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  • in reply to: graduation trip #700144
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    Mall of America?

    in reply to: 2010 Yankees Post Season #705475
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    Nothing like a little end zone dance to entertain the fans. I still do the icky shuffle 🙂

    in reply to: Funny Shidduch Stories #1227462
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    Would a guy even know what “great hair” means? Why bother with something that will only confuse him? Worse, scare him!

    in reply to: Frozen Broccoli and Halacha (insects) #699954
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    in reply to: 2010 Yankees Post Season #705471
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    OK. if you dont want to talk baseball….

    Any other Dallas Cowboys haters out there happy with Chris Johnsons little touchdown dance on the Dallas logo in the end zone? It wasnt Terrel Owens dance on the 50 yard line, but pretty darn close.

    in reply to: Purposely Misinterpreting Questions #701617
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    Perhaps this belongs in the “Funny Shidduch Stories” thread, but someone once told me that a girl was “well rounded”, which I took as a reference to her education, and he meant “overweight”. Did he lie? Who said I should assume he was talking about her education (I didnt ask any follow up questions to his well rounded comment)?

    in reply to: Frozen Broccoli and Halacha (insects) #699941
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    “I would love to use fresh. Is there anyway to check it?”

    The Star-K gives directions how, on their website.

    in reply to: Purposely Misinterpreting Questions #701608
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    Sounds like a perfectly legitimate “lomdishe drei”.

    in reply to: Resume Bluffing #700037
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    Someone more knowledgeable than me (that would be just about everyone) might know with more certainty and better clarity.

    I remember hearing that R’ Moshe z’l says in a tshuva that is brought down in Igors Moshe that among other things, cheating on an exam is a form of stealing because you are taking something you are not entitled to from someone who is entitled to it. For some reason, I remember the context as being cheating on an entrance examination, but I dont see how a job application or resume would be different. Am I making things up?

    in reply to: Shidduch Resumes #699895
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    If you dont mind calling it a resume, please dont get frustrated when the salary negotiations begin.

    in reply to: Shidduch Resumes #699891
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    Can we call it anything BUT a “resume”?

    Makes it sound like someone is applying for a position.

    in reply to: 2010 Yankees Post Season #705468
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    Its hard not to root for someone named Buster Posey.

    in reply to: Funny Shidduch Stories #1227449
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    back in the days, there was a place in Rockville Center (on Sunrise Highway – I wonder if its still there) called Timepiece Cafe. A friend of mine loved going there. (Unfortunately, this friend dated close to 150 girls over a period of 5 years before he met his wife). There was a period of time when he would date 2 girls at the same time, but he quickly stopped that when one night he showed up at Timepiece and the greeter looked at him and said “wow, thats the third girl this week, you have to teach me your technique!”.

    in reply to: Funny Shidduch Stories #1227448
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    This goes back to 1991-1992. Was waiting for my car with the girl I was with in a parking garage near Rockefeller Center in NYC. We were looking at an advertisement for a show when we heard a voice behind us “isnt that a shaina panim?”. We turned around and there was Freddy Roman, whose show was the advertisement we were reading. We kibbitzed for about 2 minutes until his car came (even though I did get to the garage first!), and before he got into the car he wished me and my wife a good night. the girl turned all shades of red and asked me if I was proposing to her (turns out she thought I put him up to it). Thats when I turned all shades of red and told her I had no intention of doing so.

    in reply to: Purses on Dates #704556
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    A girl should always have a few dollars, (credit card, bank card, something, anything), plus some ID, no matter what. Want to stick it in a pocket, shoe, purse, do whatever you want, but don’t leave home without it, no matter what date number it is.

    in reply to: 2010 Yankees Post Season #705459
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    Yankees/Phillies again, will be a lot of fun. It will probably come down to Brad Lidge doing a great Mitch “Wild Thing” Williams impersonation and the Yankees will win in 6. Of course, both still have to get out of their respective leagues.

    in reply to: Tuition and Report Cards #701372
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    Blinky. I can also telly you first hand how it feels to have my own report card and grades witheld. Nevertheless, I dont see it as as flawed chinuch in witholding a report card (I was told how I did by my teachers, the school didnt assur it) from a student. I think the chinuch is worse when parents dont try and sit down with school administrators to work things out.

    I dont know all administrators and all parents. The ones I do know (those I am related to and those who work in the yeshivos my children attend) bend further and further backwards until there is simply nothing left to bend. How many parents can you say have the same attitude towards tuition (I can only speak on behalf of myself)?

    in reply to: Will Rav Amnon Yitzchak manage to change the music industry? #701549
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    Try shofar.net

    in reply to: 2010 Yankees Post Season #705453
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    I cant speak for all Yeshivos. In the yeshiva I attended, the coffee room was always filled with sports talk.

    in reply to: Davening is a burden? #701000
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    WHERE you daven also makes a huge difference. I personally find it horrible that people sit through davening with half an eye on a siddur and one and a half eyes on whatever sefer they have with them. To me, that says “i’d rather be anywhere else, but here in shul davening”. It sets a horrible tone for the rest of the mispallelim (well, at least for me). I try to daven where all people are focused on is davening.

    in reply to: Tuition and Report Cards #701367
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    Helpful. Like I said, they have leverage, but are too menchlech to use is.

    I’m related to school administrators. I know how hard they try NOT to use the child as leverage, but when they must, they go to their Rav and ask for permission to do so. More often than not the Rav contacts the families Rav (whenever possible and if not, the family directly) apprises him (or them) of the situation and more often than not, some tuition is forthcoming from the parents. Sometimes the Rav will tell them that they cant use the child as leverage based on his understanding of the situation. the bottom line is, the schools DO have leverage, but unless pushed hard against the wall, will not use it. They are mechanchim, not mafioso.

    in reply to: Tuition and Report Cards #701364
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    Schools have leverage. They are too menchlech to use it.

    in reply to: How do you get out of saying you're going on a date? #699767
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    Why can’t you be on a date? Unless your already married or only 11 years, dating (in whatever context that means to your family) is normal for someone who is of the appropriate age.

    And how addicted to texting are you and your friends that if C’V you don’t respond to a text within an hour or 2 the whole world comes to an end?

    in reply to: Resume Bluffing #700033
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    80. Your googling skills are remarkable. Speak to a lawyer. Depending on the state you live in, you may be surprised what thay can go after you for. I was told, but did not confirm (perhaps with your googling skills you can assist here) that in the state of NJ it is against the law to lie on a resume/job application and if someone chose to can go after you for just that. There is no need even, to classify it under anything else.

    in reply to: English Music #746438
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    When discussing English music, the name Henry Purcell must be mentioned. Some wonderful compositions.

    in reply to: Common Hungarian Words #701197
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    min kul uku min kul marin bishin (no idea what it means)

    in reply to: graduation trip #700129
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    Paintballing

    in reply to: checking dor yesharim #699738
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    Pascha. the controls put into place for a phone call are the same that can be put into place for a web based application.

    in reply to: Resume Bluffing #700026
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    Perjury is the legal definition for lying under oath (anywhere). You can be prosecuted for lying to Congress during a hearing, for example. If you sign a job application that says “I affirm that the information presented is correct to the best of my knowledge”, its as if you are taking an oath (or an affirmation for those who dont take oaths for religious reasons) that you are telling the truth. A resume where you don’t have this problem can still get you in trouble for fraud. Fraud is misrepresenting something, for financial gain. So, lying for a job on a resume can get you into trouble for fraud while lying on an application can also get you into trouble for perjury. in either case, the likelihood of an actual prosecution is minimal, because it isnt worth the time or effort to prosecute.

    In any event, the short term gain is almost never worth the long term problems caused by lying. Most importantly, it violates the torahs mandate of midvar sheker tirchak (there is no asterisk that says “but for financial gain its muttar”).

    in reply to: checking dor yesharim #699730
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    Pascha. Your concern is not mitigated by requiring a phone call. Whats to stop me from calling every 15 minutes with random combinations?

    in reply to: checking dor yesharim #699726
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    I’m surprised Dor Yesharim is not in the computer age. They should have a website that allows for 2 IDs to be input and the result is either a yes or no.

    in reply to: Mincha Time #1139927
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    “for when it is appropriate do as you do with all your shailos”

    Ask them to the Rabbonei Coffee room?

    in reply to: Resume Bluffing #700021
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    My neighbor the lawyer just told me that if you sign your name on an application where you affirm that all information is true to the best of your knowledge, and you are caught lying, you have committed perjury and if a prospective employer had it in for you, could take legal action against you although it is easier, faster and a whole lot cheaper to show you the door and not let you back in.

    He also told me that in the state of NJ (as well as a few other states, but he is unsure which) there is a law on the books that makes it illegal to lie on a job application (even if you dont “sign here” to confirm everything you wrote is true). Again, will you be prosecuted for it? Probably not.

    in reply to: Resume Bluffing #700020
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    “What are the practical consequences?”

    Depending on what you lie about, you can go to jail. Most things you would lie about dont violate any laws, so there is no criminal activity to prosecute. However, there are certain fields where lying may constitute criminal activity. Lying to get security clearance, lying about a license in a profession where a license is required by law come to mind.

    Criminal law aside. If you lie to obtain a job, and your employer finds out, you lose all legal protection from the laws that cover an employer/employee relaitonship. You will be fired for cause, which means you dont collect unemployment and you will likely not have an easy time getting another job, unless you lie yet again to your next employer.

    Criminal and civil law aside, as soon as you lie, you violate the torahs command of midvar sheker tirchak.

    in reply to: Is the CR bittul Torah? #699335
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    Bittul zman.

    in reply to: Should Girls Learn to Drive? #699432
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    Before making snap decisions about single girls and driving, give a call to several gemachs to see who does the most driving for them. this is true of those that drive people to and from doctors visits, deliver food packages and many other chassadim.

    In conjunction with taking away their drivers license, why dont we also empty out their closets and leave them with just a pair of pajamas, thereby ensuring they remain inside all day.

    in reply to: Should Girls Learn to Drive? #699408
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    I heard there are maikilim if it is for the express purpose of picking up more material for the tallis bag they are sewing for their bashert. Even then, it is only ok if she can’t get her father or one of her brothers to do it.

    in reply to: Donating a Gemara to a Catholic College #698926
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    Call the Yeshiva of Staten Island and leave a message for R’ Chaim shlita.

    in reply to: Mincha Time #1139925
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    “YLEIHQTGAPITPAOHIWYHTSSAWPATYAH” is not qualified to answer such a shayla. It must be sent to the Poskei Hador Shlita, but only those well versed in the movement of the sun, moon and other celestial bodies, who have advanced degrees in astronomy and of course are makpid to daven mincha before shkiah.

    in reply to: Should the caveat ask "LOR" be obsoletd? #698836
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    YLEIHQTGAPITPAOHIWYHTSSAWPATYAH. Sounds like the name of the last Dell customer service rep I spoke with.

    in reply to: giving children english names #699231
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    “Irving, Stanley and Howie are not.”

    I’m glad Sy, Hy, Sadie and Ida made the cut. You had me nervous there for a moment.

    in reply to: Should the caveat ask "LOR" be obsoletd? #698831
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    And all this time I’m thinking LOR is a reference to the Life Of Rily, one of the all time great radio shows. Go figure.

    in reply to: Womens Hats: Tznius? #698699
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    in reply to: giving children english names #699192
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    Its not necessary, but it saves a lot of time when dealing with people not familiar with the names. Its so much easier to say my name is Alan and be done with a telephone agent than to spend a few minutes spelling out Y E C H E Z K E L. No, thats Yechezkel, not Haskel. Thats Y as in Yo Yo, E as in Edward C as in Cholent, what you dont know what Cholent is, thats spelled C as in Chrain, oh forget it, whatever you put after the E is fine by me, lets go on to the next letter….

    But in todays society if someone can show up and introduce themselves as Tandighruvisavatsili Ranghichasvidranmiranai, then you can introduce yourself as Yechezkel Schwartz or Levi Yitzchak Cohen.

    in reply to: Womens Hats: Tznius? #698696
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    “However, pascha bchochma hit the nail on the head – they make women look too much like the Modern Orthodox!!!”

    Pascha also wrote.

    “I think this is an MO thing, Im yeshivish personally and don’t see any frum ladies wearing hats at all.”

    Is Pascha implying Modern Orthodox are not frum? Am I the only one who a) infers this implication amd b) is bothered by it?

    in reply to: Womens Hats: Tznius? #698689
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    “Hat wearers include sefardi women and even yeshivish women who can’t afford sheitlach.”

    Often, one sheitel yells “look at me” louder than ten hats put together.

    in reply to: Need to lose weight for shiduchim #982169
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    If you “must” lose weight, ask these “respected people” if they would tell you the same thing if you were happily married. If you must lose this weight for health reasons, consult a health professional for advise how to lose the weight. If a health professional does not feel you have to lose this weight, perhaps you should reevaluate the respect you have for these people.

    I’m personally on a quest to lose 30 pounds. While self control when it comes to some of my favorite fattening and unhealthy foods is still a work in progress, I have managed very slow progress towards my goal, by maintaining a regimen of 30 minutes a day of excercise. When the weather is nice, it is walking or riding a bike, and when it rains I get on a treadmill. I’ve actually managed to lose 2 pounds (which is pitiful for the amount of time I’ve been trying to lose this weight) despite losing the self control battle. My doctor basicly mapped out a diet suited to me. Unfortunately, it doesn’t include 3 extra large pieces of kugel at a bar mitzvah.

    Your doctor knows you best and is best equipped to put together a plan for you. Anonymous people who don’t know you can only say “eat right, drink lots of water and get plenty of excercise).

    Hatzlacha on the diet and may the ribbono she’ll olam send you your Zivug in the proper time.

    in reply to: Donating a Gemara to a Catholic College #698919
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    Rav Chaim Mintz is listed in the phone book. He is a very nice person. If you have any issues or concerns with something done by or in the name of Oorah, I’m sure he will be glad to discuss them with you.

    Personally, I think this smacks of “sour grapes” and is likely coming from the same people who have/had issues with Oorahs marketing campaigns.

    in reply to: Womens Hats: Tznius? #698680
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    Again, what you are saying is, if everyone suddenly starts yelling “look at me” its no longer considered “out of the ordinary” and therefore, its considered “ok”. It was considred outlandish and untznius before, but now that everyone wears it, it is no longer outlandish or untznius. That is what you are saying, no matter how you try to spin it.

    in reply to: Womens Hats: Tznius? #698678
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    So, you are basicly saying, since everyone does it, its ok.

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