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What was Moshe Rabeinu’s last name?
??????? 🙂
Icot
It’s been a month, more than enough time to give up the decoding secret for which you have permission from Squeak…:)
??? ????? ?????? ???? (Yoel 2:17)
Blabla
You’ve got so much talent in the writing arena
Hashem obviously gave you ???? and ????
This last poem of yours shows yearning and hope
With these ingredients you’ll be able to cope
You say that you’d like to start a clean slate
That’s what TSHUVA’s for, it’s never too late
That will undo what you say you have done
And become positives; negatives-you’ll have none 🙂
You know you can’t change the circumstances of your birth
But you surely can increase your feelings of self-worth
It’s hard to be self-critical 24/7
No wonder you think of moving on to heaven
Your avoda right now seems to be
Finding the good in yourself constantly
You wouldn’t want treif food be part of your digestion
Onaas dvorim is treif to your neshama and disposition
Waiting to hear you list the good in you you’ve found
Which should mitigate the times you beat yourself to the ground
With G-d’s help we’re confident you can surely do it
When you succeed be”H, we’ll all say “We just knew it!”
PBA
If you are really concerned about your kids’ feelings, perhaps you should consider how they’ll feel in a few years when they discover that their dad authored this thread…
There’s nothing funny using the Torah as the butt of sarcasm, even though your point (or what I think is your point) may be valid.
Could you come up with another sarcastic scenario that will get people upset? TIA 🙂
melatonin is healthier than OTC meds
Try eating less white flour & sugar on Shabbos, which increase fatigue & waistline 🙂
try posting on genforum.genealogy.com/kurtz/all.html. You may also want to spell that name with an “e” or “i” & see if you get anywhere
The Gribover Rebbe, R Halberstam (off 16th ave in Boro Park)does extensive work on genealogy
“she snubbed me and ignored me in public”
This is typical of someone experiencing depression, not wanting to socialize &/or being absorbed in one’s own thoughts, oblivious to one’s surroundings.
Have you discussed this behavior with her so that she could explain/apologize/do tshuva?
See how she responds to your concerns & you’ll have your answer right there as to how you should deal with this situation.
“(and heard only good things)”
Consider yourself among the lucky ones 🙂
“The Din is leather.”
Leather watchbands, belts, etc. are muttar
Hashem didn’t want us to sing a whole Hallel on Pesach because the Egyptians died, who according to many were reshaim. So there is some mourning by Hashem even over them.
Hashem had given her talents but addictions won over, a lesson for us all. How many of us have addictions to the computer, food, shopping, etc. so that we reduce our abilities for our G-d given talents to shine through?
“after she was horrifically nasty to me over a misunderstanding.”
“a bad “neighbor”
Pirkei Avos did not mean that a single nasty comment warrants one to be categorized a “bad neighbor.” Check the meforshim there to see what it really means.
Now that you understand that she had been under the stress of a difficult marriage, perhaps you can be melamad zchus that she responded out of character (not a justification but an understanding). None of us is perfect and we all make mistakes.
I wonder if you brought up the incident so that she has a chance of doing tshuva & apologizing. Why not be up front and tell her that this has bothered you ever since it happened.
Honesty many times is the best policy.
Derech HaMelech,
Is it clear now (at least partially) to what the OP was referring? 🙂
??? ????? ?? ????? (Yirmiyahu 16:11)
let’s see if we can try to keep a 3-week theme if possible, it’s harder 🙂
The hotline & agencies help victims deal with the finances.
But this is putting the cart before the horse; let her seek out help first, no one’s leaving at this point!
“Source (daf, amud)?”
ca
Plz put down your coffee mug for a moment & disclose the source 🙂
And what if HE loses his job?
There are many possible scenarios.
Right now she needs emotional and psychological support to increase self-esteem.
D’ya think you could do that? 🙂
????? ????? ???? ?? (Mishlei 8:13)
????? ?????? ?????? ?????? ??????? (Yeshayahu 14:11)
m22
“Homelessness with kids.”
Please call the numbers already provided for you here on this thread. This worry is a common one for victims in your situation and are addressed there.
z
The 2 topics are not comparable, IMHO.
M22’s child is concerned about not finding a spouse for himself/herself, while your child is trying to clarify a rumor.
The general rule is that if the child is old enough to ask, then the child is old enough to get an answer on an appropriate level.
There’s nothing wrong with telling your child that it’s assur min haTorah, end of discussion. If a child cannot get an answer from the parent, there are other sources for the child to get answers. Better to get the answers from you.
??? ???? ??? ??? (Dvorim 32:6)
‘Why would a seven year old say “there’s no one else to marry”?’
Why not ask him directly yourself?
“…get out of his home!”
you mean YOUR (pl) home
Sender
Let me guess…you’ve prepared this Shabbos meals last Chanuka 🙂
‘…my mother in law shifted the blame to me and said “why did you let yourself go?”‘
Your MIL raised your husband…the modus operandi of abusers is to blame others and not take responsibility themselves.
Even if you are 10 pounds overweight, you still do not deserve to have cups of water thrown at you or be the recipient of onaas dvorim or neglected.
Check out the abuse wheel and see if you can identify with any of the behaviors at domesticviolence.org/violence-wheel/
Even if you would lose the weight, guaranteed there would be something else about you that would be found lacking. This never ends, as none of us is perfect.
A healthy relationship should include support, communication, boundaries, trust, respect, honesty, accountability, & responsiblity
“I’m very good at multitasking.”
Wolf, I’m impressed…this is the first time I’ve seen you not be self-deprecating 🙂
happiest,
Plz don’t label yourself so negatively! You are so not.
On the top bar, where it says http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom, just type “/page/2” yourself.
happiest,
It may be difficult to admit to your parents that you struggle with your eating, but is it possible that they will indeed support you & get you additional help?
Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise.
It’s hard to see how others care for you until you begin caring about yourself.
blabla
You should be published.
It’s amazing how you can keep ‘spitting out’ such amazing, heartrending poems.
“Let me know what you guys think, open for suggestions”
CallMeDave,
Your poem is incredible, meaningful, and captures the pain of the story as it unfolded.
I just hope this is the last time we experience such a tragedy.
Looking forward to reading more poetry from you.
“I’m making a kiddush tomorrow in shul
I want you all to know why.
Ten year ago, this very day
I tried very hard to die.”
Minyan Gal, your words are inspiring to those
Who are caught in the midst of depression’s throes
That life does get better with more things to do
You’ve displayed that by becoming a more observant Jew
You’ve used this time to be a support to members here
You’ve extended help to blabla, displaying you truly care
You are indeed the CR’s lymericist extraordinaire
You’re truly a great poet as well, to be fair
SO glad you had these extra ten years here on earth
By now you probably recognize your great worth
Looking forward to hearing from you till 120
Hope you publish your work, for readers you’ll have plenty!
???? ?????? ??? ??? (Iyov 37:5)
??? ?? ????? ??? ??? ??? (Dvorim 29:25)
M22
“If anyone knows of any such groups and/or contact info please let me know.”
I see you are in the tri-state area, so call 718 851-6300 ask for the domestic abuse department. They do not tell you to divorce but give support to increase your self-esteem & understanding of the dynamics going on in your house. They should give you new techniques how to handle various behaviors you are encountering. And it’s free.
Hatzlacha
correction: Leiby in the above inspiring background story was named after his great-grandfather
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(Tehillim 137:1-3)
“$10 that its 95% Eicha and 65% of the time has the word ????
?? ??????? ??? ??? ??? ????????? ??? ?????”
(Tehillim 103:10)
DH,
considering your ???? is neither from Eicha nor has the word ???? in it, perhaps you should reconsider 🙂
MP
You are speaking from the heart, ????? ??????? ?? ??? ?????? ??? ???. You’re obviously pained about it, and ???? ??? ??? ??????.
You do not sound arrogant or rude, just pained.
Without knowing details of your situation, just know that your family would have had to endure incredible media exposure and loss of privacy (besides murder)to obtain the level of giving that is currently taking place. Would you have been ready for that?
Are there other times when you have felt that others received more than you? Please keep in mind that Hashem gives everyone what they need in the right time.
ugotme!
I thought this topic was going to be about hoarding 🙂
“Failed”
This reminds me of the Tu B’shvat vort.
Why don’t we celebrate the trees’ birthday when they are blooming in Nissan, way after Shvat?
Shvat is when the seeds are sprouting underground, unseen, undetected.
You, Sender, may indeed have caused some serious sprouting underground vis-a-vis your two classmates.
Really pained for you.
I strongly suggest you look into a frum support group for domestic abuse in your area.
As you indicate, your self-esteem has understandably suffered as a result of your spouse’s behavior, and you are going to need self-esteem AND support in order to make sound decisions.
And daven to Hashem that He should make it so clear to you what you should be doing.
Imach anochi b’tzaar
Hatzlacha
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we’re trying to keep the 3-weeks theme
m22
what would you say if perhaps the neshama is one and the same?
ha ha ha ha
It gave me tons of chizuk, too.
Nothing in this world is arbitrary.
m22
“If a person questions whether they should have lived…”
The grandfather did not question his surviving.
He expressed a sincere desire to being able to make the ultimate sacrifice. R’ Akiva & others were noted to have felt the same.
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