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The ideal that women stay at home is not realistic even for women who don’t work outside the home. I don’t work outside the home and have children in elementary school and preschoolers at home. As I noted above, I need to go out to take my children to school and doctor appointments, shop for groceries and other necessities, and supervise my children playing outside/ take them to the playground or other outings. There’s no way my husband could take care of all of these tasks and work besides. Besides, by taking my children on these errands, I teach/ model appropriate public behavior and how to interact with others.
Sorry, I hit return too soon. What I meant to write was this:
Chacham2,
You wrote: “What I can’t ever understand is the tendency of some parents to consider a movie “kosher” if it contains shooting and violence, as long as it doesnt contain any immorality.”
This actually is true of the general rating system for movies as well. Violence is considered more acceptable than exposed skin. I agree with you that this is absurd.
SJSinNYC,
It’s true that you have to wait for your rebate from Walgreens. But you only have to spend actual money the first time you do the rebate. Then apply for your rebate online (just enter the receipt info as for Rite Aid, so you have the receipt if you need it for another offer) and get the rebate plus 10% loaded on a gift card. Each month afterwards you have the rebate reloaded on the same card, so there’s no significant outlay afterards. It does take them a while to send the gift card, but it’s usually reloaded within a couple of weeks. And one big advantage over CVS is that the gift cards never expire, and you can use them for prescriptions. I’ve never tried to roll register rewards into gift cards, but I’ve read that it can be done.
Even though my Walgreens doesn’t take printable coupons, CVS does, and so do Acme and Shoprite.
I don’t usually buy from a service, but sometimes I’ll buy an extra copy of the Sunday paper.
Chacham2,
You wrote: What I can’t ever understand is the tendency of some parents to consider a movie “kosher” if it contains shooting and violence, as long as it doesnt contain any immorality.
Chacham2,
You wrote: “What I can’t ever understand is the tendency of some parents to consider a movie “kosher” if it contains shooting and violence, as long as it doesnt contain any immorality. “
For those who say that a frum woman can’t work where 85% of her colleagues are male, what is an acceptable percentage of male colleagues?
SJSinNYC,
I didn’t do the Robitussin deal because my Walgreens doesn’t take printables. Also, I don’t use cough medicines for myself & don’t think they’re especially safe for kids, so I don’t like buying them. Usually I just buy the rebate items and a few other items that are cheapest there, preferably with a $5/$25 coupon. The last catalina deal I really stocked up on there was the Walgreens diapers.
I didn’t do any of the Glade deals really–didn’t have any coupons to make it a big moneymaker. I don’t work outside the home so I do have more time to shop than you do but shopping with little kids is a challenge.
Do you use a clipping service for insert coupons?
SJSinNYC,
I also share my free CVS stuff with my brother and sisters. Gift baskets are a great idea–I didn’t think of that. I do live in a house with a garage and basement so that helps a lot with storage space, though I need to organize it beeter.
Besides CVS I also do Walgreens and sometimes Rite Aid. They don’t take printables as my CVS does so I have fewer options for deals.
I live in NJ and shop at ShopRite and Acme. Acme is part of the SuperValu chain so sometimes deals from Albertson’s/ Jewels carry over. We have Stop & Shop but I’ve been there only once or twice. Both stores fully double up to $0.99 but I haven’t seen triples here in about a year. I do appreciate the doubles because in the midwestern town where I used to live store only doubled to $0.40.
I use mypoints to earn Walgreens and CVS gift cards.
ICOT,
Did Yankel move to a city that was at a different elevation that where his mother lived?
Queen of Persia,
I understand that you feel that not driving is a more tznius way to behave. And perhaps in E”Y the situation is different. But I live in the northeast and if I didn’t drive, I wouldn’t be able to take my children to school, playdates, or doctor appointments. I would also not be able to shop for groceries or other necessities. All of these places are too far to walk (especially with little kids) and using a car service to get to them would be prohibitively expensive (not to mention dangerous, since most car services don’t have car seats). Bus service would be very expensive and most stores here don’t deliver.
I shop for clothing for myself about once a year. I don’t “window shop”, since I take at least a couple of kids with me almost everywhere I go, and they have little patience for window shopping. About once a month or so, I “eat” at a pizza shop or similar establishment with my children. (Actually, since I’m supervising my children I eat very little). So your examples about women who “window shop” or eat at restaurants don’t apply to me. And this is true of most of the frum women in my city.
Truly, my life would be easier if I didn’t drive, because then my husband would have to do all of these errands. But it would make his life much more difficult. My daughter has a classmate whose mother does not drive, so this girl needs to ask other people for rides instead. I don’t think she enjoys it that much.
smh1,
Because it’s the day that even retailers with lagging sales can (hopefully) count on making a profit. In financial statements, profits are shown in black ink and losses with red.
SJSinNYC,
I rather like CVS; I can usually give away the moneymakers I don’t need & use the money back to buy items I do need, especially diapers & wipes. (And even items I think I don’t need cend up being useful. One Shabbos a neighbor needed a glucose monitor & I was able to give her one I’d bought earlier that week).
My Target is not coupon-friendly, but my husband can find great clearance toys there.
havesomeseichel,
I just wanted to add that the coupon printouts, while they can be used as cash for almost anything at CVS, do expire a month after they are issued.
SJSinNYC,
What other stores do you regularly shop at besides CVS? I’m also planning on stopping by there Thursday.
It’s not just the milk that’s an issue, but many other products that contain milk. The cholov yisroel or pareve versions of these products are not widely available and are much more expensive, especially because they are rarely available on sale.
My daughter has a food intolerance which severely limits her diet. Many of the products she can eat are dairy cholov stam. I would not restrict her diet futher by permitting her to eat only cholov yisroel. And given that food allergies and intolerances are increasingly common, I’m sure I’m not the only parent with this particular concern.
It’s a punctuation history and guide by Lynne Truss. I never read it either, just the reviews.
ICOT,
Did you ever read the book of the same title?
ICOT,
How about “They couldn’t hit an elephant at this distance,” the last words of Union General John Sedgewick, before he was killed by a confederate sharpshooter.
SJSinNYC,
Sorry, hit return too soon. Thanks to slickdeals and similar sites I rarely pay for basic personal care items anymore and get good deals on supplies like paper goods and baby care items. In the past few months I’ve been trying to save more on groceries too, though I’ve found other sites better than slickdeals for this.
SJSinNYC,
I agree that if someone could sell a car for $40K and and replace it for $20K that should come first, assuming the replacement vehicle has adequate capacity. I didn’t think of the numbers that way since we buy used vehicles for well under $20K.
I think I’d sell my engagement ring too before turning to tzedaka for food.
SJSinNYC,
I agree that people should trim what expenses they can before turning to organizations such as Tomchei Shabbos, but I don’t agree with all of your ideas. Of course people should try to trim expenses as much as possible and not buy clothes or shoes unless they’re necessary. I agree that people should try to trim their food bills by looking for cheaper sources of nutrients such as beans, eggs, or tuna for protein instead of meat or fresh fish.
However, selling an expensive car may not yield much money, especially if it needs to be replaced with another. And I don’t think it’s necessarily a good idea for kids to get jobs to help their families, especially if they already have a lot of schoolwork.
It’s possible to save a lot of money on groceries and other household goods by paying careful attention to sales, using coupons, and stocking up on items you know you’ll use; there are websites devoted to this. I’ve saved a lot of money this way.
havesomeseichel,
I see that you don’t think the government should pass legislation to protect public health. I think many hunters agree with you about this, and that (along with the greater cost of lead-free shot) is why they object to these laws. I don’t want to argue in circles either, but since you originally posted that these laws were an attempt to ban guns, I wanted to make clear that this isn’t the case. Rather, the ban on lead ammunition is a ban on one type of shot only, not on hunting itself.
gawker,
Azi was careful to go at night, when no one else would see, and only went to the door; he didn’t walk in. I’d guess that one can’t see anything at the door except maybe a bouncer. Sending his wife in wouldn’t be a better idea, given that she’d be more vulnerable walking through the parking lot than he would.
Once again I find myself agreeing with oomis1105.
Dr. Pepper,
Graph his position on the outbound trip, using the x axis for elapsed time for this trip and the y axis for distance from his original starting point. You’ll get a line (or collection of points) that moves from the bottom left to the upper right of the graph. This line will always have a slope greater than or equal to 0, because he’s always either moving forward or resting, never retreating.
Now graph his position for the return trip on the same graph. The line representing this trip will start at the upper left, at the same point along the y axis that the . first line ended, and move to the bottom right. Now this line must always have a negative or zero slope, depending on whether he’s walking or resting.
The two lines must intersect once (and only once). Since the x axis represents elapsed time since that day’s starting point and he started at the same time both days, this means that he reached this particular point at the same time both days.
Even though this problem is intended to be solved through graphing, which is what I do above, it’s easier to imagine two people starting at the same time from opposite points and traveling in a straight line towards each other, stopping occasionally but not moving backwards. It’s intuitively obvious that the two will meet at one particular point.
Another option for Shabbos leftovers is modifying them to make a new meal. For example, leftover chicken from Shabbos becomes chicken fried rice on Sunday. Also, you can make chicken broth from a chicken carcass.
Sorry, squeak, as I said I didn’t read the entire HGTTG series, so I don’t know how a new book would fit in to the series. But Colfer has been commissioned by Adams’ widow, Jane Belson, to write a sixth installment of the series. It’s to be titled, _And Another Thing…_ and will be published in October of next year.
My kids like Colfer’s Artemis Fowl series, which is why the news caught my attention in the first place.
Will you be reading _And Another Thing…_ when it’s published?
I was never really into Douglas Adams, and only read a couple of the novels.
What do you think of Eoin Colfer writing a sequel to the HGTTG series?
gawker,
I don’t know anything about these clubs firsthand either, but is it possible this club is sometimes closed for business, and that the poster visited outside of normal operating hours?
Actually this story reminds me somewhat of “The Last Leaf” by O. Henry.
havesomeseichel,
The article I cited about consumption of lead-shot animals & blood lead levels was a summary of study results released by the Centers for Disease Control and the state Department of Health. The article was written from the perspective of the CDC and the state DOH, based on their scientific research. I’m not sure if you’d consider that leftist or not.
I understand your point that gun ownership is a right, and I don’t want to take away that right. All I’m trying to say is that lead shot bans are not an end run around gun ownership rights. People can and still do hunt waterfowl even though they’ve not been allowed to use lead shot to do this in the US for almost 20 years. Therefore I don’t think a ban on lead shot for hunting land animals uses will end hunting, and I’m not sure why anyone would think that it would.
The Big One,
I don’t think that analogy is appropriate here. First of all, do you truly think a Jewish feminist is the same as a Jewish late-term abortionist? Even if you think they are, again your analogy doesn’t apply here, since jewishfeminist02 hasn’t volunteered information about Jewish feminism. Rather, when asked she has referred posters to another website, which they are free to ignore.
havesomeseichel,
As I wrote in my post, lead shot has been banned for waterfowl hunting in the entire US since 1991, yet guns are still available. So it’s possible that the ban on lead shot for hunting animals (as opposed to waterfowl) is part of a 30-year-plan to ban guns altogether. However, I think it’s more likely that the ban is due to relatively recent research showing adverse effects of even small amounts of lead exposure from sources as disparate as old peeling paint, lead crystal, and yes, lead shot. I understand the article you read showed no adverse effects, but the recent (as of 11/7/08) study released by the state DOH & the CDC did show adverse effects.
feivel,
Good point. I can’t find a source for this, but I remember reading that many of those who died in Civil War battles succumbed not to the actual impact of the shots but to the effect of lead poisoning.
The ban I was referring to was on lead shot used for hunting.
GMAB (is it ok if I abbreviate your name?),
I don’t believe that the world’s creatures were created to serve man; I believe that they, and everything else in the world, were created to enable people to serve Hashem. My source for this is B’raishis 1:28-30, in which Hashem tells Adam & Chava to rule the earth (and in B’raishis 9:3 people are given permission to eat meat).
GMAB,
Regarding the first argument, I do believe that the world and all of its living creatures was created for people, to enable us to serve Hashem, so it’s approppriate for people to use the world’s resources to fulfill this task. This can, in my opinion, include eating moderate amounts of meat, and in my opinion definitely includes the use of animals in medical research.
As humans, we are told not to treat animals cruelly. Also, we humans have the responsibility to use the earth’s resources wisely and do what we can to preserve them. This is a simple application of the mitzvas lo ta’aseh of “bal tashchis”, not wasting.
Sorry, clicked enter too soon; here is the rest of my post:
The ban on lead shot (for hunting deer and other land game) was, as you wrote, based on concerns regarding lead exposure in those who ate shot venison. A study released last week by the North Dakota Department of Health & the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) found that those who ate a lot of wild game tended to have higher blood lead levels than those who did not; more recent wild game consumption correlated with higher blood lead levels.
Even if you argue that the ban on lead shot is unnecessary, the ban is intended to protect those who eat wild game from lead exposure. It’s not an attempt to take away ammunition, since lead-free ammunition is available.
havesomeseichel,
Lead shot has been banned for all waterfowl hunting in the US since 1991 (because of concern about the lead affecting surviving waterfowl). Nevertheless, people are still legally shooting waterfowl. That’s because there is lead-free hunting ammunition available; it’s made of copper, which is more expensive than lead. So a ban on lead shot is not a ban on hunting after all.
The ban on using lead shot for hunting is, as you wrote based on concerns regarding lead
jewishfeminist02,
The truth is that I’m not sure affirmative action quotas are really the best idea in general. But as much as I’d like to believe it, I don’t believe that Obama’s election means racism is over. Apparently the fact that I pointed out that discrimination against blacks didn’t end with the Emancipation Proclomation, and described my own experiences in college, makes me a leftist. I’m not sure which religious comments I made that are unsuitable. I did say I’d like a source for one poster’s assertion that it was kefirah to believe people could affect climate; maybe that’s it.
I don’t always agree with what you write, but I admire your eloquence and the respect with which you treat those who disagree with you.
Joseph, you wrote:
“But I read the Torah.
And follow the Rabbonim that interpert it.”
Which of the Rabbonim whom you follow advocate the use of epiphets such as “f-g” & “queer”?
Will Hill,
My university had no “leftist ideology”. For myself & most of the students there, the primary “ideological goal” was to get the work done, go home (about 5% lived on campus), & graduate before tuition increased again. And maybe you don’t know very many engineers, but they tend to be a politically conservative group.
Will Hill,
Would you care to offer a cite for that? Or does the mere fact I disagree with you make me a leftist idealogue?
mw13,
Since I’m Caucasian, I don’t know what it’s like to be a member of a racial minority. However, as a woman who graduated from an engineering program (bachelors and masters), I can speak to the experience of being a woman in a program where most of the students & the overwhelming majority of teachers/ professors are men. Although I had good grades and test scores, I definitely did experience some prejudice from professors & fellow students who assumed that because I was female I couldn’t do as well as a male student and who sometimes laughed at my questions. However, I was very persistent & had a lot of support at home & b”h succeeded anyways.
My school had even fewer African-American students & no African-American faculty. Given my experience, I’d be surprised if these students didn’t experience some sort of prejudice or discrimination. So those who say that racism/ sexism is dead in universities don’t reflect my experience.
That said, not all students admitted to a program succeed in that program. This is true whether they are admitted through an affirmative action program or not. I knew many students who started engineering prerequisite classes when I did but decided engineering was too difficult or technical for them and switched majors and/ or schools. For what it’s worth, nearly all of these students were Caucasian men.
tzippi,
Rebbetzin Weisenfeld z”l was a distant relative of mine & someone I very much admired, so I for one appreciated that tangent.
Joseph,
I didn’t mean to use the word “bash”; it’s too strong and not accurate. But it does make me feel uncomfortable that you post so often on issues that pertain to women’s dress & behavior, and nearly always in a critical way. Please forgive me for projecting, but if my husband or son posted these types of posts as frequently as you do I’d be concerned about him. I understand that you feel this is an appropriate way to modify behavior that you feel is wrong. However, I think the discomfort I feel, which may be shared by other posters to this board, is affecting your ability to communicate the message you’d like to share.
Joseph, I don’t think the Torah bashes women. But some people who criticize women use the Torah to justify it.
smh1, the sefer “Ishai HaTanach” can be a great resource to answer these types of questions too. It’s indexed by name and lists quotes from all over Torah SheBa’al Peh about each individual. The original sefer is one volume; I think the English language version comprises two volumes.
havesomeseichel, you wrote:
“It strikes me as weird- how come in over 100 years people are still complaining about the effects of slavery when no one alive knows someone who was enslaved!!??!!??”
Affirmative action isn’t just about slavery, it’s about the century of discrimination & outright attacks that followed. In another post you mentioned your knowledge of history. Surely, then, you are aware of events such as Jim Crow laws, the rise of the Ku Klux Klan, the hundreds of lynchings and other murders? And you certainly are aware of more recent events, such as the Birmingham church bombings, murders of civil rights workers, the assasination of Martin Luther King, and governors refusing to integrate schools? Millions of people alive today experienced this. Even Abraham Lincoln, who freed the slaves during the Civil War, didn’t believe blacks were or should be equal to whites; it took the Civil Rights Act of the 1960’s to codify this.
The term “driving while black” isn’t meant to shrug off responsibility; rather it describes the experiences of those who feel they were singled out due to the color of their skin. I can’t say I’ve experienced this, being white, but I’ve often heard frum people complain of being singled out due to their appearance.
havesomeseichel, don’t worry, I wasn’t offended. I just wanted to make sure to mention it because it seems that many people on this board prefer to know the gender of the people they’re addressing, and I don’t want people to think I’m misleading them.
If you’d care to respond to my previous post, I’d like to know what you think.
da, how “dangerous” did that party in Harlem turn out to be? From what I read, the celebration in Grant Park was the antithesis of a riot.
havesomeseichel, Democrats called for a recount in Florida in 2000 because the popular vote there was so close and Florida’s electors tilted the balance towards Bush. In this election, which one or two states did John McCain narrowly lose that would have tipped the electoral college to his side? If that would have been the case, I think the Republicans would have been right to call for a recount.
As it was, however, the only states in which McCain lost 51%/49% to Obama were Florida and Indiana; even if those electoral votes switched from Obama to McCain, Obama would still have over 300 electoral votes, well over the 270 vote threshold. data is from cnn, which as of this writing doesn’t call MO or NC for either candidate.
illini07, well, it serves me right for palling around with terrorists.