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R. Azriel Auerbach told me that it is a Mitzvah to learn Yiddish because it enables you to listen, understand and enter a world of Torah and Talmidei Chachomim that would otherwise have been inaccessible. He stressed that it is definitely worth the investment of one’s time.
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The essence of each Mitzvah is transmitted, applied and explained to us by the Gedolei HaPoskim of each generation.
Just as they tell us the nature and practice of laying Tefilin, they explain to us what the appropriate guidelines for Tznius are for both men and women. We may not be sensitive to the subtly of their opinion, but must recall that Da’as Torah is developed from ten of thousands, and for an older Posek – hundreds of thousands, of hours toiling in Hashem’s Words. Our sentiment, however, is a product of our imperfect environment, media, social milieu and advertising.
In Orthodox Judaism policy decisions about Halachic practice, be it in Hilchos Pesach, Berachos, Shabbos or Tznius are the realm of the Gedolei HaPoskim and Da’as Torah.
Once again, there is not clear one-size-fits-all answer to this question.
Do recall that a newly married couple do not yet know each other, and often have not yet had the chance to develop a deep and meaningful relationship which, as we know, grows only after time and investment. At such an early and delicate stage (especially during their first year of marriage) it can be particularly tempting to “compare” all sorts of things. It’s a natural thing we do when we see the accomplishments of our friends and peers, and it is not a healthy thing in this arena. They both can be very superficial.
There have been a good number of people hurt through seemingly insignificant, but inappropriate socialising. Whilst for others this kind of socialsing is essential.
It’s so worthwhile to have a competent Rabbi or Rebbetzin who know the individuals involved with whom one can discuss the issues with.
It depends on your situation.
If you and your spouse have an active and fulfilling social network during the week then many Rabbonim dissuade young couples from doing this until the couples have about 2 kids. Until then the focus should be on building the couples own home Shabbos atmosphere.
However, if they have no family around that they can visit and their social lives are difficult to pursue in the week then it’s definitely possible to do it.
That’s what I’ve heard from a number of prominent Rabbonim
The mishna (Hoyrius 3,8) says that even a mamzer talmid chocham is greater than a kohen gadol who is an am ha’aretz. Obviously then, the most prized quality is gadlus b’torah. I don’t think semicha is the operative.
Chaser is qualified my monetary loss; more precisely someone who benefits of another person’s property at the expense of the owner’s profit. E.g. if you rent out a house, and I go in, and no-one else can stay there because I am there, I have caused you the loss of rental.
If no-one else would have stayed it is called lo chaser, and the owner cannot claim payment.
As for your question whether it is ‘moral’ to be nehneh, I think you are asking whether it is permitted l’chatchila (ab initio), if so I refer you to the Gra on C.M. 363, Nesivos 250,16 and Shut Chasam Sofer Vol. 5 (C.M.) 79, the Pischei Teshuva in C.M. 359 and even in the Rishonim: Tosfos Rid on B.M. 117b.
I discussed this very issue with R’ Zalman Nechemia Goldberg (R’ Sholmo Zalman’s son-in-law, who said about him that he is the world expert in Choshen Mishpat and Even Ho’ezer) on a number of occasions, and he rules that it is permitted l’chatchila.
That is all on the premise that the owner does not stipulate to the contrary (see Tosfos and Rema) – if a person makes a ‘machaa’ then the nehneh transgresses gezel. If it is clear that the owner would not want someone using his property, even without stipulation this may be enough to constitute theft.
See the upcoming article in the Yated Neeman in a couple of weeks which will discuss this issue in Rabbi Travis’ QandA with the Gedolim column.
If you want info on beis yisroel yeshiva i can put you in contact with people who learn/learnt there?
There are numerous answers to this question see Piskei Teshuvos on the MB.
255,9 is in Choshen Mishpat not YD, apologies.
Maybe you mean the Rashba 1,483??
AYLOR what he makes of the Shulchan Aruch I cited, if there’s room for ‘lifnim m’shuras hadin’ here.
It’s funny that you asked your question now. See R’ Yitzchak Zilberstein on this weeks Parasha: someone had a dream Rosh Hashanah night where his recently deceased father appeared to him, and told him that before he had died he had a sum of money that belonged to someone and he had not paid it back. He told his son where it was located in the house, and who he should return it to. The son checked the place where the father said, and lo and behold it was there.
Still R’ Yitzchak ruled that he didn’t need to give it back as the Gemara says that ‘divrei chalomos ainan malim oi moridin’ (see Sanhedrin 30a, amongst other places), in other words a dream cannot engender a halachic consequence.
Based on this gemara the Shulchan Aruch in Y.D. 255,9 rules that one does not have to comply with things heard in a dream, however convincing they may be.
Listen to your rabbi, but R’ Yaakov Hillel shilta told me that today it is very very difficult to take into account what we see in dreams.
Hatzlocho