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Yes many boys are ready at 21 and I’m all for younger marriages. But this invented shidduch crisis and this solution remains a theory and also borders on kefira
moser din al chaveiro is when you suggest that someone should get punished min hashamayim for causing you harm or distress or some other misfortune. when someone does that they need to first and foremost be correct that that person is to blame and secondly be on a very high madreiga that they don’t deserve any punishments too. because if you aren’t both of those it’ll come back to you. like the pesukim say “orrecha arrur”. basically very dangerous. when you say someone is gonna give a din vcheshbon because of something they did to you your doing just that. this is not about venting feelings or lashon hara but infinitely more severe. our job in this world is to try to forgive and move on although it may be very difficult at times. but if we do that hashem will forgive us for our misdeeds even though they may be difficult to forgive for. if we can’t forgive at least lets not curse them.
lilmod ulelamaid
im sorry but you cant ask me to just accept someone being moser din al chaveiro just because its not my business. she may be justified and she may not be.
to the babbler
im new to this forum but couldnt help reading all your posts. i really really feel for the pain and suffering youve been through. but its very hard to accept your assertion that “whoever defended him will give din vcheshbon” without knowing details. if you cant accept that there are 3 sides to every story can you at least accept that there are 2 sides?