectly.”
There is a difference between not doing something perfectly and making a conscious decision to simply ignore something, or worse, publicly flaunt what one chooses to ignore. Performing 612 out of 613 mitzvos perfectly, but deliberately ignoring that last one does not make one a .9983686 tzadik, it makes someone a 100% sinner.
Why is it any different than asking why people drive a $75,000 mercedes when they can get around town just as efficiently in a $20,000 chevy. the answers to the sheitel question are probably just as varied as the answer to the car question.
“OTD is people who are PUSHED OUT , not people who have left.”
Doesnt the “O” = Off? Since when did it signify a specific reason why one was off. One could have fallen off, walked off or have been pushed off. Off is off. The why might determine how you deal with that person and help put them back on the proper path.
There are many used car dealerships operated by frum jews. Pick up a local hemishe weekly or monthly in flatbush, BP, Williamsburg, Monsey, 5 towns, Lakewood or any other sizeable frum neighborhood and go through the ads.
“i think this game was made to get people to have an exercise instead of stay inside all day playing games.”
It was made so that nintendo revenues will rise. when the game stops producing revenue (when people get sick of it), they will stop development on the game and focus on their next money making project.
This is your takeaway from Shiva asar bitamuz?
People are not crazy, they are bored with their realilty, this is why they play these fantasy type “online interactive” games. It creates a false new exciting lives for them.
Now, if putting Pokemon in the beis medrash is a way to get someone who otherwise wont go there into it, then I say we capitalize on it and when these poor people come in, invite them for a cup of coffee and tell them a shtickel torah, you never know what can come from it.
Would you endorse someone who implied that your father was connected to the murder of jfk? bigger question is, why did they let him speak?
IMHO, it is not good advice for anyone to learn anything from a “how to” book, no matter how great the author. Better advice would be, find yourself a Rebbetzin and learn from her.
“Does eating a plate of vegetables and a cube of melon allow you to be yotzei kiddush be’makom seudah?”
Who said they are interested in being yotzei kiddush bimakom seuda?
1- What Gashmiyus is absolutely essential for a g’valdik Shabbos
Morning Kiddush?
Anything above 80 proof.
2 – What Food shall be chosen for the first Mezoynoyz Brocho?
I always recommend a plain piece of chocolate cake or a kichel, you can be sure you will have some mezonos in the slice of cake or kichel. The fancier cakes are loaded with cream, margarine, fillings and frostings, and usually contain very little “mezonos substance”.
3 – What do we think about mixed Kiddushim?
I always think it is a bad idea to mix hagafen and shehakol beverages in the same kiddush cup. Best to make kiddush on a cup of wine, and then make a lchaim on the bourbon or scotch of your choice.
4 – What are the best conversation starters in the Kiddush Hall?
Is there more herring? Great, can you pass it? alternatively, Did you try some of that (insert favorite scotch or bourbon here) yet? No, pass your cup and lets make a lchaim.
5 – What are the best ways to remember to say ‘Al HaMichyoh’ upon leaving the Kiddush Hall?
Listen when the Rav is saying out loud and answer amen.
Halichos bas Yisroel by Rav Yackov Yitzchak Fuchs. It is not a sefer specifically on halachos of tzniyus, rather a sefer of halachos as they pertain to women, including tefilla, hadlakos neiros and of course a number of chapters dedicated to the halachos of tzniyus. It comes in 2 volumes, I believe volume 2 contains the halachos of tzniyus.
The year the seforim were burned in france, r’l, on erev shabbos parshas chukas, what parsha was leined that shabbos in e’y?
MA. With one exception, the tenth of teves. In fact, two years ago Asara Bteves occured on friday and jews all over the word fasted on that friday (well, I guess except you).
What about cowhide? May jews toss around the pigskin?
“it is against halacha to ever fast on any erev Shabbos i.e. friday”
Do you EVER stop and consider what you are writing before you do so? You are aware that the minhag mentioned was not made up by some random anonymous coffee room user, it is brought down by the Magen Avraham in the name of the Shibolei Haleket. A closed mouth, never gathers a foot.