I started reading this when you first posted this because I am in a similar situation. I just started reading again after a few weeks. While everyone is well meaning, I am curious whether you contacted any on the people who deal with this situation on a daily basis that were suggested to you? I have and after suffering with the situation for a long time we were given a hadracha that worked and made the home situation much better. Hearing conflicting and even well meaning advice without the experience on those who acutually deal with this situation on a daily basis cannot be as helpful. Have you contacted MASK?