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MA. Proof is a different story. I can theoretically rob a bank and get away with it too.
Joseph. Confidential information is not limited to office hours. Employees entrusted with confidential information are expected even out of the office to maintain discretion. Ones compensation package is considered confidential in many companies. Like it or not.
IF the seminary you are asking about is in Brooklyn N.Y. it MIGHT be the seminary known as Ateres Seminary with the word “Naava” written into the crown. In which case look up ateres Naava dot net. I know nothing about the seminary But the reputation of those involved is nothing but praiseworthy. Contact info is available on that site as well.
You are asking for information about a seminary that you know nothing about including the country it is located? Surely you are joking.
Many seminaries contain the word Ateres. Where is this one located?
Where I work your salary is considered proprietary information and is not allowed to be shared with other employees. Failure to comply with this policy according to company handbook is subject to disciplinary action including termination. Employers do not want employees sharing compensation under any circumstances.
In the igros moshe, Rav moshe thoroughly covers the halachic issues related to “social saying”, ie guys and gals hanging out for social purposes not shidduchim.
Just Google “what red nail polish says about a person”.
As for reason for kashrus. I personally couldnt tell you one, and even if I did and you disagreed with it, would you eat non kosher?
(besides for kosher)
Is another reason necessary?
Gavra using your line of thinking why stop at leggings. A pair of pants also covers the knee.
Joseph,
Call the consumer protection agencies of each state and ask them if such a return policy, when clearly stated up front, violates any state laws. Come back to us and report, after you made those phone calls. Regarding your hypothetical case, one would have to review all applicable laws in each city and state and then we can answer you, until then, as long as any policy is enforced evenly to all across all customers (and the policy itself is legal) then they can do whatever they wish. It may be (note: I said, may, since I dont know what motivated such a policy to begin with) a bad business decision, but bad business decisions are not illegal.
The specific return policy in question has been found to fully comply with all laws in the sates of NY and NJ. Why such a policy exists is speculation on the part of everyone here. When the owners decide to provide a reason, then we will know. Until then all guesses are either slander against the business owner or whole neighborhoods of people.
Back to the meat and fish. Where is there a source, anywhere, that one should not have fish and meat on the table at the same time. Please do not discuss, eating, cooking or eating one right after the other.
MA. Where in kuf tes zayin is the issue of fish and meat on the same table (with some eating fish and others meat) raised as an issue, with or without a heker?
The anonymity of the keyboard.
Reb Joseph. I’m not advocating one way over another. I’m merely saying what society claims is proper behavior whether a logical reason, a stupid reason or no reason at all exists. Therefore, I do not feel compelled or otherwise obligated in any way to answer your question.
According to several etiquette sites the “custom” for men to hold open doors for women was a matter of practicality. Women wore corsets and very wide skirts, opening doors wasbt easy. The reason may have changed but the custom seems to have remained.
A city in Germany installed traffic lights in the sidewalk to combat distracted walking. The city experienced a number distracted pedestrians walking into traffic.
There is a gemara somewhere (Im sure Joseph has it bookmarked for such discussions) that says one who walks behind a woman is considered an am haaretz. So, to all frum girls on a date with a yeshiva guy, can I assume you are not interested in the am haaretz of the yeshiva?
when I was in shidduchim about 25 years ago, the accepted practice (and I dont know how both sides knew this, but everyone just did) was that the guy held open the door, gal walked through and moved to the side and guy came in and they continued walking together.
The number one rule in writing a news article or story is midvar sheker tirchak, not a catchy come on. If you can accomplish both, great.
Comlink-x. so, you are insulted or hurt when some random anonymous internet person says something not nice to you?
DY. Taking potshots at named or strongly implied people and/or organizations is most certainly assur, the thread where you lifted that from makes clear (to me anyway) that specific groups or people were had in mind. In this thread we are discussing completely anonymous people. If you disagree with the distinction, so be it.
I didn’t realize one could be hurt or insulted by Mr. Or Mrs. Anonymous. Don’t we rule that damages for “boshes” are determined by the social standing of the embarrassed party and the one doing the embarrassing? Do random anonymous internet people even make the bottom rung of the ladder of social standing?
Of all the things you have raised online, have you discussed a single one with your family? What have they advised?
Your husband will want to be your husband, not your mentor.
Your mother doesnt want you to have a mentor? Shed rather instead you turn to anonymous internet strangers? Does she wish to be your mentor?
If the people in your social circle would look down on you for having a mentor, you are in the wrong social circle. Everyone needs a mentor. Only someone who is full of themself claims not to need a mentor.
I don’t know what you are looking for in a shidduch. I don’t know where you live or what your social circle is like. I don’t want to know either. All i Will say is that you might be looking for shidduch b in the wrong place.
There are several components to observance. The first is the knowledge that one has certain religious obligations the second is, how committed you are to fulfilling those obligations. There is another component called growth, which is the recognition that there is more to observance than (I am using these examples because they have come up) just Shabbos and Kashrus, and learning about it and committing to its observance as well. Ones environment certainly plays a role in ones growth, or its opposite. I doubt most people simply remain “as is”. I have no idea how old you are, where you live or what type of people you spend your time with, but at some point in your life people simply wont care where you went to high school.
I’m confused.
Sparkly. You keep saying things with implications you may or may not mean. We are not prophets and only know what you write not what you really intend. With that said, I don’t know what they do or don’t teach at Ohr Samayech but I’m fairly certain they never said two specific mitzvos are more important than others. They may have advised two take on those 2 mitvos before others but it wouldn’t be because they are most important. All are equally important. I think you are making an assumption that is wrong. Either way as has been stated several times, you need a mentor and a guide to consult and clarify. I’m also certain that anyone at Ohr Sameach would tell you the sentiment “I’m happy where I am right now” is not correct.
“kosher and shabbos are the most important for a jew.”
You keep saying this, on what do you base this statement? Why is taharas hamishpacha, hearing the shofar on Rosh Haashana or kibbud av or any other of the taryag mitzvos any less important?
I think the question should be, “how to increase observance” or how to “grow closer to hashem and do his will”. You are religious by the fact that you believe in hashem. For whatever reasons (they are private and I do not wish to know them) your connection to hashem is lacking, therefore fulfilling everything he wants is also lacking. This is not unique to you. It is something we all have to work on every day. For you it manifests in the things listed above, for other people it is other things.
“its because im trying to become more religious”.
“apushatayid – i already am religious thank G-d. i keep tznius, kosher, shabbos and lots of other stuff. just by listening to not jewish music, watching tv and talking to guys DOESNT make me not frum.”
Did I imply anywhere you are not religious? In fact I stated that what you really mean is more observant. Religious and observant are not the same thing.
Substitute organic or gluten free for “less accepted hechsher”. Doing so also involves many of the same questions as smaller hechsherim do not have expertise in certain areas.
This is what I mean. You wrote “its because im trying to become more religious”. I think when you write religious you really mean observant. You want to do the right thing, but in many instances you find it difficult. May I introduce you to your yetser hara and yeser tov. Where things are black and white you find it easy to make a decision. Where things are gray the yester hara starts in with some very compelling arguments, sometimes it comes with very frum sounding arguments, he doesnt have a car, he needs to get to yeshiva (Im helping him learn, how great is that!).
Bottom line, whatever you do, do it with the guidance of a Rav, Mentor or whoever it is you get your halachic and hashkafic guidance from. Makes life a lot easier to navigate.
You can’t? If you avoided situations that weren’t black or white you might find the going easier. Consistently finding yourself in the grey zone is enough to make anything difficult.
“Atmosphere” does not only mean how the people are dressed, although it often correlates with how they are acting. Would you take your kids to a nightclub?
“family matters are more important for a girl than mastering Tanach and meforshim.”
If this is the intended take away from the story, why is the message being given to the girls and not those who are in charge of their chinuch, namely, their parents and those who are running the high schools and seminaries.
Google it. Is one of the most pooular episodes of the show golden balls. The strategy employed by player one manipulating player 2 to make specific choice which in turn guaranteed player 1 at least a split has been written on by many.
Don’t forget to attach your potato Kugel recipe to your shidduch resume. Perhaps a photo of the kugel.
The OP is almost certainly referring to a photo essay on the news page of YWN that uses the term. Some of the photos appear to be taken in a shul/beis medrash but most at various kevorim.
A shul, anywhere in the world is a mikdash meat, so I suppose the term makom kadosh is not inappropriate.
The kevarim are likely kivrei tzadikim, and places where yidden go to daven regularly, so again the term may not be inappropriate.
I stand corrected. There is ONE!!
“Is there such a thing as a female ups girl?”
I sure hope there are no female ups boys.
there is a difference. walls are plastered with kol koresi about tznius. every tzara r’l to befall klal yisroel has been blamed on the lack of tznius by someone, somewhere. asifas are held to be michzek people against the dangers of “technology”. organizations created to help filter technology. smoking? nary a word. no asifas, kol korehs, nothing. not even when a young person drops r’l from lung cancer.
a mamin. please dont make up gemaras.
The gemara appears in several places. It isnt the eye shadow per se. It also isnt the perfumes they wore, per se. the gemara continues to describe what they did with their perfume how they walked who they walked with. the common denominator was that everything they did was with the singular goal of attracting the attention of the young men.
According to the many poskim who state that it is assur to smoke, why do you think it is that so many “chashuve serious bnei torah” continue to smoke? Why do you think the mashgichim and roshei yeshiva dont immediately address the issue and put a stop to it? If there were “chashuva serious bnei torah” who ate lunch at mcdonalds every day surely it would be addressed and dealt with. Why is different?
“because i hope they have better jobs.”
According to the website glassdoor the average UPS driver earns a salary in excess of $81,000 a year plus benefits and a pension. How many other jobs could someone with no college degree (and often no high school diploma) find with that type of compensation?
Pear pressure?
You hope not? Why?
In the year 2016 would you really call someone a religious Jew if for example they ate chametz on pesach or disregarded the mitzvah of succah or the arbah minim?