anonymrs

and then what? someone says trump and you would say…..?

for the record, brooklyn is NOT part of li….

what does it say? (sorry, im not a daf lady)

i have a 7 month old (not my first- my 3rd b”h). for my oldest i got everything graco- travel system (stroller plus car seat that attaches to it, in the same pattern) pack n play, swing….cant think of anything else, but i was a real graco fan. i planned on nursing, but got bottles because i was in school at the time and planned on pumping. i got avent and he was just fine with them. i bough pacies for him, and i tried a few different brands, but he didnt want them.

when number two came along, i needed a double stroller, so i got the city mini, cuz its what everyone had- even though i dont usually get things just cuz everyone else does. I HATE IT!!!!!! my second did not take a bottle, but she loved (still does actually) her pacie- and she ONLY takes mam brand.

now, when number three came along, i needed a new single stroller, so i started doing research all over. i ended up getting the valco baby latitude, and i am THRILLED with it. it has an adjustable handle, you can get to the basket VERY easily (even with a sleeping kid)its very easy to push and fold, and it folds flat. he also loved the hospital pacie, and preffered that to everything else. (unfortunately for me, he stopped taking it a few months ago) he doesnt take bottles either, so i didnt need to get new ones. im trying to get him to take bottles now (pumped, because i work) but hes not so thrilled. i borrowed a carried from my sister (baby k’tan) and i absolutely LOVED it. hes more mobile now, and doesnt constantly need to be held like he used to, so i havent gotten a new carrier that is more age appropriate for him. if i did get a new one at this stage, it would probably be a mei tai.

i also got a new car seat this time around. i got the safety first car seat that goes up to 35lb (dont remember what its called. its a great seat, high safety ratings, but ive got two problems with it. it has a lousy canopy, and it doesnt fit onto the universal srtoller bars (like the bar for the city mini) he now weighs about 16lbs, and i dont have a problem carrying him in the car seat. i also got a winter bundle me, which is perfect because its warm enough that he doesnt need a snow suit, which is not really safe to wear under car seat straps anyway.

ps- i DONT have an odyssey. i test drove one and didnt like the way it drove. i have a town and country. so not EVERYONE has an odyssey….just saying… 🙂

most of our invitations say “mr. and mrs. yyy and xxx lastname”….

i dont know anything about those seminaries, but i do know something about seminary in general, and this applies to yeshivas too. dont focus so much on the seminary- its the PERSON that is important. every school has a name and a reputation, but there is obviously a mix of girls who goes to each school, so you really need to find out what kind of person she is, more than where she went to school.

“The wearing of the wedding ring is actually a goyish custom which serves no function since in our community married women wear distinctive clothing (head coverings) that serve the function of indicating if they are available.”

many many married women do NOT wear a head covering, and many head covering are only noticed as such withing the frum community. (how many discussions have there been here about sheitels that look so natural?)

“Practically, since in our community almost all women gain weight shortly after marriage (when they get pregnant, which, Baruch ha-Shem, is routine among us), I doubt most married women could get their wedding ring on very easily unless they have it re-set (and since our rings are plain gold – unlike the goyim’s which are much fancier, that’s not too practical).”

that is a VERY big assumption, and a terrible one to make at that. so many women DONT get pregnant right away, and even for those who do weight significant weight gain is NOT a given. many women suffer from SEVER morning sickness, to the point that they need to be hospitalized and cant function. for those who DO get pregnant right away, there is no reason to assume that their fingers will swell up. i b”h have three children and have only had to take my rings off during one pregnancy for the last month.

in the future please refrain from making assumptions like the ones above which could really (inadvertently) hurt someone.

is it something that should be said only in the 9th month, or should it be said throughout pregnancy?

i sometimes prefer if my guest DONT strip the beds, because if im not washing it right away i prefer the room to look nice and made up. unless they are going to take the sheets down to the laundry room, i would prefer they stay on the bed until i am ready. when i am a guest, i always ask.

aharon and elisheva

achashveirosh and esther

if i think of more, ill let you know

a mamin- why are buses with two doors a must have? my son comes home on the bus every day, and his bus has one door. most buses have a “bus counselor” or matron (sorry, cant think of a better word) who gets off before the children and makes sure they cross safely. if your childs bus doesnt, THIS is what you should be spending money on, not totally new buses. by the way, doors on both sides is not what prevents people from going around a stopped bus.

i also want to say that i agree with 600 kilo all the way. and whoever it was who suggested cutting the national safety budget, please think for a minute about just how crazy that actually sounds. we have countries around the world who would love to take us out in a milisecond, but we shoould cut our defense budget…..

shmoel, why is doing laundry a womans job? and what makes something a womans job?

adorable, to get this thread back on track…..

i had a royal when i first got married, and i loved it! it held a curl very well, unlike my sheitel now, which needs to be redone every two weeks, not that i do it every two weeks….(that might also have s/t to do with the person i take it to though) the hair felt very soft, and it didnt really know or tangle, unless it was ready for another washing. i liked that it was multi directional, cuz then i could play around a little.

“Carlebach and other’s ‘ Hinei yomim boim neum Hashem v’hishlachti ro’ov bo’oretz lo ro’ov lalechem v’lo tsomo lamayim ki im lishmoa divrei Hashem’. This was one of the severest and harshest nevuas that there will be nobody who will be able to teach Torah (see meforshim there)”

im probably wrong because i never learned it inside, but i thought it meant that the hunger and thirst will be for EVERYONE to hear the words of Hashem- that the entire world will recognize Him.

i didnt read this whole thread (im way too tired for that) but here is my take on the hashkafa issue.

i remember learning that Hashem determines a plan for the world, but not who will be the one to carry it out. our actions are up to us. it was the plan for leiby, a”h, to die, but it was not determined how it would happen or who would carry out that plan.

my daughter is only 2, so i am not at that stage yet, but my son is 4, and i have taken him in with me quite a few times. he stands with his back to me and faces the door. usually i have both kids with me, so i go into the handicapped/diaper changing stall, and then theres a little more space.

“That works if the adult needs the restroom, not if the child needs the restroom.”

“If the child needs the restroom the solution is even easier. You ask a frum person of the child’s gender to take him into the restroom, while you wait right outside the door the whole time.”

is that really your solution- send your child off with a stranger? if my son needed to use the bathroom and i was alone, i would take him into the womens bathroom with me. i dont think i would get any stares- i have actually seen quite a few “big kids” in the womens rooms. if i got any looks or comments, i would just explain that i am alone with my children. i wouldnt take a 15 year old boy in, but maybe a 9-10 year old. it would depend on the child and the circumstances.

1. put his hat in a shopping bag and hang it on the handles, and he can wear his jacket or fold it and put it in the bag also.

2. my 2 year old rides a tricycle, and although it was hard to find one that fit, even SHE wears a helmet. my 4 year old still has the training wheels on, and he wont go on without a helmet (on his own he will say something, but i guess it is because he knows i wont let, so it is ingrained in him)

“anonymrs, you seem to justify your position a lot and have a lot of contempt for the Jewish preschools. any guilt?”

i am not justifying anything, and i dont have any contempt for jewish preschools. what i dont like is when people say that the only way to educate a frum child is by sending him/her to a frum school, where the tuition is astronomical. it is very possible to give your child a wonderful frum education at home while they attend public school. when i was growing up, the public school near my house had more jewish kids than not. its not my first choice, but if thats whats best for my child, then that is what i will do and i will duplement to the best of my ability, be that myself and my husband, or hiring a teacher or rebbi or tutor or whatever.

if parents decide for whatever reason that public school is the best option, why must they be made to feel guilty about it?

by the way, i dont understand the guilt comment- what would i have to feel guilty about?

“We sent our son to the JCC for nursery and pre-K. It was basically like a public school with many who were not Jewish or religious. He was the only religious kid in his class there. He felt quite uncomfortable and out-of-place, and he did not do well. At 5 he had the personal and social development of a 3 year old. He was very insecure and mistrusting.”

this is not typical though. your child was unhappy, and for whatever reason the way it manifested itself was in stunted social development. a typical child will do just fine in a public school setting.

“There is a huge difference between a siddur party and an xmas party, making a lulav out of paper and making a tree out of paper etc etc. And if you don’t think there are books like “Heather Has Two Mommies” in grades K-4, think again.

And there is a huge difference between a sem graduate who comes from a large family, and a secular graduate who has one or two brothers or sisters and a dog, teaching nursery school.”

there is a difference between all of those things, you are right, but these days many preschools wont make a christmas play or tree precisely BECAUSE many of the kids in the class are of other religions. as for the books, no matter where your child is, you always need to check out what they have access to BEFORE they access it. if you are uncomfortable with something, bring it up to the teacher. i have dont this quite a few times, both in my son’s class and in the classrooms in which i have worked.

“Just like we pay the price for kosher food, we have to pay the price for education. One feeds our body the other our mind. We have all done it, of course with Hashems help. I’m sure your friend can find a school who will work with them. I do not regret one penny I paid in tuition, my children are now grown and I am enjoying the nachas. I feel that Hashem has rewarded my husband and myself for all the years of self sacrifice, many years we were late on rent, or mortgage, had to work with the utility companies not to shut us off etc., but we made it! we made for our kids.”

not everyone can afford the price of kosher food. i know lots of people who will skip out on some things because they are just too expensive (and im not talking about special treats, im talking about things that would go into a regular shopping) also, this is one of the reasons why i almost never buy jewish brands- i have a hard enough time affording the regular kosher brans, im not willing to pay the inflated price for a jewish brand.

not everyone lives in a place where there are options, or options which they would be comfortable with. for example, lakewood has tons of schools, but for the life of me i cant find one that would fit my children’s and my family’s needs.

Appomatox

Xinzhu

i dont get the problem…..

im not originally from ny, so maybe someone can clue me in. what exactly are regents? what is the point? what happens if you dont take them/do well on them?

“600kilobear returns, the Shoa was a gezeira because everybody was going off the derech there. A German victory in WWI would not have averted it — doing teshuva would.”

who in the world are you to make such an accuzation and cheshbon? do you have a direct line to Hashem that HE told you this?

as it so happens, i very much believe in at minimum recognizing the american holidays. (new years and christmas are not american holidays by the way.) my grandfathers were both in the army during world war two- should i just forget that fact? americans liberated many people- should i just forget about that too? as someone else said, george washington was a great friend to the jews….but lets forget about him too. july 4th celebrates the freedom that we have to even have such a conversation…but lets just ignore that too.

i am probably going to be yelled at for saying this, but rabbi forst (if thats who you were talking about) is NOT my rav, so i dont have to hold by what he says. when we went into the city yesterday, we thanked everyone we saw in uniform. why is that a bad thing? where i come from, hakaras hatov is a commendable trait.