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Wait until the kids come then you really can’t afford it. Tuition is a natural birth control:)
Leave it be. Or else you will look like a shnorror or someone who is out for money.
I think a better topic would be Chumras that people create.
OK, anyone who IS married knows why people should never marry 🙂
Also Monster.com
There is a problem if you wear it on the left side. A pony on the right side is is lchatchilla kosher.
GeshmakMan: You are correct. There is no such thing as a plutonic relationship. However, there is a platonic relationship:)
I loved that Shimon & Gavrial (Simon and Garfunkel) song:)
mdd: A sotah has nothing to do with not being Tznius. A women can be miyachud with a man and not be a sotah. The husband has to explicitly tell her not be be miyachud with a particular man.
The better question is: how many of us would allow our sons to marry Rus? Her ancestry is a shainda. Her great great grandmother slept with her father. Would we allow a shidduch like that?
Imagine the case: A Shadchin calls up you up and says she has the most wonderful girl. A balas chesid, machiv torah….all A+++++. But, she is a product of an incestuous relationship. Would ANYONE today allow their son to date her? I do not think the greatest rosh yeshiva today would allow his son, the future gadol, to marry her.
What Boaz did was AMAZING, but I do not think anyone can compare themselves to him.
I guess I’ll be burning:)
I took my dates to Jekyll & Hyde…that was always an AWESOME place to go if you lack any conversational openers.
Ok, there are certain questions which are foolish and others which might make a difference.
Some people do not like the weight question. If a person is not attracted to overweight people, not to say other people who do not care, why should they date? It might seem insensitive but it avoids embarrassing or terrible dates.
I heard girls ask if the guy is bald. I can understand why a girl would not want to go out with him. When you are 18-25, young etc, one wants someone good looking. Yes, after you are married and love each other, being bald is not a big deal.
Unfortunately, there has been cases where people take medications or are unstable and they end up getting divorced. Sometimes these weird questions is to uncover the truth from people who try to hide it.
Probably not. I would believe in G-d but not follow any religion.
Last time I checked Gazal Akum is assur.
Oh, for Medical Advice, one can go to United Health Care’s website and they have online nurses who can discuss any medical issue you may have. AND you can call them directly to discuss issues.
Yea, usually most of my posts are deleted:) Only 5.5% go through. The problem I see his that Mods only allow their way of thinking. If a non yeshivish person posts his opinions (not against halacha) it gets deleted. I Think YWN is known as a lakewood blog because only the Lakewood derech gets posted and anything else is deleted.
I bought my house for about $450 and made around $70K at the time.
1) NO Credit Cards!!!
2) All extra money you earn, put it into savings. Don’t bother buying expensive suits or hats. Put all extra money in savings.
3) Cut down on all your bills, as much as possible. Hence, I got rid of cable.
4) You will need to save for a few years. You should have enough for 20% AND closing fees which can range from 10-20K. You could probably put down less for a down payment, but pay PMI. Speak with a lender.
5) Shop around for the BEST rate, no matter if your friend does mortgages too. Be educated.
6) Do NOT move to Brooklyn or any densely related areas because the housing prices are high. Look for frum neighborhoods where you can get relatively cheap houses, like Monsey.
7) When you are ready to buy a house, increase your allowances on your W4 to receive more money back in your paycheck. I increased mine to 12. The end result is you will be receiving a less of refund at the end of the year. But who cares? You need money NOW.
8) Learn to be handy. Do not call an electrician to scrrew in a light-bulb or change an outlet. Home Depot sells great books that teaches you how to do it yourself. Yes, something you need help, but there are a lot of things you can do yourself.
Good luck and have fun!
B’h–My wife and I enjoy a nice scotch with herring every shabbos.
B’h I hold of the other Torah where drinking beer is not usser. In addition, if it is a glass cup and clean there is no issue of traifos since glass can not be mikabul tumah.
The only issue with a bar is drinking with goyim and unless this girl is not Jewish there is no Halacha issue of him drinking.
Now, should a boy drink on the second date? Who are we to answer what is appropriate or not? If this girl is the type not to mind, then there is nothing wrong. The fact that she is asking this question, means it bothers her and therefore she should not date him because obviously, he feels it is appropriate.
Or maybe it was a bad date and he needed alcohol:):) Who are we to judge?
yid.period- The point is, DON’T look at other women!!! What you are suggesting is that men will always be looking at other women! If that is the case, the problem is the man, not the woman.
In the Gemora, Shabbat 64b, R’ Akiva allows a women to apply makeup even while she is a niddah!! This is a time most things are uisser, but we see makeup is mutter because of Shalom Bayis! The makeup is not for the women to feel attractive. We see from this gemorah that women wear it to make their husbands attracted to them.
One the the Takakna of Ezra was for salesmen to travel to every community to perfume or other things.
This is a VERY sensitive issue that one should not mess with! If a women wears makeup like a clown it is none of your business if her husband wants her to wear it! This is a shalom bayis issue and none of our opinions matter, but the husband and wife.
Ok, so what I am hearing is that women should not be attractive to her husband if they leave the house.
If you feel makeup is not tznius then do not wear. There are people that disagree with the premise and would not dare walk out of the house with it.
My opinion is wear whatever color you like, how much you like to wear as long as your husband likes it!!
If you feel it will attract other men that means other wives do not look attractive because they do not wear makeup and hence they will look. if all women look attractive to their husband’s in and out of the house, we would all be better off.
LOL, ok, sorry I missed the type.
I wonder if we can start instituting all the women to wear veals. this way a man won’t be forced to look at other women and this would avoid all improper thoughts.
WolfishMusing- Should we apply Godwin’s law? 🙂
Poster: You are missing the point. I don’t care if you have a mishgas about 4′ skirts or shaving or the likes. I have a problem with self righteous jews dictating their veiw points and hashgafa on others. We already saw this in Israel and Kirya Yoel. First you have the signs and then you have the “kanoim”, zealots, who take matter into their own hands. All of this is L’Shaim shmayim, their g-d, not others.
WolfishMusings: We can call the law Wolfish’s Law.
600kilobear returns: What is funny how people like you idolize our history of the Bais Hamikdash when the same “Rodaf” state was in existence. People like you don’t realize that during the First & Second Bais Hamikdash, and even during the times of shoftim the “medina” was not religious. There were very few and far in between having frum Kings! The reason why the 10 shavotim were expelled was because Malchai Yehudha called on Sancharav to assist them during a civil war between the Jews! The same occured during the second bais hamkidah when there was a civil war between the chashmonaim brothers and called in Rome to settle the dispute.
I am sure if you lived in the times of the chorban you would have cheered on the Persians and Romans in their conquest of E.Y. As the gemrah said, the people in those times were violated Avoda Zorah, shfichas domim and geloa aroyas!
Poster: That is a ridiculous statement. I find signs hanging in BP telling the masses that shaving is usser to be offensive! Am I doing something wrong? NO! But for people to “push” their beliefs or chumras on others is no better than the Taliban!
One time more than my wife wants me to eat!
Well, Doris Day and Jimmie Stewart plays in it.
That song was from the movie “The Man Who Knew Too Much”…..Great movie!! I love the old time classics!
Actually, Yom Suf is the sea of reeds which is also on the way to Eretz Yisroel. Most people confuse the yom suf with the Mediterranean sea.
Derech: If you want everyone to get together then you stop eating gebrochts. It’s not a big deal. My syster does it all the time to spend time with the family.
The Goq: Do you make sugary treats for your guests or do you cook with alternatives?
Listen to the cords of a violin being played or the keys on a piano, it is truly an amazing sound. Unfortunately, with my age comes the disdain of today’s load music playing at wedding where half of the guests are annoyed it is soo loud. So i agree, do not borrow money to make your guests miserable. If you plan on having an orchestra without drums or electric guitars, give me a call. I’d love to hear them play.
Out of curiosity, is Tznius a D’Orayso or D’Rabbonan. I am trying to find the source where we learn tznius from.
A DJ is great, but if you are into music, watching the musician play is inspiring.
truth be told: Not souring the mood but setting the true expectations.
I used to think like most of you that a seder in a hotel is a lack of chinuch or spirit of yom tov. But when I saw my family sitting around a seder table smiling, rested, and being served, it became the true meaning of a yom tov. After the seder we went to bed and did not need to worry about cleaning up or what to make the next night. That is what Yom Tov is about.
As far as your Kashrus is concerned, there is a reason why we have mashgichum and rabbonim there. Their job is to verify that everything is good. If you feel it is not good enough, you should also kill your own chickens and cows, because you are relying on someone else and pesach you should be more machir. You should not buy ANY items from the grocery like potato starch, because you are also relying on other people doing their job.
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I wanted to get married in front of the Kosel. I told that to my mother and she almost died. I explained, it was cheaper flying my family (only siblings) to Israel than to make a big wedding. However, she wanted her party. As I once said, I was just a guest, the wedding was a night for her to shine:) What would the neighbors think? etc. I feel wasting tens of thousands of dollars for one night is ridiculous! I also would not want to have a wedding in a shul. I would want it in a more meaningful place, like the Kosel.
True & Sac: This thread is to encourage people not to give up. However, saying that you can be picky because it is a test from hashem is ridiculous! Yes, keep the faith and moral, but please do not think one can be picky and then blame hashem for a lack of a shidduch. It will make people lose their emmunah! Davven and do your hishtadlus and do not give up!
Wasn’t here a story with the Chazon Ish or Steipler, where an older boy came to ask for a brocha for a shidduch and they said that they already rejected their zivug? So I guess people should not be too picky.
Al pi kabalah, there is a zivug and there are also basherts. Hence, you might not marry your zivug, but you could still find your bashert.
commonsense: Find you own sponsor. i found one:)
Schools are expensive. Chicken and meat are too. Dairy products and other products are cheap if you get the in stores like Shop Rite and Pathmark. My wife used to keep chalov yisroel, but she was mvater neder because of the expense. Cholov Yisroel yogurts were $1 to $1.25 and milk is around $2 half a gallon. Now, a gallon of milk is $2.50 and crunch yogurts is .50. My grocery bills cut in half!
aries2756: I agree with Esthermalka how she handled it. In your case of a bris or a kiddush, if the invitation said no kids, then all the seats belong to adults. However, as we know, this is not the case and kids are invited to a bris and kiddush. You are also mixing apples with oranges. In a case where NO SEATS are available, yes, I all cases the parent should have their kids stand up. However, in this case of the megillah in shul, there were clearly other seats available and there is no chiyuv for the kid to stand up. Just because an adult tells you something, does not mean you need to listen. If you were served a better peace of kugel, would you tell your son to give it to another adult if there were plenty of other kugel left?? Of course not. Just because the seat was not exactly how the adult wanted it, does not allow her to overtake someone else’s seat. it is unfortunate you view children as mere object that have no rights or feelings. maybe this is why poeple go off the derech. It is when they view adults as being inconsiderate and selfish, it might turn them off. If we want to teach midos and derech eretz, the ADULTS need to display it first, especially the older adults. Adam Moed L’olam. A person is ALWAYS responsible for their actions, even if they are old and disgruntled.
mbachur: I find it hard to believe that Gemara without a source. Because now the Tanna ripped off the shirt of a woman (forget the obvious issues of negeah) because it was untznius. Did that rectify the situation or made it worse? I think we all can agree an undressed woman is more untznus than a partial dressed one. It is also amazing how Rashi NEVER looked at ANY women in his life. When he once saw a woman, by accident, he knew it must be for a reason, and hence Rashi was able to explain the cohen gadol’s apron. That was Rashi, so I must assume a Tanna was on a higher level than him.
This seems like a classic case of Mitzvah Bo Bavaryah.Even for those who feel what the Bochurim did was correct, in either case, the Bochurim were “Over An aAveaytrah” if G’Nayvu and have a chiyuv to pay the advertisers back. If not, than the whole act becomes an averyrah. If you want to show you are a chossid, then act like one,not an animal.
Can anyone please remind me of any case a Gadol approved destroying someone’s property? If yes, did the gadol endorse not paying for the damages?
The most appropriate response would be to boycott the company, but not create a chillil hashem because now they think Jews are a bunch of animals and uncivilized. Are they wrong in this case?