aries

Thank you SOOOOO much for your very meaningful words. It’s gratifying to “know” someone who has made her life so meaningful and special and helpful to others.

I really like your idea of walking into an at-risk school; I’d like to do that as well. What was your procedure and do you have any tips on dealing with the students?

I am glad you shared about your crying spell. I’m not much of a cryer, but there were some tears…ran for a tehillim to make it more meaningful. How are you then differentiating between mourning her loss and sadness? Perhaps we are actually talking about the same thing!

and by the way, she was more than a friend, I sat shiva briefly for her, as I was trying to say here http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/missing-a-loved-one#post-306463

I was actually wondering why we don’t say Yizkor on R”H as we do on the other yomim tovim. At first I used to ask why we DO say yizkor in that it would make me so sad to remember the loss on the holidays when we are supposed to be joyous…

Thank you for your kind wishes and for being who you are.

I was actually thinking of making labels in their honor and donating seforim. Did you create labels on the computer or did you give it in to a printer? What do you write on it other than their name?

yc

Sorry to hear now you’ve got nothing encouraging to say to me 🙂

ok, so Icot suggested going out with friends (a bit hard to find someone with spare time on erev yom tov), but someone called to help them out with something- it’s amazing how when they think you are helping them, you’re actually helping yourself as well…Had it in mind to be a zchus for the nifteres and this helped a whole lot.

aries, how did you turn it around from the sadness to the joy? May your mom have an aliyas neshama. And I haven’t been successful yet in what she’s asked me to do

cm, thanks for the care and warmth

yc, oops, I mean gefen-ty and AKY”R

oomis- ty as well & I’m sorry for your dad’s loss and that you personally know what it’s like, may you continue to give him much nachas. AKY”R.

sas- you are truly correct in all that you say and ty.

adorable-sorry for your loss as well. you’re right, it’s selfish of me to be sad when she’s in a better place.

cm-ty as well.

IF YOU CAN DO SOMETHING NOW L”ILUY NISHMAS THE NIFTERES ON HER YAHRZEIT, PLZ…TIA

Thanks for your help.

I actually read and reread this till I internalized your messages and support.

syag- “let bits of her neshama live through you by smiling or thinking of a happy thought today, even momentarily”

Your words helped me a lot, even though I knew this in my head, it was different when I read your words.

sorry you are going through a difficult time yourself, I’m here for you as well. I’ll make a temporary aycamyisraelchai account on the gmail system if that helps and the mods allow. Sometimes time can mitigate the pain, perhaps this is in the cards for you.

Aries- you are very lucky to have had your mom for 90 years. You’ve obviously given her a lot of nachas in her lifetime.

You ask what I can do to honor her memory; what she’d asked me to do is not completely up to me and so therefore I’ve been unsuccessful in my quest to do ask she wished. And it hits me on the yartzeit.

CM

Thank you for your kind words.

She actually liked her good deeds to remain private, so I probably would not be honoring her by publicizing. I’ve lit the candle and cannot find any simchas hachaim at present, which was the essence of her.

SL

I wish we could talk as well.

Somehow I know this is going to be a long night. And day.