Yaela

You are doing an admirable thing by covering at least to some extent while trying to make sense of what you are doing.

You write that “It’s taken from Parshat Sotah and inferred from that. It’s not stated outright.”

Consider for a moment: You wouldn’t consider keeping kosher any differently, yet the only thing written in the chumash (actually, several times) is ?? ??????? ??? ???? ???. That’s it.

So it is quite clear that we can’t just go by ???? ?????, but we need ???? ???? ?? also.

I had a wise teacher in yeshiva who would say, “Ask away all your questions, but do what needs to be done in the meantime. And even if you don’t get your answers, do it anyway!”

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clearly.

BUT there’s no such concept of acceptable trolling in halacha when it entails being ???? on many issurim such as disparaging, ridiculing, name calling and degrading.

There are other trollers on this site who did not resort to such low “standards” in their quest for many posts.

Always

I’m with you.

Now how are we supposed to teach young ones that name calling is improper when you have “adults” doing it? And within our fold. Now I understand better when learning that before Moshiach comes, knowing right from wrong becomes blurred…

Better to find out before the wedding than after.

I respectfully disagree with WIY.

There are quite a few times that “conversation” will not highlight a person’s temper, rigidity, and stinginess as much as wedding planning will…..

As they say, you can thank him for the lessons he’s taught you and for making you one closer to your basherte…

OK-??? ??? ????

So I guess you weren’t the mod 🙂

But you know what is so odd?

Why would the mod do it

The mod certainly blew it

Who wanted to stir the pot

And took an aimless shot

Especially during the 9 days

Hope the mod mends his ways

dz’s up to ??? ???? already 🙂

??????? ??? ????? (Tehillim 60:5)

And remember the valuable lesson she taught you:

You deserve better than you thought.

I’ll take the flag pole. I’m not much into taking Poles.

Yes, I looked that one up. I knew for sure it wasn’t in ?? because I say that one for some ????? frequently. I also felt that the word might be ?????, and I wanted to check if there was a ?? in front (yes to both). So thanks for making me look it up!

Btw, you’ve got a wonderful memory b”H ba”h

I’m finding it harder keeping to the 3 week theme 🙂

???? ????? ???? (Mishlei 4:17)

you made me laugh, ca & is:)

??? ?????? ??????? (Mishlei 9:17)

MP

How did YOU come to the decision that she was not the one for you after all, if I may ask?

It’s HER issue if she keeps you in the back of her mind, not yours. Let it go IMHO.

You are quite welcome. It really is beautifully written with a wonderful message.

I saw them but don’t know what to make of them. Somehow I had seen the new sub after your accusations.

The poem is by Edgar Guest

(continued)

When I see a deed of kindness,

I am eager to be kind.

When a weaker brother stumbles

and a strong man stays behind

Just to see if he can help him,

then the wish grows strong in me

To become as big and thoughtful

as I know that friend to be.

And all travelers can witness

that the best of guides today

Is not the one who tells them,

but the one who shows the way.

One good man teaches many,

men believe what they behold;

One deed of kindness noticed

is worth forty that are told.

Who stands with men of honor

learns to hold his honor dear,

For right living speaks a language

which to every one is clear.

Though an able speaker charms me

with his eloquence, I say,

I’d rather see a sermon

than to hear one, any day.

what’s really weird is “wierd”

The maidel Fraidel Knaidel

Happy in her baby cradle

Named as such by her papa Derech

Who loves rhyming names, that Derech Hamelech

The Sefiras Ha'Omar game!!

The Sefiras Ha'Omar game!!

Yup. I took these from dz’s sfiras haomer game & we were up to day # 36, the day I came back 🙂

I just read a great article by R Dovid Goldwasser on this issue.

Toward the end of the piece, the rav gives several recommendations: (paraphrasing)

1. reduce texting during the week

2. give away your cell phone for Shabbos (the rav says that he keeps quite a few cells for people over Shabbos & yo”t)

3. make a buddy system where you are accountable and can discuss your efforts and successes

4. learn about the holiness of Shabbos & the halachos.

5. make plans for Shabbos that will keep you busy and not bored

6. if you feel that OCD is involved, get help

“If you would like to take the first step on this journey, you can call me (R Goldwasser) at 718 677-3712 and- thought it’s not my preferred method of communication- I will send you a text of personal chizuk and berachah before Shabbos.”

Hatzlacha to anyone struggling with this issue.

how do you explain a post giving chizuk being removed?

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don’t see it as butting in but more as al taamod al dam rayecha…kol yisrael araivim ze la’ze. I couldn’t keep quiet either when I read that the poster had to take a xanax because of cyber bullying.

Icot

can u give us a hint what you are thanking for?

I’m thanking u in advance 🙂

thanks in general to the staff, I really appreciate all the hard work.

I was just concerned to read that a prolific, mature poster had to take a xanax because of cyber bullying, but I’m confident that won’t happen again

I guess I’ll have to take back the part that you’d be man enough to understand… 🙂

I just can’t bring myself to name-calling, which hopefully you’ll get in a few decades 🙂

Both parties need to find your banter funny for it to be funny.

When the other party clearly states that it is not only not funny but very painful, then continuing the same behavior is abusive.

I’m sure you’re man enough to understand that.

?? ??? ???? (Amos 8:11)

You, msseeker

A sheker speaker!

You’ve no proof that AYC is him

You are ???? on choshed b’ksherim

SO perhaps it is YOU who should change the SN

To “here goes the shekerspeaker again” 🙂

m22

In the beginning of Garden of Emuna, there’s a true story about a young woman who lost a young child (murdered & dismembered) & shortly thereafter, lost her husband. Through a dream she was showm the “story behind the story” & what really was happening.

It would be a grave injustice if I would paraphrase.

See if you could get your hands on the book.

I hope by now you called the numbers that were supplied to you on your other thread. A support group for domestic abuse survivors & a counselor specializing in it are both crucial in the healing process.

Usually a victim somehow suffered from abuse in some way growing up, and subconsciously chooses a partner who is “familiar.”

Comparing oneself to others is a form of self-abuse. A victim many times will put herself/himself down (self-abuse) even when not in the presence of the abuser.

Keep in mind that Hashem gives lots of nisyonos to high neshamos…suffering in this world is better than in the next.

We all here feel for you & are rooting for you.

Now you need to borrow the book & make the call.

Hatzlacha.

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