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Neville- It really depends which public school you’re talking about.
I’ve taught in public schools, there is a HUGE difference between different neighborhoods and schools.
Actually, the same goes for Frum schools. Some are on much a higher level than others.
In my case, I found the level of education higher in the frum schools than in the public schools.
Again, this varies as my public school students were largely from Non English speaking, immigrant homes, while that was not the case for my other students.

On the Shidduch Crisis, the age gap seems to make sense to me, but I didn’t spend that much time thinking about it.
On the other hand, Mazal77 definitely has a point. Most girls only want a certain type of boy. We also see that working boys have a very hard time with Shidduchim.
The mostly likely reason for the shidduch crisis (other than that Hashem runs the world, which is the ultimate answer) is that it’s a combination of factors. Focusing on one factor (the age gap) may help but doesn’t solve the issue completely.

I think what Coffee Addict is saying is, forget about the article (the letter writer is wrong) but some (most?) of the comments were extremely uncalled for and downright mean.
I live in a typical heimish neighborhood in the tristate area. Most people I know that take the minimum cleaning help and their kids are not being raised by the cleaning ladies.
Note: a holocaust survivor I know, that has 12 children and believe me her children are not spoiled, always says- 1 thing I regret when raising children is not taking more cleaning help, I would have been a calmer, better mother”
And if anyone knows of a legal cleaning lady in my area, I am happy to pay the going rate (despite the fact that I am a middle income family with no govt programs, struggling to make ends meet) and don’t tell me to give up my cleaning help, you don’t know my life circumstances and can’t judge my needs.

As an accountant I can tell you this- if you open your own business the sky is the limit but so are the risks.
An accountant’s income starts at 75k and caps at around 150k. (where I live)- do your research in your community and decide if you can live on that.
The income greatly increases were you to use your accounting knowledge and experience in a specific field to become a CFO. (which is currently my goal).
Note- not all accountants do public accounting/ tax returns. Every business needs an accountant and there are many career options.
Regarding personality, I don’t think all accountants need to have the same personality, in my case, I enjoy math, numbers, probably solving, working with complicated spreadsheets for hours, and explaining difficult concepts. On the other hand, I am a very social and outgoing person, not the typical “accountant” personality.
Hope this helps and good luck!

America has lots and lots of oil enough to be pretty much self reliant and be able to set prices.

The reason we are not is because gas companies are always afraid the dems will shut them down. It is not worth it for them to invest the huge sums when one day a dem president will say we have to go green and we can’t drill our own oil.
Instead of us drilling in the most green way possible, we are allowing the Arab countries to get rich and they don’t care about green and safety. American companies can’t lower prices because they are in a very risky business, when dems are in power. If there was a Republican in power, they would be receiving incentives to produce more (instead of the rhetoric Biden seems to love) which would cause lower prices.
Under Biden, taxes for these companies are higher, there are more regulations- and then Biden gives all his nice speeches that they are making too much profit and that they have to drill more oil. Biden loves blaming the American oil companies for their high prices, yet he is tying their hands behind their back. Even if he lowers regulations (which I believe he did) the oil companies don’t trust him not to put them right back.

Good luck!!
I was a high school teacher, who taught and prepared students for regents for many years.
1- study as many old regents as possible
2-do the questions you know first- many times you’ll find info to help you answer the questions you don’t know.
2- try not to leave anything blank
3- don’t cheat- the 1 student that I had that cheated got a zero
Relax and take your time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

IMHO most of the time seminary can not prepare a girl for a learning boy. Chashivus hatorah has to be put into the chinuch from when one is young. I think a boy has more exceptions to this rule because he may decide to become a learner once he tastes the sweetness of Torah, while for a girl she may want a learner until she actually has to work hard to support, and has to learn to live without things that all her friends have. If one grows up with a family that values successful business (wo)men over talmidei chachamim the chances of them being/marrying a real learning boy is low no matter what their rebbeim/seminary teachers teach.

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Kuvult-

Yes- Kids need to learn to be friends with and respect other people regardless of their “type”
Yes- Parents should vet all houses they send their kids to (it’s easier to vet houses from people your type)
But- Parents should be super careful when sending kids to houses more modern due to outside influences, especially since kids these days are exposed to everything with no boundaries.
That doesn’t mean that they can’t play together and be friends- just it might be in my house, and not in the other kids house, under my supervision so that I can be more careful.

When I was a teenager I thought that 99% of people had really good marriages.

Marxist and Common- how about both as a couple.
The kollel schedule usually works well for husbands to do drop off and pick up for babysitting.
These days many offices are very flexible with hours.
I work a few hours a day, and put in another hour or two at night.
It’s easier than if both parents are working, which is so common these days.

Common- Happiness is a state of mind. I could choose to be happy that way but I’m happier this way.

Avira- that’s because they want a husband that goes on vacations, donates huge sums etc., they don’t really want a learning husband and the life that brings. Because, one can’t compare and be jealous of something they don’t want.

Our Torah gives us a guide for life.
IMHO It’s healthy to get drunk once or twice a year.
I was once discussing it with a nonfrum person.
Unfortunately, in his world getting drunk is a regular occasion.
He was surprised (in a good way) that our Torah gives us once or twice (purim and simchas torah) a year to get drunk- and it’s healthy.
Growing up my brothers always got drunk on purim. Now my husband gets drunk.
I get to see him in a different light.
I’m not talking about underage teens though. I wouldn’t give my opinion on that.

Like KGN, I’m not pro Russia nor pro Ukraine. I feel bad for the Ukrainians and don’t want anyone to suffer. I daven that all yidden stay safe. I feel bad for innocent Russians too (obviously not as much as I feel bad for the Ukrainians). The sanctions will affect them.
The question here is to what extent do we have to suffer (with higher gas prices etc.) to support the Ukrainians.

Dr. Pepper.
You couldn’t have said it better.
Finally, a discussion on policies and not just bashing specific individuals.
It’s not pro-Trump anti-Trump pro-Biden anti-Biden. It’s the actions and the policies. And what makes a stronger and better America. And of course taking a look which party best aligns with our values.

There are many republicans that truly have no idea what the party stands for and these people can’t have an actual discussion with someone like jackk. They just yell Brandon.
They will all do well to have a good discussion to get a bit more educated with dr. pepper.

Thanks ujm,
I didn’t donate before because of all the emails but once you wrote in Rabbi Bleich shlita I donated.

Reb E.

I will respectfully disagree.
Among the many things part of the Republican platform:
– Anti- abortion
– Less regulation on businesses
– stronger border
– against bail reform/ for stronger policing
– for a stronger military
etc.
You may disagree with any one of these or all of these (which I can’t believe because you are for sure anti abortion but whatever).

Trump was never my first choice. I despise his morals, his personality and I honestly think he’s a sick narcissist. But as a Republican conservative I will agree that he enacted a lot of great policies.

Not every Republican is good. There are anti semites on both sides and YWN should call them all out.
I honestly think there are many more anti semites on the left which is why they receive more coverage.
Also, when looking who’s anti semitic one has to look at their action and policies together with their words as a package.

Yes, the squad gets called out more often because look at their words, their actions and the policies they support.

Trump may have said some anti-semitic remarks but look at his actions (he was good for Israel, freed Rebashkin and some other frum Jews etc.) and policies.

The Jews in Uman prepared busses and drivers just in case but as soon as the bombing started the drivers disappeared and they had to find new drivers.

RW- You know why?
Because it made a lot of enemies.
People seriously believe that if you are anti-vax you are spreading disinformation and causing the virus to continue and if you are pro-vax then you are out to kill the world and force everyone to give over their rights.
It made people believe that anyone on the other side is out to get them and hates them.
Worst invention ever vaccine- it divided and bought hate to an already divided world.
Let’s hope that as Jews we can put this aside and love each other despite views on covid, masks and vaccines.

I go bowling once or twice a year. I went like 6 months ago,

The type of meat is important. Cheap chulent meat is meant to add taste to the chulent but the meat itself isn’t the greatest. I like to use cheek meat.

I was in Israel and I watched the girls and boys together.
You wouldn’t have known they were Jewish.
So sad.

I’m a conservative.
I have been a conservative for years.
I have been having political arguments (in a fun way) with people why conservative policies are better for our country and ultimately for the individual, for a long time.
However, when there isn’t a Republican candidate that I approve of, for any reason, I don’t vote.

My brother had an infection on his foot when he was 10 years old. My parents went to a hospital (I wish I could warn everyone which one) and was told they have to amputate his leg. They went to a different hospital and with some medication the infection went away and he lives happily ever after.