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would it be different if it something else i.e. diabetic ?
More being a baal achraios – than having lack of emunah – see r’ moshe zt”l actually encourages buying life insurance.
not at all i am advocating flat tax on earnings.
RebRY great thought,
Suppose that learning in kollel full time overrides bringing up and being mechanech children – i’ve seen little children talk spanish/russian before yiddish/english.
Minimum wage – illegal immigrant — you wouldn’t trust them with your car or with a $500 cash deposit.
what about the kesubah mandated by the chachomim ……….
and the basic questions of kovato “itim” latorah – doesn’t say lomadto kol hayom torah … btw. there are 2 more questions asked were you ehrlich in business and usakto bepirieh verivieh ?
The Gemorah brings that r’ yochanan was a shoemaker {sandler} r’ yitzchok was a blacksmith {nafcho} brings story of r’ yehuda going to check on orchards. dovid hamelech telling the chachomim lechi mefarnesi zeh mezu
The Gemorah shows that tanoim amoraim were taking care of their family.
Husband should/has to learn when he has the time & can carry the weight of supporting a family ….. the weight of supporting the family shouldn’t be the wife responsibility. and as mentioned before the chachomim made the husband sign a contract {kesubah} that ” he”will support and feed his wife.
Interestingly if you check the kesubah that you give to the kallah under the chuppa you actually commit to provide for her not the other way around.
just asking would like to know if in history of before WW2 there was also this arrangement of kollel.
There are mothers that feel stifled being “locked in” all day – going out to work is a way to air out.
How about making tuition a percentage of your annual income i.e. 5% of income for someone erning 100K it would be $5,000.00 someone earning a million it would add up to $50,000.00 by using that formula the mosdos would be collecting alot more in tutition from the higher earners and would probably be working in a surplus.
It is always difficult for a parent to accept that “their” child is different – everyone wants to “fit in” and be normal. but burying the problem does not make life easier for the child by being in trouble with staff at school finding difficult with interpersonal relationships with classmates and in the long run does not make it easier for the parent.
A child that is different due to no blame on the childs part – only because he has a medical condition no different than a child with strep throat.
A parent who makes the decision a difficult emotional and long term one that they will face up to the problem will find that in the short term people may notice the shadow may realize that the child is on medication – but will be providing the tools for the childs long term well being and a bright and productive future.
It takes courage and strength to do it in our society environment you should be proud that you are doing what is good for your child .
It is a problem if that is the case – however there are children & adults that need help – by not doing what is needed it just postpones the problem and probably makes it worse.
as a statistic 90% of people with a mental condition that is not being taken care for ends in divorce where if it is taken care of they can lead an almost “normal” life.
so the question is do you take care and risk a stigma but give the patient a chance at a productive life or don’t take care and have them struggle thru the rest of their life.
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In mental health since there are very few if any physical tests if any available i.e. blood work/MRI/X-rays it is basically upto the medical professional to make the call on the diagnosis based on observations and evaluations done during a visit – many illnesses have similar symptoms that may be a cause for a diagnosis or misdiagnosis the same as would be with a physical illness where if you go for a second opinion for something that is possible to test i.e. stomach ulcer / fissures etc you may hear different opinions on treatment it is much more so on illnesses that is pretty much a grey area and can only be diagnosed by observing/hearing.
However not going to a medical professional just because there may be a misdiagnosis is preventing the patient the basic right of being helped … and just like any other medical issue if you are not happy there is always the option of getting a second opinion.
understanding that there are ramifications of a diagnosis not going is like making a person with a broken leg go up & down stairs.
The evaluation visit runs around $500.00 and follow up visits run at around $350.00 …Medication is expensive too.. the problem is that there are few Frum psychiatrists that can relate and understand issues that are unique to the Frum community.
There is still a stigma getting involved with mental health – that until it is aired better in public there will not be any progress within the community.
The stigma {alot of time a result of ignorance of the prognosis and options}actually keeps alot of people from getting the help that will result in a better more fulfilling life.
i cannot agree more to the post of Hadassa.