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Most major hotel and motel chains have free Wifi, check out the hotels/motels on route 9. Also, most starbucks have free wifi.

Leave the mussar and the tochacha to the Rabbonim until you learn all the relevant halachos related to giving mussar and tochacha. Please.

I don’t know WHAT snapfish thinks. They do send a code that works once, per email address 🙂

They are not in the business, I don’t think of tracking the IP address of everyone who logs onto or creates an account on their site.

Is their a point to this thread? Are you looking for someone to write “wait, performer shmerel berel is the greatest gift to humanity since the opposable thumb”?

“We not only have a mitzvah of tochocho, we have a chiyuv of tochocho. We are obligated halachicly to rebuke a sinning prutza. “

Learn through hilchos deos, the nosei keilim and THEN come back and give tochacha and do it the right way. Please.

I wonder if those who yell “zona”, “prutza” and hide under the guise of “kavod shamayim” yell just as loud and just as long about those who create a chillul hashem by double parking, try to return something that they can not (or should not), argue long and loud with the sales associates who try to collect sales tax, those who are rude to the teller in the bank (dressed tzniusdik to the letter of every chumra and clearly identified as jewish of course) (the list is endless)?

I cant find anywhere on YWN anyone beseeching yidden to wake up and stop creating a chillul hashem in all their interactions. Why not?

Misterhock is 150% correct. Blame the husbands and fathers who pay for the clothes and look the other way when objectionable clothing is purchased and worn.

I don’t understand the question. Monetary issues must be decided in beis din, not secular court. Permission to utilize secular courts must be granted by beis din in all situations, not just monetary issues that arise during divorce proceedings.

Someone one who utlizes secular courts without permission of beis din is called someone in halacha. Just don’t remember to term. Halacha does view monetary “gains” via secular courts as gezel IF no permission to utilize the courts was granted by a beis din.

Neither.

Re: Omnipod. Rabbi Meisels has probably researched the halacha and probably already has the answer. Give him a call.

Not sure what your budget is. There is a new “yom tov” cookbook that’s out, its about fifteen dollars. A nice piece of costume jewelry for 25-50 dollars. A new machzor. If she doesn’t have one regularly a cleaning lady a couple of days before and/or after yom tov. Lots of possibilities. You know what your spouse would appreciate most.

“He is a malach (his Rebbetzin too).”

This was a reference to Rabbi Meisels and his Rebbetzin. (Of course my son is a malach too, as I’m sure his Rebbetzin will be Bezras Hashem).

We have difficulties with our tenage son on yom tov, trying to figure out how to bolus for those every so often yom tov treats such as Tzimis, stuffed cabbage, a roast likavod yom tov cooked up in a sauce that probably has 90 carbs for every 8 ounces of sauce etc…

Rabbi Meisels of FWD has been a trmendous resource for over 10 years, and despite his advice and encourangement my son has blood sugars over 300 a few hours after the seudah almost every time.

My son has also been to several shabbatonim Rabbi Meisels has made for boys and has come back with soooo much chizuk after each one. He is a malach (his Rebbetzin too).

“Okay, I believe my question was VERY misunderstood! im not suggesting that women act/dress untzniusdkly in front of goyim…”

Isnt excercise by its very nature acting in an untsniuddik manner? Personally, I dont do much excercise (as my belly can testify) so I cant speak from first hand knowledge, but from excercise book ive tried to read, it seems much of the excercise done, and certainly at classes would entail acting in an untznius manner including bending and twisting the body in all sorts of ways probably not intended naturally.

Is the receipient in this case the husband or the wife?

These days its hip to be a one name star. It was only a matter of time.

“Shomrim Member Shot – What’s Your Thoughts?”

they should all have a refuah shlaima.

“I meant tznius is about the person him/

herself not about who they are

dressed infront of, so it doesn’t make a difference where you are you’ve still got to be careful. “

You misunderstood my point. I use my boss as a point of reference for myself. It has everything to do with how I would act/dress/speak in any given situation.

Lomed. Nobody disagrees with your last post. The disagreement is with the identification of the problem and how to fix it.

Missme. Is your comment directed to me? If it is…..

The torah dictates that one must wear 2 layers of clothing in 95 degree (or in any) weather? The discussion here hinges on whether tank tops fill the torahs mandate of a second layer?

Lomed. Please start with reading comprehension.

I said nothing about the “pyschological reality” of girls, or boys. I was speaking about the reality that has become “the system”. I am taking issue with the system, not those who try to conform to the system.

“and the obvious reason we should attribute for the very high number of these girls being leftover in parallel to the much smaller pool of corresponding older boys, is naturally the scientific reason of the age gap factor”

Funny how science seems to ignore the ribbono shel olam once again. I guess that those who subscribe to this science must believe that when these girls were born, no Bas Kol was heard “Bas Ploni LiPloni”, they were simply skipped over, for whatever reason. Perhaps these scientists will still find the reason the Bas Kol ignored these girls.

The last 5-6 posts basicly sum it all up. Some simply assume all older guys have issues, and are therefore excluded from the dating pool by default, while others just dont see what everyone else sees. Some exclude guys from the dating pool even when they are younger because of perceived issues such as gasp, the color of his shirt and others because, gasp, when they were 22 realized that sitting in a yeshiva all day was not productive for them and was not helping them grow as yidden in any way, while others might have been eliminated straight up because they wanted to attend college so that they could support their families one day.

AZ: In your last example, the 1000 girls WILL in fact remain without a partner precisely because the 1000 guys who have been labeled as “issues” have been eliminated.

The ribbono shel olam has prepared a shidduch for every male and female born. It is the fault of our society that we chose to eliminate a good number of males (females too, but to a lesser degree) due to our own decisions. If you want to find a shidduch for all your girls going round and round desperately trying to find a chair for their weary feet, bring more chairs into the auditorium. No, the chair may not have been manufactured by Rosh Yeshivas R Us, or by Best Bachur in the Yeshiva Inc, but they do come from solidly reliable manufacturers such as Lomdei Torah, Baale Middos and Yirah Shmayim LLC or Real Masmid (who is only second best in the chabura)Inc. For some reason, all the girls have been taught and all shadchanim have perpetuated the myth, that one may only purchase chairs from Rosh Yeshivas R Us and Best Bachur In the Yeshiva Inc., and while many girls manage to purchase chairs from their choice manufacturer, the supply is limited and while these choice chairs are constantly in production, supply is limited AND these girls who are going in circles suddenly find more girls added to the circle making hakafos with them and the cycle repeats itself, year after year after year. The myth of the exclusive manufacturer is perpetuated again, and again and again. Some girls grow weary of going in circles and move onto the other manufacturers, while others just go round and round and round. They do this despite seeing and hearing from their friends that the “other” manufcturers produce high quality furniture, so high quality, that many claim better than their original choices. However, these girls insist that going in circles waiting for that perfect chair, because someone drilled it into her head that these manufacturers are exclusives, all other poor quality. they end up going round and round, growing older and more tired. My proposed solution, is to explode the myth of the exclusive manufacturer.

AZ. I dont know what data you are talking about. Data can be manipulated and massaged to say anything you want it to. I told you that there are plenty of boys available, if only people would consider them. I told you where to look for them. I cant help you, if you refuse to get up and look.

“No one seems to be able to find them.”

Nobody is looking for them. If people would take off their blinders and look around they will find plenty. I see them every day at the 6:30am shachris and the shiur that preceeded it. On the subway to and from work. At mincha in a midtown office. At the late night daf yomi shiur and maariv. Grocery shopping. In a pizza shop or restaurant.

AZ: I forgot, the purpose of this forum is for you to perpetuate the age gap myth. I will make sure not to write anything that explodes that myth.

Now. This may come as a surprise to you (it shouldnt if you would actually read what I wrote) but we actually agree. The way the system is set up today, there ARE to many players for the number of chairs. Here is where we differ. You believe it has to do with the age gap. I believe it is because of the warped system that has evolved in the last 15-20 years. To take your analogy one step further. Everybody wants to play on center court, not some outer side court, therefore all players push and shove their way into the main arena for a chance to play on center court. The problem is, not enough equipment for everyone to play at the same time, so the equipment keeps getting used (and some eventually is claimed and taken home by the players), while some potential players ssit on the sidelines and watch. We should either bring in enough equipment for all players to play at the same time, OR ask some players to play in the outer courts. Under our warped system, where every boy is the best in his yeshiva as long as he precisely fits a specific mold, all such equipment is brought onto the center court. All other equipment that doesnt precisely fir the mold is relegated to the outer courts, if that. All players, naturally want the best equipment and in fact have been indoctrinated that they must only use equipment that comes from a specific mold, so they all flock to center court where that equipment is located.

Since we reject way to much equipment from center court and invite any and all players to center court, we have a glut of players. There is plenty of equipment that nobody wants to use.

It is our warped mentality that has created this situation. Not hashem and the number of males and females he has born each year.