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Every boy and every girl is unique. Everyone puts different level of importance on everything. Generalizations are silly.
“I forgot, the Talmud refers to Kimchis and Beruriah by name.”
The Yated publishes Caroline Glicks name, every week too.
Don’t assume Yesodei. Remember, Ohr Hachaim is right next door and has its own parent body.
So right. The best approach is not to be online altogether 🙂
“Chazal also say to marry a bas talmid chochom.”
Guys, keep this in mind the next time you show up and they are giving you a farher. You have the same obligation, and right, to give him a farher as well.
MW13. Because of those “some” they have made a business decision not to publish them. They wouldn’t run an ad for an abortion clinic either, their readership would revolt and stop buying the paper.
Visual role models for frum girls….
How about, instead of girls collecting hello kitty stickers, they start collecting the hello gitty series. Stickers and coloring books of their favorite females throughout jewish history. Still dont have a decent substitute for dolls and doll clothes. The Rebetzin doll series, with clothing and accessories? How much creativity and imagination does it take to dress a doll all in black?
It is also good form, not to create rules you cant (and wont) enforce.
“You should hear me cross-examine my kids when something happens!).” I love it!”
According to my parenting class, its not good parenting to be be cross-examining your kids. I guess the guy who gives the class never went to law school and doesn’t know the thrill of a cross examination 🙂
Fair enough.
“3. I find the comment that women who go into OT/PT do not have the same shidduch troubles fascinating.”
I wonder if there are not many frum female lawyers because none of the frum degree factories have figured out a way to get you a law degree in 18 months, or less, 3 nights a week.
Yalah. Unity for Justice could just as easily be the name for an Al Sharpton rally being held this weekend. I didnt put the video together with the name you mentioned.
Mod-80. So, where is todays specially appointed “kohen gadol” and his tzibbur? Why do they not get together daily and say tehillim every day after davening for “acheinu kul beis yisroel” like I do (and many people I know) instead of waiting until shabbos to recite a specific mi shebeirach. This also means, that you are equating border patrol duty with going to war (which I am not necessarily disagreeing with – I just have not thought it out all the way).
What is the source for your statement? I assume it is a mishna or gemara somewhere. How large a portion of klal yisroel are we talking about? 20%? more? Less? a designated number of people, say 25,000? How were those people chosen? Volunteer?
I have several acquaintences, who if you asked them this question (what are you looking for in a girl)would answer “a pulse”. If you know them, and are suggesting a shidduch, they trust you are not setting them up with an avaryon, an axe murderer or a phsyco. Ironing out “compatability” and small hashkafic differences is up to the couple, not the shadchan (it is assumed the shadchan would not suggest a shidduch when large hashkafic differences exist). They basicly say, set me up and I will meet the girl and decide if she is good for me, not you. I suspect a lot of people (male and female) would like the system to work that way, but dont want to be the ones marching to a different drummer.
Again. To use a mi shebeirach recited once a week as a litmus test for ones ahavas yisroel or hakaras hatov is in my opinion foolish.
Out of curiosity. David Hamelech had quite a large army. Did he recite a special mi shebeirach for his soldiers? shlomo? What about Ezra and Nechemia for the people who were defending yerushalyim against the shomronim?(in fact they were member of the anshei knesses hagdolah who established the text of our tefilos and to the best of my knowledge did not include a specific tefilla for the security personnel).Do we have on record that chazal created a special tefilla for the chashmonaim as they fought the greeks? Bar Kochva?
“Overeducated” is a demographic used by pollsters. In the most recent election, the demographics called “undereducated” and “overeducated” were solidly democratic and those who fall into the category called plain old “educated” went republican. Women also went republican. According to the pollsters findings, most women wouldn’t be considered “over” educated, at least not by pollsters.
Nice job Avi.
Ok. I googled it. I found it, turns out I saw the video when it came out. I didn’t know it had an official name. It was sent to me as “this amazing video where everyone who is anyone in jewish music got together to sing a song about the rubashkin saga”. Now I know it has a name.
I see youv’e gone from “iv’e noticed to “many have noticed”. Who are those “many”? Are you speaking on their behalf?
Ben Torah. Are you trying to make a point?
No. Its unenforceable anyway.
How would I know someone is a female any more than I know someone is a “pashuta yid” a “ben torah” or even “well informed” (ok some of this users statements contradict the claim to be informed but I digress).
You can’t have your cake and eat it to. If you want to join an anonymous forum then you have to understand that you can’t assume anything, take everything with a huge grain of salt and even then, be very skeptical of everything you read. There are risks to anonymous forums and this is one of them.
November 4th 2008. Barack Obama elected President 🙁
November 4th, 1980. Ronald Reagan is elected President, soundly defeating Jimmy Carter.
November 4th 1979 is also not very kind to Mr. Carter. The Iran hostage crisis started on that day when militant student followers of Khomeni stormed the US Embassy and took 90 hostages.
Check the news reported on YWN? From time to time.
What is it that is/was so amazing to watch?
Re: The pictures of women. Its a business decision, plain and simple. The publications will either lose subscribers or get a lot of bad “press” if they published pictures of women. They dont need it and it is not worth the money they will spend trying to get back customers or battle bad press.
I have a bigger problem with many of the pictures that they do publish. Do I really need to see another picture of Rav Belsky Shlita dancing at a vort or Rav Leizer Ginsburg Shlita with a bagel at a bris? I readily admit, that these pictures fill, in some small way, the voyeur in me. I always wanted to know what went on at the Schwartzkopf sheva brachos or the Schwatzenager bris and these publications fill me in.
Maybe they listen to the Dave Ramsey show or bought his books.
“it was on this site and youtube”
this means I’m supposed to know about it? 🙂
“instead of get behind the wheel of his car when he was too tired to drive,”
The people I know who work in these types of positions, normally have a car service at company expense (billed to the client, somehow, of course) take them home.
This is not pick on adorable day, but wanted to make a comment on something you wrote.
“On the other hand, yes they will need to fill up on gas more often because I spent most of my night in the car (for my pleasure or as a help to them)!”
Especially when most of your night is spent in the car, for your own pleasure, it would be very thoughtful of you to put some gas into the car.
There are limits to everything. Dedication to a job is wonderful, but most (I’m sure someone knows an exception) people realize that their employees are human beings and if your husband told his supervisor at 1am that he would pick it up in the morning, he would likely understand. A billable hour is billed at the same rate if it is 11pm or 7am. Of course the perception of everyone staying until 2am is what may be unnerving your husband and he feels obligated in that sense to be in the office as long as others are doing the same. This may be especially true if they are there late into friday night and come in shabbos day, and your husband is not there.
Blinky. Its why yeshiva bachurim wear hats outside.
“Who wouldn’t want such a sweet deal?”
Those doing the supporting. I witnessed the following. A mother and (married) daughter were in a BP bakery. The mother asked for a danish. The daughter offered to pay for it. The older woman behind the counter remarked in amazement that the daughter bought something for her mother. After asking wwhy she was amazed, the woman answered. I am 67 years old, standing on my feet behind this counter in a bakery so that I can send my daughters and daughters in law money every month so their husbands can sit and learn. Meanwhile, they are prancing down the avenue pushing the latest and greatest carriage, their kids wearing the latest designer labels and they wearing their fancy new clothes, while im wearing shmattas, shvitzing in a bakery handing our bread and cake. I wish they would give me something. Truly, who wouldnt want such a sweet deal? (I think the woman would have settled for a sweet roll)
Please consider the following, before reading further. Only one of my sisters went to seminary (in the 80s) and as she was a number of years older and got married and was out of the house within 3 months of her return to the states, I never discussed this with her. My wife, never went to seminary either, so I dont have her perspective. Neither did my younger sister. As for my children we have quite some time before it becomes relevant. (If it makes a difference, I did not go to E”Y to learn either, I stayed here in the US so I dont even have a male perspective to work with.) So, I ask the following out of complete ignorance.
Can girls who attended seminary please explain the advantages of spending a year (or half year as the case may be) in a seminary in E”Y? What do you gain? How? Through what? Is it possible only in E”Y as opposed to say a seminary in NYC, or Baltimore or Cleveland, or is it possible, but somehow enhanced by being in E’Y?
If I can humbly request that only those who actually attended a seminary in E”Y OR someone who had the option, but declined to attend (not because they couldn’t afford it) for whatever reason answer would be great. Why do I ask if as I said previously, it is not applicable to my immediate family for a long time? Curiosity. Nothing more. I am curious how or why discussions about a seminary evoke extreme emotions and responses in people. Also, I might actually know something about the topic and wont resort to flippant comments on the subject, as I have in other threads.
Wolf. Read on.
“like that they don’t have to go to every appointment and every time they need something from the grocery I can go.”
How many driving instructors take you to doctors appointments or the grocery?
“MY parents knew I would be driving before they let me get my licence”
Surely this is not true.
Did I miss something? What is Unity for Justice? Sounds like something from Al Sharpton.
Is there a point to this thread?
GAW. It IS a top 3 (although back when there were the big 6, his firm was a tier down, although they would have made it into the “big 10”, now with all the mergers it is a top 3).
This is not the proper thread, but if you want the “sem” experience, without the term papers and
Ramban memorization at a quarter the price, then find a kollel family to board with for say $100 a week for 3 months. In exchange for food and shelter, you will help out (think chessed family, but full time, instead of becoming a greater expert in Ramban then the Ramban himself) with the household, and you get 2 days a week to yourself to go on organized tiulim. What do girls talk about when they are back from seminary, the number of Rambans they memorized? The number of tests they crammed for? Or, the families they met, the kosel and other mikomos hakdoshim? Oh, and Ms Face, no essays to write. None. An added benefit is that these families in E’Y will have a revenue stream, they didn’t have before and people won’t go broke so their daughters can have “their year in sem”.
Playing devils advocate.
“Girls, if your salary doesnt cover your expenses you better learn how to shop on SALE.”
This is common sense and applies to all people.
“Todays “needs” are ridiculous. Do you girls know that some of your parents REALLY CANT AFFORD your lifestyles but they dont have the heart to say no?”
Do girls really NEED seminary? Do children of all ages NEED summer camp? Your right, some NEEDS really are ridiculous.
“Next time you buy a dress that costs more than $300 think about if you really need it and if your father can really afford it.”
If the father cant afford it, he is an idiot for paying for it.
“For all you know your father is in debt and has CC bills up to the wazoo.”
If said father allows the $300 dress he cant afford, he is an idiot and he needs professional help. From a financial planner and also someone to hekp him work on his parenting skills. Parenting is not about becoming your childs best friend.
With that said, children should not take advantage of their parents stupidity.
Every situation is unique and should be evaluated on its own terms.
WIY. Thats because there is only one Chofetz Chaim (I’m including all CC branches under this one umbrella).
Rabbi Shafier is a wonderful, normal down to earth person. A Talmid Chacham, a talmid muvhak of R’Henoch Lebowitz Z’l whose hashkafos he imparts. I remember him from yeshiva as one of the “older bachurim”, also always approachable and willing to discuss anything with you. He was also smart enough and honest enough to know when he didnt have an answer and take you to the one of the Rabbeim or even the Rosh Yeshiva if necessary.
We had this discussion with our kids when they started camp. We told them the same things as written previously. ANYONE touches you ANYWHERE at any time, get your calling card, and call home. Cant find the card, call collect. It doesnt matter what time it is. Cant reach us, try your grandparents, uncles and aunts. Try until you reach someone. If someone threatens to hurt you, no matter who they are, call 911.
Left of whom?
SJS. Silly me. I thought it had something to do with Acute Angles with all this talk of bending.
“Yated, Hamodia, Jewish Press? What Is Your Choice?”
Arutz Sheva and The Onion. If the Onion is making fun of it, you know its been in the news.
For the record. YWN Photo album contains pictures of women.
“Other than maybe the discovery channel (maybe) there is nothing kosher on tv”
Well, there is the cooking channel, aside from the food being prepared, there is nothing that is not kosher about its programming.
Let me get this straight. Its OK for guys to go bowling because they are entitled to recreation so that they can be refreshed and relaxed for more learning. Girls should not bowl, because it is not tznius. So, it is OK for the guys to recharge their batteries for more learning, around non tznius non jewish females but inappropriate if those females are jewish? I know I’m not as smart as many of the CR members and certainly not the moderators, but something isn’t adding up here. Can someone do the math, slowly, for people like me?
“he’s in the middle on the left of the center point”
Does this mean he is 75% away from the extreme right?