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40,200 reasons to outlaw motor vehicles.
“Al Pi Halacha, Al Pi the shittos (held by virtually all Chasidic poskim and many others) that CS is Cholov Akum mamish.”
Interesting. Last summer, was in the checkout line at the shoprite of monticello and a chassidishe man had weight watchers ice cream bars in his cart. I thought perhaps he didnt clearly see the printed hechsher (maybe he thought it was soy) and pointed out that it was certified OU-D and since I assumed he only ate cholov yisroel, I was doing him a favor and pointing it out to him. He replied, he was aware, but, his wife was on a diet and he had a “heter from his rav in williamsburg” to purchase the non chalav yisroel ice cream for her. In truth, I didnt ask him to explain the heter, or to go into much detail. Either the guy was a liar, or his rav felt he wasnt much of a baal nefesh.
im wondering of the shver is heartless if a missing watch will ruin the night of his daughters wedding.
if you do something and you make him feel good, you did a chesed. do you mean to ask, what qualifies as tzedaka.
“But how do you define “isn’t cleaning”? ”
Define “cleaning” to the hire. Tell them this is your expectation, if they dont meet that expectation, then relieve them of their duties.
“was the shampoo edible?”
does it matter if it is question of whether it is muttar biha’nah?
when the cleaning help, isnt cleaning, i think that is as good a reason as any to relieve them of their duties.
“He’s asking you to assume the original construction was already paid for, which means the morgage is paid for.”
Since we are making assumptions. Lets assume everyone is a multimillionaire and a $150 mikva wouldn’t faze anyone and $15 fee is a bargain.
“Assuming the original construction was already paid for, is there any other major upkeep if no one is using it?”
Who paid for the original construction? The twice a year mikva goers? If they did, then let them set the price for those 2x a year. More than like there is a mortgage or some other type of loan that financed the construction. The bank likes to get paid every month, not once a year after yom Kippur when the twice a year crowd showed up and paid $10.
Your not at least 10 tefachim tall?
How much do you think the fee would be if a special mikva was built just for the 2x a year mikva goers and the fees from those 2 days had to support the mikva for the entire year.
Meno 10x the usage means 10x the dirty towels, 10x the number of people to clean up after, longer hours to keep the water heated, to run the lights and possibly a/c in the building. instead of someone coming in for a couple of hours to clean up, now they have someone there all afternoon, possibly all day. you are free to head down to the beach where there is no fee to jump into the water.
“if the cost of operating all year when the mikva may not be well used, is defrayed by the increased revenue from Erev Yom kippur, then that is part of the cost.”
Of course it is. If you want the mikveh to be open and available to you for the twice a year you use it, they have to charge you money so that can cover their annual operating expenses. It happens to be, the costs increase on the 2 days a year most people want to use it because they require additional resources.
again, if $10-$15 is too steep, go to the beach.
“due to worrying about what others think of me.”
What matters is what hashem thinks of you and your actions.
would YOU like to spend the entire erev yom kippur washing dirty towels, cleaning the showers, mikva areas and changing areas? someone is paid to do it. if you find a sponsor to step up to the plate and cover the cost, im sure the mikva will be happy to charge you less. i’m not the DOT and didnt do a study, but, im willing to bet erev yom kippur the mikveh sees 10x the number of men than a normal erev shabbos.
“and I’m talking to apushatayid first comment”
The shayla with the shampoo that contained yogurt was presented to the Rosh Yeshiva at the time who ruled that it should not be used. Perhaps you heard of the Rosh Yeshiva, someone named Rav Moshe Feinstein Z’l. Feel free to rely on your own lomdus and knowledge of yoreh deah. We relied on his.
“Obviously, when you move to “flavored” waters, special energy drinks, etc, some hashgacha is definitely required”
And since the average consumer has zero knowledge of what is bottled where, and what goes on at the bottling plant, it is foolish to disparage the hechsher on a bottle of water. It may be true that in many situations no hechsher is required, but, sometimes, companies use a kashrus symbol as a marketing symbol more than anything else. they are already paying, say the OU, to supervise a plant and use their symbol on all kosher products, that they will use it on those products that dont need it.
a chumra is something you decide to take on in your avodas hashem. that is something you have to determine with the help of your teacher/mentor/rebbe etc…
Considering that the girl is left supporting her husband for a number of years post marriage, it’s only fair he picks up the tab beforehand.
“For the same reason we don’t put a plumba on a potato ”
Do potatoes go through the same pipes at high temperatures (to kill the bacteria) at at he bottling plant that the grape flavored drink that could be yayin nesech goes through? Not all bottled water comes from a company that only bottles water.
“Whats next – a hechsher on air?”
Is that why so many people walk around nyc with filters over their mouth?
It is forbidden to derive “hanaah” from a mixture of Basar ViChalav. I dont think too many shampoos fall into this category, but, quite a few years ago there was a shampoo that contained yogurt and it also contained (as do many shampoos) some form of animal derivative that was deemed halachicly “basar”.
From that aspect, one would wish to know what his/her shampoo contained.
Stupid, maybe. Evil, no.
“rants… that I just read with maybe a grain of kosher salt.”
I use an entire box, and then some. Especially the comments.
the same thing everyone else at the table did. we figured out how to get 5 seats into 4 spots for mincha and we found the “guest” an empty seat for maariv.
Apparently seating charts, at the time of year when it is customary in almost every shul to “sell” or assign seats mean nothing to some people. in our minyan, there is a rather large easel right next to the entrance with a very simple to read and understand map of the shul, its seats and who is assigned what seat, and when I got to shul for mincha erev rosh hashana (between 5 and 10 minutes before the posted start time) there was someone sitting in my seat.
pashtida
You answered the question yourself. people wont give it to them because thy can get the same thing elsewhere for less. If there was a good psychologist for $6.25 an hour the $200 psychologists would be free all day.
if this is sincerely motivated, kudos to them. now, they need to find the proper guidance.
“Why don’t shadchanim get paid as much as psychologists?”
Why cant they? every shadchan is free to set whatever fee they want. As is a psychologist.
Two parents per kid – when mechanchim have to feed, clothe, bathe, put to bed, wake up in the middle of the night to nurse, change a diaper, change bedwetters linen and pajamas, the analogy might start.
Parents can’t get fired so there is no accountability – no accountability? ever hear of shidduchim?
Any idiot can become a parent – sadly any idiot can open a school and hire staff too
Parents get paid more, just they are the ones paying the rebbe so they end up with less – what about unemployed parents?
Parents get paid in grandkids – mechanchim get paid in nachas (I hope they are not simply teaching machines spitting out lessons),
Parents are paying back their Dept to their parents – no they are not. they are ensuring the next generation of klal yisroel is properly educated. an institution with mechanchim such as the attitude you display is probably not the place to ensure they are.
Nobody hired the parents – look at most mosdos you are familiar with, who did the hiring? who did they hire?
Parents don’t ask their boss for a raise – of course they do. only in most instances boss isnt named school administrator.
Need more? – no, this is enough nonesense for one day.Assuming this is serious. Perhaps the Zaide can speak about the dog and how they know when to keep their mouth shut (makas choshech in maitrayim) and how it is a lesson for all of us. Know when to open our mouth and know when to keep it closed.
“If nobody liked killing men, war wouldn’t have ever been invented.”
This is an absurd statement. Ever speak to a soldier? A police officer? anyone who has ever killed someone?
move to san diego
Perhaps he was in the wrong Yeshiva.
a daughter who is an ohev hashem, yirei elokim will not blatantly flaunt halachos of tznius, in all its aspects.
Also, why do you assume bonim and bnei bonim specifically means male children? ohavei hashem, yirei elokim, anshei emes, zera kodesh…..this applies equally to females.
“we should also pray for our doughters to strengthen the level of tznius. ”
why dont you?
Joseph,
All I was saying is that it is a two way street. It is uncomfortable for a regular to find someone in their seat, and it is not nice to ask someone to move. It is also uncomfortable for guests who are unsure where to sit, and it is not nice for a guest to assume and cause others to be in an uncomfortable situation as well.
No, gabbaim do not wear name tags, nor should they. Basic decency says that a new face shows up in shul, someone should go over and welcome him and offer him a seat. since this discussion assumes we are not on that level, the next step down is causing an uncomfortable situation and dealing with one.
“It is about making another Jew feel uncomfortable.”
Sitting in someones seat and putting them in the uncomfortable position of asking you to move is also about making another jew feel uncomfortable.
“bottom line – can a seat be a particular someone’s to the point that they’re entitled to it”
I’m pretty sure it is universally accepted that the Ravs sseat is off limits to everyone, but the Rav.
Hatsnea leceh applies to women even when there are no men around, and to men, when there are no women around.
I daven for a return to Tzion, three times a day.
In our shul, gabbaim are appointed to welcome all guests, whenever they arrive to davening, and make sure they have a seat. If they move towards a specific seat that belongs to regular mispallel the gabbaim let them know the seat is used by a regular and offer them another, similar spot. After barchu, all seats are used to seat guests (with the exception of yamim narayim where seats are assigned and it is common that some people, and certainly many younger children, will come later). The gabbaim have contingency plans for these days.
I can. fine bnos yisroel.
i think the biggest “problem” with tznius today is that everyone is worried about everyone elses tznius and not their own.
“The facts don’t depend on experience.”
Anecdotal information does not make something fact.
Again, those who agree with the statement of this thread title, are you speaking from experience? Experience does not mean, I heard from my cousin, or my divorced neighbor told me or anything similar. It means, are you writing from the experience of sitting through marriage counseling sessions either by yourself or together with your spouse.
How many respondents in this thread are writing from experience. By experience I mean are or were in marriage counseling or any type of relationship therapy. Experience in my context does not mean I know a neighbor, or I heard from relative or acquantaince.
Perhaps the problem is everyone is busy empowering and being empowered. it isnt about winning and losing. If you have a therapist, and clients, who understand this, therapy will more than likely be more productive than simply trying to empower someone.
Like everything else in life. Make sure the proper therapist is chosen.