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  • > ideal of a woman working in a high paying job in a Jewish institution isn’t feasible,

    this is not “ideal”. Jewish public is paying already a lot for schools and other community programs. Our ideal includes people volunteering or working for low salaries to enable Jewish public access to education and other services.

    Married women _are_ required to work even if they have enough servants. There are a lot of jobs that are problematic, and some – like Hollywood – might be more problematic for women while still not recommended for men. At the same time, a lot of jobs that are not challenging spirituality much, I think – from WFH software engineer to a neurosurgeon.

    Historically, “jobs” often required either muscle strength or travel in dangerous environment, so those were not for women. At the same time, women with property (usually, inherited or gifted by the father) were able to do business – if they chose so, or let their husband to manage it.

    Also, some say, that sometimes there is more danger in “heimishe businesses”. An observant person is on guard from non-kosher world, but in the environment where everyone is “kosher”, people can become more relaxed over time.

    in reply to: Why did the Brisker Rav zt”l call giving brachos “shtusim”? #2176023

    common, was it even a question!?

    in reply to: Why did the Brisker Rav zt”l call giving brachos “shtusim”? #2176021

    I agree with Rocky. This might be a judgement call depending on the people the Rav is dealing with – where they hold, does he have a long-term relationship with them, will they be unhappy not getting brocha, does he have a chance to affect this person and the whole community, will they just go to a different Rav and bother him … So, you can’t necessarily question different Rabonim coming to different conclusions, but you can try to understand their shitot if they ever commented about it.

    in reply to: How much does a shadchan charge? #2175243

    practically speaking – you need to know the price. If you don’t agree on a price of a service, then you are supposed to pay a reasonable market price. Given that shadchanim often come en masse and people do not bother negotiate prices in advance (right?), then one needs to know going prices.

    Incidentally, sephardim have a fixed price that did not change for centuries despite the inflation.

    in reply to: Conscientious objectors Haredi VS lefty secularistts #2175242

    In most countries, now and especially in earlier times, religions had to be officially recognized.

    in reply to: Shmurah Matzah Prices #2175241

    I am also looking for highest price matza so that I can brag that I have the most expensive one.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2175238

    AAQ “OUR TIMES SEEMS TO BE THE FIRST IN HISTORY WHERE [SOME] JEWS ARE CLAIMING THAT THEIR MESORAH IS TO BE WILLFULLY IGNORANT.”

    Avram> This is motzi shem ra.

    To the opposite, I am defending the honors of mine (and maybe others’) ancestors who were not ignorant and insist that even now this is not true despite some here making a virtue out of ignorance.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2175237

    > They are claiming that the mesorah is to be just as educated today as we were 100 years ago, 250 years ago and 1,000 years ago. None of those periods included a secular studies curriculum for the masses of bochorim. It did include a highly rigorous Biblical and Talmudical curriculum.

    I am not sure about 1,000 years ago, but 100 years ago most of my zeides and some bobbies were educated at the level of their times and were involved in technical businesses and trades.

    Volozhin yeshiva had 400 students, this was not universal.

    Still, the bigger point is that Jews were not less educated that others and probably more, given our tradition of learning.

    I agree that life-long learning is the ideal, and I don’t see how knowing sciences is worse for your life-long learning than working hard cleaning after the cows and horses.

    in reply to: Dental Insurance #2175236

    Take a longer view – 250 years ago, population of Europe was way larger than USA. Then, for some reason, they/we all started moving here. So, something is done right in the American system in general. When comparing expenditures, you may want to

    (1) review outcomes by different social/ethnic groups – USA is full of newcomers and groups of problematic population. Try comparing a person with origins in say UK or France n both countries

    (2) make sure you compare all expenditures in European countries – cost of government policies gets diffused in many areas. Look for example at where medical research is being done.

    Tp the OP: do all students take these tests? If not, what percentage take them at different institutions.
    Also, how are the boys doing?

    > Careers for women often ruin their ruchnius.

    and same for men, of course. We need to separate between two issues related to “career”:

    1) desire to advance at a job at the expense of anything else. Not healthy in many cases, (unless you are a Rav, a doctor, a soldier, a firefighter, or anyone else who benefits people …)

    2) ability to work in an easier environment, using professional skills.

    People often confuse the two. Yes, having professional skills creates a danger of becoming a workaholic, but so does a job of selling phones on amazon. Professional job, when taken in right dosage, satisfies gemora’s and, I think, also Rambam’s, suggestion to have a clean easy job that does not require exhaustion or fear of hunger or using charity.

    in reply to: Professional education #2175232

    In my recent experience, the best set up is 2-4 friends going into a reasonable quality online college and studying together. So, you get a half-price (online v. on campus) school with kosher kitchen and Jewish environment. Maybe there should be a sign-up sheet for people to join.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2174896

    > In the pre-Holocaust era in Europe secular studies was by far the exception by Chareidim,

    at earlier times, most nations did not have a lot of studies – and majority of population did not need them, given that most of them were farming and later working at factories. Jews were generally more educated than surrounding population. Our times seems to be the first in history where [some] Jews are claiming that their mesorah is to be willfully ignorant. Not everyone received this mesorah, and I hope this could be respected.

    in reply to: Shmurah Matzah Prices #2174895

    One idea is a for a group/shul/community doing a bulk purchase and resale at full price, with funds going to tzedoko. This way everyone feels better about it.

    in reply to: Conscientious objectors Haredi VS lefty secularistts #2174893

    akuperma, thanks for a good description. I would take an issue equating anyone charedi with clergy in other countries. Clergy is a concept of established religious activities approved by the government. It does not mean anyone who declares himself occupied by religious studies can qualify.

    in reply to: Backstop everything #2174891

    Further reporting seems to make it more complicated: apparently, CA Feds were warning SVB for 2 years already, but nothing was changed, and Feds followed up at glacial speed.

    This looks like a systemic problem in everything related to risk management: people who are responsible receive their salaries and hope that nothing bad will really happen. If something bad happens – rarely – they just lose their jobs. Otherwise, they’ll get paid extra for many years… Same as people in charge of institutions who invested with Madoff. And probably many others who were lucky not to be exposed.

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2174190

    Avira, I think I was recalling ספר תולדות ישו, and wiki says it is indeed 10th century at least, maybe 6th to 9th, and possibly a combination of earlier sources. Author unknown, or mahybe a combination of multiple sources,

    in reply to: How to do teshuva for breaking shabbos? #2174188

    I apologize for the joking tone of my second paragraph. Did not want to offend anyone. The serious way to put that is this: Shabbos is supposed to be time of menucha and, hopefully, this should be beneficial for the person. So, maybe there are some external or internal pressures that prevent relaxation – be somewhere on time, daven in a proper place, behave during a dinner, etc. Maybe one can re-arrange their shabbos routine and focus on what makes this person happier and relaxed without doing things other consider obligatory. I am not claiming any expertise here, just thinking out loud.

    in reply to: Anti-Semitism refuted by Non-Jewish Philosopher #2174187

    Marxist, my claim stems from the fact that his later criticism of capitalism is a carbon copy of his criticism of Jewish business influence on the world. Your further quotes from someone who actually was in charge of killing people shows that you see this a purely theoretical debate of ideas. Maybe your family came to US on Mayflower and nobody was ever touched by the Marxist murderers in Europe.

    in reply to: Anti-Semitism refuted by Non-Jewish Philosopher #2173941

    Marxist,
    my interpretations are from the time I read it (thanks, professor who referred me to the volume so that I was able to see this paper!) and I shared them with many budding marxists. Sad that they only reached you now. I provided enough of the argument that you can open the paper and see if my interpretation fits. Maybe we can publish in some Pravda International – polemic about polemic w/ Bauer. Somehow, I even remember the name of the reverend, even as I do not remember the mishnah I learnt yesterday …

    Practical lesson: read early work of famous people to see what they really think – before they polished their oratory skills. I heard a similar advice from a Rav – listen to what children say as parents already say what is accepted in polite society, not what they really think.

    in reply to: How to do teshuva for breaking shabbos? #2173938

    Avira, I presumed that the most jarring moment is transition from chol to shabbos. Maybe the person does not know how to detach himself or afraid to focus on himself (especially, these days when people can use tech to always be “busy”).

    But if someone has panic attack later on shabbos, I would examine what is in the cholent and whether it is heated sufficiently.

    in reply to: How to do teshuva for breaking shabbos? #2173937

    RBZS, a sad story. This is a case of a bias: halochos shabbos are pretty straight-forward, while internal state of a person is an unknown thing.

    Not sure how to fight this bias – ask a Rav, imagine that this person is your close relative, show to him that you really care (say, walk there on shabbos – not possible in your case).

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2173936

    Ben T, you won’t convince people with obscure references. You have higher chance if people see how you behave and learn according to your Rebbe’s teaching. Then, all Yiddishe mamas in the street will be pointing to their children – do you want to be an Erliche Yid and a Talmid Chacham like that chosid? Then, everyone will eventually become a follower of your Rebbe and you can vote for a Moschiach of your choice. Hatzlaha. Start with helping the old lady cross the street and open a sefer.

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2173934

    Avira > it’s a theory from a prominent frum historian and talmid chacham,

    I am not sure who your source is, but this is described in at least a medieval Jewish source of unknown (at least to me) origin. It is pretty hilarious – describing every action of paul and peter as a step in separating the new religion from us.

    in reply to: Backstop everything #2173935

    Is there a metric that tracks how many board members re solid professionals v. politicians and social warriors? is it predictive of anything?

    in reply to: Backstop everything #2173928

    From the reporting, it seems that the failure was very simple – putting 75% of their money in long-term bonds. Who said bonds are boring…apparently, regulations (Basel 3?) do not require accounting for sovereign bonds until they are sold. So, this is like you got a $1 mln house in downtown Detroit and continue listing it as an asset even as squatters moved in. Curiously, their reporting showed 75% of holdings were “held to maturity”, so it seems any reasonable professional would have been able to flag the problem. At the end, a private entity – Moody – was first to report the problem, not the government. Please correct my description, I am not a money professional.

    some thoughts on this:

    Who was responsible for this maturity regulations?

    Is it normal for congressmen who created regulations to then become lobbyists to try to weaken the same regulations, or advise how to go around them? This is a huge maris ayn and perverse incentive

    Risk management was apparently “not a priority”.

    Main lesson is that any romantic long-horizon goal is danger to current responsibilities. Communists & Nazis could kill millions i the name of happy future; Moschichists do not need to daven on time as they hasten the geula, etc. We need to be ehrliche yidden first before saving the world/learning Torah kuloh, etc.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2173920

    As we discussed here earlier, Rav Moshe did not suggest college for general public because it was possible to have a median American lifestyle with a job without it. He clearly allowed some students to be on college track, less the parents take the kids out of yeshiva, as ujm mentions. Maybe other motivations also – otherwise, why his own daughter went to college. As median American job now does require a college degree (possibly way inferior and less demanding in study but more in money than during R Moshe’s times), what would R Moshe pasken now? Also, what was R Moshe’s (and R Aharon’s) position on using non-Jewish charity – welfare/disability/single-parent benefits/etc, esp when it is public knowledge?

    in reply to: Kollel life with no parental support #2173846

    The best segula is to have chovos halevovos shiur immediately after the end of the work day 6 days a week.

    in reply to: Happy PI Day! #2173844

    Appropriately, the ultimate PI day was shabbos (if you were in one of the country that joined Gregorian calendar 10 years before in 1582).

    in reply to: Arkansas Gov. Sanders signs law loosening child labor protections #2173841

    coffee > It is in regards to a day camp in town

    Blushing. It did not even occur to me that those jobs my kids were doing might not have been legal. Thus, I did not even check! I’ll go consult a lawyer and report myself to authorities.

    in reply to: Dental Insurance #2173840

    There was always a difference between how rich and poor were treated, but recent generations acquired unprecedented knowledge that allows channeling resources into improving human condition, including health.

    Maybe we did not fully absorbed this into our world view. If we do value human life, maybe it is worth spending even more than we spend now in supporting medical treatments and public health instead of buying faster cars, larger homes, and fancy vacations. So, maybe health spending should be 50-70% of the GDP instead of mere 15%?

    in reply to: Backstop everything #2173839

    SVB seems to be involved in support of partisan projects to the degree that other banks are not interested in picking up the loans. That means, the bailout might include a hidden subsidy to the partisan favorite causes.

    Finally, most people here agreed on something. Interesting to see how alternative reality can be perceived based on some information that the posters had and that is probably impossible to either verify or disproof. I presume many other nations, including anti-semites, get their information in a similar way.

    in reply to: How to do teshuva for breaking shabbos? #2173836

    Seems like this person indeed needs love and support and, possibly, treatment for his condition.

    That said, starting shabbos early is a practical solution – get the panic trip out of the way before shabbos, while someone else can drive the person to the hospital and back.

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2173835

    pls remember for an every confused moschihist, there is another one who is walking around for the lost Jews based on the teachings and organizations formed by the same Rebbe. Most of other observant Jews live comfortable lives in their shuls disregarding maybe 4 mln of Yidden who are in the process of being totally lost, maybe outsourcing the effort to “kiruv” organizations. _If_ the L Rebbe is on the short list for M, then it would be for this effort, not for the pilpul of differences between Paul and Peter.

    in reply to: Anti-Semitism refuted by Non-Jewish Philosopher #2173827

    Emancipation went hand-in-hand with assimilation. See Napoleon’s questions to the “Sanhedrin” he forced to assemble – do you consider Frenchmen your brothers? Would you marry them?

    On the other hand, we can’t blame solely “emancipators” for the damage to the community. German reformers felt a need to bring modern education, medicine, jobs to their Eastern brothers…If our communities were able – at the time – to absorb the new knowledge without compromising Yiddishkeit, then – maybe – the Yidden would be less prone to assimilate. This is a simplistic statement, of course, given the novelty of the situation and oppressive regimes we lived under, but still worth pondering.

    in reply to: Anti-Semitism refuted by Non-Jewish Philosopher #2173826

    Marxist > I don’t deny the anti-Semitic aspect to some of Marx’s thought.

    TheFakeMaven answered already. I just would like to add that this _early_ work shows where his hate of capitalism came – from hating Jewish influence on the world in the form of our business activities, and his interest in “emancipation” included the desire to stop us being successful business people. I may not convince you, but for others – interesting to see that such a plague on the world started as a narrow hate of Jewish practices and then expanded to all other businesses.

    in reply to: 30000 frum people have a kosher phone #2173798

    Avram,
    agree with your correction on the 1990s. According to the paper, cell phones, before smart phones, fit the pattern, so just ability to communicate, rather than play games, was the main factor. They do seem to mention that 2000s correlation explain only part of the pattern, leaving place for others.

    in reply to: Dental Insurance #2173792

    CEO payments are not _the_ problem. US companies are large, it is a bog company. Most companies in fully private businesses without government payments choose to pay CEO high salaries so that there is a person in charge who spends 24/7 trying to make the company successful.

    It is an empirical question which system is better. As mentioned, do we think that public schools are run better than private/charter/etc? Ask people on medicaid and medicare – are these systems better than private insurances (other than possible subsidies).

    in reply to: Arkansas Gov. Sanders signs law loosening child labor protections #2173378

    jackk > That is seriously misguided and evil.

    pleazse, re-read your post. It consists of statements without any arguments. You could do better (by adding arguments or deleting unsupported statements).

    in reply to: Arkansas Gov. Sanders signs law loosening child labor protections #2173377

    a double miracle, agree with a marxist and a krugman. Possibly the same person.

    in reply to: Anti-Semitism refuted by Non-Jewish Philosopher #2173376

    Marxist > but he is arguing for the emancipation of Jews not against it.

    It was some decades I opened a Marx sefer, but if I remember correctly, he argues with someone (Rev Bauer?) and he turns the question around and suggest emancipating the world from the Jewish capitalism. The reason I remember this kuntros better than what I had for breakfast yesterday – because it dawned on me tha the origin of this plague is hate of Jews.

    in reply to: Silicon Valley bank and the economy crashing #2173375

    > there is a direct correlation between effort and success.

    It says in Gemora Megila that this is only true in Torah learning. In parnosa, one needs both an effort and some mazal.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2173373

    I saw a description of a seemingly legit charity in EY that teaches charedim carpentry skills. Would this derech be useful for those who are not interested in neither gemora nor algebra? Or would this be seen an inferior ways of supporting oneself?

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2173309

    Interesting pilpul, I wish I could find time & energy to go through that.
    In my humble opinion, if you need pages and pages to show how your rebbe differs from a world-famous faker, you already lost your readers and doing disservice to your rebbe.

    in reply to: Arkansas Gov. Sanders signs law loosening child labor protections #2173064

    Amil, I understand your emotional response. Still, if someone wants to open a factory with child labor in a remote Bangladeshi village and save those kids from starvation, would you object on principle? I hope not and your humanity is above simple labels.

    Coffee, would it be the same for a day camp in town? My kids worked there before 14, and (I think) it was legal in my state.

    in reply to: Anti-Semitism refuted by Non-Jewish Philosopher #2173061

    So, the cult personae are not responsible for the followers?

    Pirkei Avos mentions differences between students of Avraham and Bilaam, from which you learn that you can see whether the teacher was kosher by the students. And Marx was no tzadik to begin with. He, apparently, came to his hate of business owners via hate of Jews, whom he considered guilty of propagating business values. He argued with some reverend suggesting that instead of emancipating Jews, we should emancipate world from the Jews.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2173063

    N0 > The Lakewood model is not based on Israel.

    I am following on YS suggestion. My knowledge of Lakewood is indeed superficial, based on occasional visits there and talking/observing visitors and refugees from there. When I mentioned my “Lakewood Teacher”, he travelled to where I was, not other way around and it was some time ago.

    Still, I wonder whether YS has a point here. It seems to be a difference from early small Lakewood where top students did not have general classes with the recent growth of community, with now masses of people ignoring general curriculum. Are all students now at the level of the 1960s when R Malkiel was learning? maybe they are, tell me.

    in reply to: How much does a shadchan charge? #2173036

    > Mrs. Seminary girl

    not to detract from a good question, but her name is really Ms. Oxymoron.

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